How do I help my husband?

deswife08 Community Member October 23, 2008
  • I am 42 and my husband is 57 with ED.  It's been a 6 year journey to today.  We've tried all the pills, lotions, potions, injections, etc.  Nothing seems to work anymore.  His desire is there but it just doesn't happen very often anymore.  He does have high blood pressure, cholesterol and diabetes (takes pills)  He is thinking that surgery is the only option left to do.  It's so permanent and I'm not sure he's ready for that.  Nor I for that matter.  I miss sex don't get me wrong. But it's really seperated us and made it uncomfortable to be intimate at all.  Anyone else with similar issue? 

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  • Loobyloo
    Aug. 27, 2014
    My husband is 56 and I am 43. My husband is a type 1 diabetic, and has been for 36 years. About 7 years ago my husband decided to speak to our doctor as he felt that his erections were not lasting, and was prescribed Viagra, which has been a great help. However, over the last 6 months things have started to deteriorate, similar to what was happening before...
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    My husband is 56 and I am 43. My husband is a type 1 diabetic, and has been for 36 years. About 7 years ago my husband decided to speak to our doctor as he felt that his erections were not lasting, and was prescribed Viagra, which has been a great help. However, over the last 6 months things have started to deteriorate, similar to what was happening before he got the Viagra, and he is getting very frustrated. We are trying different ways of being intimate, I suppose experimenting more. He finds that talking more whilst being intimate can be a great help. I suppose it's 'until you've tried' you don't know. It is hard, and I have blamed myself, but he assures me, it's not me. I really feel for him. But I'm sure we'll keep trying. However, anyone with any advise, would be great to hear from you.
  • Cynthia
    Aug. 02, 2014
    My man loses erection. I'm sure it's me tal since periodically he can finish. He pushes me away. In 4 yrs i've probably broken down 4 times and asked what i'm doing wrong and crying. He wants to sleep with someone else to prove it works. What am i to do? From a mans point of view, what can i say to him? I feel as though it might work the first few times but...
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    My man loses erection. I'm sure it's me tal since periodically he can finish. He pushes me away. In 4 yrs i've probably broken down 4 times and asked what i'm doing wrong and crying. He wants to sleep with someone else to prove it works. What am i to do? From a mans point of view, what can i say to him? I feel as though it might work the first few times but he would have discarded our relationship for nothing. He refuses to get help. Help me understand?
  • rg14
    Jul. 17, 2014

    If your husband is on blood pressure meds they can flush important nutrients out of body like zinc which is important to maintain levels of testosterone. My husband has tried this and what a difference. His desire is back and we now make love three times a week with no difficulty when before it once a week with many challenges.

  • Garrett hnatiuk
    Jun. 24, 2014

    Erectile Dysfunction is not a big issue. It is treated easily. Don't worry he will be fine. I think you should discuss this with your family doctor and see what all things he recommend for this.

  • Anonymous
    ANNIEMAY
    Jun. 02, 2014

    THANKS FOR SHARING I AM 42 AND MY HUSBAND IS 56 AND ON DIALYSIS!!!!!!1

  • RG
    RG
    May. 30, 2014

    I am a 37 year old who's having erection problems with a condom on with my 24 year old sexmate.I also have sex with my kids mom unprotected & our sex is great but i really love my sexmate(girlfriend).I dont want sex to determine whom im with but its important to me.I take viagra with my sexmate & its still unsuccessful.Somebody help me.

  • Anonymous
    Stillluvnhim
    May. 09, 2014
    I am going on 39 and my fiancé going on 43 and we are here already. He has told me previously that he has a lot on his mind- parent deciding to not do chemo and ultimately given time to live, sibling issues and being the only boy feeling the need to "fix things", job stressors and our own financial stressors- all I have been able to see in the past six months;...
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    I am going on 39 and my fiancé going on 43 and we are here already. He has told me previously that he has a lot on his mind- parent deciding to not do chemo and ultimately given time to live, sibling issues and being the only boy feeling the need to "fix things", job stressors and our own financial stressors- all I have been able to see in the past six months; then this past week because I've been thinking it's me or another woman and am sick of feeling this way, when I brought it up he told me that it is not me or any other woman and he realized that he doesn't even wake up with an erection any more! I was somewhat surprised though almost relieved... I know he hasn't had an interest in sex and sleeps mostly when he's home (he is up for work at 2 and out by 3) though I knew when he said that it was a physical and psychological issue not me. I may be ranting though I needed to get this out in a space where other women understand because I will not speak to even my closest friend about this issue with my soon to be husband! Yet, I was reading and seeing my feelings and thoughts in your stories like we don't go out together any more and intimacy is strange (well some times) and I feel good to not be alone, while still sad for him and a little afraid what this means for our 3 months away marriage! He says that things will be better soon and we'll be alright by tr time we get married... like I told him "I DON'T SEE IT"... I don't know Ladies!
  • HOPE~less
    Mar. 30, 2014

    OH yes, My Dear, do NOT feel alone! I don't think that actually helps you and your husband's situation, nor mine and myself either. But as with you, we have tried it all, minus surgery of course. Actually I am to the end of my rope with 'idea's' to attempt to help or assit him. And he has become very bitter and even hateful most of the time. I assure him, that...

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    OH yes, My Dear, do NOT feel alone! I don't think that actually helps you and your husband's situation, nor mine and myself either. But as with you, we have tried it all, minus surgery of course. Actually I am to the end of my rope with 'idea's' to attempt to help or assit him. And he has become very bitter and even hateful most of the time. I assure him, that it is not his fault and that I will stick with him no matter what, ...I mean, that is over the erectile dysfunction part, but I just do not know really how much longer I can take the imposed 'guilt' trips, that if I would just do something more or different, I could surely help him. And I have tried, believe me I have tried. So in my own mind, I have just simply come to accept that there is nothing out there that will help and I am doomed to a 'sex-less' marriage. The only thing that concerns me, is the part in some men's minds that make them thing that IF they tried a new partner, you know cheating on the wife, that perhaps some kind of 'evil sneaking around sex' would solve his issue. Even that did not help him, as the 'other woman' actually came up to me, and asked me, yes me, to get my husband out of her life. Believe that!? She just thought she wanted him, until she found out that he can not 'function down there' even with her. In that area, my trust has been blown to pieces, but I tried very hard to understand, his thought pattern, about it and stuck around. And yes, this E.D. has pulled us so fall apart, that most of the time, we do not even go anywhere together, or if I attempt a conversation with him I get 'WHAT DO YOU WANT NOW!?" or something to that effect. I really feel that he just feels better transferring the 'blame' onto me, that his own sexual organ refuses to function at all anymore. Many days I want to just sit down and boo-hoo, but really what good would that do...I am so out of ideas and feel so totally hopeless.

    • RG
      RG
      May. 30, 2014

      Im 37 & feel like your husband & going through whats he is going through.I watch porn & can make myself have orgasms but can keep an erection long enough to have sex.My problem we dont try enough.Twice a month.I had sex with another female & its the total opposite cause she makes me feel wanted.If you support him in trying over & over again...

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      Im 37 & feel like your husband & going through whats he is going through.I watch porn & can make myself have orgasms but can keep an erection long enough to have sex.My problem we dont try enough.Twice a month.I had sex with another female & its the total opposite cause she makes me feel wanted.If you support him in trying over & over again then you done your part.Any negative talking during attempts kills it

  • blkbrew
    Mar. 09, 2014

    I'm having some ED issue.? But im trying some Erexicilin I like what its doing for me.I also found if you are taking H.B.P.Med like Ateenolol 100 MG you have to get off them.  70%  of who take it get ED. Atenolol 100 mg or thing like is a bayta blockers. I'm going to ask my Dr. about (Cozaar) Help Improve Erectile, with H.B.P. 

     

     

  • Over Waiting
    Feb. 13, 2014

    I've been with my fiance for 10+ years. Its been over 6 months since we've had any kind of intimacy. I get a pop kiss & a hug sometimes. He has said he will go to the Dr but still hasn't. He shys away from me if I get too close or pretends like I'm tickling him & moves away. He has NO interest in pleasuring me at all. I think he is being greedy &...

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    I've been with my fiance for 10+ years. Its been over 6 months since we've had any kind of intimacy. I get a pop kiss & a hug sometimes. He has said he will go to the Dr but still hasn't. He shys away from me if I get too close or pretends like I'm tickling him & moves away. He has NO interest in pleasuring me at all. I think he is being greedy & inconsiderate. I'm at the point of leaving. I am so angry with him & we don't communicate at all either. I love him & miss our love life emencely, but I can't live like this any more. I'm ready to let him go so he can find someone he's attracted to enough to have sex with. I don't need a roommate- I need a man.

    • Amanda
      Feb. 17, 2014

      Maybe he is having an affair.

    • Anonymous
      in2meonly
      Mar. 12, 2014

      I am in tears, I just turned 27 and have been dealing with this for 4 years now with my husband. we have been married for a little over a year, and havent had sex in 8 months. he just refuses to go to the doctors and blames it on everything else!

       

  • Anonymous
    Teresa
    Dec. 11, 2013

    i want to say thank you to the source of my happiness DR Lawrence.I want to say a very big thanks and appreciation to DR Lawrence for casting a love spell that brought back my ex boyfriend in 3days what will i have done if not for you DR Lawrence am really grateful for all your help once again thank you very much email drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail.com

  • Anonymous
    Sos
    Oct. 09, 2013

    Hello Ladies. I am 25 and my husband is 35.  He had several sexual partners in the past with no problem, until it came to me. We were married only for several months now but we have this issue. I know he feels so bad about it, and now his mind is programmed that he might not get it up! I am still having a hard time dealing with it, since like the rest...

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    Hello Ladies. I am 25 and my husband is 35.  He had several sexual partners in the past with no problem, until it came to me. We were married only for several months now but we have this issue. I know he feels so bad about it, and now his mind is programmed that he might not get it up! I am still having a hard time dealing with it, since like the rest of you I just felt unattractive. Yet we went to the Doctor and he mentioned the Masters & Johnson Technique. It is all in his head. and what we needed to do it remove this idea from his head, so he can be able to perform well. You will need a lot of patience, but trust me if you really love your husband it is worth while. Just google the technique and it will tell you how to proceed. So far we have been doing 60% better than when we first started having this issue!

     

    Hope this helps.

     

    Tc.

     

     

    • maria smith
      Nov. 08, 2013

      My name is Maria Smith ,From USA ,and I’m happily married with a lovely husband and three children.I had a very big problem with my husband few months ago,to the extent that he even packed his things away from our house. He left I and  my kids for almost 5 months,and i tried all my possible best and effort to bring him back.I discussed it with a...

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      My name is Maria Smith ,From USA ,and I’m happily married with a lovely husband and three children.I had a very big problem with my husband few months ago,to the extent that he even packed his things away from our house. He left I and  my kids for almost 5 months,and i tried all my possible best and effort to bring him back.I discussed it with a very good friend of mine,and he gave me an advice concerning a spell caster, that he is the only one that can handle my situations and problem,that he’s always ready and able to do anything related to spell casting and helping of the needy, Pls every every one i would like you all to contact him with his email address,which is as follows. dr.okpokospellhome@gmail.com  I never believed in spell casting,but My friend convinced me and i had no choice than to follow my friend advice,because i never dreamed of loosing my lovely Husband. And i contacted him with his email address,and i discussed with him all my problems and worries and so surprisingly,he told me that I’ll get my husband back a day after. I didn't believed Him, until when i got home,the next day,my husband called me to inform me that he is coming back home…..So Amazing!! That’s how i got my back through spell casting and our relationship was stronger than ever. One of the price i was asked to pay was to tell it to the people around me that problems like this,can always be solved by Okpoko. So! my advice to you out there is to visit this same E-mail address,and tell him your problems too,if you are in any condition related to love issue or getting your ex back or and problem at all, pls Contact him and have a happy life. you can contact him via email (dr.okpokospellhome@gmail.com )

  • Anonymous
    Eirn Marthala
    Oct. 04, 2013

     

    My father In law who was diagonalize with Prostate cancer and he was at the point of death with Prostate cancer that was in it final stage is now healthy
    and back alive, so strong and sound in his healthy. He is so healthy now. Thanks to Rick Simpson cannabis oil that we used in curing his cancer at:
    ricksimpsoncannabisoil@outlook.com, his Hemp oil was...

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    My father In law who was diagonalize with Prostate cancer and he was at the point of death with Prostate cancer that was in it final stage is now healthy
    and back alive, so strong and sound in his healthy. He is so healthy now. Thanks to Rick Simpson cannabis oil that we used in curing his cancer at:
    ricksimpsoncannabisoil@outlook.com, his Hemp oil was successfully used in curing my father in-law Prostate cancer within 3 months as stated in the dosage
    information provided by rick simpson.
    Once again i want to thank rick for his wonderful Hemp Oil, the family is now in great unity with so much hope of spending the Christmas in peace and
    tranquility because the joy of the family which is our father in-law is back alive, strong and healthy.
    you can contact for your medication at: ricksimpsoncannabisoil@outlook.com
    Eirn Marthala, Ireland Europe

  • Anonymous
    WKM1506
    May. 02, 2013
    My boyfriend and I have been together for four months...living together for one month. He is 48 and I am 42. We are both fairly recently divorced, both after a 20+ year marriage. We are very much in love, very compatible, best friends, partners, ... and this is the real deal. Early on, the sex was amazing: physically, emotionally, mentally, and even spiritually....
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    My boyfriend and I have been together for four months...living together for one month. He is 48 and I am 42. We are both fairly recently divorced, both after a 20+ year marriage. We are very much in love, very compatible, best friends, partners, ... and this is the real deal. Early on, the sex was amazing: physically, emotionally, mentally, and even spiritually. I later learned he had been using an injectable treatment before sex. (Found it in the bathroom drawer) The sex quickly declined in quantity, but not quality. We have sex about once a week (with the injection still his secret weapon) I always initiate though. Sometimes he will, in various ways, avoid situations that may lead to sex. But other times, he will proceed to pleasure me (oral/digit) but won't let me touch him - saying 'wait until tonight' - which rarely happens. I have gotten him to reach orgasm twice without erection. Once oral and once by hand (with awkward fumbling and frustrating back and forth communication, but it worked out in the end) and he was soft as could be. How do I tell him that I am ok with pleasing him without him being hard and am willing to learn how. Will that make things worse? I do love penetration sex A lOT and I think he has picked up on that a little more than I realized. But I want him to feel good, I don't care how. He does the same for me.
  • Esperance
    Apr. 08, 2013
    This question could be my own. Thank you.
  • Kis
    Kis
    Mar. 29, 2013

    I'm 24 yrs old I am an manager at a hair salon the money is ok it gets me by.. I have a two yr old daughter and I've known now that I was pregnant for about a month. my 1st choice was to keep the baby. But later i was second guessing my choice, because the father which iss my lover has turned me down and told me that he has nothing to do with me anymore. I...

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    I'm 24 yrs old I am an manager at a hair salon the money is ok it gets me by.. I have a two yr old daughter and I've known now that I was pregnant for about a month. my 1st choice was to keep the baby. But later i was second guessing my choice, because the father which iss my lover has turned me down and told me that he has nothing to do with me anymore. I was sad and sick everyday, crying. my bf whom i love with my blood is has left me and our daughter lives but the relationship is no more. so few weeks later after we seperated, a friend told me about a spell lady who has helped her before in bringing her lover back. I had to contact the spell lady on my own case just to bring my lover back. my family is really religious and they already have a strike against me for being pregnant outside of marriage so if I was or do get an abortion they probably wouldn't deal with me. I have a lot on my plate and no choice but to meet the spell lady at priestessifaa@yahoo.com, My story changed with her spell. everything turned around, after she did the spell, my lover came back begging me to let him come back and make things right. I was more surprise than you reading this knowing that my dream came through. The best news is that my weeding date has been fixed so my unborn going to be given birth to not as a bastard.
    Priestess Ifaa has changed my story. I am forever indebted to her.

