Giving him space?
I was going out with a man for nearly 9 months. Everything was wonderful, we were very much in love, he was talking about marriage, etc. He has changed over the past 2 months and has been under a lot of stress. He tells me he lacks motivation, is exhausted all the time, has headaches and sore eyes, and feels worthless about himself. He still manages to go to work which is something at least. He told me the other week that he can't be in a relationship anymore and wants to be on his own, but also said to me he loves me and still has feelings for me, and hopefully in a few months things will be better. I felt as if I'd been tiptoeing around him for the last several weeks and told him as much, along with the fact that I didn't feel his top priority, and that I was worth more than this to which he agreed. I felt terrible saying those things but it was also a relief being honest with him as he cancelled on me a couple of times too saying that it was too upsetting to see me as he got so emotionally involved and then had to walk away (he lives 120km away) back to his own life.
I've suggested that he's depressed but he won't seek help. I am wondering what to do and if giving him space and getting on with my own life is my best option, as we've tried taking time apart before but were still in contact. He does keep telling me it's not us or me. If anyone has been in this situation I'd really like to hear your advice! Thank you.