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Mood Swings and Effect on Relationship

Karen Community Member April 23, 2008
  • Somewhere in this thread, I noticed someone mentioned how difficult it is to find any information on mood swings and diabetes. I have searched a few times and for whatever reason I found this exchange today, much to my relief.  My husband and I have been married for 15 years but together since high school over  20 years ago.  A few months after our first child was born about 10 years ago - he developed suddenly diabetes.  Without getting into the details and confusion, it was not clear if it was Type 1, Type 2 but he is insulin dependent.  To his credit he immediately adjusted his lifestyle and is under tight control, but of course it is virtually impossible, even being very vigilant, to avoid all lows and highs. He visits his 2 doctors regularly, follows a good diet (most of the time, we are all human) and is very aware of the long-term effects to avoid.  However, since being diagnosed and even more so over the last 5 years it seems to me that he has very severe mood swings, is irritable and impatient - a completely different person than the one I married.  We now have 3 children and I can only explain the drastic personality shift on his diabetes.  I can see his lows and I sympathize with those who say their husband is defensive and angry at the suggestion that he check his bloodsugar.  I also am concerned that he is able to detect them less and less.  Last night though, I am certain that it was a sudden increase that was the reason for his mood - I could hear his mood change in the way that he spoke to the kids and basically fell apart. I convinced him to check his blood sugar being certain it was low, but it was high. 

     

    I am less and less tolerant, and more and more angry, he refuses to acknowledge it, and none of this is good.

     

    Does anyone else have this experience? Or maybe, he really is a different person now and there is no link.

     

154 Comments
  • Elathron
    Aug. 30, 2014

    Where do I start? I'm a 29 y/o guy who's been living with a T1D girlfriend for the last 8 years (anniversary in 8 days - not that I am looking forward to it in my current state of mind!). The mood swings that I have to put up with are scary, and often during one of her rages my girlfriend will admit to being hypo - but as a part of the rage will blame me for...

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    Where do I start? I'm a 29 y/o guy who's been living with a T1D girlfriend for the last 8 years (anniversary in 8 days - not that I am looking forward to it in my current state of mind!). The mood swings that I have to put up with are scary, and often during one of her rages my girlfriend will admit to being hypo - but as a part of the rage will blame me for it - and refuse any help that I try to give! Just over an hour ago I was in trouble when she woke up (yelling at me in my sleep) because I placed my dressing gown over her slightly damp one on a clothes hook. Despite me trying to give her my (dry) dressing gown she seemed to need to villainise me for getting something wrong, and I couldn't say a single thing to calm the situation down (in fact saying anything makes it worse 99% of the time, but leaving her alone is also a big mistake as then I apparrently don't care enough to be verbally abused for anything up to 2/3 hours). To put a few things into context however, I have been doing all of the housework, shopping, odd-jobs, money-making for the last 6 weeks while she recovers from day surgery. I do all of these things without complaint until I'm being shouted at and belittled for getting one aspect wrong; often I've done nothing rationally/logically wrong, it is a perceived infraction!!! 

    When my girlfriend is hyper I will usually notice her being tired and a little self-absorbed, but her moods are mostly stable until her blood sugars go below 3.5. At which point it's either a very sweet person (10% of the time) asking me to get some Glucogel, or a very nasty, bitter and hateful rage at me for being so useless and uncaring. I have ADHD myself and it is very hard to not react to some of the things I get told, and I will admit to having had a few times where I just couldn't hold back (for example being told you deserved to be sexually abused as a child has a tendancy to spark some old tensions in the psyche). But the hurtful, spiteful things I get thrown in my face I'm expected to ignore (at all times) and instead I'm supposed to just be a calm and placcid individual; taking it all on the chin. Sadly, as we all know, even the most patient of humankind will have a limit on how much they can take. Sadly when I react and defend myself I get demonised, especially after the event. I try to explain that if a psychopath was hitting me in the face because of his condition, I would still have every right to defend myself. It doesn't matter what state people are in, if someone says something that is designed to hurt (and low blood sugar T1D's have a knack for saying purely destructive and venomous things) and it cuts deep enough, the victim is going to react and either try to defend themselves or walk away from the situation (which makes things even worse afterwards because apparently I don't care enough!!!). 

    I wish sometimes that my partner's BS's were controlled better, I try to help and be as supportive as I can be, but I don't think that I should be expected to sacrifice so muh of my life only to be the victim of what is, for all intents and purposes, psychological and verbal abuse. I am now also coming to the slow and sad conclusion that there is something else amiss with my partner. I am becoming increasingly worried that she has a form of borderline personality disorder on top of her T1D. I realise this is not something I'm qualified to diagnose, but when you read scores of studies, experiences, stories and medical journals on the subject and the person fits 100% of the symptoms it kinda becomes one of those things that needs exploring. Needless to say I am at my wits end, fed up of treading around a minefield - let alone eggshells - and I'm now getting incredibly depressed myself (but still having to carry on bearing the brunt of the emotional and physical workload).

  • anne.griffiths
    Aug. 27, 2014
    Feeling so down this morning after a sleepless night between the sofa and spare bedroom distancing myself from my Type 1 diabetic husband who had earlier that night had a rage because his food was not on the table. Although he tries so hard to keep his blood sugar levels stable there still exists the raging, agressive, bullying tantrums! He recognises no reasoning,...
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    Feeling so down this morning after a sleepless night between the sofa and spare bedroom distancing myself from my Type 1 diabetic husband who had earlier that night had a rage because his food was not on the table. Although he tries so hard to keep his blood sugar levels stable there still exists the raging, agressive, bullying tantrums! He recognises no reasoning, reverts all blame to me and is in complete denial. He was diagnosed 14 years ago and his mood swings are just heightening with time, becoming unbearable and uncontrolled. I am a six year breast cancer survivor still taking anti-cancer medication probably indefinitely. I have over the last 5 years tragically lost two brothers. My husband with his mood swings is destroying any chance of our 31 year marriage surviving. I see no solution. I have to distance myself from the monster he has become, sadly, intolerable! I googled this site this morning out of desperation. I am sympathetically amazed at how many other people have found their relationships breaking down because of the side effects of diabetes. May we all find the strength to tolerate. I myself do not know which way to turn.
  • thefen
    Aug. 23, 2014

    I am married to a lovely lady for 11 years. In 2007 I was diagnosed as diabetic.

      2 years ago I progressed to the state that I was very tired and irritable especiall with my wife. I went to Ontario for a trip to see my Dad and Mom and my Dad checked my blood sugars and they where in the high 20`s. When I got back home, I insisted my doctor put me on insulin...

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    I am married to a lovely lady for 11 years. In 2007 I was diagnosed as diabetic.

      2 years ago I progressed to the state that I was very tired and irritable especiall with my wife. I went to Ontario for a trip to see my Dad and Mom and my Dad checked my blood sugars and they where in the high 20`s. When I got back home, I insisted my doctor put me on insulin ASAP. Today I`m doing much better with lower readings however I get irritated and say hurtful things to my wife because I am grumpy. I have heard other diabetics discuss their irritability in their relationships as well. The only way I find to keep a cool temperment with diabetis is to eat a well balanced diet, I take pure Stevia, eliminated all sugar, don`t drink soda pop whatsoever, avoid ice cream and candy, eat lots of fruit, nuts and vegitables and very little meat,  I Take 24 units of insulin in the morning, with 2 metphprmins, after a days work, I have supper around 4-5 pm.

      My wife and I have each a TerraTrike cruiser which we ride for a couple of hours each night after supper or go for a 2 or 3 km hike. My blood sugars are much more easier to control and I am alot more happier./ I notice to that hot humid weather causes me to be very irritable and temper to flare. I live on the NW Coast of BC, I am very fortunate to be here for the amount of cloud and rain we get. My Doctor said he would take me off insulin if I didn`t take Diabetis more serious then I was. I took heed to his advice and doing much better now

     

      I8 hope this help           

  • Chabodeuxx
    Aug. 09, 2014

    These comments do seem to be onesided. I had type 1 diabetes for 10 years with tight controll, yet the "mood swings" are there. First of all I think the person doesn't change from Diabetes itself, at least not permamently. When the increased bloodsugar affects the brain the behaviour might change, but it will pass. However these tensions will build up and create...

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    These comments do seem to be onesided. I had type 1 diabetes for 10 years with tight controll, yet the "mood swings" are there. First of all I think the person doesn't change from Diabetes itself, at least not permamently. When the increased bloodsugar affects the brain the behaviour might change, but it will pass. However these tensions will build up and create grudges, and that what might change the diabetic's relations on the long run. The diabetic feels that he is expected to maintain "niceness" even when his BLOOD IS BOILING (thats how i prefer to describe my rage issues), be nice, when the rage is almost unbearable. You are not angry at someone or something, you are JUST ANGRY and I feel that i need to let it take controll, to gain relief. In my experience both restraining yourself and letting it taking controll has severe effects, the best is just to BE ALONE till it passes. And it can  pass pretty quickly, if the circumstances are right.On the other side I imagine it must feel that even tho you are as sympathetic as someone can get, you still getting your head biten off, despite your good intentions and you feel that you dont deserve that and you expect better self restrain. It does seem like a reasonable demand, yet even I cannot fully control my rage, and Im an insanely calm guy, whos literally never stressed. Yet Im getting convienced that its just chemistry. Your hormones determine your actions, you cant fully controll them.

    So as conclusion, my advice is, that you should just keep your distance and let the diabetic calm down. Whatever you do, no matter how good your intentions are, it will just make things worse. In my rage periods everything will annoy me, a person eating next to me, talking, asking you to hand over the salt...EVERYTHING, even breathing :). This does sound horrible, and guess leaving the diabetic alone only works if it doesnt happen that often. As I said im having pretty tight controll, perfect HbA1c levels, yet occasional f.ckups are still there in my daily life. As sad as it is, the truth is that the diabetics are damaged. You either have to make the sacrifice and accept that the diabetic cannot maintain full controll and sometimes he wont be himself for a short period or just give up on him. Of course thats said, its completely reasonable to expect as tight controll as possible and regular blood tests, mainly when the behaviour indicates that something is awfully wrong. If the diabetic refuses to adopt to the disease and regular blood sugar tests, its a lost cause. There surely some psychology behind that behaviour, which might be changed. Afterall 90% of the times the diabetic DID FAIL if the bloodsugar is too high and that can be frustrating and if the blood sugar is always bad, it might just feel easier to give up and dont even test it. Maintaining controll over blood sugar, always planning ahead, calculating, thinking, injecting 6-7 times a day, becouse you are too much or made a mistake can be EXTREMELY TIRING. And sometimes a single mistake has an effect for a whole day. If i had to inject extra insulin, becouse i f.cked it up, there will be an overload, it might effect my bloodsugar 10hours later and it goes up again due to the earlier mistake. Point is,its tiring, but one must accept the rules, even if they are extremely unfair, and adopt to them. Becouse it is possible to adopt to them and well survive...

  • malber
    Aug. 08, 2014

    Loving Spouses..

     

    Yes, I am a perfect example of my spouses personality changing. I am close to settling my divorce with my spouse. We were together for 26 years and married 24 years. My spouse left me three times during our marriage and finally snapped a year ago. Of course, I tried to save our relationship but, I could not reason with my spouse for...

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    Loving Spouses..

     

    Yes, I am a perfect example of my spouses personality changing. I am close to settling my divorce with my spouse. We were together for 26 years and married 24 years. My spouse left me three times during our marriage and finally snapped a year ago. Of course, I tried to save our relationship but, I could not reason with my spouse for anything.  I tried to express my concern to the endrocrinologist doctor but they ignored my letter. My spouse was a Type I diabetic and just started a new drugs study for his condition. Of course, I am sad about my situation but, I feel that I do not want to be subjected to a home environment where it is you unsettling. One thing, I would advise is to stay connected with the doctors. Have a chat about what is going to occur with this condition. My spouse would not let me ever go to the doctors appointments. I simply just respected my spouses request and was a dedicated partner. I hope this has help. 

  • Gerbera
    Aug. 08, 2014
    I've read all the comments along the way. I too can relate to this by saying that I've been married to a wonderful man for 32 years. He's now 56 but from the age of 45 he was diagnosed with Type 2. At age 53 he left home. To be honest I don't know who this man is anymore. It's heartbreaking to see his condition deteriorate - the highs and lows of diabetes is...
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    I've read all the comments along the way. I too can relate to this by saying that I've been married to a wonderful man for 32 years. He's now 56 but from the age of 45 he was diagnosed with Type 2. At age 53 he left home. To be honest I don't know who this man is anymore. It's heartbreaking to see his condition deteriorate - the highs and lows of diabetes is pretty scary. We've been living apart 2 years and there all conversations take place on the phone. I would get interrogating phone calls by being asked whom I with. No matter how much I tell him, he never believes me, tells me I'm lying, tells me I put my friends first etc. He quit his job 2 years ago and has not worked since. I'm tired of all the constant interrogations. He stopped all diabetes medication 18 months ago - tells me he no longer has diabetes therefore he's in denial. He does not have regular Dr check ups either. This is out of my hands as we live apart. The regular aggressive outbursts, constant interrogation, the verbal, mental and emotional abuse I constantly cop from him is tiring. It's affected me emotionally - I cry constantly and am currently undergoing counselling. I have read many blogs on various websites about women being in long term marriages who are ready to walk out and end the marriage. After 36 years of being with this person and have hung on for so many years thinking things will get better, but believe me with my experience and knowledge, things just don't get better - in fact the mood swings and aggression towards me are getting worse. He's now even accusing me of having affairs which have never happened ! This aggressive verbal abuse always happens when I'm alone and I don't have witnesses. Luckily I have taped a few of the conversations without his knowledge. I wish I could fix things but unfortunately Type 2 diabetes is a nasty disease that has taken over my husband's body and has solely but surely turned him into a monster - into a man I do not know and I'm too afraid to be alone with him because he has an aggressive streak which is scary that only developed since he was diagnosed with Type 2 11 years ago. I cannot live in a marriage with this ongoing verbal emotional and mental abuse - I have to get out now before it is too late. I feel for everyone who is also in this situation and I recommend you get out while you can - as when things turn aggressive who knows what can happen. I've taken the hard and very difficult decision to file for divorce as I cannot live in a marriage with someone I no longer know. God Bless !
  • Lozza
    Jul. 31, 2014
    I feel for you as in the same position, my husband and I have been married for 1 year together 4 and we have two beautiful girls. He has been type 1 diabetic since he was 7 and his a bad one and recently made him severely sighted so I am his carer, looking after two babies under 3 and my husband and I work is hard, I'm also quite I'll myself, I feel in the...
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    I feel for you as in the same position, my husband and I have been married for 1 year together 4 and we have two beautiful girls. He has been type 1 diabetic since he was 7 and his a bad one and recently made him severely sighted so I am his carer, looking after two babies under 3 and my husband and I work is hard, I'm also quite I'll myself, I feel in the last year or so his mood swings are intolerable both when he is high or low I'll know by his tone of vOice how he is, he does not acknowledge ever his mood swings. He talks terribly to me and the children but doesn't seem to realise his doing it, in fact his trying to combine me that it's my issue ! I has to go on anti depressants 8 weeks ago just to stop crying all the time and try to let his moods hon over my head, he has now found out and says it's me that needs the help! But with blood sugars of over 19 or below 5 it's come to a head, not sure now if the mood swings our way the nice him anymore. Used to be 80% good 20% bad and now it's vice versa, he doesn't believe it's him and I feel lonely and like in going crazy!! Add me on Facebook if you would like to talk more :) your not alone trust me !! Www.facebook.com/Lorrainesuzannewinter
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    Jul. 31, 2014

    I have a significant other, he has diabetes. I am curious and wonder I have read several of the comments, I see situations like mine, significant other with diabetes with violent, aggressive mood swings. It is nice to know that a cause could be medical related and that the problems we have been enduring could be related to diabetes. I am going...

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    I have a significant other, he has diabetes. I am curious and wonder I have read several of the comments, I see situations like mine, significant other with diabetes with violent, aggressive mood swings. It is nice to know that a cause could be medical related and that the problems we have been enduring could be related to diabetes. I am going to continue reading, but I haven't read where someone has gotten their situations to improve or change for the better, and continuing on in the relationship. I am hoping someone has had a good, happy and successful ending, please respond.

    • Saffywal
      Aug. 03, 2014
      It's amazing to read what has been said as it sounds so much like my situation. I have been married nearly two years & feel so despondent about how long our marriage will last as I am fed up with my husband's moods swings. He was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes about 3 years ago & has always been rather impatient but recently has been particularly moody & bad...
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      It's amazing to read what has been said as it sounds so much like my situation. I have been married nearly two years & feel so despondent about how long our marriage will last as I am fed up with my husband's moods swings. He was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes about 3 years ago & has always been rather impatient but recently has been particularly moody & bad tempered & speaks down to me as if I am a two year old. He blames me for everything & if things go wrong he talks down to me in a very aggressive way like he is giving me a lecture & gets upset about the most trivial matters. In desperation I have mentioned having marriage guidance but he has refused. I would love to know what to do next to improve the situation. I haven't dared to suggest that his fits of anger may be due to his diabetes. He tries to ignore the fact that he has the disease & never checks his blood sugar level & rarely visits the doctor. I'm surprised that he hasn't been encouraged to join a group or to take more exercise as he is over weight & continues to eat cakes etc. Would welcome any advice as feel very depressed about the situation.
    • Gerbera
      Aug. 08, 2014
      Hi there I've just posted my story above under the name Gerbera. After reading all these comments from everyone I now know that it's not me. With my husband's continual aggressive outbursts I know that this disease is nasty. We all hope that our husbands will change for the better but unfortunately after being with him for 36 years now I've decided to divorce...
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      Hi there I've just posted my story above under the name Gerbera. After reading all these comments from everyone I now know that it's not me. With my husband's continual aggressive outbursts I know that this disease is nasty. We all hope that our husbands will change for the better but unfortunately after being with him for 36 years now I've decided to divorce as I can no longer live like this - I need to move on with my life. I've tried to support him in every way I can but he left 2 years ago which for me wS a relief. Every single time I'd see him I'd be constantly verbally abused yet I know I've done nothing wrong. It's a terrible situation living with your spouse who has diabetes. There's times that one fears for their life as you're never sure how bad the aggressive streak will last. In these situations whilst we still lived together I used to walk away from him and go into another room but he'd always follow me which his scary. The more commentary I read on this website and many other websites I know that I'm not alone in this situation and that many women are going through the same. No-one knows what you go through as the person who has the diabetes will always target you when you're alone ! All I can say is if you're fearing the aggressive streaks are not getting better and you're starting to fear for your life like I have, it's time to get out while you can. I'm now filing for divorce after being with him for 36 years but there really is no other way forward. Good luck everyone xxx
  • lilbit7731
    Jul. 21, 2014

    My husband and I have been married 3 years her was diagnosed with diabetes 4 years ago. Add time goes on he's easily agitated. I used to think it was what I'm doing but it's not. He's just a miserable person. He tells me he's miserable with life. He refuses to get on any antidepressant medicines though. Our marriage suffers because of this. He doesn't realise...

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    My husband and I have been married 3 years her was diagnosed with diabetes 4 years ago. Add time goes on he's easily agitated. I used to think it was what I'm doing but it's not. He's just a miserable person. He tells me he's miserable with life. He refuses to get on any antidepressant medicines though. Our marriage suffers because of this. He doesn't realise that I am beside him 100%. He just keeps telling me he's unhappy. 

  • Gladys
    Jul. 16, 2014

    Hi, it's good to know that mood swings are common place in Diabetics.

    I have been with my husband for 30 years, he has been a insulin dependant diabetic for 28 of thoes years. (We are both 50)

    Over the last 3 years my husbands personality has gone! my Husband my loving best friend my lover my rock my knight in shining armour, has gone, in...

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    Hi, it's good to know that mood swings are common place in Diabetics.

    I have been with my husband for 30 years, he has been a insulin dependant diabetic for 28 of thoes years. (We are both 50)

    Over the last 3 years my husbands personality has gone! my Husband my loving best friend my lover my rock my knight in shining armour, has gone, in his place is someone i can not talk to someone who says he dose'nt love me like he used to someone who is so agresive mentally and physically someone i don't know anymore.  My Husband has never raised his voice to me and is totally none agressive (I know people say every couple argue I am not denying this but even when we used to argue he NEVER EVER raised his voice or hand to me)

    When he now has low blood sugars he gets no warnings. when i try to give him hypo stop,sugar or drink he screams and shouts right into my face and calls me nasty agressive names and headbuts and thumps and hits me. I am so afraid. when he comes out of his hypo he has no recolection of what his had done to me.  He is devastated. Till the next time. I am walking on egg shells, never knowing when it is going to happen again. Yes I am guilty of nagging him i try not to but i am always reminding him to test,to take his insulin, to eat properly to have snacks and to stop smoking his 20 a day cigarettes. He seems as though he has given up he is on a self destruct mission!  

    When i tell him how agressive he is and how he has been to me he gets very angry and says i am making it all up, he says im evil! He forgets things he repeats himself he get confussed easily. He has sudden outbursts of anger at the TV and passing people or at passing cars (never face to face!)

    I love him I always have I want to help But don't know how!!!!!

    He will not talk to me about any of it

    • mobysgirl
      Jul. 17, 2014

      This is a journey that I am on too.  My husband of nearly 27 years is unrecognisable - he is a completely different personality now.  He has was diagnosed with type 2 in 2007 and whilst it appears to be under control (his sugar levels seem to be stable when he takes the time to test his sugar levels) but he is drinking an awful lot of cold sugary...

