I (23) have been married for over a year now; My husband (37) has been suffering from ED for about two years. The doctors claim it is caused by a dammaged nerve as the result of a botched hernia surgery and few years ago. It appears we have exhausted all of our options except surgery.

Our marraige has suffered greatly. While I know that there is something physically wrong, I cant help but feel rejected almost everynight. We were not able to have sex on our wedding night. The doctor gave him Viagra; he refuses to take it on a regular basis. And now, he has procrastinated for weeks on the surgery. He is afraid it will do more dammage than good.

It has come to me picking fights over nothing- HUGE fights that end with me crying my eyes out trying to convince myself that he doesnt love me. I think that if he didnt love me it would allow me to give up. But I know he does; and I love him too. I just cant fix this problem for us. I am used to being able to fix the problems. I feel like I have no contol over this situation. I just want it to be better. It has been so long, and I just dont know what to do.