Well, I have lived with genial herpes for 1 year, but have not told a soul. I haven't told family or friends, not that i would be judged but I have already judged myself. In a way I don't feel like they need to know, but I do know I would have to tell future partners. I just want to get to know me and my comfort zone. Is it really any of my family and friends business? Should it be something to be shared? I'm ready to move on with trying to date, but I have my own worries playing in my mind, how do you get back out there? Because of what has happen I find myself very scared to be hurt by people. What to do?
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10/19/08 8:50pm
u should tell them. or date a girl.
10/19/08 11:30pm
You are making no sense. The question was should my family or friends (which I don't have sex with) be told (not for insurance purpose) just for support. I didn't say i would not tell my future partner, just I would want to be friends first before sex ever came up in our relationship. The fact you came up here to make a comment like that shows you don't understand anything and you need to chill, if you can't say anything with substance. I was hurt a lot at the time that I wrote that and want to talk to people who understand, because someone violated and not a person to play. thank for nothing Sima
12/ 2/08 3:55pm
Hi, I too have herpes and had the same worries you did. You dont have to tell any family or friends but i recamend you tell someone. having someone there to talk to really helps. When i first found out i got it after being rapped i only told my best friend and she helped comfort me. Now about 5 of my friends know and none of them judged me. I am glad they can just be there for me. Now for dating you dont have to do anythign to try and get back out thereb ut be your self. Understand that there is someone out there for you. not everyone you date with be able to accpt this but the nthey were not worth it anyways. As long as you do what you can do not spread it then you are doing everything right. yes it is hard to date because there will always be a chance for your partner to get it. I know how hard it is to be positive but your life is not over. Yes you cant just hook up with this person or that person but this will help you rule out the people that are not worth it anyways
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12/ 4/11 7:58pm
i have herpes :'( and i mest up but just ignoring it and i let it spread to my friends when we would smoke out of blunts :/ i started noticing that they were getting the same stuff i did they started licking there lips more often and i even passed it on to my girlfriend:( i regret everything i did right now ive really been depressed but the only thing that has kept me going is soccer <3 when i was out on the field i felt normal again no worries just out there having fun no thoughts in my mind thats why i love soccer so much..... ps i never gone to go get tested or never took any medication :( im just really scared of what people r gonna say i need some advice please :(
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22/m I'm in your same situation. It's been just over a year and I haven't told anyone other than my dad for insurance purposes. He said ok, its no big deal, and we never talked about it again. It's no ones business besides you and your future partner. I think sites like this are good for venting and talking things out. Jump back into the dating seen and be yourself. Be that same person you were before this happened. In a healthy lasting relationship, sex should be the last thing your concerned about when dating and getting to know eachother. I see our condition as a good thing sometimes. It allows us to judge others less, it can be a gage for exposing other peoples character( when you tell them), and it also keeps you from having random partners and catching something else. My personality and zest for life still remains. I drink a little more lol...but its simply not the end of the world. I think that the universe will draw me to someone who has it too. That's my philosophy.
Thank you for that, it was very insightful. Your right, it just took me hearing it from someone else.
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