    • stacey
      Apr. 06, 2013

      great spell caster says:

      i want to thank God for using dr okakagbe as my source of saviour after 2year of joblessness and my lover left me alone for 2 years,Have just been heart broken until i go in contact with dr okakagbe after i saw a ladies testimony on how she was helped by this same dr donkbaba,So i decided to get in contact with him and when i told him...

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      great spell caster says:

      i want to thank God for using dr okakagbe as my source of saviour after 2year of joblessness and my lover left me alone for 2 years,Have just been heart broken until i go in contact with dr okakagbe after i saw a ladies testimony on how she was helped by this same dr donkbaba,So i decided to get in contact with him and when i told him all my problems he laughed and said this is not a problem that everything will be ok in 3days time.Exactly the 3rd day my ex lover called me i was shocked and what surprise me the most was that a company i applied for over 4month called me and said i should resume work as soon as possible.Am so grateful to dr donkbaba if you wish in contacting him ACOGBESPELLTEMPLE@GMAIL.COM or is cell number +23481516885231

  • Anonymous
    worksforus
    Mar. 02, 2013

    our situation is quite different than most here.... My wife and I have been married for 30 years. We love each other more than anything. Soulmates so to speak...we had always had a very active and fulfilling sex life.

    I was diagnosed with prostate cancer 5 years ago and had to undergo surgery to have my prostate removed. The surgeon had to remove some of the...

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    our situation is quite different than most here.... My wife and I have been married for 30 years. We love each other more than anything. Soulmates so to speak...we had always had a very active and fulfilling sex life.

    I was diagnosed with prostate cancer 5 years ago and had to undergo surgery to have my prostate removed. The surgeon had to remove some of the nerves. This left me with permanent ED......... I am unable to sustain any type of erection and also lost length when flacid. The only hope is an implant which insurance does not cover and it is unaffordable.

    My wife and I have discussed possibilities and solutions. I told her that I loved her and did not want her to live a sexless life because I had to....... I told her I would not object to her having sex with another man as long as I was aware of the encounter. In the past 2 years she has had sex with 3 different men. We have become friends with these men and they all know that they are there only as surrogates for intercourse and not as "lovers". I provide the love and emotional support, they provide the penis.

    I know this is unconventional but it works for us. There is no jealousy involved and we are as madly in love now as the day we got married. The only other option would be for her to live a sexless life because if the cards I've been dealt and I would not want that for her.

    • Anonymous
      Liz
      Mar. 01, 2014
      True love.....extreme love & self-less.
    • anniemay
      Jun. 02, 2014

      Thank you so much for sharing that story. Not nearly enough men can say that they love their wife enough to allow her to have such a pleasure, even though he can't provide it. She is very blessed to have you. Thanks again for sharing "Our story". It doesn't belong to anyone else.

  • sam
    sam
    Jan. 02, 2013

    OH Gosh where to start, my husband had ed through being diagosed with diabetes (which turned out to be Pancreatic cancer and he has been dead for 6 1/2 years) He lost the ability to have an erection later on and we were more like sister and brother but sooo much in love it didn't matter.  I had then no knowledge of a man's ability to have an orgasm and...

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    OH Gosh where to start, my husband had ed through being diagosed with diabetes (which turned out to be Pancreatic cancer and he has been dead for 6 1/2 years) He lost the ability to have an erection later on and we were more like sister and brother but sooo much in love it didn't matter.  I had then no knowledge of a man's ability to have an orgasm and ejaculate without an errection - which i learned on here. 

    Move on to know,. .. and I have back in my life a man from 22 years ago and we previously enjoyed a very active sex life. He has been diagnosed with diabettes and has a lower limb amputation and ED. I have managed to allow him to enjoy both orgasm and ejaculation but we are both left feeling Bereft that to penetration is able between us. I have asked and he has said he will go to the clinic for help but has not made any inroads to this happening and now we have limited intimacy.. . since i last asked HELP its driving me nutts Maisie   

    • Anonymous
      sam
      Jan. 06, 2013

      just a note to add . we have an apointment this week at a sexual health clinic to see what can be done and he asked the doctor and phoned for the apt. himself I am so happy and will let you all know how we get on.  Hopeful Sam x

    • Anonymous
      sam
      Jan. 06, 2013

      just a note to add . we have an apointment this week at a sexual health clinic to see what can be done and he asked the doctor and phoned for the apt. himself I am so happy and will let you all know how we get on.  Hopeful Sam x

    • Anonymous
      sam
      Jan. 06, 2013

      just a note to add . we have an apointment this week at a sexual health clinic to see what can be done and he asked the doctor and phoned for the apt. himself I am so happy and will let you all know how we get on.  Hopeful Sam x

    • Anonymous
      Without energy
      Jan. 14, 2013

      Thanks for all the comment here, even when it is the worst nightmare for a wife is good to know that we are not alone.  I been married for 20 years. I married my husband been a virgin.  I dream the day that I will give my virginity to some one that I love and can make me feel in a cloud.  But that dream die the first day of my honeymood.  He...

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      Thanks for all the comment here, even when it is the worst nightmare for a wife is good to know that we are not alone.  I been married for 20 years. I married my husband been a virgin.  I dream the day that I will give my virginity to some one that I love and can make me feel in a cloud.  But that dream die the first day of my honeymood.  He cannt have sex with me but he just turned the tv on and when to the bed without saying anything.  I get so confused, I was so inmature.  I stay with him until now, we try everything,I try to be supportive but it come the time that you feel just tire to fight.  He is a wonderful husband and father, (yes with a lot of problems we manage to had a son) he is a very nice person.  But the suffering is killing me.  He suffer, he cry, I try to hold him, he try to have sex, I try to help, but stand looking at him, seing him fighting all this time it drown my energy.  I still had the dream of a passionate night, but right now I just want peace and rest.  I hope every woman here have an answer and can resolver there issues, but it is not an easy thing.

    • Anonymous
      Without energy
      Jan. 14, 2013

      Thanks for all the comment here, even when it is the worst nightmare for a wife is good to know that we are not alone.  I been married for 20 years. I married my husband been a virgin.  I dream the day that I will give my virginity to some one that I love and can make me feel in a cloud.  But that dream die the first day of my honeymood.  He...

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      Thanks for all the comment here, even when it is the worst nightmare for a wife is good to know that we are not alone.  I been married for 20 years. I married my husband been a virgin.  I dream the day that I will give my virginity to some one that I love and can make me feel in a cloud.  But that dream die the first day of my honeymood.  He cannt have sex with me but he just turned the tv on and when to the bed without saying anything.  I get so confused, I was so inmature.  I stay with him until now, we try everything,I try to be supportive but it come the time that you feel just tire to fight.  He is a wonderful husband and father, (yes with a lot of problems we manage to had a son) he is a very nice person.  But the suffering is killing me.  He suffer, he cry, I try to hold him, he try to have sex, I try to help, but stand looking at him, seing him fighting all this time it drown my energy.  I still had the dream of a passionate night, but right now I just want peace and rest.  I hope every woman here have an answer and can resolver there issues, but it is not an easy thing.

  • Dave
    Dec. 04, 2012

    I too have similar problems at 57 . after trips to uroligist etc  have come to conclusion  that my type 2 diabetes is probably the main reason for my ed situation . I highly recommend accupuncture also getting his type 2  under control i believe will help significantly it will help with his weight etc , I am 5'10 198 still need to loose some...

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    I too have similar problems at 57 . after trips to uroligist etc  have come to conclusion  that my type 2 diabetes is probably the main reason for my ed situation . I highly recommend accupuncture also getting his type 2  under control i believe will help significantly it will help with his weight etc , I am 5'10 198 still need to loose some . I truely understand you and your husbands delima i too go thru depression stages because of this situation am with a great lady who says she is ok with the situation but i think its more to make em feel better . I have come to the conclusion i am not going to let it rule me i am going to get control of it or at least fight to get better . so just thought i would share this so you dont feel liek you guys are alone in this situation

  • BreeSaunders
    Nov. 26, 2012

    Hi there. I am looking for advice for my husband. We have been together for a short but wonderful 1 year and I love him with all my heart. However, there is a problem. My husband has not, since the day i met him, has been able to get or maintain an errection. He has tried Viagra, Cialis, and Lavitra? Not sure if I have the right spelling, lol. he has also tried...

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    Hi there. I am looking for advice for my husband. We have been together for a short but wonderful 1 year and I love him with all my heart. However, there is a problem. My husband has not, since the day i met him, has been able to get or maintain an errection. He has tried Viagra, Cialis, and Lavitra? Not sure if I have the right spelling, lol. he has also tried herbal drugs like " Drive", " Viaswiss, and the list could go on and on. Recently, he purchased the Peremot device, the penis vaccum pump and have not has any result with this either. We have been to our family doctor twice now and both times he has tried to convince us it is psychological but we know it is not. During the summer. my husband experienced an episode where he had gotten alot of pain in his side and kinda`shot across to his front, and as soon as it occured, the pain subsided and he was able to get an amazing errection with just the sound of my voice. We still don`t know what actually happened to him, what this pain was and if it had anything to do with his errectile problem but we are in desperation for answers and are on a mission now to seek another medical opinion and do whatever we have to do to fix this. oh, and by the way, when this episode happened, he was able to get and maintain errections for about a month, then, slowly, the ablility stopped again. Does anyone out there have any ideas, any suggestion...... pleasssseeeeee

  • Happy But Ubhappy
    Oct. 24, 2012

    I am so happy to have found this site. I know that I am not alone in this world. My husband and I have been married for 24 years, together 31. This ED issue had been a not-so-recent added event to our lives, buts has worsended over the last year. My husband was diagnosed with Cardiomyopathy almost thrre years ago. In additino to this he has high cholesterol,...

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    I am so happy to have found this site. I know that I am not alone in this world. My husband and I have been married for 24 years, together 31. This ED issue had been a not-so-recent added event to our lives, buts has worsended over the last year. My husband was diagnosed with Cardiomyopathy almost thrre years ago. In additino to this he has high cholesterol, high blood pressure and takes meds for all of his conditions. I am a 47 year old woman, who is just about at my wits end. We have tried numerous thing, and like other posts I have seen, self pleasure just isn't doing it anymore. I love my husband dearly. He is a great father and provider, but when it comes to intimacy, everything goes south. I want nothing more than to  be loved by the man I married, but it has become next to impossible. I have made every attempt to make tings beeter, from romantic weekends, nights, etc., nothing seems to work. He becomes incredibly frustrated, and I am left hanging with the guilt that I AM JUST NOT ENOUGH! I have often wondered, because of his occupation and need to travel, if in fact there is someone else. I feel inferior and blame myslef for everything. We just celbrated out anniversary and I was so hoping that this might be one time that things would go in our favor, but low and behold ED took its effects, once again. I have yet to try  any "things" that others have mentioned (cock rings, etc.), as I get embarrassed by the fact that we should need such stuff. Pleeeeeeeeease, if anyone has any advice, I would appreciate your input!!

  • Happy But Ubhappy
    Oct. 24, 2012

    I am so happy to have found this site. I know that I am not alone in this world. My husband and I have been married for 24 years, together 31. This ED issue had been a not-so-recent added event to our lives, buts has worsended over the last year. My husband was diagnosed with Cardiomyopathy almost thrre years ago. In additino to this he has high cholesterol,...

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    I am so happy to have found this site. I know that I am not alone in this world. My husband and I have been married for 24 years, together 31. This ED issue had been a not-so-recent added event to our lives, buts has worsended over the last year. My husband was diagnosed with Cardiomyopathy almost thrre years ago. In additino to this he has high cholesterol, high blood pressure and takes meds for all of his conditions. I am a 47 year old woman, who is just about at my wits end. We have tried numerous thing, and like other posts I have seen, self pleasure just isn't doing it anymore. I love my husband dearly. He is a great father and provider, but when it comes to intimacy, everything goes south. I want nothing more than to  be loved by the man I married, but it has become next to impossible. I have made every attempt to make tings beeter, from romantic weekends, nights, etc., nothing seems to work. He becomes incredibly frustrated, and I am left hanging with the guilt that I AM JUST NOT ENOUGH! I have often wondered, because of his occupation and need to travel, if in fact there is someone else. I feel inferior and blame myslef for everything. We just celbrated out anniversary and I was so hoping that this might be one time that things would go in our favor, but low and behold ED took its effects, once again. I have yet to try  any "things" that others have mentioned (cock rings, etc.), as I get embarrassed by the fact that we should need such stuff. Pleeeeeeeeease, if anyone has any advice, I would appreciate your input!!

  • 12345
    Oct. 08, 2012

    Hi there,

              I am with a guy, 30yrs old, and we have been dealing with ED since we got together, he had told me he had problems in that area before we got together but that he would get help. he has not done this.

    I have written letters to him as he closes down when we talk about it and after a while he'll say he know's it's...

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    Hi there,

              I am with a guy, 30yrs old, and we have been dealing with ED since we got together, he had told me he had problems in that area before we got together but that he would get help. he has not done this.

    I have written letters to him as he closes down when we talk about it and after a while he'll say he know's it's still an issue but does nothing to fix it.

    I think the thing I find most hurtful is that he will say no to sex with me and then he will masturbate when i've left, he has no problem with this, this makes me think even more that the problem is that he doesn't desire me.

    he's not cheating on me, this i know. he has recently moved country to be with me and i know he cares for me and i believe he loves me, but I don't know if i can resign myself to a sexless life if i stay with him.I just don't know what to do anymore.

    he talks of our future together and I know he wants a family and we have talked about kids and buying a house etc, I feel awful writing this as I feel selfish but I feel he's selfish too, if he loves me and wants to be with me and still desires me then why will he not get help? and why, if it's not me that's the issue can he masturbate no problem but can almost never maintain an erection when we try to have sex?

    any help and advice greatfuly accepted

    • happinesswins
      Nov. 25, 2012

      Men with ED can mastabate without an erection . They can orgasm without one too. That means the drive is there (e.g. those that still watch porn !) but the ability to have sex with a real parner is not quite there. Solo sex has no pressure or fear of performance anxiety so it is the easy option ..

  • Anonymous
    Desperate
    May. 13, 2012

    First off I am so glad that I found this site litteraly by accident. My husband and I have not had sex in over ten years. About 7 years ago he had heart surgery, about 4 years ago he was diagnosed with diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol. He is taking his medicine but the side effects of all of this is ED. Recently he has been having prostate...

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    First off I am so glad that I found this site litteraly by accident. My husband and I have not had sex in over ten years. About 7 years ago he had heart surgery, about 4 years ago he was diagnosed with diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol. He is taking his medicine but the side effects of all of this is ED. Recently he has been having prostate issues as well. My husband is 58 and I am 44. Not having sex is driving me absolutely nuts. I am passed self medication and the doctors don't seem to have any answers because he has so many different issues that he needs to take is medicine. Viagra and other items are not even in option as the side effects aren't good for his heart. I love him with all of my heart and I have been as understanding as I can be because I know this is devasting for him. He now shy's away from almost any form of intamacy. All I get is a kiss now and again. I know he is embarrassed and we both don't know what to do. I am officially DESPERATE as I have needs as well. Please help any advice would be welcomed. 

