Oral Sex w/ Genital Herpes

your an idiot. why would you say something like that? u r going to scare this poor girl into never having sex w/ ne one. i am 22 yrs old and living w/ it. i just started dating someone who does not have it. and i was also doing research. but i know better than to say " oh dont let him eat u or he'll get it on his face". come on get real. that was just stupid.
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But is that girl right, can they get genital herpes in their face if the perform oral sex on you even if you don't have an outbreak, I'm so scare!!!!  I have been sex and oral sex with someone that doesn't have genital herpers I'm so scare to give it to him how can I tell him I'm infected?  I'm scare he'll stop seen me, and I can't affort the medication :-(
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What do you do with the tea tree oil and where do you purchase it, and in what form is it offered?
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Australian Tea Tree Oil (Melaleuca Alternifolia) is sold at many locations including Wal-Mart! Look for 100% pure Australian oil produced by Spring Valley in the pharmacy with the natural herbal supplements. As it is liquid it comes it 2oz bottles, or at least the one at Wal-Mart by Spring Valley does.

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Kim, Can it be transmitted during oral sex by the guy to the girl, through a cut in the area where oral sex is performed?
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Kim~Do you have oral herpes 1 and/or2?
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YES, I HAVE IT IN MY MOUTH AND FOUND OUT THE HARD WAY AFTER I WAS TOLD I HAD MOUTH CANCER BY THE HEALTH DEPARTMENT-"IDIOTS" WENT TO THE ER AND THEY GAVE ME VALTREX. MY PARTNER NEVER TOLD ME THAT SHE HAD IT AND SHE HAD NO OUTBREAKS WHILE I WAS WITH HER.  NOW EVERYTIME I USE CHEWING TOBACCO I HAVE A SEVERE BREAKOUT IN MY MOUTH.
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Hi Kim,

 

When did you realize you had herpes in your mouth. I have been getting blisters on the side of my tongue but I can't tell the difference if its a cold sore or herpes.
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A cold sore IS herpes.

 

They're not fever blisters, cold sores or whatever other cutesy name you want to give them... it's herpes simplex - probably type I if it's oral.

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I 'M A GIRL and have just realized that i have genital herpes , even though i was told 5 years ago but didn t realize what it was until now 5 years later ! I haven t slept with anyone during that time for different reasons . I love getting oral sex and i m scared that i m now going to have to give it up Forever . IS IT STILL POSSIBLE FOR ME TO GET ORAL SEX ???

 

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You don't have to give up getting oral sex!  I've had genital herpes for 15 years now. I'm married with 2 kids (since getting herpes) and I still get sex....without giving herpes to my husband.  Just learn your body and learn the signs and triggers to your outbreaks. If you get an outbreak or feel like you are getting one...stay away from sex!  email me if you need info on what to take when you are getting an outbreak (not prescribed meds).  I've found things that work!  Oh....tight pants and shaving your genital area can cause an outbreak, so be watchful of that! 

mlmcdermott@windstream.net

 

Hope this helps.

Melody....

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Melody, thanks for the insight, very much appreciated! You are very right about your body and the triggers, what remedies do you know of to use during an outbreak that wouldn't involve medication ? I am very curious! 
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Couple of things....when having/or about to have an outbreak...don't eat: popcorn, chocolate, oatmeal, raisins, (to name a few)...they all have an amino acid that feeds the herpes virus.  Another amino acid, L-Lysine (or just Lysine) is great to help control or prevent an outbreak.  You can take up to 3,000mg daily when having an outbreak.  Vit. C is good to take when having one/or about to, along with the L-Lysine. I use Solaray brand and it have Vit. C and Zinc in it. My dad has oral herpes and he followed my advice and it helps him, too. The meds are too expensive. You can find Lysine ointment to put on the outbreaks. It's oily, but it will dry them up.  Use a hairdryer "there" to help dry the sores up, too.  Not too close though...you don't want to burn!  I can beat an outbreak if I take Lysine as soon as I recognize an outbreak.  There are other herbs you can take that are antiviral (VSC is one) that work great...and quickly.  The lysine can be taken for maintenance purposes if your outbreaks are not undercontrol.  You don't have to completely give up any sex...just abstain when you feel an outbreak...or give him a night that just all about him!   Be careful...and have fun...hope this info helps. Let me know if you need any more info.

