Well, it has been two months or so since my first post and I thought it is time to come back here to share some more of my experience. If you have already read my first post you will know that I possess a positive outlook on life, and upon learning that I had contracted Herpes a couple of months ago, I was determined not to let it get me down. And it hasn't. I guess sites like these can sometimes serve to scare us rather than comfort us, at least that is how I somtimes feel when taking a look around on here. And I would like to try and make you smile and know that everything is going to be ok.
If you are anything like me, your main concern with this virus is the fact that noone will ever want to love you!! That you will never find a partner who understands. This is not true. Of course, it can serve to make things a little more difficult, in the sense that you are indeed going to have to have "the talk" at some point with any prospective partner. I have said before that Herpes can actually serve to help you in your choice of partner, as anyone who runs at this news really is not the type of person you want by your side. Herpes itself is not so bad, it is not a life threatening illness and the symptoms really are easy to manage. SO if someone can't see through a stigma, they are not worth your precious time. When I learnt I had it, I concentated on myself, on the qualities I love about myself, and worked on bringing them out even more, and eradicting my bad qualities. By doing this, by being the best person I can be, I can attract others like that. By developing Love, Compassion and Empathy.... well, doors open and like minded people appear.
So to take you back to my last post, there was one detail I left out, as I did not want to get my hopes up and tell you all about it if nothing was to come about. When I got the news, I had recently met a wonderful girl who is everything I had wanted, stunning, beautiful heart, successful, blah blah you know, just about damn perfect! So I had slept with her a couple of times before learning I had Herpes, and she was the first one I called when I found out. Her response at the time was beautiful... She said it didnt matter to her at all, she knew about Herpes because a couple of her friends have it and she liked me too much for that to be an issue. I was away from her for a month due to work interstate and upon my return was nervous to see if she was just saying that at the time or if it really was true.
It was true. It is still early days for us, been back for two weeks or so, but it is going so so well. We discussed the issue openly, and her outlook was incredible. It doesnt bother her at all, we will take precautions and all of that and she has even discussed the long term: If this gets serious, there are risks which she will not mind taking, for if we are to be together for a long time, it will not matter.
You are not your Herpes. It is an affliction we must live with, but we must not let it control our lives. Draw upon the positives, use this make yourself a better person, a happier person. Concentrate on yourself, and I am sure in turn you will meet those who a like minded, people who wont be scared of Herpes. People who will realise that you are you no matter if you have herpes or not.