    • happinesswins
      Sep. 26, 2012

      I feel for everyone who has posted letters on this site . I m also living with Ed.Iam 44 and my husband is 43.We have been dealing with this for the last 3 years.I am now in my sexual prime and he is now having problems , how ironic.Viagra has helped to a point, but now seems less effective . My husband is devastated, as am i .I love him more than he will ever...

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      I feel for everyone who has posted letters on this site . I m also living with Ed.Iam 44 and my husband is 43.We have been dealing with this for the last 3 years.I am now in my sexual prime and he is now having problems , how ironic.Viagra has helped to a point, but now seems less effective . My husband is devastated, as am i .I love him more than he will ever know,we have been together for 26 years.We are in this together, for better or for worse, but i think that he is avoiding almost all intimacy with me for fear of performance.I can only imagine how soul destroying ED would be for a man,it steals the man ,as well as the use of the part of the body that they feels makes them men.Most men would consider their penis to be their best friend, up until it turns against them!It should not be All or Nothing when it comes to intimacy .It never really was before .Its only when its gone that you become completely consumed by it.I am sure that my husband is so upset about it he wants to avoid me rather than disappoint himself and me.This is the cruelest part of the condition,especially for me.There is nothing in the world that compares to the way i feel when he and i are lost in each others bodies , where we can shut out the world and there is only us.I feel like i am dying bit by bit when he lays beside me but will not be intimate with me.He says he loves me and i know its true,but i need to feel it to make it real.His touch puts the wind in my sails,it lifts me up and helps me face what life throws at me. Im sure that he probably feels that way to , or use to.Every day i have hope that today will be the day , and nearly every night i lay in bed next to him , my heart in my throat,knowing i was an idiot for getting my hopes up.I have cried many tears over this .Yes, i do initiate things , yes i spice things up,yes i drop hints,yes i just come out with it .I use my toys to help me cope . He uses them with me when it does happen (twice a month ,sometimes less)But its very lonely on my own.It can never replace sex with my husband.I want men to undersand that it is about participation not performance.You cant win any medals ,you can try to kick goals ,but the points you kick still add up to a lot.If sex is only about orgasm and ejaculation and without it sex is not worth having then what have us woman been doing all these years? If you thought that going out for dinner was only worth it if you are going to get dessert ,think about all the wonderful entrees and main meals you would have missed out on !Sometimes you dont need dessert to enjoy yourself . Its the journey that is fun ,not just the destination.Dont push your partner away , you will need their love and support to make it work .Would you rather deal with your ED alone?Perhaps you would like to add a divorce to the situation ,just to make it interesting?I hate the situation my husband and i are in but we are in this together.Unless i shrival up and disappear in the space that exist between my husband and i in our bed.

    • Neednmyman
      Nov. 24, 2012
      This was truly said and I feel the same way. I have been soo lonely that I thought of having an affair, but didn't. At least your husband sleeps with you I have the whole bedroom and bed every night to myself. I cry myself to sleep most nights hoping he will come through the door and just ly by my side and touch me. I have suggested things to him and he has...
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      This was truly said and I feel the same way. I have been soo lonely that I thought of having an affair, but didn't. At least your husband sleeps with you I have the whole bedroom and bed every night to myself. I cry myself to sleep most nights hoping he will come through the door and just ly by my side and touch me. I have suggested things to him and he has yet to do anything.
    • happinesswins
      Nov. 25, 2012

      I must say that there has been some improvement in terms of our intimacy.I know he wants to give more , but i am happy with what i get for now. I think we have a better understanding of each other on this issue and that helps alot. Can't assume all is good though, things can change back suddenly!

      Have you also experienced the extreme anger that comes out of...

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      I must say that there has been some improvement in terms of our intimacy.I know he wants to give more , but i am happy with what i get for now. I think we have a better understanding of each other on this issue and that helps alot. Can't assume all is good though, things can change back suddenly!

      Have you also experienced the extreme anger that comes out of your husband when you try to discuss the issue , only made worse with your tears ?????

      It's like talking to a stranger. Think they find it so confronting, that they do and say whatever they can to push you further away. "The best form of defence is

      attack !"

      I know how hard it is to deal with this , i also know how hard it was on my husband during the years that i lost interest in sex....I can honestly say that i have been on both sides of this situation. I still can't claim to know what he is feeling , only that i know what i felt on both sides of this. Funny , you would think that having felt like you were sex starved would make you better able to see your sex starved partners point of view ....NOT SO !

      I will recommend that you never give up hope ...and that you keep following these forums, like me .

      I also recommend some good books to read. Some for you , and if he will at least try , some for him....

      I have found heaps over the last few years, including some erotic reading for myself..Although it may sound odd to be stoking the fire when he wouldn't be interested, it was good for my sense of self ( content with who i am , love me as i am )If you haven't already, check out "The sex starved wife" , " The men we never knew " , and even "Sex at dawn ".These are all very different books but after reading them you will see how they all seem to connect. It will open your eyes to many things that you may not have considered. I would say i am more aware of the issues men face and how it effects them and those around them..It also proved that i wasn"t crazy and neither was my husband.

       ( please don't think i get any commission for suggesting these books , simply think we would all be wiser if we read them,  some should be compulsory reading when applying for a marriage licence.)

      Sex at dawn, is a study of humans and how monogamy is so against our nature!!!I am monogamous and proud to say so , but the book makes so much sense when you consider all the relationship problems going on in the world today . The issue we are discussing here  also appears in the book and when you reach the end, you start to see why we are having so much trouble dealing with this....The Odds may be stacked against us from birth ?????????

      I will still fight the fight , it will always be worth it to me.

      I am thinking of you and your husband and wish you well on your journey back together..Happy to here from you anytime........

    • Neednmyman
      Nov. 24, 2012
      I feel your pain, I am 54 my husband 60, we have talked about this demon and I have hinted to him how he might begin to satisfy me and he does nothing. We don't sleep in the same room or bed and he always has an excuse.
  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    May. 08, 2012

    What do you do with/for your guy if he won't deal with his E.D at all?  He won't talk about it with me, won't go to the doctor, no longer has any libido (I think this was brought on by the E.D.), he passively rejects me when I try to flirt or stimulate him in intimate ways.  He is healthly - healthy weight, weight lifts several days a week, has a...

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    What do you do with/for your guy if he won't deal with his E.D at all?  He won't talk about it with me, won't go to the doctor, no longer has any libido (I think this was brought on by the E.D.), he passively rejects me when I try to flirt or stimulate him in intimate ways.  He is healthly - healthy weight, weight lifts several days a week, has a very active job, all blood work is normal. We are both 39 and have not had sex for over 3 years.  It started before that with mild E.D. - if it was late at night and he was tired or sometimes we would need to be in a sexual position where he was in control.  This severe E.D. struck practically over night.  Our relationship is great otherwise but this is really hurting me - I'm at my peak and he won't make any efforts to investigate his problem.  We had a lot of fun together when we were young and he was at his peak.  I just feel robbed.  I feel so frisky so often.  Self entertainment only for so long just does not cut it.  I am so achy and uncomfortable in my pelvis.  It would mean a lot to me if he would just try some of the options.  I would never ask him to continue something that makes him feel ill.  I've tried countless times to get him to open up.  All he says is that he is not young anymore.  I know he is embarrassed but I am too.  Not only does his E.D. affect my ego but his unwillingness to communicate or do anything about it makes me feel worthless.  I don't know what to do.

  • Anonymous
    Helen
    May. 07, 2012

    Hi all - My husband is 64 and I'm 44.  My husband's ED started about 4 years ago.  He has tried Levitra, but all it gave him was a serious headache, and any erection achieved was not sustainable.  At first, this really bothered me; was it something I was doing wrong?  I have hardly any self-confidence to begin with, and I was certain he...

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    Hi all - My husband is 64 and I'm 44.  My husband's ED started about 4 years ago.  He has tried Levitra, but all it gave him was a serious headache, and any erection achieved was not sustainable.  At first, this really bothered me; was it something I was doing wrong?  I have hardly any self-confidence to begin with, and I was certain he found me unattractive and ungainly.  He even started sleeping in another room, and this sent me into such a downward spiral.  I wouldn't let him see it because I knew it would upset him.  But hearing about my friends having wonderful snuggly encounters while my husband bid me a friendly good night and would go off to his room would make me feel so small and insignificant that I just could hardly stand to go to sleep.

     

    We've talked, and I now know that any feelings of inadequacy I have are absolutely nothing to what he feels.  He has a younger wife who has needs, and he can't supply them.  This terrifies him.  And he sleeps in another room because he is no longer comfortable lying flat - the other room has a great TV and lounge chair.  Nothing to do with sleeping with me. 

     

    This has led me to releasing my own selfish thoughts - my husband does find me attractive, he just can't "perform" (how I hate that damned word) the way he used to.  I have decided it just isn't worth it to me to lose my very best friend over something like this.  Sex is frosting.  His love and care is more important to me.  I tell him over and over again that I think he's the sexiest man on the planet, and he is extraordinarily grateful that I understand.  If my "need" gets too great, he's only too happy to help me out in other ways.  He will allow me to try to return it, though nothing comes of it (no pun intended), but he knows that I am not looking for any culmination, just some fun on his part.  It's helped us a lot.

    • Anonymous
      Henderson
      Oct. 15, 2012

      My husband is 53. He has got an enlarged prostrate and also erectile dysfunction. He has been looking at sex videos, daing sites and been to lap dance . This hs been very hurtful as I am a lot older than my husband and now feel that I cannot compete  I desperately want  him to love me and when things are bteers to have a a sexaul...

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      My husband is 53. He has got an enlarged prostrate and also erectile dysfunction. He has been looking at sex videos, daing sites and been to lap dance . This hs been very hurtful as I am a lot older than my husband and now feel that I cannot compete  I desperately want  him to love me and when things are bteers to have a a sexaul relationship . We have many arguments and thank goodness he has not left I tell him I love him but he never does and he is very short and sharp which he never used to be . How can I compete with much younger attractive women.

       

      Can you help with a few tips to give me my confidence back

    • Anonymous
      Hend
      Oct. 15, 2012

      My husband is 53. He has got male problems . I am a lot older than my husband and now feel that he does not find me attractive. I desperately want  him to love me and when things are better to have a  sexaul relationship . We have many arguments and thank goodness he has not left I tell him I love him but he never does and he is...

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      My husband is 53. He has got male problems . I am a lot older than my husband and now feel that he does not find me attractive. I desperately want  him to love me and when things are better to have a  sexaul relationship . We have many arguments and thank goodness he has not left I tell him I love him but he never does and he is very short and sharp which he never used to be .

       

      Can you help with a few tips to give me my confidence back

  • Anonymous
    Cris-O-O-O
    Feb. 05, 2012
    This comment might not apply to all, but hopefully will help some! I am 39 my huz is 42. We were married 8 years ago, me 31 him 34...even before marriage he was sexually shy, and had few intimate encounters with other women. Early on we had difficulty because he could sometimes not get, not maintain an erection...I tried every trick I knew to get him excited...but...
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    This comment might not apply to all, but hopefully will help some! I am 39 my huz is 42. We were married 8 years ago, me 31 him 34...even before marriage he was sexually shy, and had few intimate encounters with other women. Early on we had difficulty because he could sometimes not get, not maintain an erection...I tried every trick I knew to get him excited...but the harder I tried the more pressure he felt to perform he could not do it. I went through all the emotions like he's not attracted to me etc. Believe me men, we feel like we are not real women not being able to get you hard! I used to love doing stuff to a guy and watching him go crazy and getting a rise out of him, and when I couldn't I felt like something was wrong with me! Sometimes, though, he could do it...and I loved him so much I thought if he can deal with my shortcomings I can deal with his... I prayed for him and still do. I married him knowing it would prob always be an issue... And I am very sexual...but for him I found I had to tone it down which was a sacrifice to a point... But I always let him approach me, and I am very subtle about letting him know I just 'might' be interested tonight. For a while he took a small dose of lexapro for anxiety... Which did work to a point and helped him build his confidence with me in bed. I still never pressure him, just try to focus on the closeness and love. With lexapro though it can be a lil more difficult to orgasm or to feel like you've had a complete one. He still rarely gets rock hard...just stiff enough to penetrate me, which is fine...I can still orgasm that way, and have found that even if he is not hard I can get him to orgasm and ejaculate anyway just being in the position with things being near where they are supposed to go if you get what I mean. The key is you both being relaxed and just enjoying the closeness and one another's company. Our abnormal has become normal and we can even both come at about the same time. It is wonderful just being close to him and being able to have that together. I love him so very much! This is our sex, as dysfunctional as it might look to others...it is uniquely ours, it belongs to us, we make it and it is beautiful in our eyes : ) ...and can even be quite comical at times. You have to laugh people! I mean, maybe i deserved it for being such a little promiscuous vixen when i was younger! Again, the irony of me meeting and falling so in love with this man! Lol! So men and ladies don't shut down! Don't pressure... Just try to communicate verbally and nonverbally, be receptive to change and compromise! Another pointer for you seemingly extra eager ladies... When I was on the pill I hardly ever wanted sex! Lol! ( yes, the irony) same is true for when I was on antidepressants (lexapro and zoloft) ladies you need to address your anxieties about love and sex too! Like maybe you are feeling that sex is the key to getting your man's love and affection. Maybe feeling unloved making you try too hard and want/need his sexual attention more! It is a vicious circle! Good luck to all! Hang in there and don't give up! Remember! RELAX, don't expect...just go with what is...you'll be surprised what you can make out of that! ; )
    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      Apr. 21, 2012

      My husband is 42 and is diabetic.  The diabetes kills the nerves and affects blood flow.  Medication is not really a solution for a diabetic.  I relate to much of what has been said.  My husband is able to get hard enough for intercourse but not hard enough for me to feel much of anything.  I feel like he has a sex life and I don't. ...

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      My husband is 42 and is diabetic.  The diabetes kills the nerves and affects blood flow.  Medication is not really a solution for a diabetic.  I relate to much of what has been said.  My husband is able to get hard enough for intercourse but not hard enough for me to feel much of anything.  I feel like he has a sex life and I don't.  We have tried about every way of being intimate but all it seems to do is rile me up and nothing we have tried will allow me to have an "real" orgasm.  Whenever we try things for me it just makes me feel more unsastisifed.  It is like being in a dream and drinking water but you are still thirsty.  It is easier to not even try but I feel obligated.  I feel like there is a bond with intimacy and I more than I anytyhing I long for that again. This has gotten really bad over the 2 years.  When he takes care of himself and control his sugars, it gets a bit better.  I think if he would do this full-time, that it could be reversed.  I feel like I am the only one sacrficing for this. 

       

    • Anonymous
      Liz
      Mar. 01, 2014
      Leave.... He "seems" like a gay man trying to (maybe?....possibly?...) "hide" this fact. Please...DO NOT throw your life away trying to "change" him & his preferences. Good luck to you. :)
  • Anonymous
    Sheryl Pearl
    Jan. 20, 2012

    My husband had prostate cancer and removal.  He has been totally impotent since. We have tried the pills, the injections, but nothing has worked. He refuses to have the penile implant. So, basically, he has decided that OUR sex life is over. How fair is that?  What am I supposed to do with my sexual desires? 

