Need Advice about ED

By ooruler Monday, February 23, 2009

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I'm 28 years old and I have been having trouble with ED ever since I have become sexually active. When the time comes for me to be intimate I get an overwhelming nervous feeling that prevents me from performing. I just feel that I will come up short some how and because of this my erections are hard to get and don't last. I can get an erection easily when I'm not in a situation where I am expected to perform. I guess when I'm under no pressure I'm able to fully relax. I’m certain that my problem is psychological but I just don't know what to do about it. I feel to embarrassed to speak about it with anyone because I am an attractive and well off guy who people generally assume has a lot of success with women. I recently met a woman who I do find attractive and we click very well. When the time came that she wanted to be intimate the nervous feelings just overwhelmed me and it wasn’t the sexually experience she was expecting. Now she feels that I'm not actually attracted to her and is losing interest in me. I don't want this to ruin what looks to be a good relationship and I don't want to this problem to cause me to keep ruining relationships.

What should I do?

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narah

2/25/09 7:33am

Hi, I am also going thru the same thing what you mentioned except that am 29. I am thinking of trying pills (viagra) to start with. People say it works for 2/3rd guys. Also kegel exercise is something i am starting now. Let me know if you find any other solution.

Anonymous

2/25/09 12:38pm

I too had this problem when I was younger. I thought it might be psychological, but I found there were other causes of ED for me also - taking Tagamet or decongestants (Contac) for example. There are lists of drugs that add to the problem. I started taking Viagra but it didn't work very well. I now take Levitra - it works every time and I did find that initially I needed 20 mg but have cut back to 10 mg since starting the blood pressure medicine Benicar. This is one of the blood pressure medicines that does not add to the ED problem.

goatcheese

4/ 8/09 10:24am

I have an almost exact situation. The irony is that your post was posted on my bday and I am a year older. I have seen a doctor and they say its all mental. But that doesn't help me do my business. I have started going to the gym because it boosts my circulation and confidence, and it does help sexually but it is not full proof. The worst part is that I have had a steady relationship for a few years and it took over a year for her to believe that I actually had been telling the truth.... that I just can't maintain or even get erect. More pressure is added knowing that none of her past relationships had NO poblem. I would rather be alone than keep suffering this. If there is any help or advise please post it soon.

Anonymous

4/14/09 10:38pm

Same situation. I went through this for a month or so with my ex a few years ago and problem was solved after learning to relax and becoming more comfortable with her. Between her and my current gf... I had no problem with messing around with some people that I was not going to have a real relationship with. Now with a gf, I am back to having the problem... trying to relax is pretty much the goal. The first couple trys were tough and then it's been on and off. When things don't workout... she starts to think I am not interested in her. I try to explain but don't have many answers for her. Other than this issue, we have a great relationship. I seem to only have this problem with people I really care about which drives me insane and only makes the problem worse. ONE THING FOR EVERYONE IS TO NEVER GIVE UP!! You know whether or not you are really attracted to and care about the person! TRY TO FIND WAYS TO RELAX AND REFOCUS WHEN BEING INTIMATE!! One thing that worked in the past is if things were beginning to go south... I would slow down or stop trying for intercourse for a few minutes and just focus on kissing or doing something else until I was relaxed enough to try again.... THIS HELPS but is not always full proof. Knowing that I made it through this before, helps me to know I can do it again, but I worry soo much about the person I am currently with and if she can be patient with me. I hope I can help and inspire someone. If it's a physical thing see a doctor. If a mental issue try some simple tips first and if not see a doctor for advice.

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