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How can suicide be prevented?

jpw2008
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Hello I'm Jonathan.I have Generalized anxiety disorder.I never...

09/07/09
jpw2008
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No friends

My brother came by on saturday felt cold distance

Afraid of my mom.

Feels like shes judging me.Can never talk to her.

Only family close enough.computer keyboard is frustrating to use.

No skills no job no high school diploma CryCryCry

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Teri Robert
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Monday, September 07, 2009

Jon,

 

If you are in a crisis state and considering suicide, please take a look at THIS PAGE. There are resources to get you in touch with someone you can talk with by telephone or maybe in person if you want, depending on where you live. That page can help you find someone. We're not a crisis line, but do find someone to talk with if you're in trouble. Please?

 

I can understand how discouraging it can be when you say you have "no job, no high school diploma," but please realize that there are also resources to help you with those issues. Have you ever looked into getting a GED?

 

Please let us know how you're doing. OK?

 

I have to be out of town for a conference the rest of this week, but Merely Me and others will be here for support, and I'll check in when I can.

 

Hang in there!

Teri

 

 

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Monday, September 07, 2009

Jon, can you talk a bit more about why you don't have any skills or a high school diploma?  Has something kept you from getting a diploma?  There are professionals out there who can help you come up with a plan to get what you need so that you are more independent and can change the way your life is going.  You mentioned before that you have a counselor but only see him/her for 15 minutes at a time.  Can you get more time, or can you find another counselor who will give you more time?  I'm sorry you're afraid of your mom - do you live with her?  Suicide is not the way out, as I'm sure you know.  How can it be prevented?  By reaching out for help, deciding that you are worth it and that you need it to live a productive life.  You can get help in making friends, in developing skills and getting the education you need.  I know the people on this site care about you and worry about you and want to see you have a better life.  Can you believe that?  It's true, whether you do or not.

 

Talk to somebody, Jon, don't give up.  There is help.  Keep writing here.

 

Judy

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Monday, September 07, 2009

Hey Jon

 

What's going on?  I have to ask about your title.  It always concerns me when you use the word "suicide" so...tell us more about how you are feeling.  If you feel like you can't stand it anymore...I am going to give you some numbers to call for help:

 

1-800-273-TALK (8255)

  1800-784-2433

  1800-799-4889  

 

I have called hotlines myself and they really helped me when I was in crisis.  It is hard to evaluate how extreme you are feeling right now and on the internet and all.  But wanted to give you the numbers just in case.

 

Keep talking to us.  I know that sometimes family can bring out some feelings that...we would rather not be feeling.  But it is possible to feel better.

 

Let us know how we can help.

 

 

 

 

re: How can suicide be prevented?
jpw2008
Monday, September 07, 2009 at 09:46 PM

I always hurt myself because i'm hurt.

Then I feel worse and start all over again.

I don't like to type words.

What are these numbers for?

it is hard talking to strangers let alone talking with any one.

My friend is dying and I have a bad feeling its very sone.

Shes in ellis in icu.

I just want to die

Jon

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Judy
Monday, September 07, 2009 at 11:47 PM

Jon, I can understand how painful it is to lose a friend; a few years ago a friend of mine died unexpectedly and suddenly and I felt like the rug got pulled out from under me.  I'm sure your friend would not want you to die because of her.  You say you don't like to type words and it's too hard to talk to anyone.  How can we communicate?  I care what happens to you, Jon, and I hope you can find a way to reach out and let it out because IT HURTS TOO MUCH TO KEEP IT IN!!!  Can you try writing more, talking more?  What can we do here to help you?

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ALC
Saturday, October 31, 2009 at 09:58 AM

I will also pray for your friend.  Be positive, buddy, it makes good things happen.  Like sunshine makes a positive feeling, and makes those who see it feel good.  Don't be down like this, it isn't good for your friend in icu.  Be strong.  God will give you the strength. We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. One of my favorites is If God brings you to it, he will get you through it.  I am not preaching to you, I am only telling you what I know from first hand experience, and I don't mind sharing with others the way to eternal happiness, and that is through Jesus.  Pray hard and God will take care of you all.  You are very important whether you think so or not.

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jpw2008
Wednesday, September 09, 2009 at 04:28 PM

where are the people on these numbers located?

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Judy
Wednesday, September 09, 2009 at 04:37 PM

Jon, those numbers are national hotlines and they would refer you to someone local if they thought you should see somebody.  I hope that helps.

