My Husband, who is 55, is having a problem. When we make love, he is like the Energizer Bunny...he keeps going and going but he doesn't ejaculate. This is a problem because we want a baby. Now, he does have ED, which the family doctor seemed to think was due to a BP med he was on. The doctor took him off the med, and he takes Cialis, which works. After taking the Cialis he has no problem getting an erection. In fact, the Cialis allows him to get erections for up to three days after he takes it. And now since it has been a while since he has been off the "bad" med, he can even get an erection rather quickly when I am touching his penis even without the Cialis...enough for us to have a quick lovemaking session.
But the only way he seems to orgasm is when either himself or I am masturbating him by hand. It goes quicker when he is masturbating himself even if he doesn't get a full erection (but we have also noticed that produces less ejaculate). And a lot of times we have to tickle/massage his perineum also. He HAS orgasmed while having intercourse with me before, so I am really confused why he isn't able to now. I know that he puts a lot of pressure on himself to come and it frustrates him and I try to get him to relax.
Are there any solutions to this? I personally believe it is a problem because he has not had a whole lot of sexual experience prior to me therefore he is used to masturbation. When he had to produce a semen sample for seman analysis he even told me he could do it better if he was sitting in a certain chair (his computer chair which is not here as we have moved). It does seem to get better if we wait for a long time in between intercourse. But that doesn't help with babymaking, since we need to try every other day. I should add that his testosterone level was checked by the family doctor and that came back as normal! What to do? We are both very frustrated with this. I have asked him why he thinks this is a problem and he doesn't even know himself. He says he is attracted to me and he is sexually stimulated when we have intercourse.