It's depressing that there are so few support groups for std's and herpes in big cities. I only found one and it's not even in my home town. And doctors are not quick to point you in that direction since it isn't socially acceptable to talk of much less get help for it. This is one of my biggest peeves about having herpes. NO support!!! My family cares but don't understand it and are deathly afraid of it being transmitted to themselves now. I can't even use the same bathroom as my children and mate. Good thing we have two! I don't share towels, or any other personal items, I even wash my clothing separate just to be on the safe side. I hate that but I care about my family a lot.

The other gripe I have is how to handle social situations. So far I've blundered more than not so I just avoid people now. There is no way I can be comfortable with talking about this to aquaintances whom I don't wish to know of my disease at all. They don't have a right to know but once they do they can threaten you if you touch anything and later say, oh I got shingles or some such because you're the only person I know who has this disease! These things do happen. Lawsuits have happened. I don't want to have that happen to me and therefore affect my family but once the word is out herpes sufferers are or may be out of luck!

Anyone who says this won't control your life isn't being realistic! Reality may bite but shouldn't be glossed over or made smaller than it is. I really have a pet peeve with those dating sites as a result. You'll notice this in my comments I'm sure, so please bear with me. I don't mean to offend just defend the truth of it all.