    • Anonymous
      Alison Cummins
      Jul. 12, 2013

      There are an awful lot of things you can do for sex without implants.

       

      If you really need penis-in-vagina intercourse, go buy a strap-on and play. If he wants to make you happy, and you want to make him happy, an erection shouldn’t be an obstacle.

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    ann
    Sep. 26, 2011

    I have been married for 2 years and have only had sex one time.  I have tried to talk to my husband about his ED and he changes the subject or gets mad.  I have tried to tell him that I understand and we can work through it but he lies and tell me he has a feeling but he will not approach me.  He doesn't touch me, barely kisses me and we are...

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    I have been married for 2 years and have only had sex one time.  I have tried to talk to my husband about his ED and he changes the subject or gets mad.  I have tried to tell him that I understand and we can work through it but he lies and tell me he has a feeling but he will not approach me.  He doesn't touch me, barely kisses me and we are more like just friends rather than husband and wife.  I do not feel close to him and I want to give up.  He has diabetes, high blood pressure and lost a kidney due to cancer.  I know he is under a lot of pressure because we had a good sex life before marriage and I resent him because I know he was unfaithful to me before we were married.  Now I feel cheated and want to have an affair or maybe not an affair just someone that I can have sex with from time to time.  I don't feel that I should be deprived of intimacy just because he doesn't want to open up to me.  I feel that he is forcing me into a corner.

    • Anonymous
      Liz
      Mar. 01, 2014
      Leave! Now...
  • Anonymous
    JOJO
    Sep. 10, 2011

    Hi yes Im 42 and my husband is 51 we have had issues for almost 7 years .Its been very hard I use to cry and I would be so dissapointed for him and me . It caused a huge rift in our sexual relationship and I would rather not do anything than to be dissapointed . I love him and cialis does work but all those pills are exspensive...

    so what to do ? ...

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    Hi yes Im 42 and my husband is 51 we have had issues for almost 7 years .Its been very hard I use to cry and I would be so dissapointed for him and me . It caused a huge rift in our sexual relationship and I would rather not do anything than to be dissapointed . I love him and cialis does work but all those pills are exspensive...

    so what to do ? 

  • Anonymous
    KITTY69
    Jan. 06, 2011

    Frown 4 ALL OF U GIRLZ ON HERE THAT ARE HAVING THE SAME ISSUE EVERYONE ELSE HERE IS HAVING. I WOULD RECOMEND TO GO TO BOSTON MEDICAL GROUP IT WORKS 100% I KNOW FOR A FACT . BECAUSE I SUFFERED THE SAME THING ALL U LADIES ARE SUFFERING FROM. BELIEVE ME I WANTED SOME BADLY AND I HAD TO DO MY REASERCHING. I AM 32 MY HUBBY IS 39 HE SUFFERS FROM ED BECAUSE HE IS...

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    Frown 4 ALL OF U GIRLZ ON HERE THAT ARE HAVING THE SAME ISSUE EVERYONE ELSE HERE IS HAVING. I WOULD RECOMEND TO GO TO BOSTON MEDICAL GROUP IT WORKS 100% I KNOW FOR A FACT . BECAUSE I SUFFERED THE SAME THING ALL U LADIES ARE SUFFERING FROM. BELIEVE ME I WANTED SOME BADLY AND I HAD TO DO MY REASERCHING. I AM 32 MY HUBBY IS 39 HE SUFFERS FROM ED BECAUSE HE IS TYPE 2 DIABETIC. AND I REALLY SUFFERED AM YOUNG N BELIEVE ME I KNOW HOW THAT FEELS TO WANT TO FEEL GOOD BUT YOU CANT. HOPE I HELPED OUT WITH THE INFO. STAY SWEET 2 YOUR HUSBANDS GIRLS HAVE PATIENTS I DID.

    • DAWN
      Apr. 24, 2013

      WHAT DID THEY DO MY HUSBAND IS YOUNGER THAN I AM AND HIS DIABETES HAS GIVEN HIM NERVE DAMAGE AND HE STILLS HAS THE WANT BUT NO ERECTION AND I MISS THAT IT HAS BEEN THIS WAY FOR AT LEAST 10 YEARS. 

  • Anonymous
    Anon. guy
    Jul. 05, 2010

    I am a father of two, 25 and the eldest is 28 so I know that I am not ferltility challenged. I have been married for 26 years and we never had this issues before. Lately, I have not been functioning properly in bed. I always had high libido and I don't see where this is comming from. I've been looking around lately and have read about "andropause." You can...

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    I am a father of two, 25 and the eldest is 28 so I know that I am not ferltility challenged. I have been married for 26 years and we never had this issues before. Lately, I have not been functioning properly in bed. I always had high libido and I don't see where this is comming from. I've been looking around lately and have read about "andropause." You can google that, or go here: http://testosterone-for-men.com/Andropause-testosterone.php > That's a brief description of what I believe I am going through. I have erectile dysfuction, I am always depressed, I eat more than usual, I have trouble sleeping and I easily get irritated. In short, I am a nightmare to live with. I'm not so sure what the next step is yet but I would be searching for the solution. With what I understand, this illness is like the male counterpart of menopause. I hope to get well soon as this is turning out to be a big problem already.

    • Anonymous
      Dealing with Ed
      Sep. 08, 2010

      My husband had a heart virus and developed ed, up till then we had a wonderful and active sex life I would have never ever imagined he would ever have this kind of problem ever none of his doctors seemed concerned about his complaints about ed, except to prescribe Levitra which left him feeling trashed and unhappy with firmness he wanted to be rock hard, to...

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      My husband had a heart virus and developed ed, up till then we had a wonderful and active sex life I would have never ever imagined he would ever have this kind of problem ever none of his doctors seemed concerned about his complaints about ed, except to prescribe Levitra which left him feeling trashed and unhappy with firmness he wanted to be rock hard, to me he felt firmer and was able to last much longer. We were given samples of 3 pills 10 mg then switched to 20 mg our insurance covered 6 per month, not much when you are trying to get back into a sexual routine ( ?) and was expensive. As time went on he became more and more discouraged bending in the middle bothered him I was supportive and told him I wanted him , he did not have to be rock hard, we had never used sex toys and I really think using them on me helped him relax ( try yours and mine by Ky) his doctor told him within time a valve would open and evendially he may not have to relay on Levitra he hoped each time we tried he would get back to normal, it didnt. I truly though he was going to have a nervous break down, he thought it was mental ....he started telling me he didnt feel like a man any more

      he couldnt make me feel like a woman, he was tired, he was eatting I got really scared he was NOT depressed he was truly discouraged and was tired of not being able to show me he loved me .... I can tell you by this time it was truly playing with my emotions I felt ugly , began to think it was me this played on my emotions I cried alot when he wasn't around I missed his touch he had stopped holding my hands, kissing ect ( Please please to all men out there who are going thru this PLEASE hold your womans hand, kiss here tell her you love her and only her so she knows its not her, she is going to hang tight and true to you if you just try to remain close,land oving .... but shying away is only going to plant seeds of doubt ... and fear she is thinking if I was only younger , thinner , prettier .....I always trusted my husband and felt the avoidance was possibly an affair ....  I talked to his doctor and made an appt he referred us to a Urlogist, by that time he was on Cialis DAILY 5mg about 2 weeks and was afraid to try  to have sex for fear of another disappointment his doctor told him its USE IT OR LOSE IT and asked me why we hadnt tried I told him to work participation is required and my husband had been told by "OTHER" men than they took

      VIAGRA and their PENIS would stand up .... the doctor told him ALL ED meds

      need desire and physical stimulation... to work he told the doctor he wanted me so much it drives him crazy .... once home we we tried and it helps alot!!!!!! dont give up  his doctor did tests and his TESTOSTERONE was very low, he started out on (1) little tubes of gel after 2nd test is up to 2 per day ... I am noticing lots of physical changes looks better, seems happier and we have sex most weeks 3 times , we try to stick to "our" nights dont look at it as a good or bad, limp or firm or a preformance test, enjoy whatever it is. I suggest to any man having ED problems to get tested  for low T and try cialis go to cialis.com for a free 30 day supply.

    • Anonymous
      jamie truer
      Sep. 14, 2010

      Ive noticed I had a problem with keeping an erection was I was abot 25, It wouldnt stay full and hard. I do have a problem with masterbating and did for my whole life. At least twice a day I watch porn and masterbate. Ive been with m y wife for 7 years and hid it from her that I had a problem. I would take over the counter pills to maintain an erection. After...

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      Ive noticed I had a problem with keeping an erection was I was abot 25, It wouldnt stay full and hard. I do have a problem with masterbating and did for my whole life. At least twice a day I watch porn and masterbate. Ive been with m y wife for 7 years and hid it from her that I had a problem. I would take over the counter pills to maintain an erection. After awile it stopped working and she would be so mad because we couldnt have sex,  at the same time I wasnt fully sexally atrated to her because of the attitude she has. She would give up because I couldnt maintain an erection, it also happened tonight,  anyway I went to the doctor and got samples of cialis , the 20 ml and they worked, the only problem is they are very expensive and insurence dont cover alot. To make a long story short I think you really have to be turned on and attracted to someone before you can have sex with them,,,,, I think

    • Anonymous
      Dealing with Ed
      Sep. 14, 2010

      I am glad the cialis worked for you. There is a free offer online for 30 day supply 5 mg or 2-3 pills of 20 this is supposed to be a months supply. We agree with you 6 pills isnt enough we like to have sex more often I have read taking the 20mg gives great results and lasting results for up to a week so you might get by with 1 pill a week. Always ask for samples...

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      I am glad the cialis worked for you. There is a free offer online for 30 day supply 5 mg or 2-3 pills of 20 this is supposed to be a months supply. We agree with you 6 pills isnt enough we like to have sex more often I have read taking the 20mg gives great results and lasting results for up to a week so you might get by with 1 pill a week. Always ask for samples from your doctor too this help cut costs ..... keep in mind you proably dont need the 20mg every time. You mentioned your wife is aggriavated, Keep in mind Ed is difficult for both parties. The best advice I could give is that both you and your wife try to be affectionate with each other everyday, hug, kiss its important very important to cuddle and let her know you love her and want her and keep a connection regardless if it leads to actual sex. I think men put to much empathisis on size and firmness I am pretty sure male and female can orgasim without total firmess Try to talk to her and help her understand you want and love her, otherwise couples tend to blame theirselves, each other and grow apart. Ed plays hactic with a couples emotions. You have to understand she may not have known there was a problem. Most women think there's something wrong with them, when their partener is struggling to get it "in"  or keep it in  she may feel she's not sexy not pretty, unatractive and less than.... its really difficult. What seems to happen when women deal with ed no matter how pretty she trys to be for her man and understanding, patient or loving she may be, she is usually left all hot and bothered and left unreleaved, she may not releave herself like you are doing, and it may hurt her that you can get satisfied without her. You might find if you talk to her and let her know what you need and ask what she needs you can work together to satisify each other. Maybe she would enjoy a massage with the new product "yours and mine" that can be a little sex toy maybe your seeing her enjoying it might turn you on ? I know my husband was turned on by satisfying me with it, we do things somewhat different than before Ed it keeps us enjoying each other and keeps that bond alive. Hope this helps

    • Anonymous
      Keith GR
      Sep. 21, 2010

      The HGH spray from Dr Max Powers improved my urine flow and clarity...and improved blood flow for sexual activity

  • Anonymous
    mee
    Apr. 26, 2009

    Im in a relationship with a 38 yr old man and i am 25. We have been together for almost 5 years and for the last two have been dealing with ED. I dont know what to do... It comes and goes but when it does happen I always feel as though its me and start to cry. Since its not always happening I wonder if I did something wrong or if its in his head or maybe he...

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    Im in a relationship with a 38 yr old man and i am 25. We have been together for almost 5 years and for the last two have been dealing with ED. I dont know what to do... It comes and goes but when it does happen I always feel as though its me and start to cry. Since its not always happening I wonder if I did something wrong or if its in his head or maybe he is cheating on me and feeling guilty... If this is already effecting our relationship now what is it going to be like when Im in my thirties and want it even more than now... We`ve tried the prescription remedies and he doesnt like to take pills and finds Cialis makes the issue worse after you stop taking it.. Oh what to do

    • Anonymous
      Cris-O-O-O!
      Feb. 05, 2012
      I am 39 my huz is 42. We were married 8 years ago, me 31 him 34...even before marriage he was sexually shy, and had few intimate encounters with other women. Early on we had difficulty because he could sometimes not get, not maintain an erection...I tried every trick I knew to get him excited...but the harder I tried the more pressure he felt to perform he...
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      I am 39 my huz is 42. We were married 8 years ago, me 31 him 34...even before marriage he was sexually shy, and had few intimate encounters with other women. Early on we had difficulty because he could sometimes not get, not maintain an erection...I tried every trick I knew to get him excited...but the harder I tried the more pressure he felt to perform he could not do it. I went through all the emotions like he's not attracted to me etc. Believe me men, we feel like we are not real women not being able to get you hard! I used to love doing stuff to a guy and watching him go crazy and getting a rise out of him, and when I couldn't I felt like something was wrong with me! Sometimes, though, he could do it...and I loved him so much I thought if he can deal with my shortcomings I can deal with his... I prayed for him and still do. I married him knowing it would prob always be an issue... And I am very sexual...but for him I found I had to tone it down which was a sacrifice to a point... But I always let him approach me, and I am very subtle about letting him know I just 'might' be interested tonight. For a while he took a small dose of lexapro for anxiety... Which did work to a point and helped him build his confidence with me in bed. I still never pressure him, just try to focus on the closeness and love. With lexapro though it can be a lil more difficult to orgasm or to feel like you've had a complete one. He still rarely gets rock hard...just stiff enough to penetrate me, which is fine...I can still orgasm that way, and have found that even if he is not hard I can get him to orgasm and ejaculate anyway just being in the position with things being near where they are supposed to go if you get what I mean. The key is you both being relaxed and just enjoying the closeness and one another's company. Our abnormal has become normal and we can even both come at about the same time. It is wonderful just being close to him and being able to have that together. I love him so very much! This is our sex, as dysfunctional as it might look to others...it is uniquely ours, it belongs to us, we make it and it is beautiful in our eyes : ) ...and can even be quite comical at times. You have to laugh people! I mean, maybe i deserved it for being such a little promiscuous vixen when i was younger! Again, the irony of me meeting and falling so in love with this man! Lol! So men and ladies don't shut down! Don't pressure... Just try to communicate verbally and nonverbally, be receptive to change and compromise! Another pointer for you seemingly extra eager ladies... When I was on the pill I hardly ever wanted sex! Lol! ( yes, the irony) same is true for when I was on antidepressants (lexapro and zoloft) ladies you need to address your anxieties about love and sex too! Like maybe you are feeling that sex is the key to getting your man's love and affection. Maybe feeling unloved making you try too hard and want/need his sexual attention more! It is a vicious circle! Good luck to all! Hang in there and don't give up! Remember! RELAX, don't expect...just go with what is...you'll be surprised what you can make out of that! ; )
    • Esperance
      Apr. 08, 2013
      Thank you for sharing and encouraging!
    • Helen 1972
      Dec. 10, 2013
      Amazing thank you so much for sharing
  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Mar. 01, 2009

    I am 47 and my husband is 56.  He has informed me he has no desire for sex anymore, but there is no one else in his life but me.  He says he is upset that he cannot give me what I need anymore, that he cares, but not enough to do anything about it, and it is killing our marriage of 6 years.  He stays very quiet all of the time, and constantly...

