Kris - This is a very sensitive matter for most men and their pride often gets in the way of being able to acknowledge or discuss the problem. ED is a source of embarassment and fear for many men because they have some faulty ideas about how their body works and some very different ideas about masculinity than women tend to have. Your loving support is very important as is your willingness to be persistent in your desire to talk about this with him. If your husband is able to talk about most important but difficult matters then addressing this should be possible with persistence. However, if he tends not to be a "talker", and many men aren't, then it is more difficult. If he can't talk to you urge him to talk to his doctor or a trusted friend, but recognize that this may be just as difficult for him.

Encourage him to have a physical exam to be sure that he does not have any undiagnosed health issues that could be causing the problems. If he has started new medications recently this could be an issue that needs to be discussed with his doctor.

If the two of you have been struggling as a couple in other ways then pursue some couples therapy and allow the issue to come out in your sessions in a natural way.

See where you can go with these approaches and write or email to let us know what happened.

Rick Wirtz