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I have a long family history of diabetes on both sides of my family,...

Roxy

Saturday, November 08, 2008
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Hi everyone, I am new to diabeties support groups, sites etc... I really like this one, it's readable and everyone is relatable. Anyway, I have been living with this disease for 7 years, almost eight, unfortunately I just recently let myself believe I have diabeties, I was living in denial that long....
  1. Hey Roxy!
    Ginger Vieira
    Sunday, November 09, 2008 at 12:54 PM

    Roxy -- Thank you for posting. Your post was so honest, and that is hard to do!

     

    Okay, so maybe for the past 7 years of your life you haven't been taking very good care of yourself, but just because you've learned bad habits doesn't mean you can't turn it around and start teaching yourself better ones.

     

    And you've already done the first part, which, I think, is admitting and being honest about what's really going on. The second part though is forgiving yourself for not being perfect, for struggling with something is incredibly challenging and knowing that it's okay. No one expects you to be perfect -- and if they do, they ought to be ignored! :)

     

    Meanwhile, you've also got some things you've gotta figure out how to take care of.

     

    Test strips: you need them! I know they're expensive, but have you looked into seeing if you qualify for a discounted price from the company you buy test strips from? I've heard of people getting test strips at a much lower price because of they're financial situation. I buy my test strips from Amazon.com because I can get them for half the price.

     

    Nutrition: going to a dietician is one thing, she can tell you what you ought to be eating...but when you eat those candy bars it's not because you believe they're healthy for you, right? It's something more along the lines of maybe not being able to express yourself, to ask for help, maybe feeling so overwhelmed with this disease and the most comforting thing you do at the very moment is to lose control, give up, and eat.

     

    And that is not uncommon. You're not alone in that at all, Roxy! But you can change it.  If speaking with a therapist is an option -- go for it. If you're still in college, there's probably free counseling in your counseling department. But also, it goes back to being hoenst with yourself. When you're upset, when you're ready to go binge on junk food, stop and ask yourself why you're doing this, and see if you can go for a walk, or call a really good friend, or sit down and write about what's going on in your head!

     

    What do you think is the next step for you, Roxy? I so appreciate your admiration, but I promise I don't get it right all the time either -- but I don't blame myself for being imperfect.


    This disease is hard work! And it's never too late to change the way we treat it, the way we think about it, and the way we think about ourselves. I respect myself and my body, so I'm working hard on trying to show that through my diabetes management, too.

     

     

    -Ginger

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  2. Never be ashamed!
    Ann Bartlett
    Sunday, November 09, 2008 at 01:39 PM

    Roxy,

    I'm Ann and I blog on the adult site.  I wanted to chime in with Ginger: most of us are imperfect diabetics!  My CDE, certified diabetes educator, who has had the disease for 40 years said a very wonderful thing to me, "We have to learn how to LIVE with diabetes, it is not who you are!"

     

    You need to find a part of yourself that you love and grow from the place!  What is it that you want to do? And from there, what do you need to do for your diabetes to be able to enjoy your life?  If you don't have the answers, it does not mean you can't do it.  It means you have to find them and this site can help!  

     

    If you are having trouble getting strips b/c of cost, in addition to amazon, there are some places to know about.  Amy Tendrich wrote a blog about some companies that help you get supplies for diabetes, as did Manny Hernandez.  Take a look at these sites and see if there is help for your needs.  You should be able to find something.

     

    Share with us who you are and what is a dream you would like to accomplish, because sites like this help you find community to get there!

     

    Look forward to reading more about Roxy!

    Ann Bartlett

     

     

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  3. ...something else to read
    Ginger Vieira
    Sunday, November 09, 2008 at 07:36 PM

    Hey Roxy,

     

    I forgot to put in a link to a blog I wrote about a year ago that I think might help you to start looking at your diabetes and your imperfections a different way...

     


    "Let's Just Practice"

     

     

     

    Ginger

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    re: ...something else to read
    Roxy
    Monday, November 10, 2008 at 07:54 PM

    Thanks you guys for replying, I read all the articles suggested and actually copied the Lets Just Practice one so I can pull it out for support when I feel I really need it, it really made me think about alot of ways to help myself.

     

             I am extremely touched that all of you care and sent me info to help me,I just hope that other people find this site, it is definately the most useful tool i've come across for diabetes. I am going to make a flyer to promote this site and leave it in the

    diabetes education ward of  the medical clinic I go to.

     

     

                            Roxy

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  4. i can relate.
    JessicaxKristine
    Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:02 AM

    I can totally relate with where you are coming from. I was right in your place a month ago. I was that way for a good year or so. I never took my insulin, I never checked my sugar, anything. But then I went into DKA and almost died, it was the scariest thing I have ever gone through and don't think anyone else should go through that. I know it's hard, but you really need to check more and eat more healthy. i KNOW how hard it is. I used to eat nothing but junkfood all the time, and I dropped a serious amount of weight. I was so unhealthy and now that I am healthy I love the way that I feel now, it's the best feeling in the world. I would never want to go back to the way that I was feeling before. If you ever need someone to talk to PLEASE message me, because I know exactly how you feel, and exactly what you're going through, I went through the same thing. so please message me, if you need anything. advice, tips, anything.

