We have our 19 yr. old grand daughter living with us. We gained custody of her more than 2 years ago after her father, our son decided he didn't want to deal with her and turned her over to the county and into Foste Care. Before that, she had been acting out due to being abused by her step-mother who even threatened to kill her and our son who allowed this abuse and sometimes was abusive as well. Our grand daughter became depressed and then attempted suicide. She spent 6 months in the Cincinnati Children's Hosp. while they tried to help her. From what I was told, they never felt they succeeded. She has anti-social tendencies and, doesn't respect authority. We felt by getting her away from the abuse where she was loved and cared about that she would change and be happy. None of that has happened.

    Now we feel we have a stranger living in our home. She attends Beauty School which is good but every time we turn around, she is changing how often she's going to go and now she won't graduate til next February when she was supposed to graduate this  November. She doesn't work and we pay for everything. She's had two cars in less than a year. The first one she totalled in an accident which was her fault, failure to yield; we had to pay the $90 fine. Then like idiots, we bought her another car as she needs one to get to and from school. Now we're wishing that we hadn't. She thinks she can go out every evening and stay out til 2 am. I finally had to put my foot down and say, "NO MORE! No one stays out til 2 am!" We had a huge fight and her grandfather doesn't need the added stress for he has heart failure and needs peace and quiet, not all her drama, coming in late at night, playing her loud, horrible music, messing up the bathroom and her room and never offering to help us in anyway. We want her to move out but she doesn't have anywhere to go. What are we to do. We can't live like this much longer and I worry about my husband and I have high blood pressure which is now out of control and I suffer from anxiety attacks. Any advice would be so appreciated.

Just Wanting Peace