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      This is a journey that I am on too.  My husband of nearly 27 years is unrecognisable - he is a completely different personality now.  He has was diagnosed with type 2 in 2007 and whilst it appears to be under control (his sugar levels seem to be stable when he takes the time to test his sugar levels) but he is drinking an awful lot of cold sugary drinks and peeing far more than normal.  His aggression is completely new to me.  It usually starts around 5pm when he begins to get tired and I can literally see a change in his face and body language. I have been so scared by his ranting and uncontrolled outbursts, I have had to move out of my home.  It has just about broken my heart.  My two sons have found it very difficult to cope with too.  There seems to be little medical intervention can do - he was diagnosed as bipolar recently but reading these messages, I think that the diabetic profile has far more of a part to play.

    • Gladys
      Jul. 18, 2014

      Hi morbysgirls

       My heart goes out to you.

      Im sorry you have moved out but i totally understand why. I have forgotten just how many nights i have cried my self to sleep.

      I am at breaking point but I found the comments on health central really really helped.

      My husband had me nearly convinced it was all my fault. I began to really hate myself. I though...

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      Hi morbysgirls

       My heart goes out to you.

      Im sorry you have moved out but i totally understand why. I have forgotten just how many nights i have cried my self to sleep.

      I am at breaking point but I found the comments on health central really really helped.

      My husband had me nearly convinced it was all my fault. I began to really hate myself. I though tI was going mad.  I don't wish this experience on anyone but knowing this aggresion is a Diabetic related problem and not my husband turing bad helps.

      I took a big scary step, the last time he attacked me, I took a video on my phone. although you can not see all the physical side of the abuse you can hear all the verbal abuse. I showed it to my husband it was really hard to watch him as he watched, he had no idea at all, that this was what he is like with me (he has always said i make it up and i tell lies!)

      I then showed him some of the stories on this web site.

      It has really made him think. I had to say how would he feel if he was like this with our Grandchildren. It may not do any good now, it maybe to late but since then he has tested before every meal (he hasn't done this for years, when he goes to the Doctors he tells them false readings, he makes them up)  

      He has never accepted his diabetes, he has always said it's not going to rule to life, he hasn't looked after himself it's always been a battle. stay strong 

  • Whattodo
    Jul. 15, 2014

    My husband has been diabetic for 8 years and has just gone onto insulin, this has caused his mood swings to be massive and is effecting everyone apart from him. If I mention this to him he says I am being stupid and its not him its everyone else, my children have even started to notice how his mood changes and that we are walking on egg shells..... what can...

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    My husband has been diabetic for 8 years and has just gone onto insulin, this has caused his mood swings to be massive and is effecting everyone apart from him. If I mention this to him he says I am being stupid and its not him its everyone else, my children have even started to notice how his mood changes and that we are walking on egg shells..... what can we do???

    Can they have help for this???

    • bec
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      Jul. 29, 2014

      I am probably at my witz with my partner. Why can't he manage it better is all i think. I'm the one sitting here taking all the mood swings the highs the lows at all hours if the night. If I'm not up for the kids I'm up for him and I work full time. I don't know how I'm still functioning because I don't remember the last time I had a good night sleep. I've...

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      I am probably at my witz with my partner. Why can't he manage it better is all i think. I'm the one sitting here taking all the mood swings the highs the lows at all hours if the night. If I'm not up for the kids I'm up for him and I work full time. I don't know how I'm still functioning because I don't remember the last time I had a good night sleep. I've called 4 Ambos so far this month. Where do I find strength to keep up with it because I'm almost done. And to him it's everyone else's fault theirs nothing wrong with him. Ahhhhh

  • TriniWife
    Jun. 13, 2014
    I am not happy that so many of you are faced with the ills associated with DM but I am happy that I am not alone in this. The stories brought tears to my eyes but a joy in my heart that what I have been experiencing over the past six weeks is not a loss of my husband's love and respect but a loss to an evil called diabetes. Somehow reading your comments have...
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    I am not happy that so many of you are faced with the ills associated with DM but I am happy that I am not alone in this. The stories brought tears to my eyes but a joy in my heart that what I have been experiencing over the past six weeks is not a loss of my husband's love and respect but a loss to an evil called diabetes. Somehow reading your comments have already allowed me to forgive him in my heart for the irrationality and coldness that suddenly became him. It has coincided with the onset of ED. I hope it's not too late and I can find him. The real him ... And convince him to get the medical attention he needs. Please pray for us.
  • lost
    Jun. 03, 2014

    Just wow... thought I was the only one that had to deal with all this.. Glad and sad to know I am not the only one in this prison.

     

    I have been married to my type 1 diabetic wife for 17 years and we have 2 kids. I read all the comments and only a spouse would understand anything posted here!!! Friends and Family have no clue because they do not have to...

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    Just wow... thought I was the only one that had to deal with all this.. Glad and sad to know I am not the only one in this prison.

     

    I have been married to my type 1 diabetic wife for 17 years and we have 2 kids. I read all the comments and only a spouse would understand anything posted here!!! Friends and Family have no clue because they do not have to deal with all the anger issues and mood swings. When we got married I thought it would be a small challenge. Slight miss calulation there, no where did it state anything about anger, mood swings, comas... its like living with jekel and hyde.  You never know when she will snap and everyday is living with a crazy person. I have to stay to protect my children from her uncontrolable moods swings for their saftey...

     

    If you are dating a diabatic. You have to leave to save yourself from this living hell.  The only peace and slight relaxation I get is getting to work for morning coffee. I dont sleep normally and have to wake up at 2 or 3 in the morning just to make sure she is still alive.. I lose track of the number of times I have found her in a coma... Its like I live in a concentration camp and over time you will be wore out , NO EXCEPTIONS... I never saw any of this happening and seeing my love and romance turn over time to anger and hatred. She does not care about herself, surgars or weight... and it drives me nuts that she never can recall anything, the yelling and screaming at the kids, the anger directed towards me, the threats. its pure raw hatred that is directed to me... 

     

    And travel.. forget that.. its like I am traveling with 3 children, its not even a vacation. its just always be ready to take care of those surgars in some remote city before we are really stuck... so all traveling is done by car so I can store up all of her needs. Yes I sound angry but I want a normal life, no more eggshells, no more threats, no more yelling and scremaing at the family. The kids are starting to hate her already and it will only get worst over time, when she is not home the house is normal , quiet and everyone is happy...

     

    The lack of any help for diabetic spouses is shocking.. there is nothing out there to help but some random thead (here) I was able to google and this came up... and all the articles are positive bs stuff because they dont want to tell you the truth of how things will be....avg diabetic lives say 10 years less then you. so going with 75 avg age,(just general numbers here) she will die at 65. throw in how unhealthy she is and that can be put to 55-60 range... Nice golden years, at least I will have some relaxtion but no spouse... hell she is dead already just a walking corpse that screams at me or the kids....

     

    We all need to get together and go on a cruise without our diabetic spouses. match up and have a real life together with normal health issues..... I guess I am just waiting now, for the slow agonizing death she is putting herself and our family thru.... 

     

    I can even cuddle on the couch any more or give her a hug, her weight is just unbelievable... Diabetes the desease that kills you physically, mentally and changes you over time to someone else, someone different...

     

     

    To my diabetic wife: 

    I did not get married to you? Who are you... I am the same person... my wife is gone, only in my deepest dreams at night do I see you anymore. 

     

    I miss all our romance, passionate encounters, walks by the lake, the smile that use to great me in the mornings, happy just to know I was in the house ....no mood swings, when I could pick you up in my arms.... where did my wife go? If you find her send her home.                           Love your husband. 

     

    • Anonymous
      Insue Lynn Penn
      Jun. 04, 2014
      So sorry but I actually laughed out loud. I've read all the comments but yours was closer to home. I went from thinking 'oh poor thing how awful, how many ways can I help?' To thinking 'just f**cking die you horrible mean pyscho crazy lunatic' in a short time. Sad but true. I felt stripped to the bone. They suck the life blood out of you don't they? You feel...
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      So sorry but I actually laughed out loud. I've read all the comments but yours was closer to home. I went from thinking 'oh poor thing how awful, how many ways can I help?' To thinking 'just f**cking die you horrible mean pyscho crazy lunatic' in a short time. Sad but true. I felt stripped to the bone. They suck the life blood out of you don't they? You feel cheated out of an ordinary marriage and envy friends who can have a normal argument with spouse without them shapeshifting into Norman bates before your eyes. What a crazy making illness. Had I known then what I do know I'd have run for the hills. Had 2 children and tried the 'in sickness and in health' oath but he was damaging my mental health and it was sickening. Type 1 Ex husband. I ran for them hills as fast as I could go. Once the fantasies about stabbing him in the face with the needles he left lying around for the children to find and pierce themselves with set in, as well as crying on a daily basis. I had to go. He didn't care about his condition either, so why should I? I sound like an evil person but to you all in this position, you know how it is, unfortunately. Good to be free. Good luck friend.
    • Anonymous
      Jun. 09, 2014
      Wow this could be my life your talking about. After 25 years with a type 1 I'm worn out, emotionally drained and live on edge with the constant mood swings. I won't let my kids marry a diabetic. I'm so jealous of normal couples I watch them in the park, in the shops or just walking down the street. I feel I have been robbed of my chance of a happy loving marriadge....
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      Wow this could be my life your talking about. After 25 years with a type 1 I'm worn out, emotionally drained and live on edge with the constant mood swings. I won't let my kids marry a diabetic. I'm so jealous of normal couples I watch them in the park, in the shops or just walking down the street. I feel I have been robbed of my chance of a happy loving marriadge. I have a very lonely life.
  • Too familiar
    May. 26, 2014
    I never wanted to see my husband as "my type 1 diabetic husband" but as my husband who happens to have diabetes. I am beginning to come to grips with the futility in that. Labeling him or anyone is something that does not feel good and something I have tried so hard not to do. We dated for over 5 years before marrying, so the effects of high blood sugar on...
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    I never wanted to see my husband as "my type 1 diabetic husband" but as my husband who happens to have diabetes. I am beginning to come to grips with the futility in that. Labeling him or anyone is something that does not feel good and something I have tried so hard not to do. We dated for over 5 years before marrying, so the effects of high blood sugar on his mood (and vice versa) was not a surprise. Any diet slip, poor monitoring, stressful day ends in likely disaster, e.g. irritability, impatience, over-reaction, unwarranted escalation, misinterpreted statements, and seeming blindness to how inflammatory and hurtful his words become and how unnecessary. But after sustaining a commuter marriage for 2 years, in just 1 short month after moving in together full time, everything horrid that happens to him under duress is amplified. He got the new pump with the sensor about the same time, so the constant beeping warning him of high blood sugar was at first a relief. Something else confirming to him that he was running high numbers, not my gentle coaxing to test removed the likelihood he'd snap at me before the test. Just a couple weeks in, however, he suddenly stopped using it and this week has been out of control. It is as if he is deliberately trying to self-impload. Somehow being shown that my suspicion that he seems to be digesting food more slowly (elevated numbers come later), that the old approaches of eating whatever he wants in the carb department (throwing insulin at the problem ) are not working, all so offend him that he is trying to prove he can succeed without it after all. He is under excellent medical care on a positive note. He wanted it so badly, but now he blames the harsh tape (tore his skin) that holds it on for why he is "taking a break from it". I confront his behavior ( not always gently, but I try) when it becomes inappropriate, but the constant altercations that can result cause damage to our relationship that is not sustainable. Talking about it with him is a no win as well. He will get defensive or withdraw. I feel sympathy for his inability to live an unincumbered day; he has lived with this for nearly 50 years. But I need him to own his behavior when this happens and react with the same sense of urgecy he takes when he goes low. I love him, but I hate what how this condition is slowly, insidiously causing damage to both of us now.
  • Anonymous
    #missmyhusband
    May. 22, 2014

    I felt so much better after I found this site.  It was like reading my story over and over.  My husband of 23 years is telling me that he no longer has any feelings for me or our 4 kids. He admits that he is numb,  cold, and empty.  I keep telling him that he's showing every sign of depression.  I've tried showing him the link between...

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    I felt so much better after I found this site.  It was like reading my story over and over.  My husband of 23 years is telling me that he no longer has any feelings for me or our 4 kids. He admits that he is numb,  cold, and empty.  I keep telling him that he's showing every sign of depression.  I've tried showing him the link between type 1 diabetes and depression.  He still refuses to seek treatment.  I'm trying to be patient and understanding and strong, even when he's staring blankly at me. He doesn't even seem to care how much he's hurting me and our kids. I've overlooked so many things over the last 16 years since his diagnosis, but this is destroying me. I don't know how much longer I can hold on.  I just want my husband back, and my kids desperately want their daddy back.  I feel so alone, and I don't know what to do. 

    • Hortgirl
      Aug. 06, 2014

      my husband was diagnosed with diabetes 6 months after we married and I was pregnant with our first child...his anger started back then when he slammed my hand in the bathroom door during an argument...I have overlooked so many things over the years and covered up for him constantly, doing everything for him while he continues to self medicate with fast food...

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      my husband was diagnosed with diabetes 6 months after we married and I was pregnant with our first child...his anger started back then when he slammed my hand in the bathroom door during an argument...I have overlooked so many things over the years and covered up for him constantly, doing everything for him while he continues to self medicate with fast food on a daily basis...all the while, I'm planning healthy meals and packing his lunches, he is eating fast food 3 times a day and never wants to sit down to dinner with his family...now we have a 7 and 8 year old...he has cursed me out in private so many times, yelled at me with the kids in earshot...and most recently, he's gotten drunk and cursed me out in public 3 times..i've had to have a friend rescue me and my kids from his rage....i just spent our summer beach vacation with him in ICU due to diabetic ketoacidosis, which he is blaming on bronchitis (which was a contributing factor)...even if he really does start taking care of himself this time and gets better, i don't think that I can ever live with him, respect him, etc...I'm done with the craziness and I've been holding on to hope for all of these years for the sake of the children, but the truth is, I think that they will be better off away from him and all of his problems, that he can't seem to control

  • jazzosmiuth
    May. 19, 2014

    Mood swings, really?

     

    My wife is leaving me after 12 happy years of marriage - the reason? I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes 3 years ago and have had Erectile Dysfiuntion ever since. None of the treatments have worked and although we were still intimate eventually my wife decided she wanted more and asked for a seperation. I have not had the mood swings...

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    Mood swings, really?

     

    My wife is leaving me after 12 happy years of marriage - the reason? I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes 3 years ago and have had Erectile Dysfiuntion ever since. None of the treatments have worked and although we were still intimate eventually my wife decided she wanted more and asked for a seperation. I have not had the mood swings you guys are no about but I still have lost my wife and home.

    So much for marriage vows. My wife telling me that she knows if things were reversed that I would not leave her didn't help either. I'm crushed and currently not able to dust myself off and start again. Still love her, she was my world.

    Grant

  • Mlms24
    May. 18, 2014
    It's finally nice to know there are real non diabetics out there who share my pain!!! I've tried several threads where i tried to voice my opinion and frustration on the subject but was chastised because I wasn't diabetic and "didn't understand". My fiancé and I have been together for Three and a half years and it wasn't until last year that they diagnosed...
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    It's finally nice to know there are real non diabetics out there who share my pain!!! I've tried several threads where i tried to voice my opinion and frustration on the subject but was chastised because I wasn't diabetic and "didn't understand". My fiancé and I have been together for Three and a half years and it wasn't until last year that they diagnosed him with diabetes. They weren't sure what type he was but, like your husband, he is insulin dependent. He is a completely different person. He's more cold and angry sometimes and doesn't realize it. He thinks I'm being silly but I'm not. He never used to raise his voice or tone at me. One of the things I loved about him was his patience but that is nowhere in sight lately. Sometimes I don't know what to do when he gets in these moods.
    • Anonymous
      Jun. 15, 2014
      This is going to sound awful but you must not marry him. I have lived with a diabetic for 25 years and it gets harder and harder every year. They suck the life out of you to the point you question your sanity. The temper gets worse, the insults become crueler, forget about having any normal loving relationship. Add kids to the mix and you end up staying to...
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      This is going to sound awful but you must not marry him. I have lived with a diabetic for 25 years and it gets harder and harder every year. They suck the life out of you to the point you question your sanity. The temper gets worse, the insults become crueler, forget about having any normal loving relationship. Add kids to the mix and you end up staying to protect them. Work becomes you safe zone where you can be with normal people that don't yell and scream at you. I love my husband buti I can't help him anymore. It feels like a prison sentence. I do most things by myself, peace is sacred to me now. You must think of yourself, be selfish and live your life for you and no one else. Good luck.
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    Nicky
    May. 08, 2014
    I do sympathise with your regarding your husband. My sister-in-law Vanessa has type 2 diabetes, she's been diagnosed for a number of years with it, but recently hasn't been able to cope with it, she smokes too much and has been drinking far too much alcohol, finally she came to the point when she just decided to leave her husband after 7 years of a happy marriage,...
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    I do sympathise with your regarding your husband. My sister-in-law Vanessa has type 2 diabetes, she's been diagnosed for a number of years with it, but recently hasn't been able to cope with it, she smokes too much and has been drinking far too much alcohol, finally she came to the point when she just decided to leave her husband after 7 years of a happy marriage, they had been together for 12 years and she has given it all up for nothing. It seems like she's just running away and not getting anywhere, she's now planning on moving up north for some reason. I think that it is very sad because she got on very well with my brother had the same interests as him (fishing and shooting), she's thrown it all away because of her diabetes. It's too late to go back to him he's found someone else. Vanessa had the chance to go back to her husband but she decided not too. People with diabetes, please get help with dealing with it. It's ruined Vanessa's life, don't make the same mistake as she has.
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    VeronicaR
    Apr. 07, 2014
    Finally I found a place where people don't think I'm crazy. My husband was diagnosed with diabetes over 15 yrs ago. Let me tell you, it took many years for him to want to control his blood sugar and it was a living hell for me and my boys. I couldn't believe the things he would say to me to offend me. It got better when he realized he needed to change his lifestyle...
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    Finally I found a place where people don't think I'm crazy. My husband was diagnosed with diabetes over 15 yrs ago. Let me tell you, it took many years for him to want to control his blood sugar and it was a living hell for me and my boys. I couldn't believe the things he would say to me to offend me. It got better when he realized he needed to change his lifestyle and things were good. But it's been about a year (and he's been on insulin for about the same time) that he started with his old ways of being so disgustingly offensive, it usually keeps me from going to work the next day (so much crying & lack of sleep). I'm going to have to go back to therapy because he refuses but I don't know how much longer I can go on like this. I truly love this man but I wonder if he still loves me.
    • Gerbera
      Aug. 08, 2014
      I can relate to everything said here - it's a living he'll living with someone who has Diabetes ! My husband of 36 years has had Type 2 for 11 years now. There's no cure for this and it's getting worse. I'm ending the marriage as I cannot go on like this anymore. I'm sick of the mental verbal and emotional abuse ! It's scary at times and I've decided to call...
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      I can relate to everything said here - it's a living he'll living with someone who has Diabetes ! My husband of 36 years has had Type 2 for 11 years now. There's no cure for this and it's getting worse. I'm ending the marriage as I cannot go on like this anymore. I'm sick of the mental verbal and emotional abuse ! It's scary at times and I've decided to call it quits before I become mental ! It's a hard road - no-one knows what you're going through except another person who is also living with a diabetic - it's hell on wheels ! Get out while you still can - I am ! At least the sane ones on this website can relate to all this that we're going through. Best of luck and God Bless xx
  • Anonymous
    reba
    Mar. 12, 2014

    I am so glad i found this thread.... I have recently remarried (1-1/2 years) to a wonderful man who has been a diabetic for 20+ years.   In the beginning I was able to look past some of the mood swings and explain them to stress / work.  I didn;t understand or know that his sugars could be related to it...  In the past few months he has other...

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    I am so glad i found this thread.... I have recently remarried (1-1/2 years) to a wonderful man who has been a diabetic for 20+ years.   In the beginning I was able to look past some of the mood swings and explain them to stress / work.  I didn;t understand or know that his sugars could be related to it...  In the past few months he has other medical issues and they changed his whole course of treatment. (he is insulin dependent 4 shots a day)  Since that change everything is so out of whack. Ever little difference turns into an ugly event with mean horrible things being said. I love the man I met but I don't know this person lately.  Eveything seems to get turned back around to what I did or didn;t do. I'm at a cross roads right now with what to do in my life... I can't keep living like this with someone who refuses to see that his diabetes could be affecting other systems... 

  • Trish
    Feb. 24, 2014

    Hi, I am a type 2 diabetic just recently being diagnosed 5 months ago.  My family has a history of diabetes, my Dad, Mum, 2 sisters and brother have it as well.  We are all taking the jab (insulin dependent) as I put it and everyone was surprised that I got it as I was the healthy one from our family.  I knew it was hard for my siblings and parents...

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    Hi, I am a type 2 diabetic just recently being diagnosed 5 months ago.  My family has a history of diabetes, my Dad, Mum, 2 sisters and brother have it as well.  We are all taking the jab (insulin dependent) as I put it and everyone was surprised that I got it as I was the healthy one from our family.  I knew it was hard for my siblings and parents going through life with diabetes as I didnt like the mood swings or even watching them take their jabs, pills etc.  (2009 We lost our mum to renal failure)

    When I was diagnosed I suddenly felt what they were going through.  The frustration, the absolute frustration of trying to maintain our sugar levels, continuously having to prick our fingers, having to jab ourselves with insulin on a daily basis, taking pills, seeing the doctors, seeing the nurses, trying to eat right and going through the emotional part of it all. When I was diagnosed it was like the world failed me, I was angry at myself, angry at everyone but then I knew I had to do something to improve myself for my childrens sake.  It is hard, very hard because at times, I just want to break down for no reason at all and I dont even know why.  It is a lot of pressure on the family as a unit but I am glad my family keep supporting me everyday, especially my husband.  Without them, it would be a lot harder for me.  I have changed everything but yes, I still get angry because it seems everything is monitored now, I cant eat this, cant eat that, dont drink that blah blah blah, and it totally gets frustrating.  I know I have to stay healthy and eat right so I will have a better life but trying to maintain it on a daily basis can be so overwhelming.  

