My girlfriend told me 2 years ago she is on roxies...I said I would stay and help her ger off them..I am really in to her. She is model material and I know that sounds like I think she is a possible trophy wife but I really fell for her loving personality. Of course the fact that she is a knock is nice also..I have stayed with her through alot of painful things as alot of people do. I have been asked why didnt I just tell her I was not expecting this and I'm not into this and if she gets help and i'm still available then we can see where it goes. i have often wondered is that what a secure persons natural response would be and does this sound like i'm co dependent and just hoping she will eventually choose to try to be the girlfriend she portrayed herself to be and fact is i'm in a real iife dream that i'll never wake up from so I need to wake my already awoke self and move on letting others that want to date into my life so as to see if their is a connection between me and them...You see I have tried and I cant get past the fact that my heart is so into the girl in rehab that I cant even begin to think of anyone else.. Please help me with this....
William, why don't you relax a little bit and wait to see what happens with the rehab? If she really wants to get better, she'll get serious about this and get off the drugs. If it turns out that she's not able to or won't, then you can decide if you want to live on a roller coaster. I don't think you're being co-dependent because you are helping her get sober, not enabling her to stay on drugs. You love her and there's nothing wrong with that. But I don't think you need to feel like you MUST stay with her no matter what if your feelings change. That's just life. If you do happen to meet someone else who is healthier and is good for you, that's your right.
I hope your girlfriend does heal and that things turn out the way you want them to. You sound like a really nice guy that anyone would be fortunate to have in their life.
Morning William
Seem's that these day's theres a new label poping up everyday, to me the fact of the matter is that in every relationship ''co-dependacy'' is obviously there, and its normal when one commits to a nother person.
Its the extreme's that we have to watch out for thats when its become problematic and there is many examles of this like when you put your happyness in the hands of the other.
-Michel-
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Your absloutely right....Thank you so much...I guess hearing the way you put was like a light bulb of reality...