I just turned 50. I began to experience difficulty in achieving an erection about a year ago. Although, there are times when I wake up in the morning and I do have an erection. It's something that occurs on it's own and not by arousal. I still feel the need and desire to have sex as normally as always. But, I cannot achieve a hard erection as before. It does try to become erect, but it's more flacid than anything else. Can this condition be cured? Or, is this the type of condition that can only be treated to help achieve an erection? More specifically, is it something that I have to live with for the rest of my life?
First off Izzy there are some great Web sites that can help you understand what is going on sexually with your body. The beginning of any treatment begins with knowledge. You are 50,years young and as us men age, well. So does the incidents of ED,Erectile Dysfunction. I am 81,years young but have lived with ED most of my adult life,so I know where you are coming from. Yes I wish that I too could have great sex everytime I jumpted into bed. I haven't seen a Urologist as of yet, dumb thing not to do, nor have I tried Viagra either, as it really should be taken under the care of a Urologist So here is what has worked for me, when it won't work. An orgasm for a man or a woman is an orgasm, and it doesn't really matter how that orgasm is induced, manually or orally it still is an orgasm. Me I like giving her an orgasm orally as it is the nicest way to say, " I love you". Also with the oral penis you can do much more than any old, blunt penis could ever do. Best part of it is that it takes the pressure off to sexually pleasure a woman's body. She's looking for that wonderful orgasm,and does it really matter how you bring her to that climax, but then it does matter to me that my upper penis can do the job that my lower penis won't or cannot do. And then I, like you, needs to seek medical advise to deal with my ED problem.
I have tried Viagra. It does work somewhat for me. I took 100 mg and I was able to perform to some degree. I have done what you suggested on many occasions. However, I still feel the need for myself and I mostly enjoy penetration. I guess it's pschycological, but for me is a thrill to be inside her, to posess her. I don't know how to explain it any better. However, she has stopped wanting me and for the last three years now we haven't had sex. I suspect that she has found someone else who can quench her thirst for good sex and has put me to the side. I have become invisible. So, there's a lot more riding on this than just E.D. Our marriage is in ruins as a result. I don't know how long it's going to last. I, myself feel at times that it's better to leave her so she can persue her happiness with someone who hasn't got the problems that I have. She and I were so sexually active before and now we are just living in the same household. She's no longer interested in spending time with me, or going anywhere with me. No dinning, or dancing, or anything for that matter. She's only interested in the children and that is all. So, thank you for your advise. I'm greatful for your reply.
wow. A 100 mg is a lot! I was prescribed 100 mg and told to break the pills into 1/4" to get more use out of them. They work everytime. However, it's not in anyway a solution to the problem. Trying to time an errection is not a way to enjoy sex. The one time I tried these pills I blacked out. Any way, I've read a number of suggestions from eating guacamole and nuts to lifting heavy weights. It worked for maybe a few times, but I'm back to nothing again. My last resort is to exercise 30 minutes a day. If this doesn't work then I don't know what else to do. I saw a urologist and he said my blood work is fine and prescribed me the blue pills. It might be something mental, but I'm convinced it's physical. I don't have that sexual urge that I used to in my twenties. It's really doing a number on my sex life. I hate this!