    I shut down, I blamed everyone and I shouldnt have.  I decided I had to make a choice so I felt that communicating with everyone when I get angry, irritated or feel down was a must for me to help everyone understand.  I tell my husband and children how I am feeling even if I am crying or yelling out how I am feeling.  It is hard seeing the sadness in their eyes when I know they are just trying to help me when I am in such a state. It hurts because I dont want to be like that at all.  If I need space I ask them to give me space, if I need a cuddle I ask for those too and that helps me a lot. Diabetes is hard but support from my family is the best medicine I could ask for.  They give me the strength to help me, so I have to give them the strength to carry on helping me by talking with them all the time.  I had to learn to open up more so that we could all understand each other more. Stay strong, please dont give up on us!!

    • Trish
      Feb. 24, 2014

      I had to change my mindset and accept that I have diabetes.  Don't get me wrong I still have my days but, I dont want to lose my family or let diabetes beat me even though I still have my down days.  Talking with the ones I love is definitely helping.  I asked my husband if he see's me shutting down to talk with me, take me in the room or outside...

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      I had to change my mindset and accept that I have diabetes.  Don't get me wrong I still have my days but, I dont want to lose my family or let diabetes beat me even though I still have my down days.  Talking with the ones I love is definitely helping.  I asked my husband if he see's me shutting down to talk with me, take me in the room or outside and have a coffee or tea.  Sometimes, us diabetics just need a "shake up", so tell us how you are feeling too, tell us the strains you are facing by supporting us.  My husband did that and made me realise, gosh, they still love me even though I have this dum disease.

    • Anonymous
      rlinda89
      Mar. 01, 2014

      I have a gf who I love to death she's a diabetic type one to b exact.she's 30 years old and very negative about life and everything due to her illness.When we have problems it doesn't matter how  hard ad i try to talk to her calmly n nicely she pushes away she tells me the cruelest things she gives me the cold shoulder n as hard as I try to let it b n...

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      I have a gf who I love to death she's a diabetic type one to b exact.she's 30 years old and very negative about life and everything due to her illness.When we have problems it doesn't matter how  hard ad i try to talk to her calmly n nicely she pushes away she tells me the cruelest things she gives me the cold shoulder n as hard as I try to let it b n not let it get to me it does is like knife to my heart.In my past relationships I got treated really unfairly and I told myself I would never let that happen to me. N Now I been the most patient and passive person because she's the way she is because of her illness...I kno she loves me but sometimes I feel like she doesn't try a tiny bit to get out of the darkness she's in she wants to give so much on life n I don't blame her u kno I go through the pain emotionally with but I'm always there to show her shes not alone...she has diabetic neuropathy so nerve damage in her legs n sometimes while she's sleeping she's kicking n twitching n I wake up n massage them while she's sleeping all the time I truly love her even though she broke up with me this morning I will always love her.

    • Trish
      Mar. 04, 2014

      im so sorry to hear that.  ive made a choice in my life to help my family to help me. i wish everyone could do that but unfortunately not everyone will. 

  • Anonymous
    Hermione
    Jan. 22, 2014

    My bf has type 1 diabetes...we are together almost 3 years and we have been walking on thin ice a couple of times and really often for the last 1.5 year... He is a great guy and i used to see myself in a future with him, but now, i am lost. He has given up diabetes..he doesnt accept any help from me, he wont even listen to me about diabetes, he is not calcuating...

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    My bf has type 1 diabetes...we are together almost 3 years and we have been walking on thin ice a couple of times and really often for the last 1.5 year... He is a great guy and i used to see myself in a future with him, but now, i am lost. He has given up diabetes..he doesnt accept any help from me, he wont even listen to me about diabetes, he is not calcuating the units correctly and eats awfullw unhealthy.. He is like depressed and grumpy.. We are both medical students but i am the only one who actually acts like one, i am the one who actually study and pass the exams...I am really disappointed, i feel that i am trapped into this relationship..which is like a platonic one since sex is rare..and rare is too much to describe it..And that just is the tip of the iceberg..why? Bcs of his moodswings, his unwillingness to change things, to accept help..If i saw him trying in controlling his diabetes better and accepting help, i wouldnt feel that bad and but his attitude is plain negative..It kills me and i find myself imagining me without him, without anyone, just being alone, however i love him..i tired of booking his appointments, caring about the term test he should take, about the doctors, about everything! But unless i do it, noone will.

    • Diana S
      Jan. 24, 2014

      So tell me Hermione, you said you and your bf are greek right? you said on your reply to me that you did not have the problem of him being moody or agressive with you bc you have a very strong will (like me), so tell me what happened then now? why he changed with you too? bc before you said just with his family was like that... my ex is the other...

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      So tell me Hermione, you said you and your bf are greek right? you said on your reply to me that you did not have the problem of him being moody or agressive with you bc you have a very strong will (like me), so tell me what happened then now? why he changed with you too? bc before you said just with his family was like that... my ex is the other way, with his family he is great, but with me he was agressive and disrespectfu (calling me names, yelling, cursing, etc), he is now out of my house, he moved out when i was at work and took things that supposed to be for the house, since he never help with the house bills or the mortgage payments, i thought when he bought them that was his way to contribute to living with me with his daugther... now i feel like he never cared about me, how someone that at one some point proposed me to get married, can just leave like a coward, like have no feelings, it made me feel like if I was just a one night stand, is this type of behavior part of the mood swings bc the diabetes?? should i wait to see if he comes back when he realized how mean that was?? I dont know what to do anymore, I am trying to move on with my life, even trying to meet new people but I am still in love with him... someone has any advise for me????

  • Diana S
    Jan. 16, 2014

    Wow!!! i am going through the same thing with my soon to be ex, i meet him like 3 months ago, it was like love at first site, he was so sweet and nice to me at first, him and his daughter moved in with me a week later after we meet, my son loved  him and I really loved his daughter right away when we meet, -he told me he is diabetic and uses insulin 2...

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    Wow!!! i am going through the same thing with my soon to be ex, i meet him like 3 months ago, it was like love at first site, he was so sweet and nice to me at first, him and his daughter moved in with me a week later after we meet, my son loved  him and I really loved his daughter right away when we meet, -he told me he is diabetic and uses insulin 2 times a day-  he told me these during the time he was moving in but I didn’t think anything bad about it, everything was going good until he started to get angry over little things, like if I asked a question a couple times it was “too many times” for him, or over other little things, I starting to noticing some angry reactions like when he is driving and gets all mad and curses to the other drivers, also he started to make jokes to make fun of me like my accent (I am Mexican, he is Greek) but now after reading all these other comments from so many people i start to realize that his anger, mood swings, disrespectful comments, the cursing, and the yelling are related to his condition, sometimes i feel like I am going crazy because he turns everything around on me and blames me about his attitude, he says that I aggravating him for asking stupid questions, and now lately the situation is so tense that he even yells at me that he hates me and ask me to shut the fuck up because I am aggravating him… now he is moving out, but even after all this I still have feelings for him, now that I am reading that this is caused by being diabetic, is it  possible that if he takes care himself better, the mood swings go away? Is it possible that he can change if he looks for special help??? Please advise. Desperate Loving Girlfriend

    • Anonymous
      Hermione
      Jan. 22, 2014

      Being a Greek myself, i would advice you to give him some space and let him come back to you. Moving in that soon, didnt give you the chance to adjust to each other so probably that has played a role. 

      Having a bf with D type 1 i can tell that diabetes can cause moodswings that vary from angry offensive behavior, to depression and isolation..It depends...

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      Being a Greek myself, i would advice you to give him some space and let him come back to you. Moving in that soon, didnt give you the chance to adjust to each other so probably that has played a role. 

      Having a bf with D type 1 i can tell that diabetes can cause moodswings that vary from angry offensive behavior, to depression and isolation..It depends on the character of the person and the aura of the person(you) that they interact. My bf, who is also Greek, is the other end, depressive and gets really aggresive with his family but never me. I let him know that i cant accept him behaving me badly, and cursing or diminishing me at any way. People say though that as a person i am really strong and demanding, and i think if he felt i can take up on him behaving otherwise to me, like he behaves his parents, he would do so.l But that is how i am. Also, being a Greek, the driving thing shouldnt worry you that much, most o the Greek drivers have short temper while driving. You should never tell him that he makes you uncomfortable during driving, but afterwards, let him how you feel really calmly. 

      Give your reationship one more chance, by giving him space and the chance for him to come back. Make him appreciate you and understand how unacceptable being aggresive is. That is what i do..And that is how this is not our problem for us.

  • Anonymous
    countrygirl
    Dec. 26, 2013

    It is so encouraging to read the comments. My husband was diagnosed this past May. He has type 2. At first he really controlled his eating habits and the way he took charge of his health really impressed me. Now he is sliding back into the same old him. Not really watching what he eats. When I tell him to check his sugar he gets very angry. Challenging me as...

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    It is so encouraging to read the comments. My husband was diagnosed this past May. He has type 2. At first he really controlled his eating habits and the way he took charge of his health really impressed me. Now he is sliding back into the same old him. Not really watching what he eats. When I tell him to check his sugar he gets very angry. Challenging me as if I have wronged him in some way. We have been married 19 years. Our children see him grumpy and always associate his moods with his diabetes. It is becoming a way of life for them that I didn't plan on. I feel defeated and saddened by the mood swings. He will go for days without talking to me. It is driving a wedge between us that he doesn't see. I am always the one to blame and he is faultless. It is quite frustrating.

    • Anonymous
      Bobbie
      Jan. 16, 2014

      Wow...this sounds just like what me and my husband are going through right now. It got so bad that I asked him to move out about 3 and a half months ago. We are trying to work on things now, but he is still not taking his medicine or watching his diet properly so I'm not sure if things will be better.

  • JessieG
    Dec. 08, 2013

    My boyfriend has type 1 diabetes, but I don't think of him as a diabetic person, problably because he has excellent control of his condition. But he is very emotional, and at many times becomes very irritable, ofended or angry over simple things. He has trouble letting things go! He can get defensive and hostile for days, being passive-agressive to me, and...

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    My boyfriend has type 1 diabetes, but I don't think of him as a diabetic person, problably because he has excellent control of his condition. But he is very emotional, and at many times becomes very irritable, ofended or angry over simple things. He has trouble letting things go! He can get defensive and hostile for days, being passive-agressive to me, and overall judgemental and he says it's because he loves me too much. He's the same with his family. I don't know if this has anything to do with being a diabetic, but I too find myself walking on egg shells, and having not to speak my mind, so to avoid conflict. I love him so much but I feel he's only able to see my shortcomings. I'm not perfect but neither is he. He even suggested I should see a therapist, he believes I'm the problem. Can you belive him? I just want to know if I can blame this on the diabetes, he is such an amazing person, but he's hurting me.

  • Margie
    Nov. 23, 2013

    I happy to know that im not the only one out there with dealing with someome that has terrible mood swings due to diabetes. At one point I thought that my husband was just a mean person. But I find it funny that he is only mean to me. He sometimes talk in the third person as if im not there. But if his friends and family are around he talks...

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    I happy to know that im not the only one out there with dealing with someome that has terrible mood swings due to diabetes. At one point I thought that my husband was just a mean person. But I find it funny that he is only mean to me. He sometimes talk in the third person as if im not there. But if his friends and family are around he talks to them as if nothing is wrong. I see it that diabetics can control their feelings and mood swings. They just take out their frustrations on the closet person to them. But their is only so much a person can handle before they lose it. It doesnt help either if they dont take care of themselves. At one point my husband was doing all the right stuff like excercising, eating healthy and checking his blood sugar. And he gave up!!!!

    Now he is on insulin and he is taking it like it is the end of the world!!! I understand that it is hard to live with but the for the most part Diabetes is controlable.

    • Anonymous
      sue0208
      Dec. 27, 2013

      "At one point I thought that my husband was just a mean person. But I find it funny that he is only mean to me. He sometimes talk in the third person as if im not there. But if his friends and family are around he talks to them as if nothing is wrong."

       

      You could have written that about my husband who has Type 2 but he does not control it or take his...

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      "At one point I thought that my husband was just a mean person. But I find it funny that he is only mean to me. He sometimes talk in the third person as if im not there. But if his friends and family are around he talks to them as if nothing is wrong."

       

      You could have written that about my husband who has Type 2 but he does not control it or take his medication.  He is blaming all of his problems on me - is aggressive, sullen, and sees me as being totally unreasonable.  He has submerged himself in his work - and cut himself off from me and his son to the point I had to ask him to leave due to his physical abuse - which he has blamed on my being provocative.  When I said do you think this may be to do with your diabetes he just pushed it away and blamed it all on me - yet the problems, his behaviour and our problems have got progressively worse and I think does this have to do with his diabetes?  He has convinced me it hasn't, convinced me its me but reading this board well - but unless he takes responsibility for his condition, controls it and takes responsibility for what he has done nothing can change can it?

    • Anonymous
      sue0208
      Dec. 27, 2013

      "At one point I thought that my husband was just a mean person. But I find it funny that he is only mean to me. He sometimes talk in the third person as if im not there. But if his friends and family are around he talks to them as if nothing is wrong."

       

      You could have written that about my husband who has Type 2 but he does not control it or take his...

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      "At one point I thought that my husband was just a mean person. But I find it funny that he is only mean to me. He sometimes talk in the third person as if im not there. But if his friends and family are around he talks to them as if nothing is wrong."

       

      You could have written that about my husband who has Type 2 but he does not control it or take his medication.  He is blaming all of his problems on me - is aggressive, sullen, and sees me as being totally unreasonable.  He has submerged himself in his work - and cut himself off from me and his son to the point I had to ask him to leave due to his physical abuse - which he has blamed on my being provocative.  When I said do you think this may be to do with your diabetes he just pushed it away and blamed it all on me - yet the problems, his behaviour and our problems have got progressively worse and I think does this have to do with his diabetes?  He has convinced me it hasn't, convinced me its me but reading this board well - but unless he takes responsibility for his condition, controls it and takes responsibility for what he has done nothing can change can it?

  • Margie
    Nov. 23, 2013

    I happy to know that im not the only one out there with dealing with someome that has terrible mood swings due to diabetes. At one point I thought that my husband was just a mean person. But I find it funny that he is only mean to me. He sometimes talk in the third person as if im not there. But if his friends and family are around he talks...

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    I happy to know that im not the only one out there with dealing with someome that has terrible mood swings due to diabetes. At one point I thought that my husband was just a mean person. But I find it funny that he is only mean to me. He sometimes talk in the third person as if im not there. But if his friends and family are around he talks to them as if nothing is wrong. I see it that diabetics can control their feelings and mood swings. They just take out their frustrations on the closet person to them. But their is only so much a person can handle before they lose it. It doesnt help either if they dont take care of themselves. At one point my husband was doing all the right stuff like excercising, eating healthy and checking his blood sugar. And he gave up!!!!

    Now he is on insulin and he is taking it like it is the end of the world!!! I understand that it is hard to live with but the for the most part Diabetes is controlable.

  • kerri_L_G
    Oct. 15, 2013

    I too really appreciate this thread. I have been married for 5 years now and it has been so much worse than I imagined. I think dating/engagement caused him to be always trying to impress, and now that we're married it has been just horrible.... probably because he also eats MUCH worse now, never exercises, and his blood sugar levels are out of control. I didn't...

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    I too really appreciate this thread. I have been married for 5 years now and it has been so much worse than I imagined. I think dating/engagement caused him to be always trying to impress, and now that we're married it has been just horrible.... probably because he also eats MUCH worse now, never exercises, and his blood sugar levels are out of control. I didn't realize it would be so hard, that I would feel completely unloved, and always worried about what his mood will be. We have two kids, and the unpredictability is killing them too. My son who is old enough to see the mood swings always says daddy is mean... but daddy just doesn't get it other than to be defensive.

     

    I want to leave him, but how could I trust him to be with the children without me? I am so afraid for their safety, as he leaves needles out, and when his BS is really low he can't care for them. How do I handle that?! I am so lost and hate that my sweet babies are going through this.

    • Hortgirl
      Jul. 30, 2014
      I am in your situation. We have a 7 and 8 year old. My husband was diagnosed with D 6 months after we married and it has been so difficult being married to him. He doesn't take care of himself, is totally and irresponsible, and I just spent our family beach vacation in FL with him in ICU for 4 days for diabetic ketoacidosis. He is in total denial and blames...
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      I am in your situation. We have a 7 and 8 year old. My husband was diagnosed with D 6 months after we married and it has been so difficult being married to him. He doesn't take care of himself, is totally and irresponsible, and I just spent our family beach vacation in FL with him in ICU for 4 days for diabetic ketoacidosis. He is in total denial and blames me, curses me in public and is very angry. Divorce doesn't seem like an option because I refuse to trust him with our children. Sad, confused, and frustrated.
  • Anonymous
    diabetic
    Aug. 13, 2013

    In our family I am the one with diabetes and those mood swings are no stranger to me. I try to be aware when they come on, but they are not always easy to stop. My best way to deal with them yet is to remove myself from the situation and do some vigorous exercise (jogging in my case). It helps me balance my sugar levels and get a clear head before things escalate....

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    In our family I am the one with diabetes and those mood swings are no stranger to me. I try to be aware when they come on, but they are not always easy to stop. My best way to deal with them yet is to remove myself from the situation and do some vigorous exercise (jogging in my case). It helps me balance my sugar levels and get a clear head before things escalate. I have an understanding husband, who typically does not fuel the situation and I have asked my young children to help me with code words such as "Please don't get angry," which really help me see what's about to happen. But my number 1 advice would be exercise as soon as possible to level off.

    • Sharon
      Mar. 22, 2014

      Hi, 

      Just wondering if you had and advice how to approach my diabetic husband about this subject? I definitely notice the mood swings in relation to highs and lows and try to help as much as I can but there's the times when it's gotten too far and he hasn't said anything, I haven't noticed, and he snaps.

      Afterwards I'm not sure if he remembers 100% or...

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      Hi, 

      Just wondering if you had and advice how to approach my diabetic husband about this subject? I definitely notice the mood swings in relation to highs and lows and try to help as much as I can but there's the times when it's gotten too far and he hasn't said anything, I haven't noticed, and he snaps.

      Afterwards I'm not sure if he remembers 100% or is just acting as if everything is ok but the hurts is still there for me. And we have a 2yr old. There's a fair amount I let go but sometimes it gets too much for me when it all adds up and it's hurtful. 

      Any advice and / or suggestions would be very appreciated. 

      :-)

  • paulcathcart
    May. 23, 2013

    20 years I've had this and not a single medical professional has understood a word of it.

     

    www.pngwd.com/home.html
    http://www.amazon.co.uk/-/e/B00CPKM0JC

    “For us diabetes amplifies everything; if you feel just-not-right then broken blood sugar will make it wrong, as alcohol does an alcoholic; every bone of contention, every pulse of ill will, slight...

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    20 years I've had this and not a single medical professional has understood a word of it.

     

    www.pngwd.com/home.html
    http://www.amazon.co.uk/-/e/B00CPKM0JC

    “For us diabetes amplifies everything; if you feel just-not-right then broken blood sugar will make it wrong, as alcohol does an alcoholic; every bone of contention, every pulse of ill will, slight upset or lull, every wave of exhaustion and misunderstanding all amplified. Deformation of sadness, doubt, and dependency; symptoms lost in a bigger world, it leaves us wilting. We push on.”

    Paul Cathcart

  • Anonymous
    carlina
    May. 11, 2013

     I feel for your  children, but they're so lucky to have at least one parent who knows what's going on here!  My diabetic mother raged at us daily -- and randomly.  There was no telling who you'd come home from school to.   She would say the most vile, abusive things to us -- and I mean from the time I was very small.  But unlike...

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     I feel for your  children, but they're so lucky to have at least one parent who knows what's going on here!  My diabetic mother raged at us daily -- and randomly.  There was no telling who you'd come home from school to.   She would say the most vile, abusive things to us -- and I mean from the time I was very small.  But unlike you, my other parent would BLAME US for "upsetting HER".  Many years and as thousands of dollars of therapy later, I'm finally no longer a self-loathing mess.  Why, oh WHY isn't this aspect of the disease discussed more widely?

     

  • Anonymous
    Carrie
    Mar. 17, 2013

    I'm so happy I found this. I've been married for 15 years and my husband was diagnosed with diabetes 3 months ago. He had always been passionate and outspoken, but over the last year he became combative and extremely emotional. I just endured a 20 anger fest from him because our lunch guests said they'd be 30 minutes late. Slamming doors, yelling and going...

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    I'm so happy I found this. I've been married for 15 years and my husband was diagnosed with diabetes 3 months ago. He had always been passionate and outspoken, but over the last year he became combative and extremely emotional. I just endured a 20 anger fest from him because our lunch guests said they'd be 30 minutes late. Slamming doors, yelling and going on and on about how disrespectful it is to be late. He's 6'7", 240 pounds and he was reading as a scary person. I canceled our lunch plans (to save my family from his downward spiral) and St in my room and cried. I feel so helpless. How do you rationalize the irrational? I have a 12 year old and a 14 year old and they notice this too. I feel like a prisoner to his disease.

  • ds
    ds
    Nov. 11, 2012

    I really did not know much aout the diebetic mood swing until now. My husband and I married barely a year ago. He is diagnosed with dibebtic and is on dialysis three times a week. His mood swing has been so terrible over the last weeks. He has suddenly shut down with no communication, left home and has filed for divorce for no reason. After reading...

