Hi making changes slowly in my life.Looking for work anxiety seems stronger in the morning.
Hi I have been trying to make changes in my life.One thing I mentioned before is that I have been laid off for 8 months and trying to make changes in my life while I have this time to do so.I feel this will help find a job I will be happy with.I used to work 60 hrs per week and had know life I do not want to go back to that.One thing that troubles me is the negative voice inside me will say, you should have made changes years ago,You will never find a job,A job is more important than your personal life,you are worthless with out a job.I know part of this has to do with anxiety and old patterns.I do answer back to these negative voices such as I will say my future is important,I am not going to give in to this negative voice,I am trying to change,My life and happiness are important.Any suggesions on how to handle these negative thoughts.They seem stronger in the morning.One thing I know I must do is eat breakfeast.I just had coffee in the morning when I was working.I was also wondering if going out for a walk in the morning would be helpful.This may lessen the worst feeling of all that I am not in control or lost.Or I am not sure of what to do,or I will procrastinate.It seems that it is important to fight back these negative voices always but the morning is especially important because it sets the tone for my day.Any advice would be appreciated.THANKYOU FOR YOUR HELP
Hi Hope!
Okay...one thing I notice in your writings is a pattern. Go back to all your posts and tell us what you see.
This is an obvious thing to say but it seems you are definitely feeling a ton of anxiety and it is freezing you from action. You already have fabulous ideas of little steps to take but...I am wondering if you ever feel safe enough to actually take the steps.
This is easier said than done I realize but you have to wake up like it is a brand new day...and release the past. The past is done. It is over with...and you can never get it back. This is the life you have right now. So...time to move forward. You can take a walk. You can get out there. You can do so many things. But you have to let go of the past and your fear.
What is it...the "IT" which is really holding you back? A fear of failure? A fear of success? I can only guess and I am not a therapist. But this is the real work I see for you...to figure out what the primary fear is.
Make a list of things you want to do. Select the things from this question. And try to do at least one a day. Then tell us how it went. Is this something you want to do?
You can do this! We have faith and confidence in you. And if you just can't do it one day...then try the next.
Okay?
Just my thoughts. I am just a depressed anxious person too. I know we have probably suggested this to you but...a therapist could help with these things too.
keep writing here. You are stronger than you know.
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Wednesday, September 23, 2009 at 08:56 AM
Thankyou for your reply.I went to see my therapist monday and she said to write down the things that I want to do .Then make a list as long as possible for why I want to do these things.When the time arrives such as the day for the depression support meeting and I start to get anxious read the list I made earlier of all the good reasons I wrote down and see if that helps me.She also said that due to my family background my mother being a former alcoholic from the time I was 6-29 yrs old.And how I matured very early to take care of my brother and sister while my mother was ill .I have to take care of myself now.One thing I mentioned is my mother does not drink any more and I love her and she is a good person.But she never dealt with her feelings and can be very negative.She calls me every day sometimes I will get a message on my answering machine from her and feel that I must call back right away or something bad may happen.This is that need to take care of everybody my therapist said.This was programmed into my soul when I was younger.Now I am older and need to let people take care of themselves.She told me to try to let the answering machine take the message from my mother and call back the next day not right away.Of course unless it is a emergency.Sounds simple but would be a little step in trying to get away from the voices of the past.I will keep trying and let you know how things are going.THANKYOU