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    I am 47 and my husband is 56.  He has informed me he has no desire for sex anymore, but there is no one else in his life but me.  He says he is upset that he cannot give me what I need anymore, that he cares, but not enough to do anything about it, and it is killing our marriage of 6 years.  He stays very quiet all of the time, and constantly tells me I don't talk to him.  Me, I am having a problem struggling with this, it makes me feel as if I am not enough for him anymore.  It has been 5 months since we were intimate, and I am not sure what to do.  How can I help him, or can I help him?  I have tried talking to him, but he either changes the subject or becomes quiet and occupies his mind with other things.  He stays tired all the time, has definitely become a "recliner potato", and does not offer me the affection he did at one time.  He never touches me anymore.  What do I do?  I am afraid it is going to end our marriage.

  • Anonymous
    Doug
    Feb. 11, 2009

    If I were your Husband I would not mind if you had a loving, caring partner on the side, and in fact I would be the first one to encourage just such a loving,caring relationship. And only a fool would say that within such a dual-relationship there would only be the sharing of two bodies,without love. But I as a man would have no problem with shared love, And...

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    If I were your Husband I would not mind if you had a loving, caring partner on the side, and in fact I would be the first one to encourage just such a loving,caring relationship. And only a fool would say that within such a dual-relationship there would only be the sharing of two bodies,without love. But I as a man would have no problem with shared love, And that I loved her is why I could share her with another.

  • Anonymous
    Budgie
    Jan. 20, 2009

    I am 78 years of age and my wife is 63.  We've been married for 40 years and for the last 39 years have had a very satisfying and enjoyable sex life.   Last May I had spinal surgery (discectomy & laminectomy) since then severe ED.   My urology consultant advised that the spinal chord and nerves to the genital region were almost...

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    I am 78 years of age and my wife is 63.  We've been married for 40 years and for the last 39 years have had a very satisfying and enjoyable sex life.   Last May I had spinal surgery (discectomy & laminectomy) since then severe ED.   My urology consultant advised that the spinal chord and nerves to the genital region were almost definitely affected by the surgery - hence no erection.   He tried several courses of Viagra, Cialis and Levitra which did absolutely nothing.  Then tried MUSE, a small suppositary into the urethra - again nothing.   He said the only hope left was Caverject - but the thought of injections into the side of the penis frightened me to death!   Out of sheer desperation I agreed to try Caverject - brilliant!!   The needle is very tiny and short and you can't feel the tiny injection.   15 minutes later a good erection which lasts up to an hour or until ejaculation takes place.   The doctor shows how to use Caverject, then you can do it yourself afterwards.   It is essential to learn how to use Caverject properly.    If necessary get the doctor to show you 2 or 3 times.  Some men get their partners to administer it, as it is very simple to do.   My wife is overjoyed with the results.

    • deswife08
      Jan. 22, 2009

      My husband also did the injections.  It worked for awhile but then it too stopped.  It was a great improvement to what it had been...while it lasted. It wasn't that painful according to him, just make sure you do it exactly the way Dr says and watch out for the erections not to go down - go immediately to E.R.

       

      For the wifes like me - it is...

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      My husband also did the injections.  It worked for awhile but then it too stopped.  It was a great improvement to what it had been...while it lasted. It wasn't that painful according to him, just make sure you do it exactly the way Dr says and watch out for the erections not to go down - go immediately to E.R.

       

      For the wifes like me - it is humiliating enough for our husbands let alone making them feel worse if your not involved in it with him.  I went to the urologist appointments and the trials and the instructions (had a female nurse administering it too!) it was very embarrassing but we were more excited to go try it out and went straight to a hotel the first time!  If your facing this option DO IT!  If nothing else worked what do you have to lose besides a little embarrassment...My husbands will is there it just doesn't work when he wants it to.  Don't get me wrong I miss it and would love to go back a few years but until surgery were using what we can and being very creative.  Although for me sometimes I feel like porn star acting out his fantasies for him but I don't mind! Do what you can!  Would love to hear from someone who has had the implant surgery if your out there.

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      Jan. 23, 2009

      just wanted to say "thank you."  i've recently began looking for support (and hope) online for couples in similar situations but all i've been seeing is blogs of sadness, guilt, frustration and regret.  most of the women are either admitting to having an affair or thinking about having one because they "just can't see ending their sex lives at such...

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      just wanted to say "thank you."  i've recently began looking for support (and hope) online for couples in similar situations but all i've been seeing is blogs of sadness, guilt, frustration and regret.  most of the women are either admitting to having an affair or thinking about having one because they "just can't see ending their sex lives at such a young age." 

       

      i am brought to tears; to think it's just natural to feel the same way, but i always remind myself that in our case, his ED is a medical condition (he's a diabetic) and that it has nothing to do with my being plus sized or how much i try to turn him on.  when we do try, it takes only a few mintues before the sparks are flying uncontrollably between us, but i've noticed that i'm the one who pulls away because i don't want him to feel angry and frustrated when things don't go all the way.  with tears in my eyes, i fall into his arms, kiss him tenderly on the lips, reassure him that i am still very much in love with him, hold him and quietly fall asleep.  often i ask myself, if the tables were turned, would our love be strong enough a reason for him to jack off in private rather than go out and have an affair? 

       

      my husband and i have been together for only a little over three years now.  however, for the last year or so, we've been struggling with ED.  last march we were blessed with a healthy baby boy.  before i met my husband, sex didn't matter to me much. i didn't believe him when he tried to explain that a healthy sex life is an important part of any longterm relationship (i figured he was just giving me a line to get me into bed whenever he wanted it).  i used to think successful relationships were all about being friends and being able to communicate.  it wasn't until we got married that i realized that sex between a husband and wife is important to a happy marriage.  there's no higher way to express one's love for a spouse, than when two bodies connect while making love.  in fact, i was sooo looking forward to rekindling our sex life after having a difficult pregnancy and recovery that i was devastated to learn that suddenly we weren't gonna beable to resume or explore our connection with one another (we even decided that i was going to get my tubes tied so that we'd be able to enjoy intimacy without much worry).  But it's hard for him to feel secure in our relationship too, he's always complaining that he wants to satisfy me however he can whenever i want it, but to be honest, it's just not the same.  so i always remind him that i agreed to marry him because i really do love him for who he is, and not because of his good looks, money, or his dick.  i used to take his "enthusiasm" for granted and didn't fully appreciate his romantic gestures.  i've been trying my best to be strong for him and supportive of him, but yes, it's tearing us apart as well.  the pills are working for now.  we try to schedule our time together.  i push the responsibility of caring for the baby on him after he gets home from work and i tend to go out with friends or go shopping after work late at night just to aviod the awkwardness in bed.  it's good to know that we do have other alternatives and that there are committed couples out there who haven't given up on making it work.  he'll be 43 next month.  i'm 27.

    • Anonymous
      Figueroa
      Jan. 24, 2009

      I am thankfull to have found this site. I am pretty depressed and would love to hear from some other people.

       

      I am 36 and my husband is 37. We've been dealing with his ED and Low Testosterone for about 3 years. For the first couple years I was a strong supporter, going to doctor appointments, trying to be supportive and make him feel good about himself....

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      I am thankfull to have found this site. I am pretty depressed and would love to hear from some other people.

       

      I am 36 and my husband is 37. We've been dealing with his ED and Low Testosterone for about 3 years. For the first couple years I was a strong supporter, going to doctor appointments, trying to be supportive and make him feel good about himself.

       

      Now i am to the point where i'm depressed. We have two small children and no sex life. We have sex about once a month or once every 2 months. We both are so frustrated that we don't even want to try b/c we are afraid the erection won't be sustained.

       

      I think about sex with other men constantly. I feel horrible for this but I am one of those people who needs sex, good sex, and the thought of living the rest of my life like this is very depressing for me. It is tearing us both apart. I try to get in bed after him so I don't even have to deal with the possibility of being intimate. I'm totally turned off by the ED and the low T that I have no interest in being intimate.

       

      I've recently started couseling and she wants to refer us to a specialist b/c she said this is a major problem and without help we could both suffer tremendously.

       

      We have tried all the replacement therapies as well as the ED medications with not much success. 

       

       

    • deswife08
      Feb. 03, 2009

      Having been through this at 37 too - YES it is hard BUT...it's not his fault either.  I wouldn't be honest if I said I didn't have those thoughts at one time but I learned to redirect my thoughts to what I do have(family, friends, etc.) and work with what you do have(sexually)...  It's NOT all about you...there are 2 in your marriage/relationship. ...

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      Having been through this at 37 too - YES it is hard BUT...it's not his fault either.  I wouldn't be honest if I said I didn't have those thoughts at one time but I learned to redirect my thoughts to what I do have(family, friends, etc.) and work with what you do have(sexually)...  It's NOT all about you...there are 2 in your marriage/relationship. 

      A couple of things that helped me were reading - the proper care and feeding of husbands by Dr. Laura and the 5 love languages by Gary Smalley.  Before you throw in the towel try one or both!  The last thing I did was also started a journal and everyday write down 3 things you appreciate about your husband (new ones!) maybe something he did for you or someone else or whatever...and let HIM read this book anytime he wants.  I can almost guarantee you in 3-4 weeks you'll both be different!  I know whether there's issues between you or not its a great tool to be happy!  Hang in there...go to the groups, dr's etc. don't avoid him if you can help it, I promise you he feels just as bad if not worse than you do.

    • sunshinegirl
      Oct. 21, 2012

      Figueroa - I so understand your predicament. I am 33 and been married for the last 10 months. My husband is 36. He's been diagnosed with low T and ED as well, just as with your husband.

       

      Infact we have never been abe to consummate our marriage. It's left me shattered.

       

      I completely relate to your feeling of lack of attraction, conflicting emotions...

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      Figueroa - I so understand your predicament. I am 33 and been married for the last 10 months. My husband is 36. He's been diagnosed with low T and ED as well, just as with your husband.

       

      Infact we have never been abe to consummate our marriage. It's left me shattered.

       

      I completely relate to your feeling of lack of attraction, conflicting emotions and unable to resign myself to this fate. In our case it was a case of an arranged marriage. No kids yet. My husband sometimes blames me for his problem - which is just wrong because medically the root-cause of his low-t condition has gone unnoticed for the last 5-6 years. 

       

      I don't know if I will be able to deal with kids and this situation. I'm at my wits end already but my fear of divorce and the guilt that comes with it holds me back.

       

      Your note made me feel that I was not alone and that something wasn't 'wrong' with me to feel the way I did. Thank you.

       

      Just wondering, how has it been since you last posted this note ..?

       

       

       

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Jan. 15, 2009

    My husband and I have been dealing with Ed for a few years now. I cannot stress communication, openmindedness, willingness, desire, determination. My husband chose not to take any of the medicatins offered. We have learned that there is so much more to being sexual then just intercourse. There's the emotional, physical, spiritual, and mental aspects....

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    My husband and I have been dealing with Ed for a few years now. I cannot stress communication, openmindedness, willingness, desire, determination. My husband chose not to take any of the medicatins offered. We have learned that there is so much more to being sexual then just intercourse. There's the emotional, physical, spiritual, and mental aspects. My husband doesn't always get an erection and/or maintain one, but we have a very fulfilled sex life. Would explain but not wanting to offend anyone. If interested in more just let me know. 

    • Anonymous
      anon
      Jan. 19, 2009

      if you dont mind could you elaborate i am 42 and have met someone who has ED we havent embarked on a sexual relationship yet as we are both just getting to know each other. i have thought about and put myself in the position of possibly never having full penetrative sex again and i am still very interested and attracted to this person. i feel that we fit comfortably...

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      if you dont mind could you elaborate i am 42 and have met someone who has ED we havent embarked on a sexual relationship yet as we are both just getting to know each other. i have thought about and put myself in the position of possibly never having full penetrative sex again and i am still very interested and attracted to this person. i feel that we fit comfortably into the above statement but i would like to be more informed about how to give him pleasure and comfort without the penetration.

    • Anonymous
      anon
      Jan. 19, 2009

      i am the same person enquiring about info without the penetration....i am female and would like to reasure him that penetration is not all important, but would still like to satisfy him

    • Anonymous
      N28
      Feb. 20, 2009

      Now thats what I'm talking about!!! If you love your man you will find a way to make love, hard or not.

    • Anonymous
      moving foreward
      May. 22, 2009

      I have the same willingness to work on my partners ED.  right now its a long distance relationshp and we have so much in common and other things yet to work out.  We are both older and have been intimate, not always a strong sexual encounter but there have been those deeply connecting moments of intimacy.  We tend to have a communicative relationship...

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      I have the same willingness to work on my partners ED.  right now its a long distance relationshp and we have so much in common and other things yet to work out.  We are both older and have been intimate, not always a strong sexual encounter but there have been those deeply connecting moments of intimacy.  We tend to have a communicative relationship yet with stress about job security these past few weeks, he has said some things that lead me to think he no longer wants me, desires me, or can be my love.  Come to find out he is worried about my upcoming visit with him.  We nearly broke off our relationship because of my not understanding his needs, he framed them as a need to focus on his work and I should do the same while visiting him.  When we got to talking, he was able to tell me of his difficulties lately, reassuring me that it is not me, but him that is having the problem.  He's become distant and it nearly cost us our relationship.  He understands we need to communicate and I will work with him on this.  This affects us both and we both nee to look at natural therapies.  We are both working on healthier lifestyles, have experience with meditation, accupuncture, herbs and natural approaches toward improved health.  I'm interested in knowing more about what has worked for you and more of your challenges and solutions. thank you.

    • grace&hope
      May. 17, 2010

      thank you for making me think that all is not lost. Please share with me the ways you have found to connect with your husband intimatly.  To bring pleasure to him. You know that is the worse thing for me is not being able give him that completeness. This is my first time on this how do get that info.

    • Ladybug
      Jun. 26, 2010

      Hello ED, I'm so happy for you guys! I do believe that there are other non-intercourse methods to sex life. I would like to learn more about what worked for you guys.

       

      I am considering marrying someone that has a venous leak and is able to have a partial erection.

       

      I don't have a libido at all, so I'll be fine without any sex. But he still...

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      Hello ED, I'm so happy for you guys! I do believe that there are other non-intercourse methods to sex life. I would like to learn more about what worked for you guys.

       

      I am considering marrying someone that has a venous leak and is able to have a partial erection.

       

      I don't have a libido at all, so I'll be fine without any sex. But he still has the desire to be sexually active, but is not capable of vaginal penetration.

       

       

    • Anonymous
      luvwife
      Sep. 02, 2012

      I agree it should still be all the wonderful things you and your husband share but know that you are so very blessed. Mine I guess is still reeling and mad and frustrated at his whole situation. I would love to get to the point of all that you have and other ways of being loveing and intimate. If your man just shuts you out its so very hard especially when...

