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I've had genital herpes for 22yrs. I've always told the person I was with before hand so they had an option to run or use protection. I was not given a choice, the person never told me and I was angry for many years. I've been married twice and in several relationships and until now I have never passed the disease along to anyone else. I resently gave it to my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years. We were always careful and my outbreaks were maybe a couple times a year. But he had been through several surgeries with complications and infections and his immune system was low. I think that's how he got it. We didn't use protection either. After reading your story I'm sure it was a relief to find out that someone else had herpes too. I think if you have genital herpes, he's more likely to contract that from you and should wear protection. I don't think you have to worry about getting oral (cold sores) from him. I've never had one in my life and I'm pretty sure my body is immune to it because of HSP2. There is plenty of research out there to make sure. Good luck and herpes will not ruin your love life. I found most people understand and don't mind.
Thank you for taking the time to help. I am still scared, but with time that will change. And your inpute and reality has made a light shine through. I hope things will be just fine its getting over that first hurtle ya know. I guess I need to enlighten myself on my disease and take control so it doesn't over me. I'm not the only one and thats good to know. Thanks, Peace!!!
years ago i tested positive but didnt want to believe it was true, i was in total denial and have exposed a few men and im so sorry but i have grown up and changed my life around, I have recently been rediagnosed with hsv 2 and cried my eyes out for days, had just met the man of my dreams hes actually the one who pressed me to get tested cause my lying cheating husband.....self explanitory!!! ok so i got tested and it came back positive i waited for days to tell him i just didnt know how to get the words out but i look at it this way... im pissed that whom ever gave it to me didnt give me that option to choose for myself whether i wanted to continue the relationship or not, so with that said i talked to myself as if i was talking to him and i told my self "I DONT HAVE THE RIGHT TO KEEP THIS FROM YOU , I DONT HAVE THE RIGHT TO TAKE AWAY YOUR RIGHT TO CHOOSE WHAT YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR BODY" and that is how i actually explained to him, at first he was like we'll deal with it and take precautions, then within minutes texed me that he didnt think he could be with me and "risk it" well here we are just a few days later and we are still talking and exploring options, so i guess if he really likes you he will find ways to make it work... next i bought kevin trudeaus book natural cures and there is info on herpes in there. i also got "Never a outbreak" with oxygen and the rose dmso cream it does help with the sores....next i went online and looked up natural cures and I am taking the super lysine, red marine alge, dmso liquid, i also have the hydrogen peroxide but havent tried it yet...well so far i have not had any out breaks, minimal tingleing, a little itching but nothing seems to come of it, i use to get cacker sores in my mouth when i got my period but i did not get one this time....so i believe something is working and i just started taking my acyclovir...I hope and pray something gets rid of it cause i really love sex an oral sex now that im getting older....god bless
years ago i tested positive but didnt want to believe it was true, i was in total denial and have exposed a few men and im so sorry but i have grown up and changed my life around, I have recently been rediagnosed with hsv 2 and cried my eyes out for days, had just met the man of my dreams hes actually the one who pressed me to get tested cause my lying cheating husband.....self explanitory!!! ok so i got tested and it came back positive i waited for days to tell him i just didnt know how to get the words out but i look at it this way... im pissed that whom ever gave it to me didnt give me that option to choose for myself whether i wanted to continue the relationship or not, so with that said i talked to myself as if i was talking to him and i told my self "I DONT HAVE THE RIGHT TO KEEP THIS FROM YOU , I DONT HAVE THE RIGHT TO TAKE AWAY YOUR RIGHT TO CHOOSE WHAT YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR BODY" and that is how i actually explained to him, at first he was like we'll deal with it and take precautions, then within minutes texed me that he didnt think he could be with me and "risk it" well here we are just a few days later and we are still talking and exploring options, so i guess if he really likes you he will find ways to make it work... next i bought kevin trudeaus book natural cures and there is info on herpes in there. i also got "Never a outbreak" with oxygen and the rose dmso cream it does help with the sores....next i went online and looked up natural cures and I am taking the super lysine, red marine alge, dmso liquid, i also have the hydrogen peroxide but havent tried it yet...well so far i have not had any out breaks, minimal tingleing, a little itching but nothing seems to come of it, i use to get cacker sores in my mouth when i got my period but i did not get one this time....so i believe something is working and i just started taking my acyclovir...I hope and pray something gets rid of it cause i really love sex an oral sex now that im getting older....god bless
Even though they are the same virus there is a huge difference between oral and genital herpes. Nearly everyone has oral herpes--and most people get few if any outbreaks. Most of us were exposed to oral herpes as children when Aunt Helen kissed us at familt reunions. So if someone with an oral herpes outbreak kisses you on the lips it probably won't matter (oral sex is a different story).
Genital herpes, on the other hand, while pretty common, is less prevalaent. and taken more seriously by most folks. So, your story is kind of apples and oranges. But it made you both feel comfortable with each other so, good going!
i'm super sad, I guess I never thought this could happen to me, I'm 47 years old, diabetic and taking a lot of medications, now this....I'm so afraid to even meet somebody and date anymore...I'm wondering if I can get somebody infected by giving oral sex ...im taking a prescription of 800 mg 5 times a day and I'm not having severe symptoms, had horrible itching whenever i got my period..Im afraid to meet somebody and when the moment comes ...I guess it would have to be "im being honest" and take the risk of end it right there...
Anyways..I guess I need to read more to take control of this,,
He was very considerate and open, as well as shy and nervous about telling me, as I completely understood after he told me. But, he told me...and that was very impressive! Now I have to decide what I want to do...and as I am searching for answers and looking at options...We've only met a few weeks ago and really only kissed passionately for the first time three nights ago..we still have not had any genital contact, which is good. I still have a lot of thinking to do.
As I'm doing all this considering, research and looking at this situation, I've begun to wonder if the itching that I experience on occasion, is, perhaps, herpes. Maybe that's my only symptom...Maybe I've had herpes for a couple of years and didn't recognize it as herpes.
Just itching? Could that be Herpes? In a way, since I'd already have it, (if I do) then I'm protected and we can be together.
But, if the condition is not Herpes, if it's just occasional itching and sensitivity, then facing the chance of painful outbreaks and having herpes for the rest of my life isn't so very attractive. I like him a lot. He's creative and smart, and he has an inquisitive mind...he's funny, successful, sweet and considerate and kind and very much a gentleman....and he's a pretty good kisser as well....so there is a lot there...but is it worth the risk? ....I guess THAT is the question.
So, I'm going to spend careful, thoughtful time with him and see how I feel about it. It's not as though I must have sex with him right away. In this situation, I definitely see the value of abstaining.
If anyone has anything to add to my thinking and consideration, I'd be open to hearing it.
Thank you, in advance.
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I just broke up with my boyfriend and wat do ya know he passed HSV genital on to me. I havn't dated in sooo long and Im so scared. How do you tell someone you like you cant get intimate with them b/c you have an STD. I really dont want everyone in town knowing this. People talk and I'm sure if you end up telling someone than someone will tell someone else and the chain goes on. Its really a bummer. I've never had to think about telling someone new b/c we both had it. Im so scared!
Don't be scared I've had it for 22 1/2 yrs. I've been married twice and have had several serious relationships. I told each and every person ahead of time that I had the disease and they were all fine with it. They just asked me a few questions (so do your research) and it was their choice if they wanted to take a chance or use protection. As long as your on Valtrex for suppresive therapy your outbreaks are fewer and your chances of spreading it are decreased.