Oral Herpes, Genital Herpes and Dating

I just broke up with my boyfriend and wat do ya know he passed HSV genital on to me. I havn't dated in sooo long and Im so scared. How do you tell someone you like you cant get intimate with them b/c you have an STD. I really dont want everyone in town knowing this. People talk and I'm sure if you end up telling someone than someone will tell someone else and the chain goes on. Its really a bummer. I've never had to think about telling someone new b/c we both had it. Im so scared!

I've had genital herpes for 22yrs. I've always told the person I was with before hand so they had an option to run or use protection. I was not given a choice, the person never told me and I was angry for many years. I've been married twice and in several relationships and until now I have never passed the disease along to anyone else. I resently gave it to my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years. We were always careful and my outbreaks were maybe a couple times a year. But he had been through several surgeries with complications and infections and his immune system was low. I think that's how he got it. We didn't use protection either. After reading your story I'm sure it was a relief to find out that someone else had herpes too. I think if you have genital herpes, he's more likely to contract that from you and should wear protection. I don't think you have to worry about getting oral (cold sores) from him. I've never had one in my life and I'm pretty sure my body is immune to it because of HSP2. There is plenty of research out there to make sure. Good luck and herpes will not ruin your love life. I found most people understand and don't mind.

Thank you for taking the time to help. I am still scared, but with time that will change. And your inpute and reality has made a light shine through. I hope things will be just fine its getting over that first hurtle ya know. I guess I need to enlighten myself on my disease and take control so it doesn't over me. I'm not the only one and thats good to know. Thanks,  Peace!!!