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      I agree it should still be all the wonderful things you and your husband share but know that you are so very blessed. Mine I guess is still reeling and mad and frustrated at his whole situation. I would love to get to the point of all that you have and other ways of being loveing and intimate. If your man just shuts you out its so very hard especially when I would enjoy the true intimacy without sex would be wonderful

    • Esperance
      Apr. 08, 2013
      I really appreciate your thoughtful answer. I would appreciate some encouragement and direction in helping my husband through this difficult season. Your story could be my own.
    • Helen 1972
      Dec. 10, 2013
      I am 42 I fell in love with a man who had prostate treatment and his 59 please I would like to know what you did I love him so much I would do anything to make him feel loved and comfortable and complete again
    • Helen 1972
      Dec. 10, 2013
      I am 42 I fell in love with a man who had prostate treatment and his 59 please I would like to know what you did I love him so much I would do anything to make him feel loved and comfortable and complete again
  • Anonymous
    Mrs. Nookiefree
    Dec. 31, 2008

    I am a wife suffering silently with my husbands ED. Our relationship has developed a complete lack of intimacy. On most days, I feel like roommates sharing a house. We always had a very healthy sex life and were able to discuss sex openly with one another, then about 4 years ago, that all changed. My husband is able to achieve an erection, but not maintain...

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    I am a wife suffering silently with my husbands ED. Our relationship has developed a complete lack of intimacy. On most days, I feel like roommates sharing a house. We always had a very healthy sex life and were able to discuss sex openly with one another, then about 4 years ago, that all changed. My husband is able to achieve an erection, but not maintain an erection. It is very frustrating, because he doesn't want me to be around to witness the death of his erection, so he has turned to watching porno tapes and masturbating alone in the middle of the night, while I am asleep. This way, when he loses his erection, he is frustrated, but not embarrassed. I stand by him as the dutiful wife, but truthfully can not understand why he doesn't attempt to engage me sexually with gadgets or oral gratification. I feel like he has ED and I am the only one in the relationship not having sex. I feel especially frustrated, because my husband is too ashamed to get medical help.

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      Jan. 09, 2009

      I am 35.  My husband is 47.  We have been married four years, and we never had sex prior to our wedding night.  I have always been a very sexual person, and I thought he was too.  He said he did not know about his ED until that night.  He went right to the dr and got Viagra and it wasn't a problem as long as he was taking it, but it...

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      I am 35.  My husband is 47.  We have been married four years, and we never had sex prior to our wedding night.  I have always been a very sexual person, and I thought he was too.  He said he did not know about his ED until that night.  He went right to the dr and got Viagra and it wasn't a problem as long as he was taking it, but it disturbed me and confused me trying to figure out how he could not know he had this problem and also that he needed a pill to get an erection.  I had never once looked into ED.  He was an ironman and was in top notch physical condition.  Apparently the doctors told him he could have suffered nerve damage from his bike seat riding hundred mile bike rides so frequently.  The pressure of a 6'4" 200lb guy on a bike seat apparently was destructive to the nerves that make an erection.  I wanted to back out of everything, but I could not deal with myself breaking up with someone I loved because his penis wasn't working properly.  But it was and is a huge issue.  It has gotten worse in the past six months.  He doesn't even try anymore until I cry and become upset that he won't touch me or even act interested in sex.  When we do get into the discussion he tells me it's too stressful and he avoids it and sometimes just feels relief to get me to an orgasm because then he knows he doesn't have to worry about it for a while again.  He tells me he only gets six pills a month and wastes them sometimes because he takes it just in case, but I don't try to start anything because it's so humiliating and I feel so ugly and rejected when  he tells me no or if it won't get hard.  This is destroying our relationship.  I am 35 years old and cannot imagine this is the end of my sex life.  I feel like we are friends and I don't think I can share a bed with someone who would like to avoid sex completely forever.  I know this issue is not his fault, but if Viagra gives him an erection and he still avoids sex to the point we had it two times in 7 weeks.........I am so incredibly frustrated. 

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      Jan. 09, 2009

      Ok I have to ask you... (please know it is because i may be heading down that road) do you wish you had not married him? Is it something you regret? Please be honest I could really use the info.

       

      Kindly. 

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      Jan. 09, 2009

      Well sex is a big thing.  It's one of the things I looked forward to in a relationship all my life.  I'm not one of those women who is ok without it.  I need it.  You have to really love someone to give up something that means so much to you.  I could not have lived with myself not giving him the chance to be my husband regardless...

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      Well sex is a big thing.  It's one of the things I looked forward to in a relationship all my life.  I'm not one of those women who is ok without it.  I need it.  You have to really love someone to give up something that means so much to you.  I could not have lived with myself not giving him the chance to be my husband regardless of the other issues that came after making that choice.  That's the way I am though.  I made a choice, and I have tried my best to live with that choice taking the good with the bad.  I think it's a personal decision how much someone can take in terms of any marital issue.    Nobody can ever say I didn't give it my best shot if we go our separate ways.  Since I did not have this information prior to marrying him I honestly cannot say what would have happened.  It happened with another guy though who I ultimately ended up being just friends with.  Sexual chemistry is a big deal.  If there is no chemistry or things don't work right.....it's just weird.  I said I do, and I did and here I am.  You have to decide for yourself if you are willing to spend your life with someone you love who might not be able to give you everything you want/need.

    • Anonymous
      pk
      Aug. 04, 2009

      Is everything ok now?? You can try Homo injection, may be it will works

    • Anonymous
      elizabeth
      Oct. 30, 2010

      do you have any kids yet?  if so, do you ever think that if the problem isn't resolved you will nevr have kids?  me and my husband have been suffering with this issue also....He recently told me it was something that started even before we met, so he chose to stay away from relationships completely.....i am supportive but  it has taken a tl on...

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      do you have any kids yet?  if so, do you ever think that if the problem isn't resolved you will nevr have kids?  me and my husband have been suffering with this issue also....He recently told me it was something that started even before we met, so he chose to stay away from relationships completely.....i am supportive but  it has taken a tl on my self esteem and insecuritites bc i fee like its me...that im not thin enough or sexy.....i know that is not the case and my husband has gotten so upset about that he is so worried i will one day cheat on him.......i love him so much but I just wanna have that moment of passion and i dunno what to do or how to help.....i am 14 years younger and know i am at my peak bc i want it morning, noon and night....its just hard to deal with bc we have onmy been married a year and we never went thru our honeymoon phase and i dont think  we ever will....? 

    • Anonymous
      purple56
      Oct. 13, 2009

      Hello,

       

      Its amazing, I read your story and its' like you live in our home, we sleep in the same bed, but I might as well be his sister and he seems perfectly fine with the situation. I even went so far as to ask my doctor for something that would make me not want sex any more.  Becuase my needs cause us so much pain.  I feel like if I could...

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      Hello,

       

      Its amazing, I read your story and its' like you live in our home, we sleep in the same bed, but I might as well be his sister and he seems perfectly fine with the situation. I even went so far as to ask my doctor for something that would make me not want sex any more.  Becuase my needs cause us so much pain.  I feel like if I could just turn it off then we would be ok, its oblviously more a problem for me than him.  I am 53, is this supposed to be how it is?  My first husband was abusive and hard hearted, but getting hard was never a problem, and no I have never mentioned or even hinted comparing the two.  I would never do that, my present husband is everything my first was not, hes patient, forgiving, funny, good big brother to my grown children, loves animals and loves to shop...for himself of course and me.  WE used to dance around our house in the evenings to our song when we first came home, but now we don't...I don't undertand.

    • Anonymous
      biggrizzly
      May. 26, 2011

      lady you need to get a grip how an the heck do you think he feels its not all about you unless your a greedy snob. listen he feels like hes less of a man have you ever taken any of those pills ?no i bet not you have no clue how they make you feel. hes with you because he loves you,he takes those dang pills because he wants you too think he's a man, well if...

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      lady you need to get a grip how an the heck do you think he feels its not all about you unless your a greedy snob. listen he feels like hes less of a man have you ever taken any of those pills ?no i bet not you have no clue how they make you feel. hes with you because he loves you,he takes those dang pills because he wants you too think he's a man, well if sex proves your a man than ill stay a freakin boy all my life. Try sex toys they really work watch a sex movie who is going too see you two.nobody what do you have too lose? But listen if sex is all thats keeping you together then get the heck out because your a worthless pice of crap an he desivers better.          Dennis

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      May. 26, 2011
      Dennis, That wasn't a very nice response. You obviously do not understand the purpose of my post. I said we had been together four years, six now so if I was only in it for sex I would be long gone by now. I came here for support for how I feel trying to cope with this frustrating situation not to be blasted and called cruel names. I'm sorry for your ED problem...
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      Dennis, That wasn't a very nice response. You obviously do not understand the purpose of my post. I said we had been together four years, six now so if I was only in it for sex I would be long gone by now. I came here for support for how I feel trying to cope with this frustrating situation not to be blasted and called cruel names. I'm sorry for your ED problem but it's no excuse to be viscous. Thanks.
    • RUBYREDRESS
      Feb. 26, 2012

      Hi Elizabeth-Sorry he said such harsh words to you. Risking your emotions by exposing your difficulties in  this forum should not result in being being blindsided by Mr. Macho. His "handle" says it all-biggrizzly. My advice is don't settle. Go with your honey to the doctor and help him with his embarrassment at discussing his problem. An urologist is the...

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      Hi Elizabeth-Sorry he said such harsh words to you. Risking your emotions by exposing your difficulties in  this forum should not result in being being blindsided by Mr. Macho. His "handle" says it all-biggrizzly. My advice is don't settle. Go with your honey to the doctor and help him with his embarrassment at discussing his problem. An urologist is the best doctor to deal with this issue. Do you have a vibrator? It can be very satisfying to have some tenderness together and to be held while you pleasure yourself. It is very empowering. And the relief is tremendous. It makes you feel closer because he has taken part in seeing you be satisfied. Good luck.

    • RUBYREDRESS
      Feb. 26, 2012

      Hi Elizabeth-Sorry he said such harsh words to you. Risking your emotions by exposing your difficulties in  this forum should not result in being being blindsided by Mr. Macho. His "handle" says it all-biggrizzly. My advice is don't settle. Go with your honey to the doctor and help him with his embarrassment at discussing his problem. An urologist is the...

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      Hi Elizabeth-Sorry he said such harsh words to you. Risking your emotions by exposing your difficulties in  this forum should not result in being being blindsided by Mr. Macho. His "handle" says it all-biggrizzly. My advice is don't settle. Go with your honey to the doctor and help him with his embarrassment at discussing his problem. An urologist is the best doctor to deal with this issue. Do you have a vibrator? It can be very satisfying to have some tenderness together and to be held while you pleasure yourself. It is very empowering. And the relief is tremendous. It makes you feel closer because he has taken part in seeing you be satisfied. Good luck.

    • Anonymous
      arizonabrunette
      Sep. 20, 2011

      why on earth are you staying with this man? He is insensitive to YOUR needs...good grief...i see no future here. We must be wise and realize we can sometimes choose wrong people despite loving them, and we can love a lot of people in one lifetime...but we only get one chance to find that special joy from the right person. You deserve better.

    • Anonymous
      luvwife
      Sep. 02, 2012

      I can relate to your situation. We have been dealing with this in my home as well. Recently I finally got him to talk and I too was told by him we were just roommates and its like I remind him of who he used to be. he said he is not the man he used to be and he doesnt know who he is. Said hed just as soon be alone, but that is not a option I believe in marriage...

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      I can relate to your situation. We have been dealing with this in my home as well. Recently I finally got him to talk and I too was told by him we were just roommates and its like I remind him of who he used to be. he said he is not the man he used to be and he doesnt know who he is. Said hed just as soon be alone, but that is not a option I believe in marriage and my vows thru sickness and health. He has let me know he doesnt want to have the conversation again now that its all out there. He doesnt want surgery or shots at this point. He has also been told he has a veanous leak. I just feel helpless of course but also feeling rejected and lonely since even a hug or curling up would sure help me. I think I should start a sight just for the wives so to help out other women wanting to just support and love their man through this ordeal. I know it would sure help me. The whole rejected part was the worst for me But I respect yes its his body but he doesnt understand its still us. He doesnt need to do this alone, I am here but I guess he isnt ready.

    • cdngirl
      Jul. 30, 2013

      I totally agree that a site for the wives who are going through this would be very beneficial.  Just reading through these posts helps.  I know it is the man going through the physical issue, but it effects the couple on a deep emotional level.  I can't help but wonder how things would be received if the roles were reversed.  I love...

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      I totally agree that a site for the wives who are going through this would be very beneficial.  Just reading through these posts helps.  I know it is the man going through the physical issue, but it effects the couple on a deep emotional level.  I can't help but wonder how things would be received if the roles were reversed.  I love my husband to bits and want to do everything I can to help.  But I am very frustrated by his seeming lack of interest in all things intimate since this is now happening more often than not.  I feel like I am starving for affection and want to have an affair - but it is my husband I wand to have it with.

    • Ray of Hope
      Nov. 20, 2013

      Beautifully put

    • Marlou
      Dec. 30, 2013
      I feel the same as you. Just don't know what to do. I can't spend forever feeling like this though.
    • Marlou
      Dec. 30, 2013
      Sorry to hear how much this effects you and your relationship. It's sad that you both have to go through all of this. I have been married 4 years and most of this time has been sexless. This year has only been once and that was because I broke down and cried. We love each other but I usually end up in the spare room as I get very sad as hugs are the only thing...
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      Sorry to hear how much this effects you and your relationship. It's sad that you both have to go through all of this. I have been married 4 years and most of this time has been sexless. This year has only been once and that was because I broke down and cried. We love each other but I usually end up in the spare room as I get very sad as hugs are the only thing that happens. I am 48 and my husband is 63. I keep myself fit and my husband is over weight. He does have copd, a lung problem and his hearing is not very good so he usually doesn't hear me when I am sad at night.The sex problem has effected our relationship. I used to be a happy person. We would laugh a lot together. This has affected everything. I long to feel really loved. I have lost my mum too. He spends a lot of time watching tv and on his laptop. I feel neglected.
  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Dec. 07, 2008

    I have been down the same road as the both of you. Boston Medical has some penis injections that might work for him. The problem is with the associated side effects from the other medicines.

    I have a similar reaction to these medicines. When I am not using these meds, I do not have an erection problem. Have him go to the gym and exercise to help eliminate the...

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    I have been down the same road as the both of you. Boston Medical has some penis injections that might work for him. The problem is with the associated side effects from the other medicines.

    I have a similar reaction to these medicines. When I am not using these meds, I do not have an erection problem. Have him go to the gym and exercise to help eliminate the need for any of the drugs or help flush them from his body.

    The surgerical implant, vascular reconstructive, or venous ligation could be the last resort.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Nov. 18, 2008

    I am 45 and my husband is 58 with ED.  In the last two years our sexual relations have dwindled to hardly anything. He talked with the doctor and the doc gave him              testosterone gel that he applies every day.  The gel helps give him energy so that he is not as tired,...

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    I am 45 and my husband is 58 with ED.  In the last two years our sexual relations have dwindled to hardly anything. He talked with the doctor and the doc gave him              testosterone gel that he applies every day.  The gel helps give him energy so that he is not as tired, but he doesn't seem interested in having sex. We have a good relationship and sex is not the most important part of our relationship.  However, I do know that men 'need' sex. It is hard for me because I know he is a man and he is embarrased about ED. I feel that I am not attractive to him and that is part of the problem, but he tries to assure me that he is definitely attracted to me and if he was 35 that I wouldn't be able to keep him away!!!  I try not to discuss sex as not to make him feel worse.  Are their ways to try and stimulate him to help him with ED or do we have to resort to pills, lotions, etc. as the person mentioned earlier on this page? He does have high blood pressure, high cholestrol and is working on getting/keeping everything under control with medication. 

     

    Would appreciate any information or suggestions that you might have to help with ED - he would like to not have take medication.

