This is ridiculous

By tiroir Wednesday, July 08, 2009

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I nicely received genital herpes while I was travelling, 5 months ago. I was so happy at that time, when I received my diagnostic, I did not even understand what it was...what it really was. That all my live, I would have to face it. I have like a really severe case which appeared 8 times while I was travelling. I've been through everything that I never though possible. I always tell myself that I could have get worse, but this sentence seems to be less and less comforting. I am so new in that world, I know nobody having the same problem as me, even another disease...I am facing that with people who don't think its that bad.anyway, I dont even think I will have a boyfriend in the next 10 years...that seems so impossible to me.

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Alley_Cat

7/ 9/09 12:27pm

I know how you feel. I'm so scared and I feel like I'll never date again. I was just told yesterday. This is all a horrible and disgusting shock. I feel like I'll never be able to have a normal sexual life again. I'm so worried and I don't have anyone to talk to either. This is just such a shock. I know I was practicing safe sex, but I never thought this could have happened to me. I feel so abandoned and alone.

marlalovestoshop

7/11/09 6:14pm

You are not alone, it just seems that way because it is a horrible problem I had severe herpes outbreak last week with boils under the skin and could not sit down really without pain, but being around my family I at least found some peace. God will give us peace if we ask him because we were victims. Dont worry about finding someone worry about finding someone who cares I think we all have found people who did not care and that is the lesson we all learned it is better to be alone than to be with someone who does not care. Love Marla

Happy

7/20/09 6:02pm

Marla, I couldnt agree with you more!

I have had this disease for 9 months now and let me tell you, priorities really change over time. I too was very scared about not ever finding anyone but now I am finally happy being alone! I have been through a couple of really terrible relationships (with the last guy lying to me and giving me herpes as a result) that finding out who I really am right now is far more important than finding another guy. The right person will be out there, and will appreciate and love you for you. It sounds cheezy and you might not believe me right now, but at this point accepting the disease, learning more about it and realising that you are still amazing is the first step to feeling better about the circumstances you are in. This site helps a lot with perspective. Take time for yourself and like Marla said, in time, you will find that special someone who will love you no matter what.

Best of luck and if you need to talk feel free to send me an email.

marlalovestoshop

7/25/09 7:43pm

Thank you for your words of encouragement I needed that very much. At times herpes gets me down to a point of no return, then I read a email like yours and remember I am a strong person and there are other people who go on and be happy so can I. Stress seems to be the major cause of the outbreaks so I get B12 shots . Hopefully, it would help you too. People who don't have this just do not have a clue how we feel I hope taking the anti anxiety medicine will help me too at least cut down on the severity of the outbreaks and put it back into a remission I hope. I don't know if you like to play games on the internet, but I do so I go to pogo.com it takes my mind off problems which definately helps me out I was up real late playing spades trying to boost my rating try it sometimes for fun you will like it.

Your New friend,

Marla

helpingsoul

10/13/09 6:32am

I just wanted to say that yes it's a difficult disease, but many people have it (although they won't admit it for fear of being ostracised from their group, which DOES happen, so be very careful, even if you decide to disclose this info to a doctor because they are just people too and are afraid of the disease as well. Make sure it's a doc from another town who has absolutely NO connections to you. No one needs to know except the person who wants to marry you, and what's GREAT about having herpes is that you won't get into frivolous sex relationships that rot your soul. Also, having the virus protects you from getting other serious diseases that could possibly kill you, since the virus needs you to be healthy in order for it to be thriving.

After years of trying herbals, I've finally found a combination that stops the symptoms, and you need to take it faithfully every day, it has to be the fresh herbs, and it needs to be taken for about a year and a half to get rid of the virus. It's best to grow the herbs in your own garden.

If you want, you can email me at smartist@live.com for the names of those herbs.

Anonymous

11/25/09 9:56pm

First of all stop tripping so much. Thank God you have Herpes and not HIV! (I hope) Second of all, drop the guilt. It's a virus. Would you be losing your mind if you had a cold? Here is a good idea for you. Go to a support group and meet possible partners who already have it! Then you won't have to worry at all. Plus one of them could be really rich & the fact that you already have it might be a bonus, so he doesn't have to worry!:) always look for the good! And use a hairdryer if you have a painful outbreak. Those stick on chemical heating pads are good too. Good luck AND IT WILL GET BETTER!

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