 

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hi ,what if both of us have genital herpes can we have unprotected sex . intercourse and orally? thanx
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becareful...you don't want herpes (cold sores) on your mouth area!!  I would think it's up to the two of you on whether or not you use protection. When I was dating my husband, we didn't use condoms and he's still virus-free.  He gets cold-sores, so I stay away from his kisses when he's broke out!  (and no, he didn't get cold sores from my genital herpes...he had them before me!)  Herpes is very prevalent...a lot more than people realize. My dr. says that 25% of people have it and some don't know it. 

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 you seem to have the most experience and time dealing with this.. I've had genital herpes since i was 18 for almost 2 years now but not my ob-gyn or any other doctor tell me about my positive results until recently this winter.( which is another story) but i'm in love love with  one of my best friends and i want to be with him .. and i can't tell him..

however i need to know desperatly just how contagious hsv is if i received oral sex a week and a half before my breakout i have now... i wasn't even aware i was about to break out soon..  and i Love him so much i don't want to risk him catching it ... but like someone else on hear wrote... you can still have viral shedding without knowing..

im completely horrified by my actions .. Please tell me somthing good..

i'm a nervous wreck!

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I wouldn't think that you could have passed it on to him, it having been over a week between the time of unprotected sex and your outbreak.  I don't know much about viral shedding, but I have had this for 15 years and haven't passed it on to my husband of 9 years.  Are you aware of an impending outbreak?  Most of the time, I do have signs my body gives me that I am about to have an outbreak (ususally within 1 day of the 1st symptoms). 

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Hey .. my questions for you.. i have only had two outbreaks in my entire life.. within the past year..and found out a couple months ago w/ the second..  what signs does your body give you before you are gonna break out?!  i have no idea what the signs would be or is it different fofr each person?!

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I am not sure if the signs of an outbreak vary from person to person. I have only begun to speak with others about herpes since logging on to this site a few weeks ago, so I'm hoping others will teach me some things that I don't know yet about the virus.

 

My signs of an outbreak are pain (dull at first) down the back of my left leg. Over the course of the day the pain intensity increases to the point where it is painful to sit down. The pain continues to spread down the leg and across the pelvic floor (genital area). A sore will appear within 24hours of the beginning of the pain. Most of the time, I can dose up on Lysine and "beat" the outbreak. Not all of my outbreaks come with that warning. I had those symptoms for a few days just this past week, but no outbreak ever presented itself. I didn't take the lysine either.  Some outbreaks are caused by shaving the genital area and then wearing a thong or tight pants...friction. Some outbreaks are caused from the friction from sex (buy lube to keep by the bed).  Some outbreaks are caused by stress or even hormone flucuation during your period. I used to get an outbreak after every period. Outbreaks do tend to lessen in frequency and duration and severity over time.  Research (or email me) about foods to avoid when having an outbreak. These are not foods that you can never eat again, just stay away from them during an outbreak as they tend to feed the virus.  I hope this helps.

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Hi Melody, I'm curious as to what kind of protection you use when you make love to your husband. Do you guys always wear condoms? After fifteen years, he still doesn't have the disease? I have heard that is it harder, (not impossible) for your partner to contract the virus from oral sex. How do you "get around" these things? Can you suggest the best way to tell my partner that I have the disease? I obtained it when my ex went out and cheated on me. Thanks for your help!

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I had had the virus for 4+ years when I began dating my now husband, so I had a lot of information to share with him and I'd gotten the virus (not disease) under control.  MY outbreaks were not often and they were predictable...they came with warning signs that I'd learned to recognize from my body.  We did not use condoms.  You can get Herpes 2 on the mouth area from oral sex with an active (outbreak) partner.  You can get Herpes 1 in the genital area from a partner giving you oral with a cold sore on their mouth area.  Either one is risky if an outbreak is apparant.  Tell your bf straight up about the virus and together you can learn more about how to protect yourselves from initial infection or cross contaminating (HSV 1 in genital; HSV 2 on mouth).   Email me if you have any other question. mlmcdermott@windstream.net

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Hi, i've never done this before. But I am in search of some answers. I have read all the chats you guys have, I have family members in the same situation as you, been married for a long time and has yet to spread it. Which is wonderful!