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    I really did not know much aout the diebetic mood swing until now. My husband and I married barely a year ago. He is diagnosed with dibebtic and is on dialysis three times a week. His mood swing has been so terrible over the last weeks. He has suddenly shut down with no communication, left home and has filed for divorce for no reason. After reading all of the comments I am not sure if this is part of his illness.

  • Barbara
    May. 28, 2012
    Oh my god I am not alone in this arena of the diabetic's highs and lows. Embarrassing me in front of people. Spitting at me. Telling me to calm down when directing him if he is unaware of where he is driving or cutting off other cars. Anything I say or do is wrong. I play keep away from the monster. At 2 this morning he got up to check his blood sugar. It was...
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    Oh my god I am not alone in this arena of the diabetic's highs and lows. Embarrassing me in front of people. Spitting at me. Telling me to calm down when directing him if he is unaware of where he is driving or cutting off other cars. Anything I say or do is wrong. I play keep away from the monster. At 2 this morning he got up to check his blood sugar. It was 66 this morning. NHL says I exercised and did not eat much. He will be 65 soon and has had the disease for over 20 years. We are married 40 years and maybe 15 to 20 were normal. This is not normal. I feel bad he is ill but living with his nasty disposition is no picnic. He will always blame me or make me out to be the worst in particular in front of others so he can appear superior or the good one. Passive aggressive at its finest. Now my bladder is falling out and he is unconcerned and I basically have to have surgery where I will not be able to lift for 12 weeks. I do the food shopping, laundry, still work full time for the benefits, basically run things. To divorce would mean to give up half the house and money I feel is mine too. I put up with a lot and make my own life by going out with friends. There is little more to say but living with this disease for the person who has it or the partner is a living hell.
  • Anonymous
    IMHO-Type 1
    Feb. 27, 2012

    I have read through  this entire thread, at some points with mouth wide open, not able to find a side to fall on, as I imagine all of these situations are different in so many ways. The only common factors being the mood swings and people.

     

    For the people that have "had enough".. I encourage you to view your partners as maybe.. People that have lost...

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    I have read through  this entire thread, at some points with mouth wide open, not able to find a side to fall on, as I imagine all of these situations are different in so many ways. The only common factors being the mood swings and people.

     

    For the people that have "had enough".. I encourage you to view your partners as maybe.. People that have lost a limb, or had another type of serious condition take them over.. If the shoe was on the other foot, would you want your life partner to walk away? Is that for better or worst?

     

    And to the diabetics that are the issue here, take a role in trying to understand these people's concerns and make changes where you can.

     

    ( NOT complaining) I have to say that, I personaly take responsibility for my actions and words, although that doesn't seem to be of much comfort to those around me. It's hard to live with something like this everyday, every moment of your life and thoughts.. I don't want to have to explain WHY I'm having a mood swing... It's just who-what-part of what I am. The same as my hair color, height.... I don't want it to be this way, it just IS.

     

    And I don't think that in most cases it was just one guy or gal starting the whole thing. Just as a diabetic has to educate themselves about their condition, their mates should also educate and understand what this can and will do..

     

    I would never WANT to gurt the ones I love. But I do.

     

    But had I lost a leg in some horrible accident, I wouldn't be able to keep up with you walking either.. And that would never chnage. I wouldn't ever grow back. I would be slower than you for the rest of our lives together. Would you leave them too? Would you be more understanding?

     

    In the end I guess someone had posted... 'you can only take so much' or ' I had to leave'.. it's everyone's choice. I only ask that people think about the other side too..

     

    If this made no sense to some of the readers, that's ok.. I get that too.

     

    For those of you that found something in this you could relate to.. Try and do better for the ones that love you.

  • Anonymous
    Mellissa
    Jan. 02, 2012
    My dad has recently been diagnosed with type 2 a few months ago and has suddenly been having violent mood swings where he is angry irrational and very irritable, everything will set him off when he's in his mood and will not go to the doctors or acnowlage that he's acting any differently. I don't know what to do as I am beginning to hate him and my mum always...
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    My dad has recently been diagnosed with type 2 a few months ago and has suddenly been having violent mood swings where he is angry irrational and very irritable, everything will set him off when he's in his mood and will not go to the doctors or acnowlage that he's acting any differently. I don't know what to do as I am beginning to hate him and my mum always sides with him even though she knows hes being stupid, they've had an argument when he left and we didn't know if he was coming back, but tbh I wish he didnt as he STILL won't go to the doctors! Even our close friend who got diagnosed about the same time went and got it sorted out but he is just so stubborn he doesn't want to realise that he's causing the problem not everyone around him.
  • diabetics' wife
    Sep. 17, 2011

    My husband was diagnosed this year ( at 47 y.o) w/ type 1- they think possibly a virus caused- He too has been VERY moody, and I came across your post when I started googling for some info on Diabetes and mood/personality changes. I am not sure if his moods are B.G. related. He has always been a very easy going guy. Now he is short tempered and seems angry...

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    My husband was diagnosed this year ( at 47 y.o) w/ type 1- they think possibly a virus caused- He too has been VERY moody, and I came across your post when I started googling for some info on Diabetes and mood/personality changes. I am not sure if his moods are B.G. related. He has always been a very easy going guy. Now he is short tempered and seems angry all the time. We have talked about it and he says that he feels he is not angry at anything , and just feels a little jumpy at times. It is very difficult to deal with this 'new' person in the house!

  • Anonymous
    G
    Jul. 20, 2011

    I can definitely relate. I never knew that this behavior could be related to diabetes. However, now it makes perfect sense.

     

    It was so bad that I thought that he no longer wanted the relationship. The mean spirited things he would complain about made me think he was mentally challenged. Mind you, this is a strong man, a business owner, outwardly confident, active...

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    I can definitely relate. I never knew that this behavior could be related to diabetes. However, now it makes perfect sense.

     

    It was so bad that I thought that he no longer wanted the relationship. The mean spirited things he would complain about made me think he was mentally challenged. Mind you, this is a strong man, a business owner, outwardly confident, active christian on and on....

     

    Knowing how learned and grounded this man is, makes me feel like I don't know him and I've known him for about 40 years. His issues are so irrational and senseless.

     

    I wasn't sure if was midlife crisis or that he just didn't want to be married to me anymore because he can be so mean spirited and verbally abusive. It can be literally unbearable.

     

    Now that I know what could possibly be going on I can try a different strategy

     

    • noeasyanswers
      Sep. 02, 2011

      G,

       

      Post if you find a strategy that works. I married my husband knowing he was a diabetic but not aware of what I was in for. My husband is on the insulin pump and has been for 14 years. He goes to the doctor regularly but does not check his blood sugars like he should. Last visit, his A1C was over 10 and it should be 8 or below, which means he does...

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      G,

       

      Post if you find a strategy that works. I married my husband knowing he was a diabetic but not aware of what I was in for. My husband is on the insulin pump and has been for 14 years. He goes to the doctor regularly but does not check his blood sugars like he should. Last visit, his A1C was over 10 and it should be 8 or below, which means he does not have control of his disease. I am finding it harder and harder to live with him. We have 2 boys and they see what I see. When he is home we all scatter because we are so afraid we will say something that will set him off. There is no warning. He can be happy and in a great mood and then like a flip of a light switch he is yelling and angry. When you ask whats wrong he says there's nothing wrong. It's really a no win situation, if you say nothing, he gets mad that your quiet. If you say something that he doesn't agree with, then he becomes very angry and he will go days of being mad, he will deliberately leave a mess around the house, he will just leave the house without telling anyone, he gives us the cold shoulder. Then after a day or so, the same old story, he says he's sorry, we deserve better he says we should tell him when he is acting that way. I try to explain, that there is no talking to him when he is that way. If you say anything, he will curse you out.

      I just hate what it is doing to my boys and I tell them that what he is doing is wrong and I don't agree with it but he is their father. What do you do?

      All I know, is that each mood swing puts a chip in our relationship and I don't know how much I have left in me. Im on pins and needles when he is home and feel such relief when he is not there because there is no stress.

       

      Noeasyanswers

  • sheranne
    Jul. 04, 2011

    Hello , i would like to share that my partner is type 2, and yes he is not the same person from a coulpe of years ago, irritable, impatient, angry, it is very hard to live with , the negitive energe is overwhelming.

     

  • Anonymous
    Jun. 24, 2011

    Diabetes Type 2: After our first year of marriage my husband actions were like a bad guy from a movie. We have been living separated because it was impossible to have a healthy life while living in the same place.  During these years having support from friends, family, and counselors have been crucial and very important for me to heal. Recently...

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    Diabetes Type 2: After our first year of marriage my husband actions were like a bad guy from a movie. We have been living separated because it was impossible to have a healthy life while living in the same place.  During these years having support from friends, family, and counselors have been crucial and very important for me to heal. Recently he sent an E-mail asking me about the things he needed to do in order for us to work and solve our issues.  But after I sent it his response was that he wont be able to do it.  From my part I would not be able to go through any more hurt than I already have.  I have had enough prove of his mood swings and with time it is worst. I would prefer to put end to the marriage before something worst happen. These were the concerns and issues I mentioned to my husband in order to work on our marriage:

    -Anger Management (Threads, violence, and withdrawal)

    -Taking health issues seriously (Diabetics and Cholesterol). It Hurst me to see he is not taking care of himself.

    -Recognizing and respecting my needs and priorities which are not always the same as his. It might sound insane but around him I needed to be the invisible woman.

    -Managing money and expenses responsibly. A trusting marriage and more participation in his decisions. It Hurts to hear him saying that there are things that are 'none of my business' and that he has everything under control.

    -Emotional & Financial Co-dependence on his mother. He is only-child and he rely so much on his mother. He said he was ready to be a provider but he is not.

    -Internalized and recognized what poor habits have affected negatively our relationship. This is not a mistake or a common stuff. It will make me relief if he goes to a neurologist for a brain mapping study.

  • Nurse Jenn
    Apr. 13, 2011

    I am a Nurse and have had Type 1 Diabetes for almost 24 years now and mood swings are definitely related to the diabetes! Insulin is a hormone and with Diabetes, your whole endocrine system is out of whack which means ALL your hormones are out of whack as well. My boyfriend can tell you how I snap from happy to mean and angry in a flash and it is all from being...

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    I am a Nurse and have had Type 1 Diabetes for almost 24 years now and mood swings are definitely related to the diabetes! Insulin is a hormone and with Diabetes, your whole endocrine system is out of whack which means ALL your hormones are out of whack as well. My boyfriend can tell you how I snap from happy to mean and angry in a flash and it is all from being too high or too low. It is a difficult thing not to be able to control your own body, and extremely hard for the diabetic to admit this let alone accept this. Please hang in there and see the disease for what it is, Your husband is still there, you just have to have patience.

    • Anonymous
      Loving wife
      Jun. 12, 2011
      Nurse jenn, thank you! I believe my husband is in there and I pray every day (almost all day!) that he comes back to me. He's been type 1 for 17 years, wears a pump. Does pretty good taking care of himself but he's a landscape foreman and doesn't eat during the day. He's afraid his cells aren't absorbing the insulin as well either because he's had a lot of...
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      Nurse jenn, thank you! I believe my husband is in there and I pray every day (almost all day!) that he comes back to me. He's been type 1 for 17 years, wears a pump. Does pretty good taking care of himself but he's a landscape foreman and doesn't eat during the day. He's afraid his cells aren't absorbing the insulin as well either because he's had a lot of highs but he hasn't been to the md to be put on any oral meds. I'd say the past 6 months to a year, and especially this past month, his mood swings, anger, irritability and memory have SEVERELY gotten worse. I'm waiting for a miracle.
    • confusedgirlfriend
      Oct. 01, 2013

      My boyfriend is 22 and was diagnosed with type 1 when he was 13. One of his episodes about an hour ago is what brought me to this site. We were asleep on bed and I felt him shaking. I gently woke him up and asked him to test. He proceeded to scream at me and tell me he can't deal with me for the rest of his life. He then fell back asleep and I just put glucose...

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      My boyfriend is 22 and was diagnosed with type 1 when he was 13. One of his episodes about an hour ago is what brought me to this site. We were asleep on bed and I felt him shaking. I gently woke him up and asked him to test. He proceeded to scream at me and tell me he can't deal with me for the rest of his life. He then fell back asleep and I just put glucose gel in his mouth to make sure he doesn't go lower through out the night. I'm now sleeping on our couch. Is there an easier way to deal with these outbursts? He describes it as a bad trip and not being able to be in control of your body or knowing where you are. I feel bad but its really hard to not get upset and your feelings hurt over.... 

  • ForeverRodsWife
    Jan. 28, 2011

    it has been almost a year since my husband passed away from his massive heart attack.  His mood swings were unbearable for many years.  I was always angry and hurt.  This however is pain...pure unimaginable pain.  If he had jsut taken care of his diabetes all along perhaps this wouldnt have been the outcome.  My daughter hasnt really...

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    it has been almost a year since my husband passed away from his massive heart attack.  His mood swings were unbearable for many years.  I was always angry and hurt.  This however is pain...pure unimaginable pain.  If he had jsut taken care of his diabetes all along perhaps this wouldnt have been the outcome.  My daughter hasnt really even talked about it except to say that she doesnt miss the mood swings...Our life is more peaceful but the pain is there.  Take care of your disease.  Those you leave behind will be forever altered....and please dont blame anyone except them for it...They are responsible ...His family still blames me...

    • ForeverRodsWife
      Jan. 28, 2011

      btw this thread has been so helpful  thank you for sharing your stories...

  • Anonymous
    Tatiana
    Aug. 17, 2010

    Hi
    I am glad I found this website. I have to say I am quite lost these days. I have met the most wonderful man ever a year ago, and we deeply fell in love. We started dating a few months ago.  However one month ago, I found out about his condition. He has been diabetic type I for 6 years by now. It was quite a shock as I never suspected anything before...

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    Hi
    I am glad I found this website. I have to say I am quite lost these days. I have met the most wonderful man ever a year ago, and we deeply fell in love. We started dating a few months ago.  However one month ago, I found out about his condition. He has been diabetic type I for 6 years by now. It was quite a shock as I never suspected anything before he had an hypoglycemia crisis in front of me. We were talking one day, and suddenly in one second he became another person. His look was totally different. I could see it right away. It seems terrible to say so, but I was so scared of him. What he was saying was not coherent at all. So he had to tell me the truth about his condition. I did not have any clue about the manifestations of such a disease. I know it is not his fault but I am quite perplex these days as far as our future is concerned.  A couple of weeks ago, he had convulsions when he woke up. I think I reacted in the best way I could, taking into account that this situation is quite new for me. I first calmed down, opened his mouth and put some dextrose in his mouth,  and then measured him. A few minutes later, he was fine but he could not remember anything. I was totally under stress and eventually I cried. I am quite sensitive and anxious person. I took care of some members of my family who had cancers, so I know what it is like to take care of people who are sick. But in the current case, I am not sure I am strong enough to deal with that as I fear I will constantly worry for him. Yesterday, he had another hypo crisis, and I could see it right away in his look. I was so scared again. Things are getting serious between us now. I think he is going to propose quite soon.  I love him so much but I have to confess at this point, I am very concerned and I am not sure I can commit to this for the rest of my life. I know it sounds horrible. I don't recognise myself anymore thinking like that, but I am not sure I can face that on a daily basis. On the other hand, this is terrible. Does someone deserve to be abandoned because he is sick? This is awful to think this way, isn't it? Perhaps it just reveals I am not strong enough or I am selfish. I tried to talk to him about that, that I need time to adjust and to think things over and he said to me I did not love him. It is not true, I do love him but I assume I need time to adjust to his condition. Let's be honest I am very scared. Fear gives bad advice, I know. I am however not the kind of person to give up easily, especially having so much love for me. I am reading books, studies, looking for as much as information I can in order to understand his disease and how to help him as much as I can. But I am worrying for the future. Is his condition going to worsen? Could he get violent? What about kids? I know he would be a wonderful dad, but what will happen if he has regular hypo crises? And what would be our life if our children have the same problem? I know that what I am writing now is nothing new for all of you, but I think I need to share this with people who can understand me and share their experience with me. Many thanks in advance!
    Take care

    • Anonymous
      klady
      Nov. 18, 2010

      Run away!  It gets worse.  The children really suffer.  Trust me.  I have been married for 30 years. 

    • Anonymous
      ruby slippers
      Jan. 08, 2011

      I didn't get to read all of the comments thoroughly, but I did get enough to see the recurring theme: rages that they don't seem to remember, constant rage, verbal abuse, threats, and god forbid you should do anything to diffuse the situation or defend yourself cuz you don't know how far it will escalate.

      I just left my diabetic partner of five years. ...

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      I didn't get to read all of the comments thoroughly, but I did get enough to see the recurring theme: rages that they don't seem to remember, constant rage, verbal abuse, threats, and god forbid you should do anything to diffuse the situation or defend yourself cuz you don't know how far it will escalate.

      I just left my diabetic partner of five years.  He's been for over 30 years.  The last two years, the man was absolutely insane.  I've never in my life heard a human being be so flat mean. I can't begin to describe it.  He was horrible to my daughter much of the time.  He seemed to think we were out to get him or something.  His tirades made absolutely no sense.  He specialized in starting his crap with my daughter when I wasn't home.  We had a plan for her to call someone to get her out of the house.  His other talent was throwing things and breaking stuff, then hiding it and swearing he hadn't.  Of course, there was never any discussion about any of this - lord knows we don't want to set him off again.  I totally relate to the laying low concept.  Stay out of sight, be quiet, and hope you don't set him off, knowing damn well no matter what you do he'll start up again. I've never seen anything like it in my life.  

      I bailed four months ago.  Call me mean; I call it self preservation.  I'll not be abused by anyone, and my daughter certainly doesn't have to take this.  I'd have left sooner if I could have.  

      Currently, I'm willing to try to be a friend to him; he's in very bad health, and has run everyone else off with this behavior.  Most people in his life don't get just how bad he is, but I've seen it.  He's 46, and I doubt he'll see 50.

    • Anonymous
      Jane Doe
      Apr. 23, 2011
      I love my husband of 23 years, but truthfully, if I'd known what I was in for, I would not have continued the relationship. It is so hard to love someone and be scared of them at the same time. He doesn't understand the constant worry I feel...
    • Anonymous
      Tatiana
      May. 12, 2011

      Dear all,

      Thanks for having shared your stories with me.

      After months of hesitation, I left him a couple of weeks ago. I did run away, but I am feeling awful. I assume it is normal to feel that way, but really this is the hardest thing I had to do in my life. Abandoning the person you love the most, because you want to protect yourself. Is there something more...

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      Dear all,

      Thanks for having shared your stories with me.

      After months of hesitation, I left him a couple of weeks ago. I did run away, but I am feeling awful. I assume it is normal to feel that way, but really this is the hardest thing I had to do in my life. Abandoning the person you love the most, because you want to protect yourself. Is there something more selfish and pathetic than that? I have destroyed the holiest thing, love. I will have to live with this burden all my life. I left him, while he would have needed his love to be there for him, to take care of him. Instead I left like a coward. The sad thing is that I would have never been strong enough to face what may have happened in the future.

      So here we are...

      Sorry to be so down and cynical, but right now I am devastated and lost.

      Thank you again for your support

      Good luck to all of you

    • Anonymous
      Ka
      Jul. 14, 2011

      you can only be there for someone while you are strong.if their behaviour is damaging you and that person never indicates that you have value, why should you stay? 

       

      After 25 years I had to break away, it became about my survival, my sanity. we all have different breaking points - but we do need to value ourselves. No one else has the right...

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      you can only be there for someone while you are strong.if their behaviour is damaging you and that person never indicates that you have value, why should you stay? 

       

      After 25 years I had to break away, it became about my survival, my sanity. we all have different breaking points - but we do need to value ourselves. No one else has the right to make you feel less. We can all take on incredible things when we feel love...but the other party has to make an effort. Children need to know that its not them...they need to know self worth....they dont deserve abuse - verbal, emotional - its not on

       

      I didnt want to leave I HAD to - the best, scariest decision I made

    • Anonymous
      Tired and Sad
      Jul. 28, 2012

      I am so glad to hear you say that you finally made the decision to leave. Believe me it has been on my mind. Even if I have to get on welfare or move back in with my mother....at least maybe my children can see and understand NO ONE deserves to be treated this way, that this is NOT the norm. At least I know my mother wont verbally attack me daily, tell me I'm...

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      I am so glad to hear you say that you finally made the decision to leave. Believe me it has been on my mind. Even if I have to get on welfare or move back in with my mother....at least maybe my children can see and understand NO ONE deserves to be treated this way, that this is NOT the norm. At least I know my mother wont verbally attack me daily, tell me I'm worthless and useless and I need help. Diabetes Type 2 SUCKS. And sorry hubby, but I dont care what DISEASE you have I still deserve to be treated if not lovingly then at least better than this and so do YOUR children. We've been married 18 years (diagnosed 2 years ago) but this hiding or not making eye contact when he is in a bad mood....I almost went crazy. Now I'm the one on antidepressants and he STILL wont take his meds or take his blood sugar or eat right. He says it depresses him when he sees his blood sugar is still high even when he trys to do right. Well you know what I see the beginning of the end of this marriage and all the praying in the world wont help that (sorry God).

    • Anonymous
      ka
      Jul. 30, 2012

      Hi

      Its three years on and its great to feel better each day and loved by so many people. I laugh, I share, we have fun! Divorce was a sad, difficult, scary decision. But because I was clear that I would no longer exist if I stayed in the relationship, it was clear what I had to do. Take care of yourself. You are special. You deserve to be happy. You deserve...

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      Hi

      Its three years on and its great to feel better each day and loved by so many people. I laugh, I share, we have fun! Divorce was a sad, difficult, scary decision. But because I was clear that I would no longer exist if I stayed in the relationship, it was clear what I had to do. Take care of yourself. You are special. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved. Dont let anyone else tell you differently. I do believe my faith helped me make the decision. Search your heart. Get help if you need to.  I went to counselling for months before I made my final decision. I needed to know I was making the best decision I could. Good luck!

