Q: how can i help my boyfriend with his anxiety attack?
I'm sure you're feeling pretty helpless right now about your boyfriend's anxiety attacks. There is probably not much you can do all by yourself that will take this away. He is under a doctor's care and taking medication, but if the medication isn't working, he needs to talk to his doctor about that. You could suggest that he see a therapist, too, who might be able to help him better manage his anxiety. He probably needs someone to talk to and a mental health professional would probably be the most helpful. I don't know if you would feel comfortable suggesting it, but it would be one possible thing you could do. You can tell him that you will be there for him if he needs to talk, too, but it sounds like he does need more help than he's getting. I hope he can get it and will soon be feeling better. In the meantime, take care of yourself and try to let go of the things that you have no control over. I wish you all the best.
You don't have to assure him that everything will be all right because, for one thing, if he's feeling depressed, he's not going to believe it and truthfully, there's no guarantee that it WILL be all right. I would say err on the side of saying less than more. Depressed people usually feel guilty for feeling depressed and are worried about hurting the people they care about because they don't feel like doing things, or they're feeling irritable, etc. They don't want pity, for sure. Just give him his space and say whatever is in your heart in terms of caring about him, etc. You aren't going to get much in return right now because he's kind of caught up in his own pain. Just don't stop living your life while waiting for him to come around. He should maybe be seeing his therapist more often - he needs more support than any one untrained person can give him. Just being there is the best thing you can do.
thank you, this really helps a lot to me and to him too. i'll try to be more patient and strong for him. thanks. 
God bless
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thank you for responding to my question. :) he is already seeing a therapist but not regularly. i'm just confuse on what is the right way to approach him. i don't know if i'm asking him too much about it, i don't know if i'm over doing my 'involment ', maybe it's making him more depress or making him feel weak. i'm not sure. how do i know it? should i just assured him that everything will be alright and then stop doing anything and just be patient?