How to start ?

How do I start ? I was not very good at saying "no" when I meant to .. I say "yes" too often and end up feeling like  I got the short end of the stick ..

So where do I begin ? I printed up some info on the subject, and there are no programs here .. my therapist wants me to get more involved with this subject as it is what I must do in order to gain some sanity and relieve some or all my anxiety ...

I have had MS for 7 years now, and FMS for about as long .. and have managed to get these in line .. but my self destructive behavior of dropping all that I need to help others, especially family (mother) has destroyed my life , or at least that is how I feel ..

My therapist feels that if I can get control and overcome , I may be able to acheive most of my "life goals" , and repair the relationships that do mean more to me than I have let on .. and to recognize when I get in "over my head" ...

So, as I already belong to a few sites here , I am hopeing that you will allow me or guide me through this process .. thanks ...