    • Anonymous
      Matt
      Nov. 22, 2008

      Hello my name is Matt I'm older man and I need a treatment for my Erectile Dysfunction problem, I need to know if the generic Viagra works. I found this website <a href="http://www.xlpharmacy.com/generic-viagra/">Generic Viagra</a> http://www.xlpharmacy.com/generic-viagra/ it seems to be ok but I'm not sure. Can anybody help me with some info about...

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      Hello my name is Matt I'm older man and I need a treatment for my Erectile Dysfunction problem, I need to know if the generic Viagra works. I found this website <a href="http://www.xlpharmacy.com/generic-viagra/">Generic Viagra</a> http://www.xlpharmacy.com/generic-viagra/ it seems to be ok but I'm not sure. Can anybody help me with some info about this website or maybe recommend another website that sales generic Viagra .... thank you Matt

  • Anonymous
    Matt
    Nov. 05, 2008


    Hello my name is Matt I'm older man and I need a treatment for my Erectile Dysfunction problem, I need to know if the generic Viagra works. I found this website <a href="http://www.xlpharmacy.com/generic-viagra/">Generic Viagra</a> http://www.xlpharmacy.com/generic-viagra/ it seems to be ok but I'm not sure. Can anybody help me with some info about...

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    Hello my name is Matt I'm older man and I need a treatment for my Erectile Dysfunction problem, I need to know if the generic Viagra works. I found this website <a href="http://www.xlpharmacy.com/generic-viagra/">Generic Viagra</a> http://www.xlpharmacy.com/generic-viagra/ it seems to be ok but I'm not sure. Can anybody help me with some info about this website or maybe recommend another website that sales generic Viagra .... thank you Matt

    • Anonymous
      Saracen
      Nov. 06, 2008

      Hi Matt as far as I know there is no such thing as Genereic Viagra, or Generic Cialis for that matter..they're all still under some form of patent. You might find something that works but I reckon you'd be taking a risk, who knows what they're made from..question is, is it worth it? I'd suggest you see your Doctor, as I did, and get the real thing. It's a little...

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      Hi Matt as far as I know there is no such thing as Genereic Viagra, or Generic Cialis for that matter..they're all still under some form of patent. You might find something that works but I reckon you'd be taking a risk, who knows what they're made from..question is, is it worth it? I'd suggest you see your Doctor, as I did, and get the real thing. It's a little more expensive than what's available on the Internet but at least your getting the real stuff..and believe me it's more than worth it.

    • Anonymous
      Saracen
      Nov. 07, 2008

      Hey Matt you should read this:

       

      http://www.theregister.co.uk/2003/07/21/the_war_against_viagra/

    • Anonymous
      Donald C
      Feb. 12, 2009

      Hello Matt, Two brands of pills (A) "Cupid" and (B) "Silagra" are made in India under licence. Silagra is made by the following company, Cipla Ltd. Mumbai Central, Mumbai 400 008, India. But I wonder if they are available in the US, due to the agreements with the makers. They are still considred prescription drugs and should be used under medical supervision....

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      Hello Matt, Two brands of pills (A) "Cupid" and (B) "Silagra" are made in India under licence. Silagra is made by the following company, Cipla Ltd. Mumbai Central, Mumbai 400 008, India. But I wonder if they are available in the US, due to the agreements with the makers. They are still considred prescription drugs and should be used under medical supervision. I find that Viagra and the abovementioned works well, when taken on a empty stomach. I have to wait at least two hours after eating to get any useful effect. Good luck, Donald C.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Oct. 28, 2008

    we are in the same boat as you i am 44 my husband 58, its been a long 8 year battle for us, i think i miss sex more then he does.

    • deswife08
      Oct. 28, 2008

      As a younger wife I went through a stage of morning  knowing that it would never be the same and have tried to help him every way I can, emotionally and physically but it's extremely damaging to their being and our issues now are because he finds it hard to be intimate in any form because he can't always follow through.  Thus creating distance...

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      As a younger wife I went through a stage of morning  knowing that it would never be the same and have tried to help him every way I can, emotionally and physically but it's extremely damaging to their being and our issues now are because he finds it hard to be intimate in any form because he can't always follow through.  Thus creating distance and making it uncomfortable to be close.  Some nights we just don't say anything because were so frustrated!  He feels surgery is the only fix to please both.  Its become hard to talk about it together without any guilt and neither of us go sharing this with our friends!  So this was the only outlet I found to speak openly with other who are struggling. 

    • Anonymous
      Ranjit Kumar
      Nov. 02, 2008

      Sorry to hear about your problem, I have undergone this after my bypasss for one year, then consulted the family doctor he adviced me to keep my sugar levels in control by Herbal medicines. I have been maintaining my blood sugar levels and the problems have been reduced and have been able to have an better sexual life though not as earlier but see improvement...

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      Sorry to hear about your problem, I have undergone this after my bypasss for one year, then consulted the family doctor he adviced me to keep my sugar levels in control by Herbal medicines. I have been maintaining my blood sugar levels and the problems have been reduced and have been able to have an better sexual life though not as earlier but see improvement day by day. Maintaining sugar level by not consuming sugar in any form unless low.

    • deswife08
      Feb. 03, 2009

      I am interested in what Herbal medicines you take for the diabeties.  My husband would love to get off the meds if possible!

    • Anonymous
      darling
      Sep. 01, 2009

      If it was your problem you would probably feel like a failure.  Please show him love and act like it is no big deal because you love him and would love to be with him in any way that you can.  Also an idea is if he wants to please you to use a sex toy or oral sex.  If this is not your deal you may have to please your self when you are alone...

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      If it was your problem you would probably feel like a failure.  Please show him love and act like it is no big deal because you love him and would love to be with him in any way that you can.  Also an idea is if he wants to please you to use a sex toy or oral sex.  If this is not your deal you may have to please your self when you are alone if it is creating a problem for you.  But, please don't make him feel bad about himself.  That is not all there is to marriage.

      Love and prayers because I understand

    • consult1023
      Jan. 23, 2010

      I am a husband going through emotional problems stemming from ED.  I am going to have surgery for an implant soon.  First for you, stand by your husband.  Without the support of you through the ordeal of ED, you will end up divorced.  You dont know what it means to a man to have that support and talk to him about it. 

    • Peanut
      Feb. 10, 2010

      How do I get him to even tell me?  I know about it because I've found samples of Viagra & Levitra. Yes, I snooped because he was going to the Urologist all of the time and wouldn't tell me what was going on except to say that he didn't even want to talk to the doctor about it because it was embarrassing.  We've never kept secrets from each...

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      How do I get him to even tell me?  I know about it because I've found samples of Viagra & Levitra. Yes, I snooped because he was going to the Urologist all of the time and wouldn't tell me what was going on except to say that he didn't even want to talk to the doctor about it because it was embarrassing.  We've never kept secrets from each other.  In November, I found a prescription for Levitra that he just filled this week. (Feb) Some of the sample pills are gone.  Is he masturbating to see if they work?  I do support my husband and I love him dearly, but he is literally pushing me away and I think it's because he's embarrassed.  How do I tell him I know whats going on and get him to open up to me?  I don't want to lose my marriage over this.  I will say that after his Mother passed away in July 2009, is when he started to shut down.  You being someone who is going through this personally, please tell me how to help my husband.

    • Anonymous
      inspector525
      Feb. 10, 2010

      Peanut,

       

      Do not be afraid to confront him about it.  Be understanding and very supportive.  This is not a problem that can't be fixed.  I have lived with it almost 20 years.  I just got married in November, and even though my wife knew about it, she thinks it is pyschological.  I have been to numerous doctors and they have all...

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      Peanut,

       

      Do not be afraid to confront him about it.  Be understanding and very supportive.  This is not a problem that can't be fixed.  I have lived with it almost 20 years.  I just got married in November, and even though my wife knew about it, she thinks it is pyschological.  I have been to numerous doctors and they have all told me that this only occurs in about 10% of the patients.  It is very, very frustrating to him.  He feels like he is not a man anymore.  And the more he fails to perform, the more stress and frustrated he gets, which in turn makes it worse.  Talk to him and try to go to a doctor with him.  Get you a list of questions to ask the doctor. I am going to have an implant done.  The coloplast titan.  My wife says NO. There are thousands of men out here that have them.  They correct about 99% of the ED problems, but they are the last resort.  I imagine that my wife will divorce me when I have it done.  I look at it this way, without it, I can't make love with her, with it, she is going to divorce me.  She is a nurse.  My biggest advice is to be understanding, supportive, make him go to the doctor and you go with him.  Yes, it is embarrassing. But what is more important, being embarrassed or losing your husband?  You can write me anytime you want at craigcvngtn@aol.com.  I hope that this helps.  If there is anything else I can do, let me know, even if you just want to chat.

       

      Michael Craig

    • Peanut
      Feb. 16, 2010

      Well, I confronted him in a sense.  He said that he was dealing with personal issues.  I felt that was my 'in'.  I told him that with the little bit of information that he's given me, I believe that I know what's going on with him.  I never said 'the words'.  I was afraid he'd shut down.  I told him that it was ok, I love him unconditionally, and...

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      Well, I confronted him in a sense.  He said that he was dealing with personal issues.  I felt that was my 'in'.  I told him that with the little bit of information that he's given me, I believe that I know what's going on with him.  I never said 'the words'.  I was afraid he'd shut down.  I told him that it was ok, I love him unconditionally, and I supported him 100%.  I also told him that it doesn't define who he is.  I guess now I'll wait and see.  Thank you for your advice. 

    • Dean
      May. 08, 2010

      Wow 20 years, im 29yrs old and been having probs and has been an ongoing nightmare for 12yrs. Like your situation my wife seems to think its phycological despite the fact I have had a test where I have had low testosterone and have had sustanon in past every 3 months and has had some positive effect. My doctor stopped giving it to me because he was fearful...

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      Wow 20 years, im 29yrs old and been having probs and has been an ongoing nightmare for 12yrs. Like your situation my wife seems to think its phycological despite the fact I have had a test where I have had low testosterone and have had sustanon in past every 3 months and has had some positive effect. My doctor stopped giving it to me because he was fearful of getting a enlarged prostate but because of the marrital problems my ED was causing for such a long time he reconsidered and sent me for a androgen test was low and let me go back on. I have had only once recently and didnt really work well at all talked to my doctor about having more frequently but had to do another test to see if levels are still low after 3 months. He hasnt sent me to a urologist either and I just want answers and to have a normal sex life. For me also I have had blocks where it hasnt been as bad and other blocks of time where its been a catastrophe but mostly the latter. That also points to me that it is a hormonal thing. P.s I think its great to find a site where I can talk about this problem I feel so cheated because I am quite young to have this problem and feel like Im never gonna have a normal consistent sex life.

    • replyonly
      Sep. 23, 2010

      My husband is 28 years old and was diagnosed with low tesosterone when he was 27. He has taken testosterone injections in the past with little increase in his number. Our Primary care finally sent him to an urologist who checked him out and gave him a clean bill of health. No blockages, no prostate problems, nothing other than the low testosterone. He started ...

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      My husband is 28 years old and was diagnosed with low tesosterone when he was 27. He has taken testosterone injections in the past with little increase in his number. Our Primary care finally sent him to an urologist who checked him out and gave him a clean bill of health. No blockages, no prostate problems, nothing other than the low testosterone. He started  him on androgel, which he applies to his stomach every morning. His number is now over 900. (it was 199) This however has not helped him maintain an erection, even the medicines like viagra, levitra and cialis do not work. It has become psycological. There are periods of time where he can get a "semi" and we have tracked these times to where there is less stress in his life. His low self confidence is even lower because he feels less "manly" because he can not please me sexually. It is important in the relationship you are in to help your significant other however you can to acheive the big "O"  (toys, oral, etc) this will maintain your intimate relationship with her and keep her satisfied. It is equally important that she also try her best to pleasure you as well. It may seem silly if you can get an erection, but there is potential for the psychological part to become worse if you feel shes not pleasuring you as well. We are thinking about surgical procedures due to the young age, but hoping with time it will get better! Good luck to you

    • Esperance
      Apr. 08, 2013
      Thank you. It is very helpful to have a man's perspective. I love my husband very much, and this is a new issue for us. It will not put our commitment in danger one bit, but it is something we both mourn the loss of. I want to know how to help my husband understand how much I respect and value him. He is an athlete, funny, very ambitious and intelligent, and...
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      Thank you. It is very helpful to have a man's perspective. I love my husband very much, and this is a new issue for us. It will not put our commitment in danger one bit, but it is something we both mourn the loss of. I want to know how to help my husband understand how much I respect and value him. He is an athlete, funny, very ambitious and intelligent, and loved by so many. He's special. Men just aren't talking about this in ways that are helpful for women like me. I appreciate your transparency.
    • Neednmyman
      Nov. 24, 2012
      I need help with my husband. He will talk about it and do nothing.
    • Whore for a wife
      May. 16, 2012
      And my husband has done nothing but push me away every since we got married. Romance was great before we got married. Everytime I ask what's wrong with our romance he gets pissed at me call me a whore and leves for the evening. Dated/lived together for 17 years before we got married. We did not even spend our wedding nite together.
    • kittycat
      Sep. 18, 2011

      my husband had prostate cancer and we struggled with this for over 6 years...practically no sex, was unable to achieve an errection.  We finally decided to have a penile implant.  The surgery was successful, but the results only mediocre.  Able to have penetration but does not feel at all like him oldself and organ stays cold...not very natural,...

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      my husband had prostate cancer and we struggled with this for over 6 years...practically no sex, was unable to achieve an errection.  We finally decided to have a penile implant.  The surgery was successful, but the results only mediocre.  Able to have penetration but does not feel at all like him oldself and organ stays cold...not very natural, but better than nothing.

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      Nov. 05, 2008

      It seems we are all in the same boat. My husband and I are both 48 and we have not been able to have sex in almost 9 years.  He is a heart patient and a diabetic. We have tried to talk to his doctors about possibly changing some of his medication and they won't even listen. Their response is usually "The medication is working really well to control his...

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      It seems we are all in the same boat. My husband and I are both 48 and we have not been able to have sex in almost 9 years.  He is a heart patient and a diabetic. We have tried to talk to his doctors about possibly changing some of his medication and they won't even listen. Their response is usually "The medication is working really well to control his blood pressure and diabetes". That may be all well and good for them but they aren't the ones who haven't been able to have any sex in 9 years.  We have tried Viagra, Levitra and Cialis and nothing even began to work. He and I both miss sex so very much.  I don't know what else to do or where to go.  It is so hard to imagine never being able to make love with him ever again.

    • Anonymous
      Nate28
      Feb. 20, 2009

      Seriously if you've tried all that with no luck then its most likely just not going to happen. Have a talk with your hubby and find unconventional ways to be intimate. Even if you can't have normal sex there is still other stuff you can do. Yes, you both will have to be creative and unselfish but it's worth it, right?

    • Anonymous
      jm
      Jun. 09, 2009

      First off, you don't miss sex more than he does. It's extremely frustrating for him because he wants to do this, but his body has taught him that when he can't follow through, it leads to feelings of worthlessness, doubt, and the notion that he's not really a man. (think of the emotional effects of menopause, but repeating every time he tries to get intimate)....

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      First off, you don't miss sex more than he does. It's extremely frustrating for him because he wants to do this, but his body has taught him that when he can't follow through, it leads to feelings of worthlessness, doubt, and the notion that he's not really a man. (think of the emotional effects of menopause, but repeating every time he tries to get intimate). On top of that, many women translate erectile dysfunction as their men not finding them attractive. This is particularly embodied in that Sex in the City episode, where Charlotte finds that the cure to her partner's problem is by being sexy. This is an extremely damaging. The end result is the woman getting mad at a man who very much wants to please his woman, but can't. All of these things combined make it very hard for the male to want to be intimate; after all, why would anyone want to go through that every night?


