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how do i move on

By so so sorry Monday, June 01, 2009

i gave my hsband herpes contracted it from a man i fell in love with fell out of love with my husband after 19 years of a alcoholic marriage. husband quit drinking we have a 9 and 14 year old daughters. i had left my husband when i fell in love with the man whom i contracted herpes 2 from he did not know he had it. i coulnt believe a 19 year marrage was over he quit drinking i had to try and work on our marrage was never able to give up the man i fell in love with. we both tried because with me being home we know it is not right. my husband broke out in feb 2009 was tested and the cat is out of the bag i was tested also poistive the man i fell in love with was tested poitive. my husband wants to keep trying he doesnt know i still love someone else. i am not in love with my husband . i want to move on but cant deal with the guilt of leaving him with this disease how will he ever move on and meet someone? i live unhappy trying to make everyone think things are fine  hardly ever smile or laugh anymore. has anyone triedquickclear,viralprin,detox back to health minerals anyones advice would be apreaciated

Anonymous
God id Love
6/10/09 11:08pm

Hey

I know how you feel honey Ive been in the same position once before and i made it threw it!!  I even thought about killing myself the shame and embarressment of another person knows my  terriable secret,Whatever you do dont give up thier is a life after this ugly diease,  You have to be true to yourself and what makes you happy and i know that seems hard with all the time you have put into your marriage. Remember depressions  will keep you with outbreaks , If you are really in love with someone else leave..Dont waste time in something you are unhappy with life is to short and can be so beautiful if we just stay true to ourselves and do what we want to do and not live for other people. We all make mistakes and no one has the word PERFECT writtin on their foreheads!!  what helped me was prayer, meditation, excersing eating health and removeing myself for all negativity, I gave my childs father it and ever chance he got he tried to throw it in my face and talked about me like a dog..I removed myself from him and his negative energy and it helped so much. I feel your pain, just dont give up , Ive had it for over 10yrs and with time the outbreaks get less painful and frequent depending on how you care for yourself inside and out.

 

God loves You !!    

6/12/09 5:52pm

your comment brought tears to my eyes. i didnt think anyone understud or had had a similar experience.i wish i could hear your story.i have prayed but feel like such a sinner that he may not listen.i have surprisingly only had 2 outbreaks, with all the stress and depression. i have a pretty good imune system.can people realy have normal relationships with this disease? thank god for your comment and for you

6/13/09 9:47pm

God is alwayz listening and alwayz looking over you wishing you would just come to him about everything. I think it is possible to have a normal reltaionship with the disease, as long as your with the right person thats honest and loyal to you and vice versa. Pray about it and pray he wont let any relationship happen that isnt of his will, and he will. Good luck

6/24/09 12:06pm

ok im still with my husband i told him last friday that i did not feel love for him he sumthers me with it  i feel like more of a shit every day he says i have it in me and that i just need to let it out am i holding it back or is it really not there?  why cant i seem to get control of my life? i just wish i could be alone. when he hugs me i think ok thats enough i dont feel like i want to hold him back. and as far as sex i have no desire when we do i have to hide the tears. when i mentioned that it wasnt working last fri he said he would find someone who loved him back. then he said how could that happen with the disease i gave him? i wanted to die. i need to believe that he and maybe even i could beable to have normal relationships because staying together so he would not be alone is killing us all slowly         

Anonymous
Linda
10/14/09 12:08pm

I know how it feels to be in an unhappy relationship but it can be fixed. You can fall in love all over again, that is if both of you are willing to put forth the effort. I never thought it was possible either. Theres a scripture at (Ecclesiates 4:9-12) it says in part ....a threefold cord cannot quickly be torn in two. You and your husband would be 2 strands of the cord and God the central 3rd strand. When God is in your marriage you will get the spiritual strength to cope with problems and to achieve happiness. I have read numerous accounts of people whose marriages were saved and whose lives made a complete turn around after becoming Christians. The Bible is a wonderful book that can help you.  Jehovah's Witnesses offer free home Bible studies for people who want to learn about God and how they can find true peace and lasting happiness in their lives. They have a book called "The Secret of Family Happiness." It is so good and has something that can help each member of the family. Why dont you give it a try? I promise you that you wont be disappointed. You can contact the local Kingdom Hall in your area and someone can bring it to you, or you can write to 25 Columbia Heights, Brooklyn NY. 11201-2483

7/12/09 1:28pm

Hello, I think you deserve happiness also and that God would rather see you happy than sad.. You need to grab hold of your confidence and believe in who you are.. If you dont love this man then you need to get marital counseling and ask God to guide you through a divorce. It would be better to leave this man than to stay there and lay in your own misery.. Pray to God for his wisdom and be happy.

By so so sorry— Last Modified: 12/22/10, First Published: 06/01/09