  • Jmk
    Jmk
    Jun. 16, 2010

    I know how you are feeling, my husband was just diagnosed about 2 yrs ago and his doctor said he has probably had diabetes for more than 10 yr because he already had neuropathy in his feet. I thought he was crazy the way he treated me and our kids with his verable abuse and he would just go off the wall with his yelling and anger to the point it was so scary...

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    I know how you are feeling, my husband was just diagnosed about 2 yrs ago and his doctor said he has probably had diabetes for more than 10 yr because he already had neuropathy in his feet. I thought he was crazy the way he treated me and our kids with his verable abuse and he would just go off the wall with his yelling and anger to the point it was so scary for all of us. We have been together since we were teenagers and married 28 yrs. This has caused so much stress in our relationship over the years. We even went for marriage counceling to help. It was a relief when I found out that his problem was due to his diabetes, but it has done damage with his relationship with our oldest daughter and I am trying to get her to understand that he didn't mean it, he had no control. He is doing much better now, needs to watch what he eats and has been off his meds for about 6 months. Still has set backs but I now know what caused it, if he ate the wrong thing etc. I am glad this website is out there because I thought I was not a good wife and was always making him angry. I have decided to keep hanging in there and two of my three children are much more understanding. So I hope you get some comfort also from all the others who are living what you are living. I also think they should have a support group for spouces of diabetics. Well I pray for husband all the time and just try to be there for him the best I can.

     

    From someone who has been and still is going through it.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    May. 25, 2010

    I have read all these posts. I cried at them because this is me right now. How am I suppose to get through this. I look at this man, who was once my husband, lover, best friend and now he can't be around me.  He needs time, space. He don't know.  He is stressed about work (but does everything not to work) can't make plans with me.  He can't...

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    I have read all these posts. I cried at them because this is me right now. How am I suppose to get through this. I look at this man, who was once my husband, lover, best friend and now he can't be around me.  He needs time, space. He don't know.  He is stressed about work (but does everything not to work) can't make plans with me.  He can't love me anymore. He feels I am not giving him the right advice.  He has never question my intentions before.  He says things to me that arent normal.  First I though maybe it was a girlfriend.  But then I realized he has lost his mind. The mood swings and change in personality is outragous. He has been so selfish and verbally mean.  He doesn't care.  Just doesn't care anymore about our life and what we have.  He doesn't even seem to remember. 

    • Anonymous
      #missmyhusband
      May. 22, 2014

      Does it ever get better?  I'm right where you were when you made this post.  I'm hurting so bad that I can't sleep.  I lie back here sobbing,  crying,  choking on tears...and he lies on the couch and watches tv while I cry. 

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    May. 15, 2010

    It's 7:45 in the morning and I sit here 'hurting' yet again because once more my partner who has type 1 diabetes informed me last night he 'didn't like me' / 'didn't love me anymore' and 'never wanted to see me again'.  That was amongst all the other really awful personal insults he text me whilst out 'having a good time'.  This happens...

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    It's 7:45 in the morning and I sit here 'hurting' yet again because once more my partner who has type 1 diabetes informed me last night he 'didn't like me' / 'didn't love me anymore' and 'never wanted to see me again'.  That was amongst all the other really awful personal insults he text me whilst out 'having a good time'.  This happens at regular intervals which for the last month seem to be getting nearly all the time.  After 11 years of this and thinking he couldn't possibly invent new insults believe me he can.  I try not to respond and leave him be to come out of his 'mood' but his constant badgering and really hurtful comments usually provokes some sort of response.  This seems to be just what he is looking for and somehow seems to justify his words to himself.  I have tried patiently to tell him he needs to get his insulin levels sorted but unfortunately it's like hitting my head against a brick wall.  He never does blood tests, constantly has the 'smell' of keytones on his breath and eats very little.  He 'Can't be bothered' is his standard statement. He now hits the pub every Friday and binge drinks. Over the last few months I have watched in horror his body shrink to where he now looks like something out of a concentration camp he is so thin. His stomache has shrunk so small that even when he does eat it's tiny portions.

     I have read all the comments on this site and am so glad it's not me who is the 'useless one' and not me who 'has the problem'. I no longer know what is real any more as only last weekend we were happy (if only for the 2 days it lasted) and he was declaring how he never meant anything he said and loved me etc. I am at my wits end on what do do next.  Part of me is disgusted with myself for allowing another human being to hurt me so but then I remember what he is like when he is normal and think 'just hang on in there for a little longer'.  I can't share this with anyone else as all my family have seen how he has hurt me in the past and can't believe I stay with him.  They think I am mad for putting up with all his rubbish and should just walk away with what little pride I have left.  I would appreciate any comments from anyone as all this is making me very unhappy. 

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      May. 25, 2010

      I know how u feel..I have been so hurt by this man that I have nothing left inside to give...I have noone to speak to...everyone is sick of hearing me...I cant even believe that I am going through this...I never exspected the man of my dreams to speak and treat me this way...I cant believe what u wrote it is so me....

    • Anonymous
      Lonelylady
      May. 31, 2010

      Well it happened again this weekend.  Dispite all the nice plans we had made for the bank holiday weekend he 's ruined then yet again with his mood and this time has informed me 'we are over' as he 'wants to be free'.  I sat for 3 hours placidly taking every little barb and insult he dished out.  And believe me he plummeted to knew depths of...

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      Well it happened again this weekend.  Dispite all the nice plans we had made for the bank holiday weekend he 's ruined then yet again with his mood and this time has informed me 'we are over' as he 'wants to be free'.  I sat for 3 hours placidly taking every little barb and insult he dished out.  And believe me he plummeted to knew depths of degrading me verbally with each passing hour, whilst all the while trying to get him to have something to eat.  Nothing worked and sure enough off he went into town again to 'have fun' and 'down a few pints' leaving me sitting crying as usual.

      I am now giving up as I can't continue to be a door mat that's used and abused while he goes about this life doing exactly what he wants and not giving one little thought for me or my feelings. 

      I just wish that there was some where I could go and meet others like myself.  The ex's of abusive diabetic men.  It kills me to write 'ex' but I am living a really awful lonely life as it is so I might as well be on my own without all his nastiness.

      I have come to the conclusion he really doesn't love or care for me any more and I can't keep getting my heart torn out and trampled on at regular intervals.

      Eleven years down the drain.

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      May. 31, 2010

      your not alone I am here with you...I wait to hear from you...I hope your days and nights are different then mine...I am sorry that you are being treated like this...my husband won't come home...he can't bear the thought of being around me...I'm suppose to wait for when he feels like being here...weeks,days,months or years...pick one...he doesn't know...of...

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      your not alone I am here with you...I wait to hear from you...I hope your days and nights are different then mine...I am sorry that you are being treated like this...my husband won't come home...he can't bear the thought of being around me...I'm suppose to wait for when he feels like being here...weeks,days,months or years...pick one...he doesn't know...of care...he has destroyed our marriage...us as a couple wee are no longer...I can't reason with him and like you said the remarks start...and he doesn't love me and wants out...the remarks and comments contiue...I can't even believe this is MY husband...I listen to him when he speaks...and I say to myself "OMG who is this" ....this is'nt HIM...but I have to realize and maybe you do also IT IS....This is them now...and they are here to stay...but are we here to take IT...we can hope and pray all we want...they don't love or want us anymore...and if they decide they do...we are going to wonder ...WHEN are they going to dissappoint us YET again in our lives...and then we have to morn this lose again...I feel very lonelyu and empty because this was the man of my dreams and now he is only a dream...

    • Anonymous
      Neil
      Jan. 12, 2014

      Hi, i understand where you are coming my wife type 1 of 8 years now is very mad all the time and with 2 young kids in our lives i take the worst of it i try and understand but feels like an uphill battle all of the time. she is not the person i met and married im sad to say but love her very much !!! but feel like this is driving a wedge between us on a daily...

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      Hi, i understand where you are coming my wife type 1 of 8 years now is very mad all the time and with 2 young kids in our lives i take the worst of it i try and understand but feels like an uphill battle all of the time. she is not the person i met and married im sad to say but love her very much !!! but feel like this is driving a wedge between us on a daily basis.

       

  • Jennifer
    May. 07, 2010

    Wow I have been looking for just something as this.  My mothers and my relationship is falling apart because of her sever moodswings.  She actually now is telling me Im the one crazy and depressed and all that.  I just want to help her but she thinks there is nothing wrong with her.  What is a person suppose to do.  How do I approach...

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    Wow I have been looking for just something as this.  My mothers and my relationship is falling apart because of her sever moodswings.  She actually now is telling me Im the one crazy and depressed and all that.  I just want to help her but she thinks there is nothing wrong with her.  What is a person suppose to do.  How do I approach this with her?  Any suggestions would be great.

  • Dee Neill
    Mar. 17, 2010

    My soon to be ex has juvenile diabetes.  He too had severe mood swings, anger, forgetful memory, etc.  With age, it became worse.  Sadly, he blamed all his problems on me and my son (from a previous marriage).  My son lost his father at the age of 2 and my ex is the only father he knows.  After years of seeing my ex take his anger out...

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    My soon to be ex has juvenile diabetes.  He too had severe mood swings, anger, forgetful memory, etc.  With age, it became worse.  Sadly, he blamed all his problems on me and my son (from a previous marriage).  My son lost his father at the age of 2 and my ex is the only father he knows.  After years of seeing my ex take his anger out on my son, and discovering my ex was cheating, I ended our marriage.  Although divorce is painful and I don't advocate it, my life without a crazed diabetic husband is so much more happier and peaceful - worry and stress free.  While I don't advocate divorce, I advocate better understanding of the mood swings, depression, severe attitudes and anger, that family members have to endure.  I lived with my ex for a little over 7 years and looking back, it was pure hell.  Add the 7 year itch with his mid-life crisis - I am sure you can imagine what my life was like - do I need to say more?  My ex didn't manager his diabetes well even on an insulin pump.  He would drive with low sugars, etc.  He never purchased glucose tablets or orange juice for better control, I bought it and ensured he had it on hand always - it was like having another child around in a grown man's body.  The last year of our marriage, he hadn't been to his diabetic doctor in over a year (he finally went just before I kicked him out).  I had to call the ambulance to help him  - me and my children endured him becoming physical at us with extreme lows/highs.  The day I told him to leave, he struck my son and was foaming at his mouth in anger.  As always, he denied being at fault and has never apologized to me and my son.  His family babies him and stands behind him through all three marriages (I am his third and I can assure you not his last).  After we separated, he finally discovered his 1 1/2 year old blood glucose monitor was faulty - GREAT!  Me and my children suffered because of a faulty glucose monitor and a diabetic that refused to take care of himself.  For anyone living with a diabetic - I feel your pain and have sympathy with your suffering.  We suffered in silence and until diabetics and their doctors learn to acknowledge the problem and stabilize moods/behavior with medication or better management, the suffering continues.  I wish you much luck, love, and hugs living with a diabetic.  I pray that you and your family do not suffer what I went through.....  PTL - our suffering ended and he is his family and someone elses problem now!!!

    • BillyB
      Jul. 07, 2012

      I am a diabetic and I don't really care for the way some of you talk about a diabetic that is having trouble controlling their blood sugars. There are lots of things that you have to do to control your blood sugar 24 hours, seven days a week for the rest of your life. There are diabetics that don't attempt to control their blood sugars and I feel for them and...

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      I am a diabetic and I don't really care for the way some of you talk about a diabetic that is having trouble controlling their blood sugars. There are lots of things that you have to do to control your blood sugar 24 hours, seven days a week for the rest of your life. There are diabetics that don't attempt to control their blood sugars and I feel for them and wish them the best and yes they bring all of the problems associated with poor control on themselves. However, there are some of us who try their hardest to control their diabetes and for whatever reason the control just isn't working. I have been diabetic for 24 years, diagnosed at 18 and I am now 42. For the first 10 years I took multiple injections and controlled my diabetes very well and everything was fine with me, my diabetes was under control. I then moved on to the insulin pump and did great with that for about 7 years.  I got married to a wonderful person that I love very much, we had 2 daughters and had a happy life...., then the troubles began. After being on the insulin pump for nearly 14 years, scar tissue started building up in my stomach in the spots (sites) that I put my infusion set. I did not know i had scar tissue built up at the time, but I noticed that my blood sugars started going crazy, staying high all the time, like in the mid 300's on up to 500 sometimes. I would take extra insulin to try and correct the highs and nothing would lower them. During this time I started getting angry and having very bad mood swings. I couldn't figure out what was going on, since I had always had good control and the "Insulin Pump" is supposed to be the best way to control your diabetes, the most advanced way. Needless to say, my health started to decline, I lost a lot of weight, looked awful, always in a pissy mood. I would yell at my two daughter over the dumbest things, argue with my wife, blame her for everything, fight with friends, family, strangers....whoever it didn't matter. I knew something was going on.. I had severe anxiety problems, heart palpitations, muscle aches, thirst, blurry vision,tired all the time, depressed feeling and just didn't care about anything, but in my head all I thought about was my diabetes and what to do, why is this happening, what it going on with me, why doesn't anyone understand. This was by far the worst period of my life, living in a Diabetic prison is how I felt. I went to MY endo, she said "your blood sugars are high try adjusting your basal rate to this, change your insulin to carb ratio to this, blah blah blah.....I had already tried all of this. Nothing worked. Well, my wife had enough and left me.....now I'm really messed up. More depressed than ever, stressed, BLOOD SUGARS THROUGH THE ROOF !! I know this is not me, but don't know what else to do. I go to another Dr. get put on anti depressants and anxiety medication. Which helped somewhat. Finally, after another year or so of all of this, I realize that something has got to give. I know that my stomach is always sore from the infusion sets and I seem to have to change them alot, like every other day now. I schedule a Dr's appt and "Tell" her that I want to go back to injections, this pump is not working out too well anymore. She says ok....and then proceeds to tell me "Sometimes people who have been on the pump for a long time get scar tissue and the insulin doesn't absorb very well and this could be the reason for your High blood sugar"....what !!!!!!! Are you serious, you now decide to tell me this bit of info after I have been struggling with this for about 7 freakin' years !!!. I started back on injections and after the first week my blood sugars have been nearly perfect. I feel great and life could not be better.........except my wife doesn't understand that any of my mood swings and bad attitude and everything else that was going wrong with me was due to my diabetes and very High blood sugars. Don't know how to convince her that that "guy" was not "ME". I was that monster for too long and don't know if she will ever truly understand that I WAS TRYING MY HARDEST TO FIGURE IT ALL OUT, but I guess i found out too late. 

  • Anonymous
    Mar. 14, 2010

    Im so glad to read that there are other people that are going through the same things we are.My daughter was diagnosed with type1 diabetes 4 years ago when she was 14 years old she is 18 now. She was such a sweet happy fun girl never was mean never had a bad temper she was a joy. In the past couple of years since she has had diabetes she has changed so much....

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    Im so glad to read that there are other people that are going through the same things we are.My daughter was diagnosed with type1 diabetes 4 years ago when she was 14 years old she is 18 now. She was such a sweet happy fun girl never was mean never had a bad temper she was a joy. In the past couple of years since she has had diabetes she has changed so much. Her moods are so up and down the worst part is that i dont even think she really knows how she is acting. One

    minute she is happy,laughing and joking the next she is sad,crying,being mean and acting very angry she will say she hates us then she will go do something come back 10 minutes later and its like nothing has happened. She complains about all of her friends and hates them. She is always mad at her boyfriend she doesnt trust any one.

    She has acted like this aroud her friends and no one wants to be around her and because of it they all think shes the B word.These were people she use to love to be around.And its really sad

    because they have no idea what she has been going through nor do they know anything about what diabetes can do to a person. It is literally killing me to see her go through this I just wish the poor girl could be her happy self again. I am

    working with doctors to see how we can help her and am hoping for an alternative solution instead of drugs. If someone could please give me an opinion to my idea i have. I think her friends should know what she has been going through and why she has acted the way she has so that maybe they would understand more about this disease and maybe they would stop hating her.So i was going to write a short letter explaining what shes been going through with some information on the subject and then sending it to each of her friends. Please give me your opinion on this im hoping this would change there opinion of her.                                                Thanks so much

     

  • Anonymous
    Rev UK
    Nov. 16, 2009

    This page has been a real comfort to me, my partner of 4 years is a type 1 and has been since she was nine.

     

    Up until the last few months she has been moody but no more than most people, the odd session but you could live with it, I have the odd mood too I'm only human also!

     

    I kept thinking what am i doing wrong which is upsetting her so much and...

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    This page has been a real comfort to me, my partner of 4 years is a type 1 and has been since she was nine.

     

    Up until the last few months she has been moody but no more than most people, the odd session but you could live with it, I have the odd mood too I'm only human also!

     

    I kept thinking what am i doing wrong which is upsetting her so much and making her so moody? We have just moved into a new home and should be really happy but she has been being picky and argumentative for no reason. The way she is, if I gave her £500 in five pound notes she would only complain that the pile was too big and why didn't I give her £20 notes if I was going to give her something! Forget the nice gesture, just me doing wrong yet again!

     

    Reading the comments here has been a comfort because it makes me realise that a lot of what is going on is not down to me but it is also something that she isn't intentionally doing.

     

    I have come back to the house twice in the last week and found her having a hypo. I had to call the ambulance last Sunday as I needed a third hand to give her a Glucagon jab and couldn't hold her down, this happened again on the following Tuesday, but this time I managed to inject her on my own, this is the first time she has needed a jab in 12 years so it was a shock to me.

     

    She has just got on with everything and doesn't consider the effect that saving her life twice in 3 days has had on me, as I am sure people here will have been through the same things many times, it is a shock to the loved ones who then seem to be subjected to the mood swings that follow as they sort out their levels after a hypo.

     

    My patience is wearing thin, I love her but there is only so much anyone can take, once again it has been good to read the comments here, they have given me an uplift even by just being able to share these couple of sentences with people in the same boat.

     

    Thanks

    • ymar
      Nov. 24, 2009

      I too am glad to have found this site.  I having been living with the mood swings in my husband for the last 8 years.  We have been married for 30 years and he has had type 2 for the past 10 years.  He does not take care of himself, does not take his meds and eats whatever he wants whenever he wants.  He is only home on weekends and my stomach...

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      I too am glad to have found this site.  I having been living with the mood swings in my husband for the last 8 years.  We have been married for 30 years and he has had type 2 for the past 10 years.  He does not take care of himself, does not take his meds and eats whatever he wants whenever he wants.  He is only home on weekends and my stomach is in knotts from the time he drives in the driveway until he leaves.  I am so afraid of saying or doing something that will set him off.  He gets so abusive verbally and I have gone to sitting upstairs reading while he is home to avoid this which only seems to make it worse.  What to do.  I don't want to throw away 30 years of marriage but am at my wits end.  I am fearful for my safety, will it get worse.  I can't continue to watch him waste away and become someone I no longer even know and even hate him as time goes on.   

    • Anonymous
      Rev
      Dec. 08, 2009

      Hi Ymar,

       

      I understand how difficult it can be to live your life on eggshells.

       

      Sitting on the outside we all have to make a judgement of when we think it is the diabetes causing the mood swings and when or if it is mental abuse, the things you describe are verging on this and you both really need some advice together, and here in lies the rub,...

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      Hi Ymar,

       

      I understand how difficult it can be to live your life on eggshells.

       

      Sitting on the outside we all have to make a judgement of when we think it is the diabetes causing the mood swings and when or if it is mental abuse, the things you describe are verging on this and you both really need some advice together, and here in lies the rub, how do you mention anything without it becoming your fault or a row develops because there is nothing wrong in your husband's eyes.

       

      I know a number of people who have diabetes and we do manage to laugh at the fact that they are all "Bad Diabetics!", is there a good type of diabetes that no one has told us about? All of my diabetic friends and my partner seem to have this self destruct button of not wanting to help themselves and feeling that they haven't really got anything wrong that they cannot handle, how do you try to help someone who doesn't think they need help?

       

      Choosing your moment; for me this website and the net has helped a lot, I search some subject matter concerning mood swings and living with a partner who has diabetes and printed a lot of information off, I then casually left it on the kitchen table so I knew it would be noticed and it enabled a reasonable conversation to start, its not easy but I think my partner could recognise some of the behaviour written about by others and recognise that I am here to support and not battle her.

       

      For me talking to people or jotting notes on this and similar website means you have an opportunity to voice how you feel and this in its own right can relieve a little stress. The old adage of a problem shared is a problem halved does offer some comfort.

       

      Good luck.

       

    • ForeverRodsWife
      Mar. 08, 2010

      My husband went untreated for 20 years.  His mood swings were unbearable for the last few years.  His emotions were haywire and he caused so much hurt to me and my family.  He just sort of got it and started to treat himself better...He JUST began to take his condition seriously and take the proper medication and insulin for it.  He jsut...

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      My husband went untreated for 20 years.  His mood swings were unbearable for the last few years.  His emotions were haywire and he caused so much hurt to me and my family.  He just sort of got it and started to treat himself better...He JUST began to take his condition seriously and take the proper medication and insulin for it.  He jsut started going to the dr...Not one endocronologist would take him anymore in our area as he was to big of a diabetic in denial...3 diabetic comas....He was jsut starting to undo the harm he did in his relationships and than he had a massive heart attack and passed away due from complications of diabetes....It was sudden and we are all at a loss.  Please have your loved ones know that not trreating their diabetes is not only hurting them but the people that they love and love them.  it is a killer if youdo not treat it...I know I am the wiidow of a man who was in denial...he was 43 when he passed.  we have a young daughter who wil grow up without a daddy and I am a mess.

