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Monday, December 19, 2011 Smashley, Community Member, asks

Q: I'm depressed and i'm afraid to talk to anyone about it. what do I do?

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Merely Me, Health Guide
12/19/11 6:18pm

Hi there

 

Well I can tell you that you are not alone in feeling depressed.  And I can also tell you that talking about your depression with others can be a little or a lot scary.  It can be hard to open up to people about how you are feeling.  You may feel that you will be judged or misunderstood.

 

What are your greatest fears in talking about your depression?  What is the worst (that you imagine) will happen?  Are there people in your life you can trust or open up to more than others? 

 

I commend you in that you are talking about this...here.  This is a very good start!

 

Who would you most like to talk to about your depression? 

 

You may want to read this article:  Do or Don't Talking about Depression with Others.

 

Let us know more details (as you are comfortable sharing) and we can try to help you with suggestions.

 

Thank you for reaching out here.  Hope to hear more from you.

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Smashley, Community Member
12/20/11 12:27am

I'm not sure what I'm most afriad of. I think I'm embarrassed to talk about it, my best friend knows but I don't even like talking to her about it, I'm uncomfurtable. I don't want to talk to my doctor about it because I don't feel comfurtable around him as it is, and I don't know who else I'm supposed to talk about it with. 

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Judy, Community Member
12/20/11 6:08pm

Hi, there.  I would suggest you find a counselor or therapist to talk to about this.  These are professionals who have heard everything, believe me.  You might be surprised and find it a lot easier than you think to talk to someone like this.  They are trained in treating people with depression, as well as a lot of other disorders.  The other good thing about it is that when you hear yourself talk, you really pay attention to how you are feeling and what you're thinking.  There is nothing you need to feel embarrassed about - so many people have dealt with depression, which really screws up your thinking about yourself.  It's not a rational part of yourself talking.  I hope you'll consider getting professional help.  Take care.

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Merely Me, Health Guide
12/20/11 7:07pm

Hey there

 

I do agree with Judy.  You may want to discuss this with your doctor and I will tell you why...sometimes depression has an underlying medical cause.  Things like a malfunctioning thyroid, vitamin deficiencies, even diabetes...can cause depressive symptoms.  Your doctor may be able to start with some tests to rule out these sorts of things.  And your doctor may also be able to refer you to a therapist or counselor.  Depression is not uncommon.  Depression is not your fault.  This is not a character flaw or weakness.  Most times depression has some sort of biological cause and it can be treated.  The more you wait to talk to someone...the more of a chance that your depression can become more entrenched and harder to treat.  When caught early...you may have more choices as to how to treat this and ultimately recover from it. 

 

Your other option is to call NAMI which is a national organization which helps people with depression among other things.  They have local peer support groups and they can also give you information about how to select a counselor and treatment.  Here is their information:

 

The Information HelpLine is an information and referral service which can be reached by calling 1 (800) 950-NAMI (6264), Monday through Friday, 10 am- 6 pm, Eastern time.

 

I hope this helps.  Please let us know if you need further assistance.  And remember that you can always share your story here.  We are not therapists but there are many of us here who have been through depression and know what it can be like and also how to cope.

 

Thanks for reaching out.  Take that next step and talk to a doctor or a mental health professional.  You don't need to suffer. 

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By Smashley, Community Member— Last Modified: 12/20/11, First Published: 12/19/11