We have been marrried 2 years, and she has been acting very weird. We could be sitting there smiling and watching TV. The she will get up and go to the room. Then when i go in the room to ask her whats wrong she says nothing. She says this everytime. And im at lost for words because we were just laughing and watching TV. But when I dont ask her whats wrong, she gets upset at me because I don't ask her whats wrong. She will be fine one minute, then she will be sad the next minute. Im not sure, but she says that she is depressed. Could she be bipolar and depressed? Is there something I can do to see if she is bipolar. She actually got very mad and started screaming at me for eating her Milky Way candy bar. Another incident that happend was that I told her it wasnt a smart descion to put art work on a end table, when you have 2 or 3 year olds running around the house. She started screaming at me and told me I called her dumb, she stormed out of our house and left. And I felt like I was missing out on something. She thinks everyone is against her, and everyone takes my side over hers. She dosent thinks that she is the least loved child in her family. She blames me for everything that she has problems for. She says that I make her want to kill herself. But then she will get mad, when I get family involved with her saying she wants to kill herself. away. I dont understand, am I just over reacting. Or is this some bipolar going on or is this depression?
Make an appt for your wife to see a psychiatrist. Go with her and voice your concerns to the doctor. Of course, if she refuses to go, you can't force her. But let her know it is an act of love and care on your part, that you want her to feel better.
Be willing to work with your wife and the doctor on a treatment plan, which likely will include medication for her and patience from you. She may also need to start seeing a therapist once a week, if your insurance covers most of the cost. That way she will have someone else to talk to who is not intimately involved, someone who will be there to listen and guide.
These symptoms don't necessarily mean a diagnosis of bipolar or depression. She probably needs to be checked out by her regular doctor, too, to make sure nothing is wrong physically like a thyroid problem or some other organic cause.
Let us know what you find out. This is a good place for support.
Donna
I would make sure that you're very careful how you approach this subject with her. She will get very defensive and just blame you more for saying she's crazy if you just come out with the fact that you think she needs help. I would say something like, "I feel like I'm upsetting you and I don't know what to do about it. Do you think that we could go to a "professional" and have him/her figure out a way that we can understand each other better?" Then just let her decide, all the while making it sound like you are trying to change to help the relationship. Then when you make the appointment with the Psychiatrist, make sure you let them know the real reason that you are going, so that they can evaluate her. Best of luck to you both!
She doesn't necessarily sound bipolar but there is definitely something going on in her head. She needs to be seen by a doctor if you can get her to go see one. It's in everyone's best interests but it may not be the best for YOU to suggest the idea. Is there a friend or family member you can go to and enlist their help to get her to get help?
Ugh...being a woman is hard enough. I have suffered from depression ever since my twins were born 2 years ago. It's terrible and I hate it. I wish you luck in getting her help. Be patient and loving as best you can....it's such a challenge sometimes but it's worth it if she can get treatment.
She sounds so much like my mother. We have long suspected she suffers from boarderline personality disorder. The problem with this disorder is that they don't think they need help....they're not the one with a problem, it's everyone else...whether it be the husband, the kids, her parents, the neighbor, people at church, random people in the store...it doesn't matter...it's always someone else. We went to family therapy before my parents got divorced but that was short-lived. My mom wouldn't go back after only a couple sessions...said the therapist thought the problems in the marriage were all her fault....the therapist wasn't too far off the mark on that one. Unfortunately, people suffering from BPD can very easily get depressed as a result of the disorder.
gr8f1 has excellent advice on how to approach it. If she still won't go, at least you should go...a good therapist should be able to give you coping techniques for living with her :)
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