    • Really concerned
      Mar. 29, 2010

      Hi ymar

      I know exactly how you feel.  The way you describe things it's exactly how I feel being around my hubby who is Type 2, diagnosed around 8 years ago.  We too have been together for over 30 years and also do not feel the need to throw this away due to an illness, but as you describe the mood swings and unpleasantness to be around him, I also...

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      Hi ymar

      I know exactly how you feel.  The way you describe things it's exactly how I feel being around my hubby who is Type 2, diagnosed around 8 years ago.  We too have been together for over 30 years and also do not feel the need to throw this away due to an illness, but as you describe the mood swings and unpleasantness to be around him, I also get that constant knot in the gut whenever he comes home or is around me. 

      I also find that I'm walking on eggshells and so afraid to start a conversation that it invariably ends up in a huge fight.   And of course, I always get blamed for everything that goes wrong in his life.  I'm always the bad person and the only one that he can blame because there's no more kids or anyone else around to blame.

      I really wish that things would improve because I really do not know how much more I can bear.  I have tried on numerous occasions to be nice, kind etc but when that mood swing hits there's nothing I can do to escape.

      Even if I walk around into another room I get followed and it is extremely hard to escape this.

      I just hope that there is some sort of solution to correct the problem with diabetes mood swings !  I'm glad I found this website only to realise that I am not alone in this.

      Good luck !

      Smile

    • Anonymous
      Anne Allerton
      Sep. 26, 2011

      I would like to know if a male, aged 73, with type 2 diabetes, who also drinks heavily most days, is liable to suffer extreme mood changes, becoming extremely agressive and not acknowledging that his behavior is unacceptable.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Oct. 13, 2009

    Hello Everyone,

     

    I really thought I was crazy too, I been married for 8 years and my husband got type 2 diabetes in about 3 years ago, in the begining we where good but now he's getting very angry and his comments are huntfull. I thought was me because we had a hard begining in our marriage and I was'nt very nice, but since we work together and he is...

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    Hello Everyone,

     

    I really thought I was crazy too, I been married for 8 years and my husband got type 2 diabetes in about 3 years ago, in the begining we where good but now he's getting very angry and his comments are huntfull. I thought was me because we had a hard begining in our marriage and I was'nt very nice, but since we work together and he is nasty with everybody at work. I don't think it's me, of course he doesn't see it, he blems me for everything bad or sad that is happenong in his live at the moment and in the past size we had a hard begining.

    Does anyone has any sugestions.... 

    • Anonymous
      CARDEN77
      Oct. 15, 2009

      I really wish I had the answer ....! As I know exactly where your coming from! My husband is the same, he is certainly not the man I married!!

      He is snappy at me and his mood can swing from being lovely to dam right nasty in the wink of an eye! and worst thing is there is nothing I can do or say as he doesnt know he is even doing it, he blames me for being...

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      I really wish I had the answer ....! As I know exactly where your coming from! My husband is the same, he is certainly not the man I married!!

      He is snappy at me and his mood can swing from being lovely to dam right nasty in the wink of an eye! and worst thing is there is nothing I can do or say as he doesnt know he is even doing it, he blames me for being moody if I do say anything! I cant win!

       

      I just wish I knew what to do for the best now as my kids dont need this, its not fair, and to be honest how can you love someone the same when they treat u like this, although I know its not him it still pushes you away, its hard to get what we had back!

       

      If you did get any advice I would be grateful for any, as I have been asking for help from everyone I can think off but no one seems to want to help me!

    • PASTOR'S WIFE
      Oct. 23, 2012

      Just remember, IT IS NOT YOU!!  It's the disease........exercise and losing 15 to 20 pounds will give the diabetes a black eye!!!!

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Jul. 19, 2009

    Hi all.

    My name is Donna. I`m from NZ but live in Oregon. Yes its wonderful to know we`re not alone, but sadly all in the same boat. My husband is American and has been diabetic since he was under 2 years of age. He is now 46 years old.

     

    I thought I was going insane watching and experiencing incredible mood swings in him. I couldn`t and still struggle...

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    Hi all.

    My name is Donna. I`m from NZ but live in Oregon. Yes its wonderful to know we`re not alone, but sadly all in the same boat. My husband is American and has been diabetic since he was under 2 years of age. He is now 46 years old.

     

    I thought I was going insane watching and experiencing incredible mood swings in him. I couldn`t and still struggle to accept how can it be that he can be one person one minute and someone totally different the next !! The effect it`s had on me is that I have recently pulled back from my husband as its easier for me to love him from a distance now.

     

    I knew diabetes causes horrible problems for the body, but thought the mental and emotional changes in him may be due to bypolar or some other mental disorder. In the last month I decided to start searching the web to find out further info. No there isn`t much about the emtional effects brought on by diabetes, but I tell you I`m so relieved to find all your posts !!

     

    Thank God as at least I now know others are experiencing similar problems, which must mean we aren`t going nuts lol and this really is apart of diabetes !!This disease is nasty in more ways than one. My husband has just been diagnosed with vascular disease. He also has a ulcer on his big toe that won`t heal. As of Monday we go to hospital for a Autiogram to decide what they can do for his circulation. If they can`t help him we face the possibility of future amputation.The impact of all this is making my mind spin and the only place I get any relief is when I hand this over to God xxx

     

    If anyone has anything helpful to suggest  I`m all ears. And my only suggestion to you all is.......... stay strong and trust God.

    • Anonymous
      Just a girl
      Sep. 25, 2009

      My long term boyfriend (we've been together for years) has recently been diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes and is totally insulin dependent. I saw him go from relatively nice to out of control with his anger, rude comments, etc. I am a sensitive person and this type of behavior has made me suffer greatly. The amount of times I've cried over his outbursts...

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      My long term boyfriend (we've been together for years) has recently been diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes and is totally insulin dependent. I saw him go from relatively nice to out of control with his anger, rude comments, etc. I am a sensitive person and this type of behavior has made me suffer greatly. The amount of times I've cried over his outbursts is impossible to count. He now seems a bit better mood wise but he cannot remember what I said even seconds later if his blood sugar is high or low. He gets angry quickly and freaks out. I love him very much but sometimes I don't know how I will be able to handle it in the future.

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      Sep. 25, 2009

      To Just a girl,

       

      I hear you and its tough going !! My Husband ended up having a bypass due to a blockage in his leg which slowed the blood flow nessacary for healing to his toe. Things look better now and he`s on the mend. I think being able to talk honestly with each other about our feelings has helped us a lot. The mood swings aren`t easy to deal with...

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      To Just a girl,

       

      I hear you and its tough going !! My Husband ended up having a bypass due to a blockage in his leg which slowed the blood flow nessacary for healing to his toe. Things look better now and he`s on the mend. I think being able to talk honestly with each other about our feelings has helped us a lot. The mood swings aren`t easy to deal with but I now make sure I clearly tell my husband how it effects me. They need to know its not all about them , we too are being dragged through this nightmare.

      Take time out for yourself........... especially when you most need it. I strongly suggest your boyfriend have good health insurance. Diabetic care is very expensive !!! Also be very careful that you have a well informed diabetic doctor who knows his stuff. Not being informed correctly from a so called experienced doctor nearly cost my husband his leg............no joke !! Please don`t hesitate to contact me if I can be of any further help to you.

      Hang in there girl

       

      Donna Smile

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Jun. 05, 2009

    I am so greatful that I found this website! Reading these comments have made me see I am not the only person that is going through this. My boyfriend of 5 years has battled type 1 diabetes since childhood. He too is prone to moody/dramatic behavior. I also never wanted to make situations worse when he gets into these fits. I just always felt bad about feeling...

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    I am so greatful that I found this website! Reading these comments have made me see I am not the only person that is going through this. My boyfriend of 5 years has battled type 1 diabetes since childhood. He too is prone to moody/dramatic behavior. I also never wanted to make situations worse when he gets into these fits. I just always felt bad about feeling sad or angry towards him, because I have no idea what it is like to expereice a disease every single day. It is beneficial to understand that these moods do not go away with time. 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    Strength it takes to face this situation everyday! Thank you for sharing your stories.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    May. 25, 2009

    My husband is a Type 1 diabetic. He has been a diabetic for 18 years. We have been married for 15 years. Over the last several years, I have found myself living with a virtual stranger. Much like the other responses, he has sudden and EXTREME anger outbursts and is very verbally and emotionally abusive. I am at my wits end. I have tried talking to him. While...

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    My husband is a Type 1 diabetic. He has been a diabetic for 18 years. We have been married for 15 years. Over the last several years, I have found myself living with a virtual stranger. Much like the other responses, he has sudden and EXTREME anger outbursts and is very verbally and emotionally abusive. I am at my wits end. I have tried talking to him. While he acknowledges and even appologizes for his behavior, he either does not really remember all the things he says and does or is too afraid to admit it to himself and therefore does not take my concerns as seriously as he should. Fortunately, we have good health insurance through my job. He goes to his doctor regularly and takes his medicine. He is pretty good about following his diet and eating right, but he is not perfect and does eat the wrong things sometimes. His sugar is in constant flux- up and down- no matter what he does. It is extremely hard our two children and I find myself desperate for answers. I have considered leaving many times, but feel guilty because I too think it has something to do with the diabetes. I have searched and searched for studies or articles on the subject, but have found nothing. It is a comfort to know I am not alone and that my suspicions about the diabetes causing my husband's behavior is shared by others. You would think with all the research into diabetes, this would be a worthy topic of exploration. I just pray- A LOT- and trust that God will lead the way for me and my family. Please if anyone reading this knows of any research regarding mood swings and diabetes, post links.

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      May. 27, 2009

      I dont know if this will help my situation reading about all of these other women going through what i thought was something that only me and my children were going through !! My partner of 2 years is Type 1 diabetic and has been for 28 years and im horrified and frightened sometimes at just how cruel and nasty his outbursts can be, he is unreasonable and gets...

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      I dont know if this will help my situation reading about all of these other women going through what i thought was something that only me and my children were going through !! My partner of 2 years is Type 1 diabetic and has been for 28 years and im horrified and frightened sometimes at just how cruel and nasty his outbursts can be, he is unreasonable and gets angry at the most smallest of things. Im not sure if he can or will ever change. Unfortunatley as he has been diabetic for so long HE KNOWS BEST!! He constantly tells me its me and wont ever admit to his wrong doings, I am not the sort of person who backs down when im not in the wrong but find myself becoming quite quiet and submissive more and more so as not to antagonise him, im not sure if this is the right or wrong way to be anymore as I feel im fighting a losing battle. 

    • PASTOR'S WIFE
      Oct. 23, 2012

      You are not alone.....we can pray for each other.  All things are possible with God

  • Anonymous
    meron
    Feb. 27, 2009

    It is comforting to know that I am not alone.  I lost my father about 2 weeks from complication of diabetes.  He lived with the disease for over 30 years.  After reading all of the comments, I realized that my family (my mother and my brother) went through hell but never understood that his mood swings were due to his disease..He was extremely...

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    It is comforting to know that I am not alone.  I lost my father about 2 weeks from complication of diabetes.  He lived with the disease for over 30 years.  After reading all of the comments, I realized that my family (my mother and my brother) went through hell but never understood that his mood swings were due to his disease..He was extremely abusive both physically and verbally, which resulted in my mother living him.  He yelled at people for no apparent reasons, he thinks people are out there to get him and does not trust a soul. 

     

     

  • Anonymous
    Concerned
    Jan. 04, 2009

    Karen .

    Same situation with my mom she was diagnosed 3 years ago  after she had almost went into we now know a coma.She would not let my dad call an ambulance or doctor.I have panic disorder so of course in there opinion I was  overreacting it took me quite a battle to get her to agree to go.Had she not she would be gone. As with your husband It was...

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    Karen .

    Same situation with my mom she was diagnosed 3 years ago  after she had almost went into we now know a coma.She would not let my dad call an ambulance or doctor.I have panic disorder so of course in there opinion I was  overreacting it took me quite a battle to get her to agree to go.Had she not she would be gone. As with your husband It was also unclear if she is type 1 or 2.

    I was there  & supportive for my mom through everything.I will add I don't think she is honest with her doctor and she is of the opinion that she knows more then him ( from the internet).When he agress with her he is the best yada yada and when he does not she says he did anyways or he doe snot know what he is talking about.He is actually the best in this area.

    She started to make mean hurtful comments and forget she said them /accuse me of lying,bouts of anger and then guilt tripping me im causing lows etc..very narcissistic type behavior and my dad buys it all.

    I have been walking on eggshells for years.In the meantime I was diagnosed myself with type 2 . For myself  it was more of a thank goodness now I know what is wrong  & can fight it ,as I had felt bad for years and it was always blamed on my panic.( I belive  now the panic was caused by sugar)  I took a very positive attitude as my doc gave me time to try diet and exercise.She was being herself again and supportive.

    One day I called her because I had something on my foot( ended up being a blood blister) and was worried she was being very supportive  and actually overly happy ,then out of the blue she went on a tangent insisting I am not diabetic I made it up or my doctor is a quack.Me and my panic disorder next I will be telling her I have cancer, when she is the one who is truly sick and could die.That I never gave a darn about her diabetes & now all of a sudden its all about me.She called and hung up on me 3 times.Told my father I hung up on her and caused her to have a low.She has not spoken to me and neither have returned calls in 3 months.This is the short version much more was said.

    I too did searches,forums , even asked doctors if this was a result of her diabetes with no answers.In a weird way it is comforting finding this thread knowing im not alone and its likely illness caused vs on purpose  or me being positive rubbing her wrong if that makes any sense at all.

    As someone mentioned it would be great if we had a support group or forum.

  • Anonymous
    MM425
    Dec. 29, 2008

    I have been married for 3 years. My husband has had type two diabetes. Right now our marriage is on the rocks.  We have a five month old son and I don't want him growing up with a father that can not control his temper. I am a mother now and have to think of my son and probably leave my husband. I dont want him to fear his father. He gets verbally abusive...

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    I have been married for 3 years. My husband has had type two diabetes. Right now our marriage is on the rocks.  We have a five month old son and I don't want him growing up with a father that can not control his temper. I am a mother now and have to think of my son and probably leave my husband. I dont want him to fear his father. He gets verbally abusive and I can not take it anymore. He won't listen when I try to talk with him. He was actually in the hospital for a week because he was mentally unstable. I don't know what to do. Should I leave or work this out?? I am tired of this and really want out. he isn't the man i married and I keep thinking what if he gets worse. He doesn't help me with the baby and basically acts as if the baby is not even there. I feel more bad for my son than our marriage not making it.

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      Mar. 27, 2009

      Wow, me and my husband had a hugh blow out last night because of his behavior.  It was the worst ever.  After the major fighting episode that took place, in from my 7 year old son, we were able to sit down and discuss what had happened.   I wanted to go online to see if the high blood sugars were what was really causing this behaviors or...

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      Wow, me and my husband had a hugh blow out last night because of his behavior.  It was the worst ever.  After the major fighting episode that took place, in from my 7 year old son, we were able to sit down and discuss what had happened.   I wanted to go online to see if the high blood sugars were what was really causing this behaviors or if this is just the way he is.  For a minute I thought it had to bipolor or something.   He's temper has gotten so much worse.  We found his website and after both of us reading all these issues others were having, our eyes were full of tears.  My husband is type 1 and on dialysis.  Today he asked his doctor why he was blowing up and so angry and the doctor told him because the poisens are not leaving his body.  That means he needs to have dialysis for a longer amount of time to get rid of all this poisen in his body.  I'm really hoping this will work because I will not put myself or my son through what happened last night.  I know it's not his fault but it's not our fault either and my son is my #1 priority.   I cannot beleive they have not come up with some kind of medicatin to help with the mood swings. They have meds for everythings else.

  • Anonymous
    Loretta Anderson
    Dec. 04, 2008

    My husband too was diagnosed with type two diabetes.  After 8 months of symtoms he was finally convinced to go to the doctors when a friend of mine who's husband,also a diabetic tested my husbands blood sugar at almost 400. It has been about 7 months ago since his first visit to the doctors.

    He has been on Metmorphone, Glipizide, a prescription for...

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    My husband too was diagnosed with type two diabetes.  After 8 months of symtoms he was finally convinced to go to the doctors when a friend of mine who's husband,also a diabetic tested my husbands blood sugar at almost 400. It has been about 7 months ago since his first visit to the doctors.

    He has been on Metmorphone, Glipizide, a prescription for Nuerapathy for numbness in his fingers and 4 months ago was put on Bieta injections which he takes daily.

    As recent as 1 month ago I have noticed an extreme differance in his behavior with extreme outbursts and rude comments and he has become easily upset over the simplest of things. He is umbearable at time's an it has created quite a termoil in our marraige. It is so nice to communicate with someone who is going thru the same thing. I have felt so isolated and have relied mainly on support from my friends.  

    • Anonymous
      Losalia
      Mar. 15, 2013
      I wanted to ask if ur loved ones numbness I. His fingers is due to the diabetes? I ask because my boyfriend also has the same thing.
  • Anonymous
    L-Cat
    Nov. 14, 2008

         My boyfriend and I have been together for four years now. He is a type 1 diabetic and has been since he was about 3 years old. He often gets hostile and argumentative when his bloodsugar is high. He can be an extremely scary person. He has thrown things, slammed doors, and screamed. He has even resorted to hurting himself so that he will...

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         My boyfriend and I have been together for four years now. He is a type 1 diabetic and has been since he was about 3 years old. He often gets hostile and argumentative when his bloodsugar is high. He can be an extremely scary person. He has thrown things, slammed doors, and screamed. He has even resorted to hurting himself so that he will not hurt others.

         In the beginning, this behavior scared me and I would leave or backdown. I didn't want to argue with him. He has told me many times that when his sugar is high, he feels like he can not control his anger. I was starting to feel like I couldn't take it anymore. Eventually, we had a sit down and talked about how we both felt at these times. We agreed that I couldn't backdown on these rages. He asked me to make him test when he became unreasonable, even if it was scary and he didn't want to. I had to be firm. He is almost always high durring these times, and seeing the number and focussing on how to fix that problem usualy helps to calm him down. Recently, I have suggested that he see a counsilor or anger management therapist.

         I don't know if this helps or not, but just being on the same page and being able to talk about his anger helped make things a little better for us. I know it can be scary and I know how it feels to wonder if you can handle this or if you need to leave the relationship, but in the end, communication really does a lot to help the situation. My relationship with him will always be a struggle and I'm sure it might be easier in some ways with someone who is not diabetic, but as long as we talk to eachother, I feel like we will be ok.

    • Anonymous
      CS
      Nov. 30, 2008

      I recently started dating a guy who is an insulin-dependent diabetic...he has a heart of gold and is so sweet most of the time, but there have been several occasions where he gets so angry that its scary...he gets emotionally abusive and its like he's having a temper tantrum...a friend of mine suggested that I do some research online about it as her son is...

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      I recently started dating a guy who is an insulin-dependent diabetic...he has a heart of gold and is so sweet most of the time, but there have been several occasions where he gets so angry that its scary...he gets emotionally abusive and its like he's having a temper tantrum...a friend of mine suggested that I do some research online about it as her son is a diabetic and he has these mood swings as well...since this relationship is so new, I wasn't sure what to do because I have never experienced anything like this...I don't want to just walk away and I'm not sure what I will do, but it does help to read that other people have experienced this as well.  Any insight would be helpful.  Thanks.

    • Anonymous
      Epiphany
      May. 11, 2009

      My Boyfriend does the same thing but he refuses to do anything about it. He does not care about his health he says we all gotta go sometime and keeps eating loads of sugar and things he should not.  I believe that he is so scared that he has to change his life and will not have fun anymore.  I am scared that one day he will just have a stroke or he...

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      My Boyfriend does the same thing but he refuses to do anything about it. He does not care about his health he says we all gotta go sometime and keeps eating loads of sugar and things he should not.  I believe that he is so scared that he has to change his life and will not have fun anymore.  I am scared that one day he will just have a stroke or he will go into a coma.  I feel like I can not be with someone who does not care about his life or the lives that he will affect if he get seriously ill or dies.  It is comlpicated but like I said his outburst are frightening and they are cruel to me and that is abuse.  I have told him when it is calm how I feel but he says that I should just get out of the way or toughen up. But how can I do that if he makes me feel like a dog in the street. I am hurt and disappointed in the way things are and I don't deserve it. 

  • Anonymous
    melissa
    Aug. 05, 2008

    im a diabetic who has been suffering with changes in my moods and i wasnt able to figure out why.i just got married and it reallyis hard on my husband. he cant understand and i cant explain it ! is there anything out there to help? i want to say my marriage an my sanity.ive only been a diabetic for about 3 years so its still all new to me .

  • Anonymous
    C Penny
    Jul. 05, 2008

    Wow...I'm not crazy and not alone?   I am the one in this relationship with the diabetes and it's pure and total hell....I don't feel I have ANY control whatsoever when these moods hit....

     

    Before I realize what's happening the damage is done, the fight is on and things only go from bad to worse right then and there...I totally wish I...

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    Wow...I'm not crazy and not alone?   I am the one in this relationship with the diabetes and it's pure and total hell....I don't feel I have ANY control whatsoever when these moods hit....

     

    Before I realize what's happening the damage is done, the fight is on and things only go from bad to worse right then and there...I totally wish I could just crawl in a hole and stay there forever afterwards.  I feel soooooo horrible but at the same time I feel some anger too and I'm not sure why. 

     

    I don't feel I have support at home though that is for sure...my partner has many of her own problems (not diagnosed yet but chronic pain is very apparent which then led to severe depression) and has never had either the ability or didn't take the time to learn anything about my condition.