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    re: i can relate.
    Roxy
    Monday, November 10, 2008 at 07:39 PM

    Thanks it helps to know that someone understands, I have the biggest problem with food, I'm always hungry and grab the junkfood because it's so easily available, I just bought a diabetes cookbook today so hopefully I will make use of it, I can't wait to go grocery shopping for real food and not junkfood!

     

            What do you buy for groceries, any suggestions I should try.

     

     

     

                    Roxy

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    re: re: i can relate.
    Ann Bartlett
    Tuesday, November 11, 2008 at 09:50 AM

    Jess and Roxy,

    I grew up being very athletic and in those days we didn't use blood glucose meters.  So I never tested, but my athleticism balanced out the imperfect world of a teen.  When I got into my 20s I was not as athletic and often reckless.  I hated eating, but when lows hit a chocolate bar was an answer!  I still get extremely tired of food.  I've always quipped that God gave me diabetes to keep me from being anorexic!  For food and recipes look at foodfit.com for information too.  It's s sister site.

     

    Over the years, I've learned the my vanity is actually a great motivation for taking care of my diabetes!  I'm 44 now and own a wellness center.  We offer acupuncture, rolfing, massage, chiropractic care, biofeedback, yoga, pilates and more!  Most people are stunned at how young I look(genetics) and how great my body looks(yoga, hiking, running, massage, etc)!  It took me a while to figure it all out, but I was just as confused about how to take care of myself at your age! 

     

    Awareness is the first step to change.  Your eyes are open and you have so many choices! There is nothing you can't do!  Some sites to inspire your imagination:

    Will Cross Mountaineer

    Gary Hall Olympic swimmer

    Sean Busby Snowboarder

    Missy Foy Ultra marathoner

    Monique Hanley cyclist

     

    These guys are the top of the heap!  I don't aspire to be them, but they remind me that if they can work that hard and take that much control to succeed, basic control for a steady, healthy life isn't nearly as complicated as I think!  Look for Leighton's blog as well.  He's another perosn living with diabetes who has done some inspiring things!  He's the guest blogger on this site now.  His blog went up yesterday!

     

    You both have so much to offer everyone here.  Friendship, compassion and most importantly experience for how to change bad into great to other kids who are on this same journey!   

     

    I am looking forward to seeing more from both of you!  Ann 

     

    PS. Ginger is my hero!  Her sense of compassion and understanding is mind boggling!  You have found someone who genuinely understands and cares. 

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    re: re: re: i can relate.
    Roxy
    Wednesday, November 12, 2008 at 11:47 PM

    Thanks Ann, I guess I found another person to look up to, I really appreciate all your advise and I hope to read more, I'm keeping evert comment that is posted to me for inspiration, all of you have helped me so much more than you could ever imagine in such a short time since I've joined this site!

     

    I said before and many times that I don't care what anyone over a certain age has to say about diabetes, the reason for that is because it's all been negative, like that's what I have to look foreward to in my fourties and older, to the point that for so long I stopped caring about my health, I thought what is the point if I'm going to have complications, but now I'm starting to realize that it's in my hands and I dont have to be like some people, my dad is going to be 63 next year and he was diagnosed at 21 and he has taken care of himself and is doing so great. He worked construction all his life and he still gets out there on basement floors, the younger guys in their teens can't even keep up with him!

     

    Ann I saw a photo of you and read your bio on the adult site and you have given me so much hope, you look awsome, and are obviously very healthy and active.

     

    I went to see a therapist that specializes in young diabetic girls, she set up an appointment for me to see a mentor, this lady has had diabetes since birth, she is in her fifties and she runs every morning in all weather conditions, she is another inspiration to me for now and when I am older.

     

    I just want to get a certain lady out of my head I think she is one of the reasons I made myself wake up and want to start taking responsability for my health and future.

    This lady was customer in a store I worked at, she was severely over weight, in a wheel chair and would literally whine about her diabetes, she would try to make anyone who would listen to her feel sorry for her, she'd complain about her complications while she was rolling around in her wheel chair with a huge pail of ice cream and chocolate chip cookies sitting in her lap. I realized that I was on the path to be like her, maybe she started off like me but didn't feel worthy of herself to seek help, or maybe it just wasn't available to her when she was my age, or maybe she didn't know how to get it, I sure didn't.

     

    Please Ann keep sending me anything you want I take it all so seriously, I need hope and something to look foreward to.

     

    Roxy

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    re: re: re: re: i can relate.
    Ginger Vieira
    Thursday, November 13, 2008 at 03:45 PM

    Roxy,

     

    Your story about both the woman who runs every morning and the overweight woman in the store are so powerful, because as I think you've already realized, it means we all have a choice, right?

