My husband has had depression for the duration of our relationship and I can honestly say that he has made huge efforts to cope with it and live life the best he can. The problem is that when he is depressed, he is more angry and unreasonable and even manipulative than anything else. I have learned to try to read him and give him space when he needs it among other things, but I am often caught in the crossfire. I truly hate living with what feels like two different people. My husband is amazing and makes me feel so special but the intruder (his depressed side) is nasty and really doesn't care about me at all, in fact to him everything is my fault. It doesn't help that I have a self esteem issue myself and tend to adopt the blame for everything, but I have honestly lost any sense of whether I am right or wrong - if that matters. We are in the middle of a bad couple of months and I'm not sure how much of this I can take. When is it right to feel that you should move on and accept that you will never be happy with a depressed partner? I love him to absolute bits, really I do and it would shatter me to leave. He was very very close to leaving me torwards the end of last year because he was just so depressed - similarly to a suicidal person, he felt he would be doing me a favour. What can I do? Could I be holding him back or preventing him from feeling happy as he sometimes tells me? I would really appreciate any help.