unhappy- Your boyfriend is lucky that you are trying to look out for him and help him out. First, simply ask him to have a physical exam. He doesn't even need to mention the sexual problem at first. If that all comes back clean then a psychological explanation, like performance anxiety is likely to be at play. If the exam reveals some health issues then encourage him to actively have those treated. If alcohol is a problem ask him to refrain from drinking and help him by abstaining yourself. See if that improves the situation. If these don't work, have him seek some therapy. Performance anxiety becomes an issue in situations like this and it is very powerful in very negative ways.

Rick Wirtz