 

My question to you since you seem most knowledgeable about the subj. but any help would be wonderful from the rest of the group.

 

* have herpes, and was wondering I don't have it in my mouth, but I hear its in your blood stream, so can I give my boyfriend herpes if I orally please him?

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Herpes Is NOT a virus of the bloodstream.  So, you can give your bf a bj if you do not have oral herpes (HSV type 1...cold sores).  HSV type 2 is genital herpes. You can cross contaminate the areas and have HSV 1 in genital area and HSV 2 in the mouth area.  Herpes is in the nerve endings in the skin ....lesions tend to reoccur at the same spot as initial contact with the fluid from the infected partner's lesions/sores/outbreak.  Sores/outbreaks can occur in the genital and buttocks area with HSV 2. 

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Thank you so so much! I found your knowledge on the subject very enlightening!

Appreciate it!

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Hi my name is Anthony from philadelphia, I got a question for you, My girl still doesn't know i have herpes and she want to give me oral sex but I wouldn't let her, If the sores go away and she gives me oral sex, can she still get infected even thou the sores are gone? please let me know

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If the lesions/sores are completely gone...no visible sign of them, then she should be safe....but....you owe it to her to be honest. she has the right to chose the risk that she is taking with her health.  You have to be responsible and arm her with the knowledge and power to make an informed decision. Remember back to when you were diagnosised......how did you feel???  betrayed by a partner that didn't tell you about the virus????? If you are having sex with her then hopfully you have feelings for her in your heart and not just in you groin, so treat her with care and respect and tell her.

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a few weeks bak i gave a guy oral sex.now 3 weeks later i have little fine red bumps they aren't together..they were swollen n they didn't hurt..they don't itch...i am not sure if i have herpes or not but what ever i have come across on the net it looks like i do...only way to do know for sure is to get tested...could i have passed it on 2 him? if so can i perform oral sex wen i don't have outbreaks? is it ok to kiss wen i don't have these on my upper lip? plz help n reply really soon cause i am so unsure about myself at this point in time...will i have to give up sex? ..i only have signs of it on my mouth..never below....can someone help me plz

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You need to go get tested just to be sure. If you didn't have the bumps when you gave him a bj, then he should be safe since there was 3 weeks between doing it and getting the bumps. The bumps could be an allergic reaction to something and not herpes at all.  A blood/serum test is the only conclusive way to be diagnosed properly. 

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I recently found out i have it. how i got it. my boyfriend for the last seven years went outside and had sex with someone that had it and came back and gave it to me.  i can't stop thinkin about it and i too enjoyed having oral sex. i am afraid that i will give it to my further partner. i am hurtin so bad. it stills make me cry just thinkin about it. i dont know how to deal with this. how do i tell a new partner about this. i wouldnt blame him to stop dealing with me eveetually. i feel like my life is ruined

 

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I HOPE YOUR RIGHT.I HAVE TO GIRLS AND IT WILL BE VERY SAD IF I GET THIS VIRUS.

I REALLY LOVE HIM AND HE HAD THIS BEFORE I CAME ALONG AND I WANT TO HELP HIM.

BY THE WAY,HE USE THESE PILLS CALLED VALTREX,BUT HE DOES NOT HAVE INSURANCE AND THE PRICE IS $300. FOR 30PILLS. DO YOU KNOW ANY WAY I CAN FIND THIS VELTREX CHEAPER

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http://www.ehealthpharmacy.com/drugs.asp?letter=V if you can't click this link copy and paste they have valtrex $ 87.00 for thirty pills....it's the generic brand but it works just as well. GOOD LUCK.....Just be careful and you'll be fine.
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You can use an alternative drug called acyclovir. Its generic and much cheaper. It doesn't get the publicity of valtrex because its not backed by a pharmaceutical company trying to make money off it but its a very similar drug. I take it and have not had any outbreaks on it.
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Hey, you're comment really helped. Is it really true? It's hard to find credable sources on the internet. 

