How to Talk to Your Partner About Erectile Dysfunction
If your man is affected by erection problems, it's worth bearing in mind that in 80 percent of erectile dysfunction (ED) cases, there is some underlying physical cause. This can range from problems with blood pressure, to heart disease, to diabetes, and a few more. Even if erection problems only occur from time to time they should still be taken seriously.
If plan A is to wait until he raises the topic, you might wait a very long time. Open and honest discussions about sexuality are rare enough, but sexual problems are way down the must-talk-about-this list for men. When it comes to health issues, men are masters in delay tactics and avoidance.
If you find your sex life isn't everything it could be, or has effectively stopped, it is not surprising that certain thoughts will rise to the surface. The more obvious of these are whether he still loves you, whether he still finds you attractive or whether he has found another woman. The longer you delay talking about the broader issues the more likely these questions will gnaw away at you and the worse you will feel.
If your marriage or relationship hasn't exactly been a bed of roses up to the point ED became an issue, some of the previously stored up resentment or anger could easily spill over.
You've plucked up the courage and you want to know how the best way to get started. Don't pick a time when you are getting ready to go out or a time when he may feel you have cornered him - such as during a meal. If you think you might be interrupted by visitors or phone calls, leave it until you can be more confident that the time together is your own.
Some men are stubborn and sensitive. Once the topic is raised, no matter how delicately, they simply close it down or walk off. In such situations, it can be difficult to know what to do, but one tip is to accept the fact that you won't talk about it now, but mention you need to talk some time soon.
You need to point out that it's only the doctor who can check the symptoms that might be causing his ED. Chances are the doctor won't ask him to drop his pants and will most likely be far more interested in talking to him, taking his blood pressure and maybe taking a blood sample for analysis.
There is no script for you to work from. At the outset, you need to be aware that just because the time and place seems good for you, it may not be for him. In such circumstances you may need to be a little persistent but not pushy.
It may take seconds or days but he may well ask why you think he might have diabetes or heart problems. This means you've struck a chord. It can be lot easier for men to consider their ED as a sign of something else than an issue in its own right. In many cases this is actually quite accurate, so all you've done is steer the conversation towards this point.
This may just be the start of the process. These tips just provide a few general ideas, some of which need to be tailored to your own situation. Whatever the cause, ED needs to be treated.