     

    Hang on to your loved ones with all that you have and know that if they even feel the slightest bit of what I feel then losing their loved ones would be the end for them.  There are no words to describe how I feel after I've had an episode but I feel horrid!  I usually stand there for a moment scratching my head like, what on earth just happened and how did I get there yet again?  I'm am very hard on myself and usually end up calling myself all sorts of names in my own mind....yet I have no understanding of why it happened or why I felt that way.  The one thing I am realizing though is it's not just me this is happening to...there are many of us and not enough information on these mood swings.

     

    Before the diabetes I was not like this and had no acceptance for people that were...now isn't that a contradictory statement..but it's true! *sighs*

     

    I can only keep pluggin away and hope that I get this under control before I have no one left in my life...

     

    CP

    • Anonymous
      Fustrated
      Aug. 01, 2008

      I totally understand the fustration when dealing with the mood swings. I too have been with my diabetic partner for 11 years and we have a beautiful daughter, but am fighting with the idea of leaving the situation. It's so comforting to read that others are experiencing this and I'm not crazy. My husband has type 1 and is insulin dependent and is very poorly...

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      I totally understand the fustration when dealing with the mood swings. I too have been with my diabetic partner for 11 years and we have a beautiful daughter, but am fighting with the idea of leaving the situation. It's so comforting to read that others are experiencing this and I'm not crazy. My husband has type 1 and is insulin dependent and is very poorly controlled due to lack of good insurance coverage. His mood swings can also get very abusive and very scary, that I fear for my safety at times because of the threats. It is sad that someone you love so much can be so horrible then be extremelly sorry in a few days. I don't know if I can stay much longer!

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      Jan. 22, 2010

      My best friend is type 1 and on an insulin pump.

      She is nice mmost of the time, but sometimes she has mood swings. And i am never rude to her. She seems to hate me at times. What can I do?

      Do I just ignore this or quit hanging out with her? It makes me sad because I would never speak to her that way.

    • Really concerned
      Mar. 29, 2010

      I also have a husband who was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes 7 years ago.   The mood swings are truly scary.  One minute he is fine and the next minute all hell breaks loose and he becomes verbally abusive to the point I want to burst into tears.   I also tell him not to speak to me in that way but it just seems to make matters worse. ...

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      I also have a husband who was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes 7 years ago.   The mood swings are truly scary.  One minute he is fine and the next minute all hell breaks loose and he becomes verbally abusive to the point I want to burst into tears.   I also tell him not to speak to me in that way but it just seems to make matters worse.  We've been together over 30 years.

      He does not have regular checks at the Dr, I'm sure that he is also sometimes depressed but denies the fact.  Sometimes he is quite rude to me and I'm afraid that he sometimes gets moody in the traffic when someone cuts in front of him.  I sometimes get very nervous and wonder should I continue to put up with the mood swings etc because he will not go to the Dr on a regular basis, very stubborn indeed !

      The more I read about this condition, I realise that I am not alone and that many other women go through the same thing with a man with diabetes.  It's very hard to live with someone with this condition but you live in hope that things will improve.

      I truly hope that things improve soon as I do not know how much more I can take.

      Really concerned xx

    • Anonymous
      Sep. 12, 2010

      I too have been married for 30 years.  My husband was diagnosed with type two diabeties 10 years ago. I have to tell you this disease has put such a strain on our marriage.  His moods are unpredictable and he does not care how he speaks to me very hurtful.  The sad part is a few hours will past and he will act as though nothing happened...

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      I too have been married for 30 years.  My husband was diagnosed with type two diabeties 10 years ago. I have to tell you this disease has put such a strain on our marriage.  His moods are unpredictable and he does not care how he speaks to me very hurtful.  The sad part is a few hours will past and he will act as though nothing happened and doesn't understand why I'm upset.  There are days I feel like I'm walking on egg shells never knowing what to expect.  These last few months have been unbearable.  By the grace of God I found this site, it does give me some comfort knowing I'm not alone.  I have thought of divorce however, I'm not sure that is the right answer, but don't know how much more I can take.  I don't understand why there isn't more information or help for this problem.  Good luck and be strong!!

    • sherrymb
      Sep. 15, 2010

      This site is a God send, in and of itself.  This is totally my life.  My husband is Type 1 diabetic since he was 19 years old.  He is 43 and we've been married 14 years.  It seems to be getting worse and worse.  Two days ago he got angry at me.  Still don't know why exactly.  I came in from buying groceries, and he was asleep. ...

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      This site is a God send, in and of itself.  This is totally my life.  My husband is Type 1 diabetic since he was 19 years old.  He is 43 and we've been married 14 years.  It seems to be getting worse and worse.  Two days ago he got angry at me.  Still don't know why exactly.  I came in from buying groceries, and he was asleep.  He woke up to help unload and then instead unloaded on me.  Last night he was still irritable.  This morning he acted like absolutely nothing happened.  This happens on a regular basis.  I never know from one day, hour, or moment who the person is that I will be interacting with. 

       

      He has the insulin pump so there isn't the physical violence I've seen in the past.  One time he got angry and rolled a tv down the stairs, and he doesn't remember doing it at all. He also kicked down a baby gate that was attached to the wall.  He has no recollection of that either. 

       

      Most of the time by the time I think maybe it's his blood sugar we're already well in to some argument because he's gotten irritable and angry at me which has hurt my feelings.  Before the pump he would go days without speaking to me because he's so irritated.  Now, it's less time, but unfortunately no less hurtful.

       

      I'm really happy to come across this site, because there are days that I feel I am the one going crazy. 

    • DIABETIC HELL
      Jun. 27, 2011

      I completely understand everyone's frustration. I have been married to a diabetic for 18 years and we have 2 boys--10 and 14. My husband has been on the insulin pump for 13 years. His mood swings are getting worse and more often. My children don't even want to be around him. He can be so loving one minute and the next minute he has done...

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      I completely understand everyone's frustration. I have been married to a diabetic for 18 years and we have 2 boys--10 and 14. My husband has been on the insulin pump for 13 years. His mood swings are getting worse and more often. My children don't even want to be around him. He can be so loving one minute and the next minute he has done a complete 360 and he is yelling. There is no warning its just "WHAM" a different person. I have tried to talk to him about it but he says it's not him that there is nothing wrong with him. He says the kids should know when to leave him alone. He also turns on me...We could be having a normal conversation and then I say something that totally ticks him off and he is cursing me out. I can't say anything when he is like this...I have learned to just be quiet and back off. He is always apologetic after the fact but it is really starting to wear me down and I am tired of wondering of being on egg shells all the time. It is so much better when he is not at home. There is no pressure and kids can be free to be themselves. Once he comes home...the boys leave the room.. It is so sad that they have to go through this. I feel like I am not giving them a good example of how a father should be....

    • Diabetic's wife
      Jul. 26, 2013

      I know it's not much consolation but we're living very similar lives. Both my hubby and I are in our late 40's...together 19 years...2 sons from his first marriage and one from ours. Seeing the effect it has on our children is even worse than the verbal abuse and the feeling that I'm his enemy, no matter how much I try to be his friend and wife.

    • PASTOR'S WIFE
      Oct. 23, 2012

      I thank God for all of your candid posts!!  I am a newly wed, less than 90 days and since living with the man of my dreams, I thought I had lost my sanity.  His personality would change and moods swing off the ceiling.  Then the next morning he would leave for work and call back to say how much he loved me.  I was ready to call down FIRE...

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      I thank God for all of your candid posts!!  I am a newly wed, less than 90 days and since living with the man of my dreams, I thought I had lost my sanity.  His personality would change and moods swing off the ceiling.  Then the next morning he would leave for work and call back to say how much he loved me.  I was ready to call down FIRE a few times, I am a Christian and so is he....now I know what is going on.  I thought he was mentally unstable, and know now that he needs even more love than I could have imagined.  I pray for all of you and please pray for me as well.

    • boodles
      Jul. 19, 2013

       

      Thank you I will pray. Pray for me. And my response    hugsWink

    • Anonymous
      Susie
      Mar. 19, 2011

      I was just reading the Mood Swings in Diabetes.  I am married to a wonderful man with type 2 and is on a lot of meds.  His mood swings are so bad that I sleep in a different room and sometimes with my door locked.  I have asked him to get help but he denies he has a problem.  God Bless to all of you with small children and they have to see...

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      I was just reading the Mood Swings in Diabetes.  I am married to a wonderful man with type 2 and is on a lot of meds.  His mood swings are so bad that I sleep in a different room and sometimes with my door locked.  I have asked him to get help but he denies he has a problem.  God Bless to all of you with small children and they have to see this illness.  My husband is a older man with grown children and they now see how he is...  Sadly but true I, also, have thought about leaving him.  The verbal abuse is bad when his sugar is high.  He recently had a sugar low, and I had to call 911.  He was in the hospital for 2 days, and that helped him get his meds adjusted..he still has mood swings but at least I know he is taking the correct medications.  I have no ideal at this point what how I need to adjust my life but I keep myself busy and visit grandchildren alot so I keep my sanity.  Love to all....

    • Anonymous
      Angela
      Jun. 11, 2013
      My boyfriend has Type 2 and the mood swings are hard to deal with .The other night his levels where high and a little over 500, being new to all this I did not know what that really meant..I was trying to calm him down and have a discussion but it was not working at all, well his anger escalated and he got physical and basically pushed and shoved me out of...
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      My boyfriend has Type 2 and the mood swings are hard to deal with .The other night his levels where high and a little over 500, being new to all this I did not know what that really meant..I was trying to calm him down and have a discussion but it was not working at all, well his anger escalated and he got physical and basically pushed and shoved me out of his house.It all happened so fast I was in a state on confusion.The next day I tried to talk to him expecting some sort of apology and he was just as mad, blamed me for everything and for very small stuff he said I said to him.He never mentioned the horrible things he said to me or how he hurt me getting physical, what he did mention over and over is that it's all my fault and now he needs space from me...this is the man who can't even be alone at night, now he says he can't stand to look at me...we have been together a year and I love him and have seen moodiness but nothing like this before...please help, I love my boyfriend ...
    • Sugar2
      Oct. 30, 2013

       

      Angela, I know this is going to be very hard to hear, but you need to break up with your boyfriend and find someone else. I'm absolutely serious. You will ruin your life if you stay with him. It won't get better. Not ever. Not even if he is diligent about managing his disease.  I'm telling you with my whole heart that there is not any hope. There's...

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      Angela, I know this is going to be very hard to hear, but you need to break up with your boyfriend and find someone else. I'm absolutely serious. You will ruin your life if you stay with him. It won't get better. Not ever. Not even if he is diligent about managing his disease.  I'm telling you with my whole heart that there is not any hope. There's not. I'm sorry.

       

      I've been married for just over 3 years now and am so, so sorry I didn't know about this particularly nasty condition that accompanies the disease. My husband has had Type 2 Diabetes for some time. Prior to our marriage, he mostly kept himself in check; he was trying to win me and woo me. And frankly, he is really a very kind, sweet sensitive person in his heart. I loved him. I still do, but there's no relationship here.

       

      Within the first three months of our marriage, my husband showed his "true self," the self that is at the mercy of this disease. As God is my witness, I thought he had a personality disorder. I didn't know anything about these side effects. We went to marriage counseling. I consulted a doctor about my "depression," which wasn't depression at all. I'm just really sad. Then I started doing some digging. And I found a post from a woman that gave this advice: if you're dating someone with diabetes, run. Well, it was a little late for me, but let me pass this advice on to you. And please, please, please take it: Run. Run the other way as fast as you can, no matter how much you love him. Believe me, your feelings will change. You won't have any kind of relationship with him. You won't have a marriage. What you will have is a prison and you will be entirely alone. You are asking for trouble if you stay in this relationship. Don't do it. Marriage is tough enough and hard work. There are ups and downs and other family members to care for. But marriage to a diabetic is a nightmare. I'm not exaggerating. It's a complete nightmare.

       

      Like many of the people who have posted on this thread, I am a Christian. I don't think God wants me to be treated this way. I don't think God wants my husband to suffer either. But we're both in great pain and it won't get better. The verbal abuse, the mood swings, the Paranoia, the rages and anger and complete lack of control, the walking on egg shells all the time. The way a situation can turn on a dime. Those things will grind you into dust. And there's no help. No help whatsoever. Your friends and his will think you're crazy. The doctors don't tell you anything about it, or even acknowledge it. And there is absolutely no way to explain the "click" that signals the rage is here and you better take cover..

       

      Last night I walked six miles in the rain on a country road. It was dark; around 11 o'clock. My husband and I had been having dinner and he was suddenly a mess. He hadn't eaten most of the day. He had three drinks. Then it all "clicked." He was pointing at me, said I called him a liar. I could not follow what he was saying because it was nonsense -- again --  and I left. This isn't the first time. It won't be the last. You do not want to be where I am. You do not. Don't think for one moment about martyring yourself.

    • Anonymous
      Angela
      Jun. 11, 2013
      My boyfriend has Type 2 and the mood swings are hard to deal with .The other night his levels where high and a little over 500, being new to all this I did not know what that really meant..I was trying to calm him down and have a discussion but it was not working at all, well his anger escalated and he got physical and basically pushed and shoved me out of...
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      My boyfriend has Type 2 and the mood swings are hard to deal with .The other night his levels where high and a little over 500, being new to all this I did not know what that really meant..I was trying to calm him down and have a discussion but it was not working at all, well his anger escalated and he got physical and basically pushed and shoved me out of his house.It all happened so fast I was in a state on confusion.The next day I tried to talk to him expecting some sort of apology and he was just as mad, blamed me for everything and for very small stuff he said I said to him.He never mentioned the horrible things he said to me or how he hurt me getting physical, what he did mention over and over is that it's all my fault and now he needs space from me...this is the man who can't even be alone at night, now he says he can't stand to look at me...we have been together a year and I love him and have seen moodiness but nothing like this before...please help, I love my boyfriend ...
    • Richard
      Jun. 19, 2013

      To Angela.

       

      I am happy to read about your experience as it makes me feel relieved. I went through something similar with the girl I was dating until a few days ago. She suddenly had extremely high BG level and her mood completely changed. She used to be sweet and affectionated while all of a sudden she cut contacts with me, without...

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      To Angela.

       

      I am happy to read about your experience as it makes me feel relieved. I went through something similar with the girl I was dating until a few days ago. She suddenly had extremely high BG level and her mood completely changed. She used to be sweet and affectionated while all of a sudden she cut contacts with me, without any explanation. I feel pain for her, and I would like to give her all my support. I do understand the mood-shift is not her fault, it is terrible what she is suffering. I spent last weeks trying to figure out what I did wrong, but reading the posts on this blog I see this is something unfortunately rather common. I care a lot about her and I just hope she will give me the chance to be part of her life and offer her all my help.

       

      Being patient is the only thing we can do.

       

    • Nick L
      Dec. 17, 2013

      I am that husband married for 22 years to a loving caring wonderfull women who on atlest 4 occasions has gone through hell because of me to the point that the police were invoved recentl and I have to go to court tomorrow for commonassault[Ive never hit her]. Im looking for answers and this site is helping cope with my current crisis .I am at my sons and cant...

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      I am that husband married for 22 years to a loving caring wonderfull women who on atlest 4 occasions has gone through hell because of me to the point that the police were invoved recentl and I have to go to court tomorrow for commonassault[Ive never hit her]. Im looking for answers and this site is helping cope with my current crisis .I am at my sons and cant gohome. Itruly love my wife and dont want to loes her.

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      Aug. 01, 2010

      Oh, thank you so much for your post! I have once again come from my sons house crying (he is the diabetic since 18) and I am always the brunt of his anger. It is always over the stupidest things and he makes such a big deal about it making me look like a complete ass in front of everyone. Not wanting to make a scene I usually just "take it" and say to myself...

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      Oh, thank you so much for your post! I have once again come from my sons house crying (he is the diabetic since 18) and I am always the brunt of his anger. It is always over the stupidest things and he makes such a big deal about it making me look like a complete ass in front of everyone. Not wanting to make a scene I usually just "take it" and say to myself he is hungry and try to get him some food as soon as possible, as I know he is good about testing. But is is always me who he lashes out on. Today when he did this to me and I ended up once again crying on the way home because I love him so much and we were always so close that I tried to rationalize that maybe I am just the safe one to lash out on, and what he is experiencing is somewhat like what I went through with PMS. Then I sat down at my computer to try to find some information and I found your post. So it is!

      I know no matter how I tried and thought I will not yell at the kids or be angry when my hormones were out of whack there was no control. The way you described it was just how I was and how my son is, and how all of a sudden it is like everything is fine. Like if I lash out at Mom at least I know it is safe she will always love me. ANd I will. My dear friend I feel so for you and all diabetics and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for the information you gave me today. It saved my relationship with my son. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

    • ssdiabetic
      Sep. 20, 2010

      I'm 42 year old female who has had type 1 diabetes practically my whole life and I have had plenty of experience with horrible mood swings.  Glad to say, I am getting better at handling them.  Back before my divorce, my husband and children would recognize my blood sugar was high and the whole family would suggest that...

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      I'm 42 year old female who has had type 1 diabetes practically my whole life and I have had plenty of experience with horrible mood swings.  Glad to say, I am getting better at handling them.  Back before my divorce, my husband and children would recognize my blood sugar was high and the whole family would suggest that I take a nap.  Which is what I try to do to this day. 

       

      I try to manage the stress in my life to avoid mood swings popping up.  If I'm miserable, I check my blood sugar.  If I'm emotional and crying, I check my blood sugar.  Blood sugars have an effect on your mood, that is obvious.  Even following my diabetic regimeen, sometimes I have no control over the mood swing.  The best I can do is take a nap, take some insulin, drink some water... 

       

      My point is, the diabetic family member should be respsonsible and try to avoid the swings - with the highs and lows - and recognize that it also is harmful to the family having to be a part of it.  Separate for the time being - put your self in time out - until you get in a better mood.  Or choose some island to be alone on for the rest of your life, because no one outside of your family will even bother looking up on the internet the effect diabetes has on mood swings.  Outsiders will just think you are nuts and leave you alone.  Upsetting the whole family will just make your blood sugars go up more, create more guilt in you and anger in them, and eventually break up your family. 

    • kesha
      Nov. 08, 2010

      just want to say thank you so much...i love my guy with everything i have and wonder how he must feel about his mood swing feeling so tired all the time....so this a side effect of some of that meds?

  • Anonymous
    kbk
    Jul. 05, 2008

    Karen - I understand how you feel. It is very difficult, if somewhat impossible to find anything on the web on this subject. There should be a "Family of Diabetics" type of place we can go to, but I haven't ever found one. My husband gets severe mood swings, to where it changes his personality. It is very scary. I have learned to live through them so to...

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    Karen - I understand how you feel. It is very difficult, if somewhat impossible to find anything on the web on this subject. There should be a "Family of Diabetics" type of place we can go to, but I haven't ever found one. My husband gets severe mood swings, to where it changes his personality. It is very scary. I have learned to live through them so to speak and back down and try to just lie low. We have a child and it is hard. He tiptoes around when his dad gets like this. How sad that at such a young age our son sees it too. I don't know what to do anymore. Divorce? I don't know. I'm living through it again this weekend. My husband just does whatever he wants when he gets in these moods even though I ask him not to (like drives, mows or whatever). He stumbles, passes out on the couch, falls asleep sitting up, and has bad mood swings. He gets better after a few days and feels remorse over what he has done the last few days (yelling or whatever) and vows to do better. He will try, but slips back into the same habits. It's a vicious cycle. You love them, don't want anything to happen to them, yet at the same time I am starting to despise him for what he is putting our family through. It is somewhat helpful to know there are others out there, and it makes me wonder how many ARE actually out there that haven't tried to come forward or search for help. So many people focus on keeping the diabetic person healthy, they need to branch out in keeping the relationship with the diabetic healthy as well.

     

     

    • Anonymous
      Wendy Rothwell
      Feb. 02, 2010

      Hiya, im glad that other people in the same situation as me. My husband has only been diagnosed for 2 weeks but we have known things have been wrong for ages. He is a completly different person and i am trying to be so understanding but he is a nightmare to be around - not all the time but some of the time. We have a demanding 2 year old but she is a little...

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      Hiya, im glad that other people in the same situation as me. My husband has only been diagnosed for 2 weeks but we have known things have been wrong for ages. He is a completly different person and i am trying to be so understanding but he is a nightmare to be around - not all the time but some of the time. We have a demanding 2 year old but she is a little angel and then a 10 year old boy who is lovely but at that age - hardwork!!!! My husband just doesnt have any patience and i constantly feel im treading on eggshells aoround him - what is the solution? I will support him as much as possible but when he doesnt even realise he is doing it what are we supposed to do. If it was just me & him, no problems i would just ignore it but when we have a young family im not having him being so short with them - they dont derserve it... is there nothing to sort this out.. ?? 

       

    • ds
      ds
      Nov. 11, 2012

      Karen- I understand at least you have a choice. I loved my husband dearly. He has had terrible mood swings the past three weeks. I am torn apart, I felt as he was he was going through a mental state of depression. I had no knowledge of this site before hand. His doctor will not talk to me, only if he gives permission and he will not. You are so lucky to have...

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      Karen- I understand at least you have a choice. I loved my husband dearly. He has had terrible mood swings the past three weeks. I am torn apart, I felt as he was he was going through a mental state of depression. I had no knowledge of this site before hand. His doctor will not talk to me, only if he gives permission and he will not. You are so lucky to have a choice for divorce, well I did not he filed because of his own behavior. Stand strong and try to hang in with him.

    • Anonymous
      nomde ;um
      Dec. 30, 2012

      Wow!! I am so glad to read that others have gone thru mood swings with their spouses like I have.  I beleive that some of the mood swings might be linked to the medications my husband takes for his diabetes as well.  He's like a Jekyl and Hyde.  He can be very soft spoken and caring person but when he has a mood swing, lookout!!  He's mean...

