was with my boyfriend for 10 months, I am 34 and he is 39, we met through friends. Our relationship has been very good, after about 8 months he brought up the fact that he wanted a future with me, and wanted to start planning for that, moving in, kids, marriage. After this discussion he never brought this up again, he was also withdrawing from me, little to no affection, no cute texts when out with friends, and a month ago stopped wanting sex. He was complaining that he was always tired, and was sleeping in later than usual. He also told me that he was not happy with his life, hated his job, he also neglected to pay his taxes for 4 years while he was self-employed, and knows that he will have a lot to pay at some point with nothing saved for this. He made a reference to suicide being a soluion, but quickly said he wouldn't do this. He also mentioned that his friends were annoying him and he wasn't enjoying things anymore. One night when we were together he started talking about how unhappy he was, and stated that he didn't know what he wanted, but didn't want to break up. I didn't like this and said that if he didn't know what he wanted I couldn't live in limbo, we broke up. He texted me 2 days later saying he didn't want the breakup and we got back together. Things didn't improve. He kept saying he was miserable, saying that maybe he needed a hobby, something to make him happpy. A week and a half ago he was unhappy again, saying that he felt that he needed to spend so much time with me to get time away, this is strange because he always had at least 3 nights to himself every week, he had told me from the beginning that he likes a lot of space. He said he hates the way he is treating me. He knows he is cold and distant, but can't help it, he feels too guilty for treating me this way, he also said that he had waited a long time for a girl like me and felt he was ruining it(ha hasn't had a relationship over 6 months in the past 10 years) He also said he felt like he was killing his future kids by breaking up with me(he wanted to have kids with me), and that if he can't make it work with me he can't make it work with anyone. I asked him if he thinks he is depressed, he said maybe. I urged him to go to his doctor and he said he didn't want to. Background-he was engaged when he was 30 to a girl that he had dated for 6 years, this relationship ended with her finding another man. My ex was devastated. He had also mentioned to me that when he was in this relationship he was depressed and on medication for it. He had withdrew from her, she even asked him if he was seeing someone else due to the way he was acting. his brother also died suddenly 3 years ago and this has been very hard for him. I haven't spoken to him since the break-up 10 days ago, I am a bit worried about him, dos he sound depressed, or was he just unhappy in our relationship? Should I contact him to see how he is doing?