I am very sad to hear how trapped you are. As I am sure that you love your BF, it would hurt me to know that I was holding my wife back from doing something she needs to do to be happier. If she was unhappy I wouldnt think that she is complaining by talking to me about what's making her unhappy(since usually it's me). There are many different ways to communicate with people. I just cant understand why he would think you are complaining if you're just asking for a way to be happier.