Can You Help Those Who Don’t Want To Help Themselves?

For example using Peter as the person we want to help, I would follow this 5 step process.

[1. Look Back Into The PAST] "Peter, remember years ago when you were so full of life? I remember you danced all night at my wedding and how everyone loved to be around you. I imagined us getting old together and sharing stories of our past.

[2. Bring It Back to the PRESENT] Right now Peter your life is in danger and I'm so sad because I cannot begin to imagine life without you, you don't exercise, eat and drink too much and this is what is happening as a result (_____state the details here be specific, leave nothing)

[3. Now Take Them To a Bleak FUTURE] If you don't change now, can you imagine what would happen a year from now or even 5 years from now? (go through the possible consequences here, don't spare any details, make this very explicit, have them close their eyes and imagine the vivid details of a painful future that waits if they don't change)

[4. Now Bring Them Back To The Present] But Peter this has not happened and you can prevent that future from happening. I care and love you so much and we can turn things around. If we get you started on a healthy lifestyle right this moment, you will have a very different future awaiting for you.

[5. Now Take Them To a Hopeful more compelling FUTURE] Imagine yourself a year from now with your brand new body and life, you have more energy than you ever imagined, your diabetes is gone, you are dating, traveling, dancing and enjoying life to its fullest. You look yourself in the mirror and love what you see" (use your imagination to get them excited about a new future)

This process is not just about diet and exercise it's more about changing the thinking and psychology which will ensure long term success. I strongly suggest you see a physician to be cleared for any physical activity. This is especially necessary for inactive people with medical conditions. Also you can easily use the money you were going to spend on the fat farm and use it to hire a good trainer and a nutritionist. These are professionals who will personalize their nutrition and exercise regimen. Make them part of the team which will result in long term success. My prayers and best wishes to you.

Move Your Body, Move Your Life

Kenn Kihiu

http://www.dancexfitness.com/