How do I go about making friends. I lost my best friend several months ago after a 2 years struggle with cancer. I am very luck in that I have a good job that I enjoy, a wonderful husband, three grown kids and a ton of grandkids. The problem...I have no friends. I have people that I associate with at work, but don't like to mix work with pleasure. I have people that I go to church with, but don't feel extremely close to any of them. I just miss having a BFF.
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12/31/08 5:32pm
Hey Cindy
I am so sorry to hear you lost your best friend. I can't begin to imagine what a loss that must be for you.
Finding friends can be hard and especially as we grow older. One way is to find them through shared interests. What sorts of hobbies do you like? In most every community there are brochures of community guides for classes. Maybe learn something new and you can meet people this way.
One way I have personally tried is to look at www.meetup.com where they have social groups for everything you can imagine. The groups are listed by your community. I had joined a group for shy people and it was great fun. They have groups for going to movies, dancing, or just drinking coffee. You can even start a group yourself.
And of course you can find friendship on-line through the numerous on-line groups offered by yahoo and the like.
I sure hope this helps some! Good luck to you and do come back to let us know how things go in your search.
12/31/08 4:37pm
Sorry to hear about your friend. I have never lost anyone close too me cause I dont let people get close too me. This is something that only each of us can overcome on our own, Seeing a therapist/counselor can help I'm sure byhelping you find ways to build friendships.
Good luck and Happy New Year!
Pat
1/ 1/09 6:19am
I am in a similar situation, I have lots of aquaintenances, but no one close. I work fulltime, also have a wonderful husband, 2 grown up children and 2 grandkids.
I live in Shropshire in the Midlands. Please feel free to click on my name to go to my profile and send me a personal message for a chat.
1/ 1/09 2:26pm
I too lost my best friend this year. I am 60 and have no family left. This holiday season has been very difficult. I retired two years ago due to ill health and still see a few people from work a few times a year. I do still have a few friends but none I am as close to as with a best friend.
1/ 3/09 11:30am
Try this web site below for a helpful booklet you can order from Ann Lander's personal newspaper advice column. Although I think she has died, I believe that her site continues with another person. The book is excellent and very inexpensive.
http://www.creators.com/lifestylefeatures/classic-ann-landers/classic-ann-landers-2008-11-30.html
1/ 3/09 2:28pm
My advice would be try to make friends with someone that your mom or dad knows. Or try facebook its a safe way to meet people maybe that you already know but you just cant talk to them in person then you will work your way up and maybe talk to them in person.
1/ 4/09 2:38pm
Having lose a mother ten years ago I feel ypur pain . To make new friends join a gym , take a dance class, a pottery class, book club, go to a candle or Mary Kay party, do something you love to do
1/ 4/09 9:10pm
I too, lost my very best friend, whom I did most everything with, several months ago. My therapist helped me start the "meet new people" process. I started going to a couple of weekly meetings at my local mental health care center at Magellan here in Glendale, AZ. One meeting is a life skills group and the other is a bi-weekly women's group. I have made a couple of promising close friends who face similiar issues as I. Through the women's group, I joined the local church that my new friend goes to. I go to a women's bible study and an adult bibly study there. It's not perfect yet, but it is a beginning. I'm not a social butterfly, but I know the advantages of at least one close friend and a few warm aquaintances. I hope this helps to give you ideas. God bless you and good luck!
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