I contracted the big D when I was 26 years old and am now 60 and doing well.
At the age of 21 (probably pre-diabetic) I had my first child, with 3 children following birthed when I was 33, 35 and 39. During my pregnancies I don't remember any complications (memory probably fails me) but I know that I actually experienced some of my best control. We didn't have the pump back then just a video cassette sized blood meter. (Can you imagine?)
My children were all over 9 lbs which was a strain, the 3rd one being 10lb9oz). My first and last were natural births and the two inbetween c-sections. My docs were terrific, very humane people. I did have LOW blood sugars right after they were born and then experienced a "honeymoon" period of no insulin for a day or so. That was fun.
I would say the more difficult time occured after the baby was born as my levels and my hormones were off. Having help the first month is the best advice I can recommend... lots of rest with the baby, enjoying the experience not trying to "RESUME" your normal life asap. That's someone's idea that to me is unnatural. Your life is never the same after having a baby...your whole idea of love is expanded and should be enjoyed, not fought as an interruption of your independence. Keeping that thought in my mind slowed me down, helped me keep on top of my diabetes and enabled me to breast feed successfully. My husband was incredible during our baby years, doing all the shopping, etc until I was back to myself physically which was about 6 weeks.
Perhaps you are imagining me as a relatively inactive person. During these years I played on 2 soccer teams, worked 1/2 time (taking a year off for each baby) and worked out at a gym, regularly. I always put my diabetes first, you have to in order to enjoy your family. Have to say tho' that physical activity has always been a pleasure and I took the opportunity as much as possible. My husband played soccer on the same team so the kids were always amongst people we knew on the sidelines. Horse-back riding (3 horses at home), soccer, gym, teaching, sounds like I ignored the children, but Alex and I played tag team for years, each working half time so the
kids were with us. I hope I've helped you sharing this. I think diabetes is nothing to fool around with, that it has to be monitored hourly and by the minute sometimes.
It is a juggling act that requires your attention, as well as your family's. I wish you the best with your decision.