      It's important to remember, there are literally hundreds of causes for this, and even more solutions. If Viagra doesn't work, then Cialas may be the better option. If neither of those work, then it's time to go to a urologist and get blood work done. There's a good chance that the testosterone is low. If that is there case, there are a host of causes for this: a different medication is interfering, there is testicular damage, there is a thyroid problem, there is a heart problem, there is a hormonal problem....really the list goes on and on. There is always something more than can be done, and there are at least 50 things that can be done before surgury is necessary.


      But no matter the cause or effect, remember ladies: the cause is NOT you, and if the woman gets upset at the man even once, it makes it twice as difficult to keep an erection next time.

       

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      Aug. 14, 2009

      my partner had back surgery 2 years ago and since  then we dont have sex but maybe once every few months.   And its always quick and not satisfying for myself.  He dose take viagra once in while but says the side effects arent worth it. ive asked his to help me feel good in ither ways but he ignores me.  Im starting to think that he...

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      my partner had back surgery 2 years ago and since  then we dont have sex but maybe once every few months.   And its always quick and not satisfying for myself.  He dose take viagra once in while but says the side effects arent worth it. ive asked his to help me feel good in ither ways but he ignores me.  Im starting to think that he is not attracted to me anymore and maybe I should move on.  Weve been together 10 years and the sex was great until right before his surgery.  I donlt want to be selfish but imfrustrated.

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

      od but he always has an excuse   Im in pain, i dont feel well, im tired. 

    • Anonymous
      purple56
      Oct. 13, 2009

      Hello, I feel out of control, I have no control over whether my husband and I have sex at all. I know this sounds like I am a control freak, I'm not, it would just be nice to feel confident that if I planned a romantic evening that I might have a snowballs chance in hell of him agreeing to participate or at least let me have some satisfaction.  I understand...

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      Hello, I feel out of control, I have no control over whether my husband and I have sex at all. I know this sounds like I am a control freak, I'm not, it would just be nice to feel confident that if I planned a romantic evening that I might have a snowballs chance in hell of him agreeing to participate or at least let me have some satisfaction.  I understand the medication has side affects, and that he is uncomfortable about his weight, I am attracted to him just the same.  I read on this site over and over how we (women) should not push him, we should not make him feel bad.  What about us (women) We have been dealing with this for 10 years now, he is now 42 and I am 53.  We are a perfect match in everyway, but I truly miss the feel of him and feeling wanted.  When I talk with him about it he assures me he feels the same.  When I suggest the other methods of being initmate he agrees, but he does not follow through.  I just keep wondering while I being the woman in this relationship have been extremely patient, when does he decide to man up and say I love this woman, I want to see her feel better about her self, lets do some oral, or sex toys something..it just seems that he is so absorbed in is own self percieved short commings that he is being selfish?  I hate feeling like this and I want to scream, I have been very patient, when do you think you might want to be a little more selfless?

    • Anonymous
      lisam
      May. 01, 2011

      I agree with you 100%~ wish I had the  answers!Cry

    • tekturna
      Sep. 14, 2011

      I am a man with ED I take the pill and use a pump just to try and keep it up for her as far as trying other ways to keep her happy I can tell you one of the problems that I had with it was it sure seems like she is enjoying this a whole lot better than she used to enjoy me it's hard for a man not to be able to take care of his wife I know it hurts me to know...

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      I am a man with ED I take the pill and use a pump just to try and keep it up for her as far as trying other ways to keep her happy I can tell you one of the problems that I had with it was it sure seems like she is enjoying this a whole lot better than she used to enjoy me it's hard for a man not to be able to take care of his wife I know it hurts me to know end but I was the one that suggested toys for her and oral sex I have been with my wife for over 35 years and have dealt with ED for over ten years and I find that if I just hold my wife whild she enjoys self enjoyment it's good for both of us my wife tells me daily that it is ok that she loves me and sex is just part of that love and when we are done in the bedroom she is more than satisfied yes it is hard for a man to get used to their wife/girlfriend using other means for satisfaction but if they love you and you love them then where is the problem

    • anonymous
      Oct. 03, 2011

      I know I am late responding to this.  However, I am going through the samething.  My  have husband has ED.  He has high blood pressure.  I prepour his medications for him. He just skips his medication sometimes, eats all times of the day with no regards to his health.  He knows if his blood pressure falls within normal parameters,...

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      I know I am late responding to this.  However, I am going through the samething.  My  have husband has ED.  He has high blood pressure.  I prepour his medications for him. He just skips his medication sometimes, eats all times of the day with no regards to his health.  He knows if his blood pressure falls within normal parameters, his ED should improve, but he acts like he doesn't care.  He doesn't even use sex toys, oral sex on me NOTHING.  When alone, he doesn't even kiss me or hug me.  As a woman, a man needs to realize we need to feel wanted, loved.  What should I do?  I have been very patient, we have been married for 11 years and I feel so disgusted and not wanted.  I know I shouldn't feel like that but he isn't doing anything to help himself (doesn't make his MD appointments, not taking medication daily, etc).  Those actions make me think he doesn't care.  Right?  What should I do?

    • stg
      stg
      Aug. 08, 2011

      My husband back surgery almost 3 1/2 years ago as well. The Dr. told him he would make my husband 80% better. Well we weren't aware the 20% he was losing was his sex drive. I have asked him, no pleaded with many times to see our Primary Dr but he does not want to go "talk" to anyone. We are currenlty no sexually active at all and we don't even kiss. I know...

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      My husband back surgery almost 3 1/2 years ago as well. The Dr. told him he would make my husband 80% better. Well we weren't aware the 20% he was losing was his sex drive. I have asked him, no pleaded with many times to see our Primary Dr but he does not want to go "talk" to anyone. We are currenlty no sexually active at all and we don't even kiss. I know how you feel and its frustrating and your marriage feels empty.

       

      Good luck. I hope it turns our better for you what it has been for me.

    • Confused454
      Mar. 30, 2013
      My husband had lower back surgery 5 years before we met our sex life was great until about 6 months ago. I really feel my husband is cheating. My ex husband was the same he couldn't get erect with me I found he had been cheating (he had told me something was wrong with him) after 6 months seperated we got to together and he had no problem that night.
    • cherry
      Oct. 15, 2013

      Dear all

      I am a new entrant here but sure know how painful it is to see your husband pushing you away though you try to stand by him all through. It seems like you are losing control on your own life. It is easier to say to be with your husband cauze they need you but difficult to be when husband just shuns you not understanding that you care and are going...

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      Dear all

      I am a new entrant here but sure know how painful it is to see your husband pushing you away though you try to stand by him all through. It seems like you are losing control on your own life. It is easier to say to be with your husband cauze they need you but difficult to be when husband just shuns you not understanding that you care and are going through pain of almost the same measure.

       

    • cherry
      Oct. 15, 2013

      Dear all

      I am a new entrant here but sure know how painful it is to see your husband pushing you away though you try to stand by him all through. It seems like you are losing control on your own life. It is easier to say to be with your husband cauze they need you but difficult to be when husband just shuns you not understanding that you care and are going...

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      Dear all

      I am a new entrant here but sure know how painful it is to see your husband pushing you away though you try to stand by him all through. It seems like you are losing control on your own life. It is easier to say to be with your husband cauze they need you but difficult to be when husband just shuns you not understanding that you care and are going through pain of almost the same measure.

       

    • Anonymous
      dippitydodah
      Oct. 24, 2013

      Sorry to hear about your problems. When I read that I thought two things, one of which I have chronic neck pain, from damaged disc C6-C-7 but with narcotics and valium to relax that area enough I can have outrageous romantic times with my man for hours. I was browsing through here looking for some information that would help him out on a n issue that sometimes...

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      Sorry to hear about your problems. When I read that I thought two things, one of which I have chronic neck pain, from damaged disc C6-C-7 but with narcotics and valium to relax that area enough I can have outrageous romantic times with my man for hours. I was browsing through here looking for some information that would help him out on a n issue that sometimes bothers him. So, unless he is getting good pain management, chronic pain can really get you down and you need to tighten up every muscle in your body to engage in sexual expressions of loving, so that might be where he is, it can interefere with him mentally so as he may not want to, so he perhaps should be seeking pain management, as even after operations there can be scar tissue. Also there can be nerve damage due to scar tissue pressing on any number of nerves in his spine that would effect that area. Thirdly you must must must communicate your concerns with him, the largest sex organ is the brain, and if you aren't even using that to communicate your needs and even why he is pulling away from what you did have, you need to face that - it may not be the answer you are looking for but I believe Dr. Phil says the only thing worse than being in a relationship that isn't working is being in a relationship that isn't working a day longer. 

    • Anonymous
      Melissa
      Sep. 09, 2011

      Wow

      jim you have no idea how good that was to hear..Thank you

    • Alex
      Nov. 30, 2011

      JM you have definitely opened my eyes with what you say. I felt worthless and unattractive because my husband is perfectly healthy. He has never taken any medication other that panado's but still has trouble being intimate. I guess the best is to see a doc. Thanks

    • not happy
      May. 02, 2012

      i adore my husband and i will do anything for him and iv been doing for him for three yrs now so he wont feel bad but to be honest its getting kinda old i serve his sexual needs but i dont get none in return and this has been going on for w yrs this ed crap is messed it messes with the man and womens psyhe 

    • Name
      Aug. 11, 2013
      I am in the same boat. My husband is 52 and I am 47. This has been going on for us for the last 5 years. He has been to the doctor and urologist. Only answers we got was its your age. When you hit middle age this is what happens. We use to have sex everyday some times 2 or 3 times a day. Then it just stopped all of a sudden. He just lost all desire. The rare...
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      I am in the same boat. My husband is 52 and I am 47. This has been going on for us for the last 5 years. He has been to the doctor and urologist. Only answers we got was its your age. When you hit middle age this is what happens. We use to have sex everyday some times 2 or 3 times a day. Then it just stopped all of a sudden. He just lost all desire. The rare occasion when we do have sex it's not even semi. He has an orgasim but leaves me high and dry. It's so frustrating. We have talked about this. All he says is he is sorry. He doesn't even try to help me. I have toys but they just aren't the same. I miss my husband terribly. I have been a good and patient wife but honestly I don't know how much longer I can be. I never dreamed at 42 my sex life would be over.
    • Anonymous
      Done Mourning
      Sep. 02, 2013
      Your story sounds identical to mine..... As a matter of fact we just took a weekend trip & the last day he decides to try. Of course, true to the lady 4 years it never is "really ready" but we try then its soft & he tries to hurry up & "finish" I'm pissed!!! A- because if he would spend 20 minutes of foreplay with me then maybe I might get SOME satisfaction...
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      Your story sounds identical to mine..... As a matter of fact we just took a weekend trip & the last day he decides to try. Of course, true to the lady 4 years it never is "really ready" but we try then its soft & he tries to hurry up & "finish" I'm pissed!!! A- because if he would spend 20 minutes of foreplay with me then maybe I might get SOME satisfaction B - he won't use or even try toys on me C - he's a "lazy lover" meaning he doesn't even work at pleasing me, making out with me or even a nice long sensual massage. I've mourned & supported him for 4 years! I'm not looking to change my situation but I am actively seeking an affair for sex only. I need some form of physical attraction/affection. Before I lose my mind!!!!
    • Anonymous
      AD
      May. 06, 2013

      JM,

       

      Thank you for your input. This made me cry. I didn't know my husband was experiencing this all the time. He went from paying tons of attention to me to almost nothing at all. I thought he was cheating on me because he didn't tell me anything. We went from having sex almost daily to almost never. I just thought it was a once in a while occurance....

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      JM,

       

      Thank you for your input. This made me cry. I didn't know my husband was experiencing this all the time. He went from paying tons of attention to me to almost nothing at all. I thought he was cheating on me because he didn't tell me anything. We went from having sex almost daily to almost never. I just thought it was a once in a while occurance. We had a big fight and he blurted it out. I was shocked. 

       

      I just appreciate you letting me, us - women, know that it's not us. It's important to know that it's not that he doesn't desire me but it's just he's frustrated.

       

      I want to see if there are foods he should eat or avoid. He probably will NEVER seek medical help for it no matter how much I beg. 

       

      I will continue to support him and love him. Maybe one day he will see what is wrong and we can fix this.

       

       

    • Anonymous
      Done Mourning
      Sep. 02, 2013
      JM What's your role in this ED conversation. Are you a medical professional? I am and some of your info is right on but please quit making it sound like there is a reason..... sometimes there isn't. I've put my husband thru every test & sent him to specialist all over - it doesn't work!!! I can't make him feel any more inadequate by putting him thru more test,...
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      JM What's your role in this ED conversation. Are you a medical professional? I am and some of your info is right on but please quit making it sound like there is a reason..... sometimes there isn't. I've put my husband thru every test & sent him to specialist all over - it doesn't work!!! I can't make him feel any more inadequate by putting him thru more test, pokes, prods, fittings etc.... if he wants a prosthetic then he will decide. In the meantime, I need emotional & physical attention. Please don't make wives feel they've failed by making their husbands feel inadequate. Obviously, in bed they have some inadequacies despite their efforts & desires. This is a horrible predicament to be in.
    • Anonymous
      Anonymous
      Nov. 18, 2009

      It might be a blood flow problem Geritol vitamins may help.

       

    • Anonymous
      Eddie2
      Sep. 01, 2011

      I don't like taking prescription medicine because of the expense, how dangerous the side effects are, and because I don't like going to see the doctor. I tend to self-medicate often but was fearful of trying out another sex pill after experiencing scary side effects from taking too large of doses of l-arginine and feeling heart palpitations.

      I took the Dr....

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      I don't like taking prescription medicine because of the expense, how dangerous the side effects are, and because I don't like going to see the doctor. I tend to self-medicate often but was fearful of trying out another sex pill after experiencing scary side effects from taking too large of doses of l-arginine and feeling heart palpitations.

      I took the Dr. Max Powers HGH Spray. Its an ORAL Spray and you can order online. It was effective without going over the top and making me think I was about to have a heart attack. After taking one dose I waited a couple of days before taking another one, and somehow the effects lasted over the next two days until it tapered off. If you want to know how it makes you feel I could best describe it as a mood inducer and a stiffener- It makes you stand more erect and it will make you want to have sex more often. I didn't time myself but it did feel like I was able to last longer than usual. Will buy again.

    • Anonymous
      Jenifer
      Mar. 28, 2013

      I feel the same way as any other woman that is heartbroken. My issue is with his co workers he always is texting them even after I told him how I feel about it. He will stop for while and then start all over. He always tells me how fat and old these woman are but I dont know that. Today I have now found out he is setting up lunch dates with one of them. I do...

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      I feel the same way as any other woman that is heartbroken. My issue is with his co workers he always is texting them even after I told him how I feel about it. He will stop for while and then start all over. He always tells me how fat and old these woman are but I dont know that. Today I have now found out he is setting up lunch dates with one of them. I do not understand why he keeps doing this to me. He even comes home late after work now and he finally went away and broke up with me, well i been at psychic. what should I do? until my friend introduced me to a spell caster that has helped to reunite her husband. The email of this spell caster is orinokosolutiontemple1@ gmail. com you can contact him.