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I am sorry you were told false information. You need your wife to help you get through your struggles with diabetes.  You wife will not raise your blood sugar.  I am married and my husband doesn't cause my blood sugar to rise.  Stress, eating a lot of carbs and junk will cause your blood sugar to rise.  I hope this helps.

 

Cherise

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What? Do you mean to ask if Avoiding sex is helpful to your diabetes? NO. It is good exercise and stimulates circulation and nerve paths that are beneficial to your condition. If anything, MORE of the wifee would be a good idea and perhaps help with the grieving that we all go through as we experience loss of our normal lives that we had before DM. One of those losses as a man is a decrease in sexual performance ability (erectile dysfunction) (inability to get hard). Levitra works well for many. What is actually worse is the decrease in Sexual Drive and Interest that I know has affected me. It wouldn't be so bad if it was just erectile dysfunction but the loss of interest seems so much more to bear. Life seems to get pretty boring that way and depression can be a big factor. What can I say? Suicide is much higher in the Diabetic population. Men are statistically at greater risk for suicide as elders. I also have retrograde ejaculation due to Diabetes. Something about the loss of muscle tone in the bladder neck around the prostate that makes it to where the semen does not come up through the penis but flows backwards into my bladder and is expelled in my urine. It was quite an adjustment when I realized that absolutely nothing came out when I masturbated! As far as I know there is really no effective treatment for this and it happened about at the same time that I started having problems getting hard. How do you deal with these losses? One I got a big dog and started walking more. Two I kept busy with work and projects that gave me a sense of satisfaction when I completed them. Three I made more of an effort to keep in touch with friends and family. Four I started taking the BEST care of myself that I could. Keeping my blood sugar in control could have forestalled or avoided these problems perhaps but better late than never and stricter control is better. Staying on my diet and watching the size of my portions to avoid postprandial spikes after eating became more important. Avoiding the pizza might have been all I needed to do years ago but at least now its only one piece if any! Meanwhile its too late for me in regards to the neuropathy and the sexual dysfunction - those things are irreversible. Be sure to see an Opthamologist ad have your eyes checked - retinopathy is also irreversible as well as the damage that can be done to your kidneys and heart. But staying away from your wife? Absolutely not - commuication is the key and unfortunately it is difficult for many men to simply talk about it. We have to let our partners know and explain so that they can understand the difficulties we are experiencing physically and emotionally about the changes we are having due to Diabetes. It is not easy. I would imagine a few marriages have broken up over it as wives or partners may find it essential to them to continue an active sex life that we just can not offer them anymore. But there is so much more to life that these losses cannot take away from me!