There are countless things you can do and enjoy together without having an erection and intercourse. Just use your imagination. Once you focus less on intercourse and the quality of your erections, your erections may improve. At the same time you may enjoy expanding your sexual repertoire! Good luck!
The brain may be the most important sexual organ, but sometimes insertion is nice as well. What do you suggest for people who don't have, or can't sustain, erections?
Mitch Tepper at Sexualhealth.com: When insertion is desired, there are at least five options--listed from the least invasive and lowest risk to the most invasive and highest risk: 1. The "stuffing" technique is an option for anyone. If you experience reflex erections, stuffing the penis into the vagina or anus while your partner provides stimulation may cause erection and help maintain it. Often both partners are satisfied with this sexual activity whether an erection is attained or not. 2. Erection requires increased blood flow to the penis and restricted blood flow out of the penis. A constriction device--usually a ring of rubber, metal, silicone or leather--can help maintain an erection. Use plenty of water-based lubricant to avoid skin breakdown when applying the device, and make sure the fit allows some blood flow. Don't leave it on for more than 30 minutes. 3. Vacuum erection devices have been successful with many men. A cylinder is placed over the penis and a pump is used to create a vacuum and draw blood inward. Then a constriction device is used to trap the blood in the penis. 4. Injecting a medication such as papaverine directly into the shaft of the penis has been very effective with men who have difficulty attaining an erection. Risks include bruising, scarring at the injection site and priapism--an erection that lasts for many hours. This method requires a prescription and training from your urologist. 5. Surgical implants--semi-rigid rods or inflatable tubes inserted in the shaft of the penis--permanently alter the erectile tissue and carry considerable risks including long-term infection, erosion of the device through the skin, malfunction and the need for replacement. Surgical implants are the option of last resort. Make sure you consult a doctor who is familiar with your disability and all the options listed above. Beware of the doctor who prescribes only one option or who primarily performs implant surgery.
