I finally told him my secret.

Hey Sarah H,

I just wanted to pass along a big congrads on the great response to the secret. Although, I dont have a response to your question on how to not worry, I couldnt pass up the opportunity to say thank you for sharing your story. I haven't been willing to even get into a relationship again since I broke up with the guy that gave me herpes (i still resent him (for many things other than herpes - but also for lying to me about it; even though I try to let go). But your story gives me hope that maybe not all guys will react in fear, and instead embrace the special people out there for who they are.

I wish you all the best!

I have had to tell my previous boyfriend about my status and like you I was surprised by his response. He said that it would be something that we would get through together. I started taking anti viral medication and eventually we were able to experience a normal sexual relationship.

Now I am with a new guy, we haven't had sex and I think he is awesome. My only problem is do I tell him I have it up front, or do I continue to go on dates with him so he can get to know me better before I break the news? It's very difficult and like you sometimes I wonder if I should just go back to my previous boyfriend because I am scared that no one else would understand.

But, I deserve better than what I got from my ex so I would never go down that path again. You will meet someone else who will accept your status. Maybe everyone won't accept it, but someone will. And he will be special. It's like weeding out all the bad ones. LOL! We are people not diseases. Once someone realizes how special we are, they won't care about the disease as long as we have it under control.

Happy Dating!

I'm glad everything worked out =]  It always makes me happy to know that there are really great guys out there and like the post above mine it really does weed out the bad ones!  Maybe it really is a blessing in disguise.  Good luck and congrats!  Quit worrying, he won't leave because of herpes, if he was going to then you would'nt have heard from him the next day, he would've pretended it was ok to your face and then bailed, but he didn't.  He cares, you care, let yourself be happy you've been through alot and you deserve the best! =]

My boyfriend that gave me herpes broke up with me for another girl, and is'nt going to tell her either that he has it. He just don't care who he gives it to. I tell someone i am interested in that i got herpes and they instantly get scared, and want to go the other way. Sometimes i get we can still be friends and thats it. I know how it feels to think that your life is over because of it. No one will ever want me again. With the experiences I've had since i know that it is true for me. It does matter to people around me. He ruined my life, and he does'nt have to pay for it i do. I sit here wondering if i am going to end up being alone for the rest of my life because of it. It just don't seem fair. Keeps saying i am not giving someone something that is going to kill them. Just like he did'nt give me the choice of whether i got it, or not.

I wanted to thank you so much for sharing your story, it really gave me hope. I am new to having hsv2 and am still coping with it. I am so scared that i will be alone forever, but your story gave me hope. I am seeing someone right now and am planning on telling him very soon. I am so happy everything worked out for you i can only hope for the best too. And stop worrying he is not going to leave you he would have already done it  ... good luck and thank you again! 

I was diagnosed yesterday (still waiting for my blood work to come in to tell me for sure), but I am having a really bad outbreak right now. I am experiencing all the emotions ranging from despair, shock, feeling disgusted with myself, and feeling like I'm damaged goods that will never get a boyfriend now!! I am a christian and having only had 4 partners and never thought this would happen to me!! Reading your experience of telling your first partner after your diagnoses really give me hope that there are undertanding people out there and that it is possible for me to still find the "love of my life".

Thanks again!

I have been dealing with herpes for a year now.  I have been sexually active but the guy that i am currently seeing does not know that I have the virus.  He is the only guy I have had these feelings for.  I am so nervous to tell him and have decided not to until I am in a relationship with him.  I don't want him to think I was deceiving him but I don't want him to judge me based on having herpes.  We have had sex and I think that is the hardest part of all.  That we have been sexually active and there is a slight chance that I could give it to him.  Although we've used a condom every time we've had sex and never when I have had an outbreak, I still don't know if he will understand.  Reading your story has given me hope that there are guys out there who are willing to be with you even with this aweful disease.  Thank you.  I hope I have the same courage as you and am able to tell him.