in advance let me pardon the long story - but any advice would be appreciated.   Before I start I will just say that I met a women who I fell very much in love with and have given the world to over the last 10 months.  I love having her in my life and while I know she is battling serious issues, I am more than willing to stand by her - if she will only let me. 

Here is the story:

I had been dating my gf for 10 months before she ended it last week.  We are both in our mid-30s.   The first 7 months were perfect - everything fit.  At that point she started to consider moving into my new apt and the relationship was heading towards the next level.  Around the same time she went into therapy to deal with issues from her childhood and other things that were bothering her and she was diagnosed with depression.   She had what I would call normal mood swings in the past, but at this time they really started to get bad and she called me one night and said she felt she needed to be alone.  I gave her some space, but then called her and told her how much I cared for her and that I really wanted us to deal with her issues together.  Within a week we were back together.   At that point her doctor put her on Wellbutrin and she has been taking it ever since.

Unfortunately, a month later she seemed to go into another bad phase - staying home all weekend and sitting on the couch and not communicating.  At the end of that weekend, she ended the relationship once again.   This time we didn't speak for a week.  Late that week she started texting and eventually we spoke and the relationship just picked up again.  When I tried to talk to her about it she listened but didnt say anything about her feelings - we just went back to being normal again.   The whole time I have been caring and supportive and giving her space (although she didnt always see it that way)

We again had a couple good weeks and then she would go into significant down cycles where she would tell me she didnt love me and that this relationship would not work out. Finally we ran into a conflict regarding plans and she went away for the weekend and told me I was suffocating her and she couldnt take it.  3 days later she came into town - went to my apt when I was at work and took all her stuff out and left a note saying that she couldnt be in this relationship anymore and that I deserved someone who loved me as much as I love them and its not her and that I shouldn't try to communicate with her. 

Of course, a few days later she initiated email contact again - but very unemotional.  I emailed her about how I felt about what had happened being very understanding and telling her I was there for her.  She said she missed me but right now we just need time and space to figure this out - which I agree since the relationship was taking its toll on both of us.  

Ultimately however I do love this women and would like to have her in my life going in with eyes wide open to what she is dealing with.  If given that chance again, any advice on how to keep her in my life and deal with the episodes of depressing with out having her push me out of her life. 

Thanks in advance