 

Judy

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jpw2008
Wednesday, September 09, 2009 at 05:01 PM

that really scares me

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Judy
Wednesday, September 09, 2009 at 05:12 PM

What scares you about it?  The people on these hotlines are all trained to help and you can be completely anonymous, if you wish.

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jpw2008
Friday, September 11, 2009 at 03:10 PM

this may sound silly but what do i say to them.

Especially about my mom.

She listens to my phone conversations.

Please let me know if my fears are legitimate.

Jon

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Judy
Friday, September 11, 2009 at 04:24 PM

Jon, just tell them that you are feeling hopeless and suicidal and they will probably ask you questions from there.  There must be some times when your mom isn't around, otherwise go out and use a pay phone somewhere.  Can you tell your mother that you are making a private call and go into another room?  You're an adult, you have a right to privacy.  I'm not sure what fears you are asking about being legitimate, but if it's what the people on the hotlines will say, I don't think you have to worry because that's what they're there for - I'm sure they've heard everything and they're trained to respond to people in crisis.  I'm glad to hear you're considering doing this, you might feel relieved afterward.  Let me know how it goes, okay?

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jpw2008
Saturday, September 12, 2009 at 02:09 PM

well i tried the first number.

I don't know what it is for.

To stop suicide I guess.

I usually don't call on the telephone.

I did and i don't know what good it did.

Jon

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Judy
Saturday, September 12, 2009 at 11:48 PM

Jon, I'm glad you made that call and I'm curious about what they said to you.  Did you tell them how bad you felt?  Did they give you suggestions for what to do or how to get some help?  It sounds like you don't really think it did any good - why is that?  I'd really like to know.  Did you try any of the other numbers?

 

You probably feel like you're striking out here whenever you try to do something, but you ARE moving in the right direction, even if it hasn't had the best outcome yet.  What would you like, ultimately?  To find better help to feel better?  To know how to stop thinking of suicide?  Maybe you need to figure out what you need to help you stay moving forward and tell whoever you talk to that you don't know what to do next; that you don't know where to find the right kind of help.

 

Hang in there, Jon - I'm not giving up on you and hope you won't, either!  Keep letting us know what's going on, okay?

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jpw2008
Sunday, September 13, 2009 at 11:34 AM

It stopped me from committing suicide.

She asked me about things,I guess i calmed enough when i was in the phone.I hate the phone but it got too hectic.

This morning i was mad at the neighbors.I usual get upset when they make too much noise.The kids keep pounding the floor.

I tried listening to music.At first i felt numb.

Then i was trying to force myself to like it.

It didn't work.

I like plants.I am going to tend to them today!

Jon

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Judy
Sunday, September 13, 2009 at 02:38 PM

Jon, I'm glad making that phone call stopped you from committing suicide.  Right now, that phone is your friend, as much as you hate using it.  You know you can call again if you have to.  And I like hearing that you're trying some things to feel better, like the music - maybe you just haven't found the right kind yet.  I think music can really affect our moods pretty strongly.  And then you said you like plants, I think that's the first time I've heard you say something you liked.  Yes, I think tending plants does something for our souls, I like it, too.  In fact, I'm going to do some of that shortly.

 

Thank you for letting me know how you're doing and keep writing, okay?  Phoning and writing - two good things.  Hope the rest of your day goes well.

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ALC
Saturday, October 31, 2009

You are a wonderful person.  I don't know you personally, but I know you are a child of God.  And he doesn't make mistakes.  God blesses each human with special talents.  You don't have to have a diploma, or a job.  You do have skills.  Like I said you are a Child Of God and I know that for sure.  Fear of your mom.  Think she's judging you, well no human is supposed to judge another.  We are all equal, and we all make mistakes, do silly ignorant things we aren't that proud of, and fall on our faces at times.  That is part of being human.  It's also like in the mom rule book and sometimes they do it without intending to but to be hard on their kids and sometime yes may judge us.  Pray for your mother your, brother, and those you say aren't your friends.  You never know they might be struggling just like you.  I havebeen so down before that I thought I couldnt make it anymore. then all alone it seemed, but no you are never alone. God the father is always there right there with us to help us.  And pull us out of that hurt and pain we are facing.  He will never leave you or forsake you.  i swear I am living proof. God is good and he loves us all unconditionally and if you have that power nothing can shake you. I love you as a sister in Christ, and I know you are a wonderful person that will be just fine.  It will work out, maybe not as quickly as we would like, but it will.  Take care and I will be thinking of you and praying for you.  God Bless you, he will.

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