My girlfriend of almost a year now is dealing with major depression. When we first met I was dealing with BPD and Bi-Polar but thankfully have been able to make a major recovery. Both of us were in a very bad spot when we met but with therapy, treatment, and medication were able to get to a place where we were doing great. A couple of months ago my girlfriends parents, who pay her college and medical bills, spoke to her about going off of her medicine because of how expensive it is. They guilted her into the feeling that it was her only option because of how expensive the meds are. With the help of her doctor she was able to put together a treatment plan for lowering her dose and eventually going off of it and started less than a week ago. Already things have gotten terrible. I have read many of the posts under the forum here about depression and its affects and the symptoms are much the same as what others are dealing with. I have become the blame for her problems, I'm a bad boyfriend, I don't listen to her, I don't value her, she doesn't feel like I love her, etc, etc... Having dealt with major depression myself before I understand that these are just symptoms of a terrible sickness that she has no control over, but nonetheless, it still hurts immensely to hear her say those things. She called her doctor today to talk about how bad it has gotten and he recommended that she return to her full dose. I don't know the full details of the conversation but I do know it made her mad, really mad. I know because when she called me it all got taken out on me. Its so hard to be objective about these types of exchanges when the words hurt so bad. With all of that being said, I recently purchased an engagement ring with the full support of her parents. I want nothing more than to marry this girl and spend the rest of my life with her. I know that God created the two of us to be together, but it feels like I'm loosing the woman I fell in love with. I feel strongly that she should go back onto her medicine, but with the pressure that her parents are putting on her she feels like she has no option as far as meds go. I want to be able to pay for them for her but I'm still just a poor college student. I know her parents have the money to pay but they have this idea in their head that medicines for mental health issues are a bad idea and that people should just "suck it up" and "deal with it". I have no idea what to do. I feel like I have a good idea of how to support her when shes down but the idea of her being like this when she really doesn't have to be makes it all the more frustrating. HELP!