I am worried that my partner and i will not be together once his depression has got under control. I am worried that he will end it between us at some point during this. I have no tintention of ending it myself unless he cheated on me then it would be over but with the way he is at the moment its doubtful he would cheat. Do couples actually survive depression? He is my soulmate and i want to be with him for the rest of my life, i am just worried that we will not survive this. I need reassurance that couples do go through this and survive.
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3/30/09 4:31pm
Hi Kat
Can you tell us more about why you are worried? What about his getting better makes it more likely that you will break apart? Feeling mentally healthy is a good thing and hopefully will make your relationship stronger. Are you afraid he won't need you any longer?
In answer to your question...yes...there are many couples who survive depression. And also survive the good times too! 
Here is an article written by our Deborah Gray that you might want to read about when your partner is depressed.
Please let us know how things work out for you. I wish you the best of luck.
4/ 4/09 3:10am
Hi there Kat.
I completly know what your going through. I felt exactly the same when my husband went through his depression. I blamed myself and thought that he didn't love me anymore, or he was having an affair, I evan thought that maybe he was gay and hadn't told me. You cant help feeling this when they shut you out.
Eventually he went to the doctor and he prescribed antidepressants. It took a long time maybe about eight weeks before he started to feel better, then he told me what he was feeling. It was because he thought he had let us down as a family because he had lost his job and a whole lot of other things. Now we can talk about these things instead of shutting me out. Our relationship has gotten better.
I know it's really difficult for you at the moment, but things do get better.
4/ 4/09 7:10pm
Hi Kat,
I understand your worries. In my relationship, I'm the one who is experiencing some intense depression right now. It's not something I feel like talking about, but I do know that he needs me to talk about it with him. It's really difficult being the one stuck in the darkness and I've feared that he wouldn't want to deal with it or me. However, it will get better, I know, because we've been through this cycle before. His love truly helps to shine a light.
Be supportive and be gentle with him.
11/ 9/09 10:00pm
Hi kat09... I am in the EXACT same situation as you.... I just finished telling my sister exactly what you said, then I decided to come online and do some reading up on depression and came across your post. I could also use some ressurance. How are things with you now?
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