 

I just got diagnosed, and I've always been careful, always used a condom, etc. So since I have no clue how I contracted it (he wasnt having an outbreak) I am really worried about passing it on. Oral sex is okay? 

 

What are your secrets? How, in 22 years have you not passed it on? Everyone says to be careful and use "safe sex", but thats how i contracted this in the first place. 

 

Any information is greatly appreciated.  

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Maybe the question was not asked elegantly, but I do believe it is still a valid question.
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humm.. yes i would have to say 99% if you drink his sperm at any given time you would get herpes.
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It's amazing how people will give advice with either opinions or just using their own experiences as if that was going to be true for everybody.

 

Sperm does not contain the virus.

 

You can get and give herpes even with no symptoms.  All you can try to do is reduce the risk.

 

Try not to just find the advice you like best, and believe in that.  Especially if you putting other people's health at risk.

 

Try not to give advice without knowiing more than just your personal experiences.

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Use extreme caution, but NO, just because you have genital herpes does not mean you have it orally. This was a great comfort to me - I have genital herpes, but only genital herpes. However, you need to be CAREFUL - it CAN spread to any mucous membrane, including your nose, eyes, ears, and mouth, causing blindness, etc. Take great care in washing your hands after using the bathroom, and when having sexual contact (for both partners). I was 20 when I got herpes from my boyfriend at the time. I never got over the emotional scarring, but I learned that people who truely love you will take you as you are. And I have found love since. Through 3 seperate relationships, each has loved me, and none ever were infected. Its not a guarantee, but infection can be managed as much as possible. I am now 26. I didn't think I could get through this. I did. I am. You will to.
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Only if the infected person has herpes in there mouth, there are different kinds of herpes!

 

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Can I get herpes if my girlfriend has genital herpes and she performs oral sex on me?  As far as I can tell, she has no symptoms and does not have oral herpes.

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If she has genital then she would only have herpes in the genital area, find out if she has HSV-1 or HSV-2, my ex-boyfriend only had HSV-1 which is cold sores or blisters in your mouth, he gave me HSV-1 through oral sex, so I have genital HSV-1, since contracting this a couple of years ago I have only had 1 minor breakout, barely anything and I have not had anything on or in my mouth, if you are concerned just check w/ your doctor, hope this helps

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no he can't. as long as he doesnt have any physical outbreaks around or inside of his mouth then you will be fine. make sure you ask him though is he has the HSV2 on his genitals or his mouth.

always use protection when you are having sex with him whether he has an outbreak on his genitals or not. it is important to avoid sex while an outbreak is apparent to reduce or eliminate your chances of contracting it.

you need to ask him where he has had the virus first though. if it was on his mouth then you maybe be at risk of contracting it.

 

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When I was diagnosed w/ HSV-1, I had a little sore by my rear end that they swabbed and took a sample to test and HSV-1 came back as my diagnosis, they should be able to do a blood test as well, I have never had (knock on wood) in the past 3 years since I was told a major break out, I had the initial and it was a small sore and then last spring I had another small sore and took Valtrex and it went away. The sores looked like nothing and I have never felt sick or had flu like symptons, I think people have a very warped perception what genital herpes is, since I was diagnosed I have done massive research online and with my gynecologist and realized that this is not the nightmare that most think it is, it is not even life threatening. Yes, you can still have children this has nothing to do w/ your reproduction, I would just get to the bottom of what you have and go from there, good luck and you will be fine!

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Hi,

 

I have just been dianosed with HSV-2. Im not sure how to deal with it. I got it from my ex boyfriend. I havnt even been with him. I havnt seen him in 4 months but I guess it can take that long. I am not sure how to deal with this. What are the things I should be doing? Is it better to take valtrex daily rather then just taking it during an outbreak?

 

I just started talking to someone. I realize I have to tell this person that I have it but how. I mean how do you tell someone you have it and what r the chances of him reakky staying around. Can anyone tell me how to tell someone you have it?

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