I was diagnosed with type 1 "down there" about a month or so ago and recently feel like it may be coming back again. It's like I kind of forgot about it for a little while and now all of the feelings just came rushing back. The doctor I went to see was not helpful at all, but told me that she was sure it was an intial outbreak because of how bad it was. Of course I started doing a ton of searches online and after reading story after story, I came to realize that I could have had it for a long time! She also told me that I must have gotten it from someones mouth, which I told her that wasn't possible if I just got it in the last 2 weeks! Then she changed her mind and said I could have got it sexually. I just don't know what to do or how to tell the person I am somewhat seeing now. He is the only person I have been with in the last year. We have been seeing each other for about 7 months, but we are no that serious. We have been seeing each other more and more lately though, which makes it even harder. Although it seems more likely I got it from him there are so many maybes out there with this thing, that I just don't know! How do I bring it up to someone that I am not that close to? Call him and say we need to talk? Or wait until the next time I see him? I am so depressed about this I don't know what to do. I feel completely unlovable and I try to find hope from other peoples posts, but it's hard. I am 24 and know the stigma that comes along with this, especially in my age group. I don't see how I will ever be able to bring this up to anyone, and therefore I guess I am doomed to live alone forever!
I want you to know that I am going through the SAME exact thing right now. I was diagnosed with HSV-1 "down there" last week, and it has not been easy at all. I am only 20 years young! I had to tell the guy that I've been sleeping with about it, even though I was avoiding him for a few days. I asked him if he's ever had a cold sore, and that he might have been the one to give it to me. It was not easy, but he was supportive. The best thing you can do is be honest with the person you are seeing. If he really cares about you, then he should stand by you. If he finds out another way or later on that you were sleeping with him and you knew you had herpes, it could turn the situation very bad. Just know that you are NOT alone!! Sometimes I feel so sad and hopeless, but I try to remember that a LOT of people are going through the same thing! It doesn't mean you are a slut or a whore. Just try to remember that! Good luck with everything. If you ever need to talk, message me! I'm also in need of someone to talk to.
Thank you so much! I finally did try to talk to him two nights ago, but not sure if it came out the way I wanted it to! I am really bad at trying to explain things like that... Especially when I am nervous, I just ramble on! I asked if he wanted to talk about it anymore last night and he ignored me on that topic, but was talking to me about other things. I guess I did my part and let him know. Trying really hard to just let go of my need to know where I got it and realize that I have it! I've been going through a lot with me and my boyfriend of 4 years breaking up and this is the first time I have tried just "seeing" someone. I know it probably won't go anywhere, so now I will just be dreading the next person I have to tell. The whole thing just really sucks, but knowing I am not alone really helps. Thank you.
i am in the same situation. i was diagnosed with hsv.. i think i have type 1 but i don't think they ever tested me for what type. but i'm pretty sure it was from my boyfriend of the time's cold sore... didn't think about cold sores equalling herpes.
but anyway, i was 2 months away from turning 21 when i had my first OB. (its hard to say outbreak. i'm still in denial). I broke up with the guy who potentially gave it to me (well, he was the only person i had been with for 8 months before the OB) about 5 months later...
and now i'm 22.. and i'm finally seeing someone new.. and i had to tell him about my issue... and it was the hardest thing i've ever had to say to someone.... i just told him there was no easy way to say what i was going to say and that it took a lot of courage for me to tell him... and then i told him. luckily we had already been friends before my ex annd, he didn't care. we are just careful. and he likes me for who i am.
even tho he says he's ok with it.. i'm still terrified.. and depressed about it. i'm not sure if i'll be with him forever.. and if i ever gave this to him... i dont know what i would do if things didn't work out. i would have an overwhelming sense of guilt. it's very hard to deal with. but i'm coping.
It's nice knowing there are still some people that are understanding out there, Especially at a young age. I am really scared for the day I will have to tell a new person I am dating. If it goes well you still have to worry about the day it doesn't work out! Aaah! This is crazy. It's really easy to forget about it, but I know I can't do that. It helps knowing there are so many people in the same situation. I guess it will force me to be more careful, which is a good thing!! It's hard not knowing exactly where I got it from, but I am slowly learning not to dwell on it. Thank you!