Hi everyone,

I wrote a post last week about how I desperately needed to get over someone, and I received some great advice - thanks!

As I follow-up, I should mention that the reason why I feel as though I have to get over this person (aside from there being a nearly ten-year age difference between us) is because, whenever we attempt to become romantically-involved... (which seems to be every two weeks or so, in moments of weakness, I'll call him up), feel anxious, depressed and just generally terrible afterward. Does anyone have any insight as to why this might be? My friends and family don't know; even my psychologist seems at a loss.

I should mention that I broke up with a long-term boyfriend because I couldn't get this other guy out of my mind, and I suppose I was hoping that he'd step up and fill the void, as it were. I assume that my anxiety comes from the fact that he is so much younger and I can't get past that. Still, if that is the case, shouldn't I be able to cut my losses and walk away? I seem to feel compelled to contact him all the time. I always think, "It's okay... we could date at it would be fine.. give it a shot and see what happens" but whenever I try to give it a shot, I suddenly fall into a bad depression again and feel anxious, worried and just generally... not right.

Does anyone have any insight as to why, if I feel compelled to talk to and be with this person, I don't feel happy when I try to begin dating them, and why a sudden feeling of sadness and anxiety overwhelms me?

Thanks for any advice you can provide.

Missy