help me to help my wonderful man

Louise, I am so sorry to hear this, but depression is a complicated monster.  It is not something that you will be able to just jump in and fix, and I know that is very hard to hear, and probably not what you want to hear.  Patience is mainly what you are going to have to have.  Just being there is probably the best that you are going to be able to do.  If he is seeing a doctor then isis going to be up to he and the doc.  You contining to try and work your way in is only going to put pressure on him, not on purpose but it is pressure to him.  Just him knowing that you are there, you are that support that rock, does him good, like you would not believe.  He may not say it, but it does.  The doc and the meds are now going to have to have time to work their magic so just hang in there, the race is not given to the swift but to those who endure.  Hang in there Louise.  sherry/smomdukes

Walk away.  After 33 years living with a depressed person and waiting and hoping that he would get better- he hasn't. I always believed that I could make him happy, but now I am struggling to stay out of the black hole.