     

    We can choose to feel sorry for ourselves, neglect our diabetes, eat junk food for years, become overweight, inactive and really unhealthy.

     

    OR

     

    ...we can make really good choices! It doesn't mean we have to be perfect alllll the time (I ate ice cream yesterday, by the way, gladly :)

    ....but it does mean that we can make really good choices most of the time and really benefit, really take care of ourselves and live happily and healthfully, just like anyone with or without diabetes!

     

    It's funny, even people without diabetes can be just as severely neglectful of their bodies. I am more active than any of my friends and they don't have diabetes. It can't keep us (you and me) from accomplishing ANYTHING.

     

     

    -Ginger

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    re: re: i can relate.
    JessicaxKristine
    Wednesday, November 12, 2008 at 10:16 AM

    Well I normally buy like Lean Cuisine meals or SmartOnes meals. They may not seem like they taste good, but they really do!

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  5. Nutrition shtuff!
    Ginger Vieira
    Thursday, November 13, 2008 at 12:29 PM

    Hey Ladies,

     

    I'm going to write up a sharepost on Nutrition and how to get started with making better choices.

     

    Also, check out some of these blogs:

     

     

    The Diabetes Wagon (how to get back on track!)

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  6. Nutrition shtuff!
    Ginger Vieira
    Thursday, November 13, 2008 at 12:34 PM

    Hey Ladies,

     

    I'm going to write up a sharepost on Nutrition and how to get started with making better choices.

     

    Also, check out some of these blogs:

     

     

    The Diabetes Wagon (how to get back on track!)

    Getting Back In Control

    Low-Carbs and Hypoglycemia

     

     

    Ginger

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  7. LOLdiabetes
    Ann Bartlett
    Monday, November 17, 2008 at 10:53 AM

    Hey Roxy,

    I was looking around at some other blog sites over the weekend andI found this this one: Loldiabetes.com. Aside from the fact that I laughed so hard I cried reading a looking at posts, there is one about the diabetes police and I thought of the woman who made you feel bad!  Please watch and look for gloomy Glenda!

     

    Humor is a great thing!  

    Have a great week!

     

    Ann

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  8. hi
    shelbm08
    Monday, November 24, 2008 at 05:45 AM

    hello there my name is shelby and i just came across this website too and so i read your sharepost and so i thought i would leave a comment too, because i am very similar to you, like my eating habits and the way i just cant get into the routine of taking my medicines and how i have no one around me who has diabetes. I am the first person in my family with it so i have no one to talk to. and i really wish that i could do wats right but i guess im just to lazy, but maybe there is something i could do to turn my health around. so leave me a message or something and maybe we can chat:-)

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    re: hi
    Roxy
    Tuesday, November 25, 2008 at 12:49 AM

    Hi Shelby, diabeteens is definately one of the better sites for info and support. My diabetes control has gotten a bit better, although I still have alot of improving to do with my diet but it is getting there, I really want to be healthy and am working very hard at it, I did slip a little this week and bought some junkfood and felt really sick from it after, I think because my body is getting used to healthy stuff. I would love to stay in touch with you, we can get healthier" together" the support I have found really makes a huge difference. I really thought that I was the only one going through this,it made me feel pathetic and ashamed, my self-esteem dropped so low for a long time I distanced myself from my friends, I feel I dont have much in common wiyh yhem anymore, especially since I dont drink alcohol at all anymore, it just made my blood sugar to high and one time I fainted from high blood sugar and my friens just thought I was drunk and passed out, I could have died, they all know I have diabetes but they just dont understand, actually there is alot they dont understand about this disease.

     

    I've decided I need to meet some people my age, that understand and are facing the same frusterations that i am, I went onto the Canadian Diabetes Association (CDA)web site to find youth support groups I've also asked my cde to help me find seminars etc that would be of interest to me, I am planning on joining Team Diabetes supported by the CDA, and training for a marathon-a running marathon not a walking!! I think for me to get my butt moving with some cardio and strenghth training Team Diabetes will be the motivation I need I just dont seem to have it in me to workout just to workout unfortunately.

     

    I am sure if you went on to the American Diabetes website you will find support groups and camps too, I 'm not sure how old you are but most camps go up to 16 years and under, I am over 16, but really want to go to camp so I might volunteer at a diabetes camp for youth in the summer.

     

    Find out from your cde where in your area you can go to some support groups, camps, seminars, and get a mentor!! My cde hooked me up with my mentor, a very energetic spunky woman in her mid fifties with diabetes since birth, she does her mentoring at the pharmacy at Wal-Mart every second Tuesday, maybe your Wal-Mart has something similar.

     

    I am still learning as I go but feel free to message me anytime you feel the need to complain, whine, cry, scream or need support, and if you learned any new tips or tricks about how to manage this disease do share as will I!

     

    Be strong!

     

    Roxy 

     

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