I am brand new here so I will fill in some background. I am 38 and my husband is 44. We have only been together 3 years despite knowing each other a long time, and the reason is that my husband has always suffered from ED and has never ejaculated in his life. For this reason he decided he did not want a serious relationship as he felt he could not have children and this would not be fair on any prospective partner. When we got together he told me everything and asked me to think about it, and I told him I knew I wanted to be with him so we would deal with any issues together. He then went to his doctor and started the process of trying to find out what the problem was and if anything could be done. He had a couple of exploratory procedures and we were thrilled when they confirmed that he does produce sperm though he cannot ejaculate.
They found no underlying condition, he went to a psychologist who referred us back to the doctors as he said there was no psychological cause, and after about two years of investigations a very highly qualified urologist said he could not find any reason for his problem, there are cases of unspecified ED and this just seems to be one of them. At this stage, once we found out he had sperm we set about trying to conceive through IVF and so the original problem has been sidelined while we try to get pregnant.
When he originally went to his doctor he prescribed Cialis, and for a long time this was quite successful in that at least he could get an erection and maintain it for long enough for us to have sex. After never having sex before in his life this was fantastic and over time became very satisfying for me also. However, in the last few months or so the Cialis has been less and less effective, and now it doesn't seem to work anymore at all. He took two the other day to see if that helped, but still nothing. He is extremely down about this as he feels we are right back where we started. In addition we have had two unsuccessful IVF attempts which have obviously added to our stress levels.
What I was wondering was, does anyone know if its possible for his body to become "immune" to a particular drug? Would an alternative drug help? He is going back to his doctor soon but I wanted to ask here if anyone has had this experience.
Sorry for the long post and thanks for listening