hello my name is chloe summers from auckland. i don't know if i have depression or not.
this started when i entered teenagehood. I am extremely unsecure about myself. And the main thing that triggers my period of low mood is when a family member comments on my look or how a negative comment on me. I know this may sound weird but a parent of mine makes alot of negative comments about me and the way i behave etc and this leds to me crying silently at night and i have to make no noise so that my parents don't know i am crying. The next day i feel extremly tired and in a low mood. Yet i have to smile infront of my family. I am 16 now and this has happend ever since i was 13. It's really hard for me to live when i have so many negative comments surrounding me. Since i am so unsecure and have no confident, i have to "pretend" to be okay and hold my head high so that no body knows. Sometimes i think of killing myself... i don't what is wrong with me and the hardest thing is that nobody can help me with this... not even my parents. however, I feel extremely good at the moment but this over-coming "depression" and falling back again has occured numerous times, and it's because of this parent of mine... even though the negative comments are still here... i try very hard to conquer "depression"... i hope for some answers and i hope that somebody can help me with this, so that i know what i have and what i can do for myself so i can get on with my life.
Hi, Chloe. I'm sorry you're having trouble with depression, it does sound like that's what it might be. I'm sorry, too, that your parent is so negative to you. My mother and father were both like that and I know that it hurts. Does your school have a counselor you could talk to, or do you have a relative, like an aunt or uncle, that you could confide in?
If you don't have any of these resources, maybe you could get your parents to take you to the doctor, you could truthfully say that you just haven't been feeling well for some time, and ask to see the doctor alone and tell him/her what's been going on. It's important to reach out to somebody who can help you, hopefully you can trust someone enough to let them. If you're feeling suicidal, please remember that it's not the answer - you want the pain to end, not your life. Here is a post from Merely Me about what to do when you feel like you can't cope.
I hope you will write again and let us know how you're doing. The people on this site have all been through depression of one kind or another and are very supportive. I wish you the best in getting some help. Hang in there!
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Chloe Summers
Wednesday, October 21, 2009 at 02:21 AM
Hi Chloe,
I have parents like that. They criticize everything. It really hurts and can leave you with such anger that you suppress it and develop depression I think. So it is normal to get depressed after hearing negative comments like that. I think it is important to find someone to talk to, a counselor or friend who you can trust and talk about what is happening. There is nothing wrong with you. People who criticize have some problems that cause them to criticize others. Try to remember that you are ok just the way you are and they have some problems that they need to resolve so they don't keep taking it out on you, in my opinion. If you can, try to be around other people who lift you up and validate you and say kind things about you other times--it balances out the negative. If you feel suicidal, call a counselor right away and start getting help. You are worth getting help.
Cheers,
Marishka
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hello judy. Thanks for your comment. I don't know whether or not i should seek professional help...because right now i feel fine and i am afraid that if i go and seek help... it might be completely useless based on my status right now. Thanks for the numbers you advised me... i will definately call them when im down, again. I'll keep updating and let you know how i'm doing:) Thankyou so much!