Wednesday, October 01, 2014
Introducing Mood 24/7, a new tool that helps you track your mood from day to day using your mobile phone.Try it today!

Wednesday, May 05, 2010 tenabell, Community Member, asks

Q: what does it mean to like to be alone all the time and even go places by yourself?

i dont like being around people at all..even if i get invited places i decline and would rather go places alone.to the movies,shopping,even weekend getaways ,all alone.i get nervous if i even think i might have to go to lunch or somthing simple with someone so i dont hurt anyones feelings or have people thinking im a bitch..If i do go i am stressed the whole time..is there a medical name for this?just trying to figure it out..thanks

Answer This
Answers (6)
John Folk-Williams, Health Guide
5/ 6/10 12:37am

There could be a couple of things going on. The nervousness sounds like social anxiety, and that can make it impossibly stressful to be in any situation with other people. Depression would also lead you to spend more time alone - often with a feeling that you just can't face anyone because you're feeling so bad. And depression and anxiety often go together - I've had both these problems for most of my life. And I too have often avoided people altogether - but I didn't want to be alone so much. The depression and anxiety just made it too painful to spend time with other people.

 

I would suggest talking with a therapist about this - just for a consultation to get a professional to help you identify what you're going through.

 

Please stay in touch and let us know what you learn.

 

John

Reply
Judy, Community Member
5/ 5/10 11:08pm

Hi, Tenabell.  First, I must ask you if you like doing everything alone.  It sounds like you're thinking something's not right with you because you avoid being with people.  It does sound like social anxiety.  If you want to learn how to be more comfortable being with people, you could talk to a psychologist about it.  Something tells me that you are probably wishing you might WISH you felt more like interacting with people but you're afraid of being judged.  It is possible to change those beliefs about yourself.

 

Hope this helps clarify things for you, but let us know if you have any other questions.  Thanks for visiting the Depression Connection site.

Reply
Queeny, Community Member
6/13/10 12:34am

oh my..... I finally got the courage to just type this question, and I want you to know, I am the same way, and I've been this way my whole life. I would give anything to enjoy being around people...............but I've about given up. I am now 53 but instead of any improvment, it's getting worse.  I know I'm deeply depressed, been my whole life, been going for treatment but nothing helps.  I am sure though, you cna get the help you need, for some reason, I just can't. It's a true miracle I have a job, though it's been rough.  Take care tenabell, don't give up. I try not to, and we do have Heaven to look forward to, but I know we can't quit on our own to get there, that alone is God's timing.

 

Reply
Queeny, Community Member
6/13/10 12:34am

oh my..... I finally got the courage to just type this question, and I want you to know, I am the same way, and I've been this way my whole life. I would give anything to enjoy being around people...............but I've about given up. I am now 53 but instead of any improvment, it's getting worse.  I know I'm deeply depressed, been my whole life, been going for treatment but nothing helps.  I am sure though, you cna get the help you need, for some reason, I just can't. It's a true miracle I have a job, though it's been rough.  Take care tenabell, don't give up. I try not to, and we do have Heaven to look forward to, but I know we can't quit on our own to get there, that alone is God's timing.

 

Reply
Johnathan Eric Myers, Community Member
12/21/10 6:55am

I can't stand being around people-I hate to hear them talk because they usually have nothing to say but stupid, thoughtless things. I love being alone, by myself, to do things alone by myself. Some people don't understand and some people say that I am anti-social-but who really cares about what they think. People will always have an opinion about who you are, how you are suppose to feel and what you should do. Well, to those people I am going to tell them what they should do-shut up, keep an eye on yourself and evaluate and re-evaluate yourself and peer into your own heart and figure out who you are and how you can improve and once you have reached that plateu of absolute perfection, you come back and demonstrate to me how I can be perfect like you.

 

Johnathan

Reply
Johnathan Eric Myers, Community Member
12/21/10 7:17am

The entire human family is dysfuctional and suffer with varying degrees of mental and emotional disturbances. On a personal level, I love being by myself, doing things by myself and not being disturbed by anyone. Most times, I cannot stand hearing people talk or engaging in conversation with them because they always say thoughtless and stupid things, they are predictable when it comes to this and therefore are boring. I feel drained whenever I have to engage people on any level. I don't feel that I am better than anyone else but I know who I am at this particular juncture in my life. I could be suffering from depression of some kind but what does that matter when things are what they are at this point. As far as other people are concerned, I respect their opinion, but that's all it is-opinion. Most times we know what we should do without people telling us.

 

Johnathan Eric Myers

 

 

Reply
Answer This

Important:
We hope you find this general health information helpful. Please note however, that this Q&A is meant to support not replace the professional medical advice you receive from your doctor. No information in the Answers above is intended to diagnose or treat any condition. The views expressed in the Answers above belong to the individuals who posted them and do not necessarily reflect the views of Remedy Health Media. Remedy Health Media does not review or edit content posted by our community members, but reserves the right to remove any material it deems inappropriate.

By tenabell, Community Member— Last Modified: 11/10/11, First Published: 05/05/10