In a comment to my last post, Merely Me posed a key question about emotional abuse: How can you tell whether the behavior is abuse or genuine love “since an abuser can have periods when they act lovingly ....apologetic ...charming ....buys you things to make up ...always sorry. And you are right ...it is for control. An abuser can also shift their behaviors and quite dramatically. And this is what makes things so confusing for many women.”
(Men would face these same dangers in dealing...

