This is a great post! It will help me alot in those face to face circumstances but I am currently having a bit of a dilemma.

I fall into the category of a person who had a great and amazing fling in a different city 4 days before getting my first symptoms. I am having trouble deciding if I should contact this person at all. I definitely cannot bring myself to do it over the phone. Mostly because we haven't talked much at all since then (it's been about a week now) and also because the bulk of our communication is in a foreign language that, although I am semi-fluent, do not feel capable of having a conversation of this magnitude in. So my options are to write an email or tell him over another internet source. I am really conflicted because part of me thinks he might have given it to me (is 4 days too soon to start showing signs of herpes?) and if he didn't, it leaves the possibility of me giving it to him. I cannot deal with that right now. It's hard enough figuring this out for myself. So I guess my question is..what would you do in this situation? Perhaps I should just wait until I'm more stable. And do you have any tips on helping me not feel so guilty about possibly having infected someone? I feel like he's just automatically going to assume I gave it to him..and then I'll be this evil person in his life :(