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      Wow!! I am so glad to read that others have gone thru mood swings with their spouses like I have.  I beleive that some of the mood swings might be linked to the medications my husband takes for his diabetes as well.  He's like a Jekyl and Hyde.  He can be very soft spoken and caring person but when he has a mood swing, lookout!!  He's mean and spiteful an often exhibits a lot of anger over trivial stuff.  I have my grandkids staying with me for awile and for them to see this behaviour makes m e feel sad for them.   We are all on pins and needels around him.  We never know when he will go off!  Even tho I understand it's the disease it is exasperating having to put up with that; wondering if the next time he won't lash out and cause physical damage to anyone that's around.  I can be there for him but it's awful hard when you are the target that he's taking is anger out on.

    • Diabetic's wife
      Jul. 26, 2013

      I have been with my husband for 19 years (we are both currently in our late 40's) and read about his newly diagnosed, insulin dependent diabetes when we first started dating (1994) so I would know about the illness and how to help him. He, like a lot of diabetics, is constantly in and out of a state of denial. My husband has frequent low blood sugars, mostly...

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      I have been with my husband for 19 years (we are both currently in our late 40's) and read about his newly diagnosed, insulin dependent diabetes when we first started dating (1994) so I would know about the illness and how to help him. He, like a lot of diabetics, is constantly in and out of a state of denial. My husband has frequent low blood sugars, mostly due to his negligence such as not eating, even after he's already taken his needle, or not eating enough to balance out with his insulin. Although most people, doctors included, think I'm crazy, I can literally SEE the changes in his facial structure, his expressions, the look in his eyes and the actually seem more deepset in his head, and I can tell his blood sugar is low. However, he will often deny, to the point of bickering, escalating to actual arguing, that his sugars are low. He will definitely have mood swings, most of which are on the side of anger, suspicion and distrust and have on the rare occassion, escalated to physical anger taken out on inanimate objects such as doors being slammed or grabbed and repeatedly pushed against wall. His outbursts have never to come the point where he has touched a person or house pet physically, but he has gone nose to nose with me, screaming obscenities into my face, his face fire engine red, his hands flying about our heads as I stand there being pelted with spittle. Often I am able, with baby like treatment, to get him to drink a sugared drink, I will add 1/2 cup of table sugar to juice or kool-aid and put it in a bottle with a straw. This prevents him from making a huge mess if he drops it, he often trembles, twitches or jerks while his blood sugars are low. He also often isn't in a position to drink from a bottle so getting the straw into his mouth is sometimes easier that getting cup or bottle to his mouth. When I've tried my best to get him to drink or eat and have not been successful, I call 911 and let them do their job. Then arrive, test his blood sugars and on many occassions they have been amazed that he hasn't fallen into a coma due to his blood sugar's being so low. They have always been successful in bringing his blood sugar back up. Once my husbands blood sugar is back to normal he is embarassed that he's had to have the paramedics come, yet again...and he usually has no memory of what's happened during his time of low blood sugar. When we first started dating 19 years ago, I was sympathetic to his plight of being a diabetic, however over time I have come to realize that he is his own worst enemy when it comes to his diabetes going out of control. This realization has replaced my feelings of sympathy with frustration, anger, disappointment, sadness and depression to hit just the tip of the iceberg. I have made him aware of what happens when his blood sugars drop, to the point that I've taken video of him while he was having a low sugar reaction. He didn't watch 1 minute of the video before he told me to turn it off. I told him NO, I can't turn you off when you're behaving like this, so the least you can do is watch what you're like when your blood sugar goes too low. He apologized for that outburst that he saw on video, but otherwise, he is not prone to apologizing for his behaviour while his blood sugar is low. I find this appalling, offensive and insulting to me...and yet another way he denies to take responsibility for his diabetes. I will not even bring into the picture that we have 3 children, 2 from his 1st marriage and one we have together. Our son unfortunately had to learn about diabetes at a very young age and had to deal with his fathers bouts of low sugar when I worked nights for 5 years. It became that a lot of the 911 responders came to know our son because there were so many calls that he had to make while I was at work. Heartbreaking...there's another word to add to my above list of feelings. I wish I could tell you that it will get better, but until there's a cure, I don't think it will. If anything, it will probably get worse, for the diabetic, and those that endure the mood swings that go with them having low blood sugars. I love my husband, the one that I met 19 years ago...but I find it hard to like, let alone love my husband at times when he's said particularly abusive, insulting, degrading things to me while suffering from his low blood sugars, and it doesn't make it any easier to feel compassion or love when there is no acknowledgement or apology of his behavour once his blood sugar is back to normal, or knowing that it was HIS negligence that allowed his blood sugars to drop to that extent. I hope I've been able to give you some information that you didn't already have, and I'm hoping you're not suffering the same issues with the diabetic in your life. But if you are, just know that even though there may not be a cure...yet...you are not the only person going through these things because someone you love/care about has diabetes. ~Wife of a diabetic

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Jun. 05, 2008

    Karen, thank you for validating the mood swings diabetics certainly have.  I am still trying to convince my children that their father truly loved them, and that it was his illness which caused him to speak to them so harshly, and act in such an aggressive manner to me, and to them, seemingly out of the blue.

    I think when he finally accepted, and got,...

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    Karen, thank you for validating the mood swings diabetics certainly have.  I am still trying to convince my children that their father truly loved them, and that it was his illness which caused him to speak to them so harshly, and act in such an aggressive manner to me, and to them, seemingly out of the blue.

    I think when he finally accepted, and got, greater control over his diabetes, late, but in time for our younger children not to experience the trauma that the older ones did, life was much calmer, and loving.  Have patience, and love, and forgiveness for him,and "there but for the grace of God go I" acceptance, and keep the sugar under strict control, and  things WILL81704 get better.  Love...E

    • Anonymous
      carden
      Oct. 15, 2009
      My husband been diabetic since he was two - we been married for 9 years and together since school, he too gets mood swings a lot of which he has no idea he is like it and its pulling me apart! I have other issues of a special needs child to deal with and im finding it so hard to deal with everything! So I synpathise completly with you xxxx
    • Anonymous
      6 months old
      May. 26, 2010

      I am also dealing with my sons father who has mood swings.  We call it a actual personality chane.  He seems to be a different person.  He seems to not want to be here anymore.  He wants nothing to do with our son or myself anymore.  I don't understand this because we were all very happy until he went on this medicine.  He doesn't...

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      I am also dealing with my sons father who has mood swings.  We call it a actual personality chane.  He seems to be a different person.  He seems to not want to be here anymore.  He wants nothing to do with our son or myself anymore.  I don't understand this because we were all very happy until he went on this medicine.  He doesn't seem to remember or understand that.  This is new to us and I just pray everyday he will be the man I married and love soon again.

    • wendy
      Dec. 01, 2010

      i myself am only a new type 2 diabetic and the mood swings have cost me friendships and at times i just want to pull away from them and my family because when my sugars are level i see what ive been like and its not nice for me or them and you just feel really guilty evan though you couldnt help it so yeah just be there for him strict diet control and do what...

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      i myself am only a new type 2 diabetic and the mood swings have cost me friendships and at times i just want to pull away from them and my family because when my sugars are level i see what ive been like and its not nice for me or them and you just feel really guilty evan though you couldnt help it so yeah just be there for him strict diet control and do what ever the docter says ie exercise,medication or whatever good luck xox wendy

    • Diabetic's wife
      Jul. 26, 2013

      As the wife of a diabetic for 19 years and dealing with his low-blood-sugar-aggression, I can understand how you must feel when it may be brought to your attention how you behaved while your sugar was low. Those that understand diabetes will know that is not the real you, but giving an apology for your (even unbeknownst to you) behaviour/words/actions once...

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      As the wife of a diabetic for 19 years and dealing with his low-blood-sugar-aggression, I can understand how you must feel when it may be brought to your attention how you behaved while your sugar was low. Those that understand diabetes will know that is not the real you, but giving an apology for your (even unbeknownst to you) behaviour/words/actions once your blood sugar is better, is the best route. You may not realize what happened but if you feel your behaviour may have crossed a line, it's always best to apologize. My husband rarely...and I mean RARELY apologizes for what he's said/done while his sugar was low, and that is the real hurt that I feel, not so much what he actually said/did while his sugar was low. And maybe a thank you to the people who may be there to assist bringing your sugar back up when it's low and you're unable to help yourself is also nice. :)

  • Anonymous
    Annie Sloan Hen...
    Apr. 24, 2008

    I was recently (six months) dianoysed type 2 diabetes.  I too have mood swings, depression, crying without cause.  My daughter who is a nurse noticed it and accompanied me to my doctor whose only solution was to increase my Xanax for panic attacks.  Apparently there isn't a lot of research on this side effect of diabetes, it is bad enough to...

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    I was recently (six months) dianoysed type 2 diabetes.  I too have mood swings, depression, crying without cause.  My daughter who is a nurse noticed it and accompanied me to my doctor whose only solution was to increase my Xanax for panic attacks.  Apparently there isn't a lot of research on this side effect of diabetes, it is bad enough to have check my sugar level numerous times daily and carry around an emergency kit of insulin for the highs and glucose tablets for the low levels.  That is enough to cause  a certain amount of anger and depression.  I made an appointment with a counselor to discuss my feelings about the limititations this puts on my life.  My best wishes and prayers to you and your husband because this isn't an individual disease, it effects everyone who loves you.

    Annie

     

    • Suki
      May. 27, 2012

      Thank heaven finally after fifteen years I have found the asnswer to what I have been looking for.  Diabetes does come with personality change, mood swings and a general not understanding that the diabetic paerson has been outragious, rude,unpleasent, hateful and spiteful.  All these things I have experienced swince my dear husband became diabetic. ...

      RHMLucky777

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      Thank heaven finally after fifteen years I have found the asnswer to what I have been looking for.  Diabetes does come with personality change, mood swings and a general not understanding that the diabetic paerson has been outragious, rude,unpleasent, hateful and spiteful.  All these things I have experienced swince my dear husband became diabetic.  The first I notice years ago was when he screamed abuse at me over something trivial, I had never been spoeken to by him like that before and a rather nasty argument took place. That was the beginning after that I truly though that he may have had a rather nasty mental illness, but I insisted that he go to see his doctor after rpeated bouts of getting up and going to the toilet in the night and being thirsty.  Low an behold he was told that he was diabetic and then the nightmare began and has only got worse I am afraid.

      Various medications because he till not toe the line and cheack his blood or basically diet.  I am to walking on eagg shells now and I too lie low and try to escape his eye when he is in a visciousw mood.  What can be done, I am now in my sixties and honestly feel at the end of my tether with all this bad behaviour, then loving, then acussing me of starting an argument, not even remembering I just try these days to get by.  Now I have  a man that only worries about his health, does not even mentions mine, where has my lovely man gone.  I am still in there with a fight, but goodness me we careers because that is what we are, need a medal.

      So yes mood change does take place at regular intervals and the doctors do lie when they say, there is not such a thing as a bad mooded diabetic.

    • Anonymous
      dw
      Oct. 01, 2012
      I see the same thing in my wife. She had legionaires disease about 5 years ago and in all the tests that they ran during her hospital stay they concluded that she also had type 2 diabetes. She was stubborn and thought they were wrong....went thru the type 2 courses and eventually stopped the courses and medication. Since then she has gained weight...let her...
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      I see the same thing in my wife. She had legionaires disease about 5 years ago and in all the tests that they ran during her hospital stay they concluded that she also had type 2 diabetes. She was stubborn and thought they were wrong....went thru the type 2 courses and eventually stopped the courses and medication. Since then she has gained weight...let her teeth decay to the point that 6-8 of her teeth are gone...to include her 4 front upper teeth. And, has significant mood swings where she gets extremely angry using 4 letter words that she's never used before. She's also isolated herself from her friends. Just sits and watches TV all day and all night. And, nothing I do is right in her mind. Would appreciate any thoughts or feedback.
    • Marie
      Apr. 26, 2013

      Marie.....My son is 40 and has type one diabetes.  He developed diabetes in college.  Now married for 13 years and 2 children later he has so much difficulty with sleeping and mood swings.  He takes care of himself but finds it hard to stay asleep at night. so....he is tired during the day and can be grumpy.  I wish there was a way to him...

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      Marie.....My son is 40 and has type one diabetes.  He developed diabetes in college.  Now married for 13 years and 2 children later he has so much difficulty with sleeping and mood swings.  He takes care of himself but finds it hard to stay asleep at night. so....he is tired during the day and can be grumpy.  I wish there was a way to him to sleep through the night.  Any suggestions?

       

    • Diabetic's wife
      Jul. 26, 2013

      I have been with my husband for 19 years (we are both currently in our late 40's) and read about his newly diagnosed, insulin dependent diabetes when we first started dating (1994) so I would know about the illness and how to help him. He, like a lot of diabetics, is constantly in and out of a state of denial. My husband has frequent low blood sugars, mostly...

      RHMLucky777

      Read More

      I have been with my husband for 19 years (we are both currently in our late 40's) and read about his newly diagnosed, insulin dependent diabetes when we first started dating (1994) so I would know about the illness and how to help him. He, like a lot of diabetics, is constantly in and out of a state of denial. My husband has frequent low blood sugars, mostly due to his negligence such as not eating, even after he's already taken his needle, or not eating enough to balance out with his insulin. Although most people, doctors included, think I'm crazy, I can literally SEE the changes in his facial structure, his expressions, the look in his eyes and the actually seem more deepset in his head, and I can tell his blood sugar is low. However, he will often deny, to the point of bickering, escalating to actual arguing, that his sugars are low. He will definitely have mood swings, most of which are on the side of anger, suspicion and distrust and have on the rare occassion, escalated to physical anger taken out on inanimate objects such as doors being slammed or grabbed and repeatedly pushed against wall. His outbursts have never to come the point where he has touched a person or house pet physically, but he has gone nose to nose with me, screaming obscenities into my face, his face fire engine red, his hands flying about our heads as I stand there being pelted with spittle. Often I am able, with baby like treatment, to get him to drink a sugared drink, I will add 1/2 cup of table sugar to juice or kool-aid and put it in a bottle with a straw. This prevents him from making a huge mess if he drops it, he often trembles, twitches or jerks while his blood sugars are low. He also often isn't in a position to drink from a bottle so getting the straw into his mouth is sometimes easier that getting cup or bottle to his mouth. When I've tried my best to get him to drink or eat and have not been successful, I call 911 and let them do their job. Then arrive, test his blood sugars and on many occassions they have been amazed that he hasn't fallen into a coma due to his blood sugar's being so low. They have always been successful in bringing his blood sugar back up. Once my husbands blood sugar is back to normal he is embarassed that he's had to have the paramedics come, yet again...and he usually has no memory of what's happened during his time of low blood sugar. When we first started dating 19 years ago, I was sympathetic to his plight of being a diabetic, however over time I have come to realize that he is his own worst enemy when it comes to his diabetes going out of control. This realization has replaced my feelings of sympathy with frustration, anger, disappointment, sadness and depression to hit just the tip of the iceberg. I have made him aware of what happens when his blood sugars drop, to the point that I've taken video of him while he was having a low sugar reaction. He didn't watch 1 minute of the video before he told me to turn it off. I told him NO, I can't turn you off when you're behaving like this, so the least you can do is watch what you're like when your blood sugar goes too low. He apologized for that outburst that he saw on video, but otherwise, he is not prone to apologizing for his behaviour while his blood sugar is low. I find this appalling, offensive and insulting to me...and yet another way he denies to take responsibility for his diabetes. I will not even bring into the picture that we have 3 children, 2 from his 1st marriage and one we have together. Our son unfortunately had to learn about diabetes at a very young age and had to deal with his fathers bouts of low sugar when I worked nights for 5 years. It became that a lot of the 911 responders came to know our son because there were so many calls that he had to make while I was at work. Heartbreaking...there's another word to add to my above list of feelings. I wish I could tell you that it will get better, but until there's a cure, I don't think it will. If anything, it will probably get worse, for the diabetic, and those that endure the mood swings that go with them having low blood sugars. I love my husband, the one that I met 19 years ago...but I find it hard to like, let alone love my husband at times when he's said particularly abusive, insulting, degrading things to me while suffering from his low blood sugars, and it doesn't make it any easier to feel compassion or love when there is no acknowledgement or apology of his behavour once his blood sugar is back to normal, or knowing that it was HIS negligence that allowed his blood sugars to drop to that extent. I hope I've been able to give you some information that you didn't already have, and I'm hoping you're not suffering the same issues with the diabetic in your life. But if you are, just know that even though there may not be a cure...yet...you are not the only person going through these things because someone you love/care about has diabetes. ~Wife of a diabetic

    • Anonymous
      Aromanova
      Oct. 18, 2013

      Hi my husband has type 2 diabetes and I am in my sixties - he is a nightmare to live with it is a milestone birthday for me tomorrow and just becuase I said te wrong thing he became abusive! A total nightmare and has gone to bed for the rest of day and refuses to eat!  Please help - A

    • Suki
      May. 27, 2012

      Thank heaven finally after fifteen years I have found the asnswer to what I have been looking for.  Diabetes does come with personality change, mood swings and a general not understanding that the diabetic paerson has been outragious, rude,unpleasent, hateful and spiteful.  All these things I have experienced swince my dear husband became diabetic. ...

      RHMLucky777

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      Thank heaven finally after fifteen years I have found the asnswer to what I have been looking for.  Diabetes does come with personality change, mood swings and a general not understanding that the diabetic paerson has been outragious, rude,unpleasent, hateful and spiteful.  All these things I have experienced swince my dear husband became diabetic.  The first I notice years ago was when he screamed abuse at me over something trivial, I had never been spoeken to by him like that before and a rather nasty argument took place. That was the beginning after that I truly though that he may have had a rather nasty mental illness, but I insisted that he go to see his doctor after rpeated bouts of getting up and going to the toilet in the night and being thirsty.  Low an behold he was told that he was diabetic and then the nightmare began and has only got worse I am afraid.

      Various medications because he till not toe the line and cheack his blood or basically diet.  I am to walking on eagg shells now and I too lie low and try to escape his eye when he is in a visciousw mood.  What can be done, I am now in my sixties and honestly feel at the end of my tether with all this bad behaviour, then loving, then acussing me of starting an argument, not even remembering I just try these days to get by.  Now I have  a man that only worries about his health, does not even mentions mine, where has my lovely man gone.  I am still in there with a fight, but goodness me we careers because that is what we are, need a medal.

      So yes mood change does take place at regular intervals and the doctors do lie when they say, there is not such a thing as a bad mooded diabetic.

    • PASTOR'S WIFE
      Oct. 23, 2012

      I was praying for answers, wisdom and found this site.  I feel like you all are extended family now.  As a newly wed, sixty yr old female I was beginning to wonder if I had made a tragic life mistake.  Now I am willing to fight a good fight of faith for my husband....and pray more every day.  He is a good man, a loving man, and has been...

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      I was praying for answers, wisdom and found this site.  I feel like you all are extended family now.  As a newly wed, sixty yr old female I was beginning to wonder if I had made a tragic life mistake.  Now I am willing to fight a good fight of faith for my husband....and pray more every day.  He is a good man, a loving man, and has been thru a lot.  He deserves the freedom from this horrible disease.

    • Anonymous
      Mom4444
      Dec. 03, 2012
      As a Christian how should we forgive, support, love our diabetic partners through these mood swings without hardening our hearts to protect ourselves from being hurt?
    • boodles
      Jul. 19, 2013

      I am a christian also. I talked to my husband about it last night. I again asked him to tell me when he is low or high with blood sugar. Then I wil remove myself from the room . I told him I will do that. When I sifted thid through the word of god  I knew that god wants us to be kind patient and self controlled in response

      I need to pray for my husband....

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      I am a christian also. I talked to my husband about it last night. I again asked him to tell me when he is low or high with blood sugar. Then I wil remove myself from the room . I told him I will do that. When I sifted thid through the word of god  I knew that god wants us to be kind patient and self controlled in response

      I need to pray for my husband. I love him. God does not want me to giv up on my marriage

       

       

       

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    • Anonymous
      my mothers keeper
      Mar. 13, 2013

      I am so thankful I found this site.  I too deal with my Mother having mood swings.  All my life I admired her because she was such a strong woman, would help anyone, and would listen to people's problems.  Now she, at 88yrs old, and being a diabetic for 30yrs., has changed so much.  she has been living with me for 7 yrs but in the last 2...

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      I am so thankful I found this site.  I too deal with my Mother having mood swings.  All my life I admired her because she was such a strong woman, would help anyone, and would listen to people's problems.  Now she, at 88yrs old, and being a diabetic for 30yrs., has changed so much.  she has been living with me for 7 yrs but in the last 2 yrs. after she broke her hip, she has had some extreme negative moods.  I am trying so hard to not be disrespectful to her when she has one of these spells.  She will be self-condemning, name calling, cursing at me, wanting to die, etc.  I just have to be kind and just let her get thru it.   A little while later I can say something to her and she will be just as kind as can be.  It is a hard up and down lifestyle for me and my husband.  We are stressed a lot because we never know when she will go into one of her bad moods.  I had been trying to excuse these episodes away because of her diabetes, now I know I'm not the only one dealing with this.  She has become extremely anti-social even to her own grand & great grand children.   I took her for blood work this morning, afterwards I tried to get her to go to McDonalds or any easy in-easy out place to get some breakfast.  She got so mad because I wanted her to get out of the house and see something else besides the tv and her room walls.  I just don't know how to help her get our of this negative mentality.  I pray a lot and try to just sing praises to God until the bad times pass.      AGAIN, THANKS SO MUCH FOR THIS SITE!!!   It has helped me understand what is happening to my Mother.

    • Meki
      Nov. 10, 2013

      Hi suki

      I'm in the exact same situation as you are. My husband acts exactly the same way your husband does. Please have you got any ideas as to what I can do?