Recently Diagnosed: And now...

U R A GREAT PERSON.... UR HISTORY HELP A LOT! YEATERDAY I HAD TO WENT AN EMERGENCY ROOM CUZ I WANED TO HURT MYSELF CUS I HAVE LIKE THREE MONTH THAT I WAS DIAGNOSTIC WIN HERPES 2 N I FEEL LIKE IS THE END OF THE WORLD...! I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO IM SO AFRAID I FEEL SO LONLY.

Hi Iago, my name is Camilo and I monitor this Sharepost Community. I think that not often enough we have users like yourself come to our site and elaborately share as much as you have, so thank you for sharing such a dear part of your history with the rest of our users--I am sure they will greatly benefit from your encouraging message. I am looking forward to reading the rest of your posts, and I am very interested in hearing how your amazing outlook will help you develop and grow. Also, if you ever have any questions, or concerns, do not hesitate to ask them in our Q&A section; hopefully I or other community members will be able to provide you with the response you are looking for. Take care, and good luck with all of your endeavors.

CAM

let me ask you something, but first I think you should be a writer you sound talented.

so now my question, do you think you got herpes when she had an outbreak?

do you think that without an outbreak you can easily pass the herpes to your partner?

I heard so many stories, and the doctor herself told me I can pass the herpes to my boyfriend only when I have an outbreak. I still didn't hear anybody saying I got infected with herpes while using protection.

thank you if you have time to reply to me

I sometimes feel so tainted. I've had a couple of relationships since finding out two years ago. There feelings for me were sincere, but I still can't shake the feeling of being tainted. It's tough because I know that if I carry myself as if I feel "tainted" than that is what others will think of me.

I was 21 years old when I found out. The worst part of it for me is having the "conversation", and possibly having all of your fears mirrored back to you in the other persons face. I'll be 25 this year, and there are still so many of those conversations to have ahead. I'm thankful that it wasn't something worse, but I can't help fearing the possibility of being alone. Women already outnumber men, there are plenty of women who don't have herpes. Now I feel like I have to have that much more to offer, like I just can't be me. I've never felt like I was in a competition with the world until now. 

Hi Iago! I'm a senior in a university. I just had an intercourse with my boyfriend lastweek. So sad, today I found out sores on my *** (u know) multiply into greater numbers. I feel so dirty. And I began to hate my boyfriend by acquiring this infection. I have to see a doctor tomorrow for this. I feel so guilty to my parents with this sickness. But after I read your post, well it encouraged me to think positive.

I have been dealing with a condition called post herpetic neuralgia or nerve pain remaining for months after my first and only genital herpes blister and needless to say, life has never been the same.  I think I could be very well over the fact that I have herpes, if it did not come with this nerve pain that drives me insane and confuses me because the sympthoms mimic other things that I am quite familiar with , such as yeast infections, bacterial infections, genital dermatitis ( genetic from mom) , so when I get confused I just don't know what to think anymore.  I think my doctors are tired of me and don't think why I think this is such a big deal.  Well... they are not the ones with this constant nerve pain and the possibility of other things that wont go away.  Well... having said that, this morning I was feeling very down and defeated thinking I don't know if I ll ever have sex again due to the nerve pain or if I even want to have children now, although I always wanted to in the past.   Your e mail was very rephreshing and very true.  You know, its true, now that I experience pain, my compassion is so  much greater than before towards others.  Now that I experience pain, my priorities have changed.  I cant stay seated for long periods of time, I can't wear jeans, I am afraid to have sex because I am still in pain from the nerve damage.  i  m sad, because I used to love every part of being a woman. I was proud of my sexuality, I was comfortable being a beautiful sexy woman ( I actually am) etc... and now with this uncomfortable feeling that hasnt gone away for months.  I get so sad and in despair sometimes.  Funny, cause I ve always been such a positive person, who always saw the glass half full and not half empty. But, thanks for your beautiful e mail, It really helped me for now

thank you for ur story im only 24 female and very beautiful person inside and out, im so angry and sad i feel like ill never get to live my dream of being healthy and finding love alll i ever wanted was to get married and find that one person, but at this point i feel all that is crushed and will never happen. your story made me cry and smile thank you, the way u wrote and expressed your self touched me in a deep way and it made me feel 10 times better thank u again

peace and love