2nd Outbreak

the second break out is probably because of the stress. remember, when going to the pharmacy, medication used for herpes is also the same for people who have shingles or chicken pox or other thigns such as this so the pharmacy shouldn't automatically jump to herpes. i'm sorry about your guy but the one who will love you for you will be able to deal with this head on and not run from it like maybe your guy has done. i would save yourself some pain and go to the pharmacy. it will at least make life a little bit easier for you in this tough time.

Go get the antivirals. There's nothing worse than realizing that a lot of pain and worrying could have been avoided. Plus, riding it out could take a couple weeks or more.

Any guy that would dump you because he can't have sex for a few days during a recurrence is lousy boyfriend material!!  Would he do the same thing if you had a cold? Or were carrying his child and couldn't have sex because you were on bed rest?  Please don't let this fool get to you!!  As for the pharmacy, find one with a drive thru!!  Good luck!!   You will be fine.

The other lady was right go threw the drive threw and get the meds so you don't have to be in constant pain, who wants that right. Don't punish yourself you were the victim not him. Sounds like Mr. Selffish should be voted off the planet with the same selffish guy who gave it to you find one that cares..... Sincerly, Marla

I was diagnosed at age 17. I am now 48. It's been a lifelong battle. I get frequent outbreaks. I was married for 18 years to a man who accepted me as I am. It was never a relationship issue at all. He loved me.... Now we're divorced. I was getting involved with a man over the past month. I told him from the beginning my situation. He told me it made no difference at all. That was before we were intimate. Afterwards, he pulled away, wouldn't communicate with me at all about it. Just said he was having a hard time with it. It ended with that. I was, still am, devastated. Everyone here is right... no person who would dump you because of this is worthy of your love. It is such a small part of who we are. This guy asked me, "So, how often are you out of commission?" I thought it was so cold.... I cried and cried for days. We have to work hard to remember that this does NOT define who we are! Get your medication, get your rest, and take heart! This can a fantastic gate keeper. The keepers will stay...

A few months ago, I ended a relationship with someone who finally told me she had herpes.  Before you begin to hate me for doing this, please read the full story.

 

We met about a year and a half ago and our courtship was very special to me.  I really made an effort to show her how good of a person I felt I am and how much I cared for her.  There was never anything she couldn't ask me that I wouldn't have done.  She also supported me in any way I needed.  We made it a point, from the start, to express how important trust was.  I never lied to her.  There WERE times that her insecurities got the best of her and she became difficult towards me... for NO good reason whatsoever.  I always approached these issues with patience, never with anger.  As many times as she became difficult, she would always apologize afterwards and accept full blame.  Despite how draining it was, it was an issue that I was always willing to work through... these insecurities of hers.

 

Then came the bombshell.... she finally told me she had herpes.  Remember, we had been together for MORE than a YEAR when she finally told me.  Except for a few times at the start, we always had unprotected sex.  It was a week or so after we started to be sexually active that she told me she began taking birth control and that we didn't have to use a condom, I told her, "I'm totally clean." She assured me that she was as well.  She wasn't.  When she finally told me, she had a hard time doing so, and I sympathize with her for that.  She was a woman that I loved and trusted but I felt betrayed enough to end the relationship.  Naturally, I got myself tested... I'm negative.  I couldn't believe it, so I got tested AGAIN after a few weeks.  Still negative.  I plan to get tested again in a month or so.

 

She didn't take the breakup well.  She began telling me I didn't love her enough and that she was angry at me for deciding to end the relationship with her.  She would tell me things like, "You better be sure about this, because I won't take you back if you called me in a few months!" and "I can't understand why you want to leave... YOU'RE NOT INFECTED!!" She eventually also became verbally abusive.  Even though I know it all comes from being hurt and in pain, I now see her as a confused and immature person who perhaps has some emotional issues.  I feel I wasted more than a year of my life.

 

Sometimes, the thing that gets me is that if she had told me this from the start, BEFORE we became sexually active, I would have researched what it meant and HOW we could still be together.  But she didn't.  Instead, she chose to deceive me and make decisions on MY health for ME.  There is no way I could let that go.  There have been a few people I confide this to who tell me I was 100% correct in my decision, but don't get me wrong... it's not like I made the decision and have forgotten about her.  I truly loved her, so this whole thing still hurts.  I sympathize with her situation, but not her neglect.

 

I hope this helps.... in some way.  Please feel free to email.

Any healthy man should run from you.

 

You are diseased.