I need second opinion

Hi Chesok,

Thanks for submitting your Sharepost.  I'm not a doctor, so I cannot give you medical advice.  However, I have herpes and so I may be able to offer some insight.  

Sounds like you're in a crazy situation.  Maybe I'm wrong, but what I understood from your Sharepost is that you're dating a married man who just found out he has herpes.  You have been sleeping with him without protection, and were lucky to get negative test results.  I don't think it really matters where he got it from.  If he has been cheating on his wife with you for 8 months, chances are he's cheating on her with other women as well.  Suspecting his wife is an outrageous accusation, and is kind of irrelevant at this point.  

Which test did the doctor give you?  I suggest you get tested again, maybe using a different testing method that healthgal just discussed in her recent post, The Truth, the Whole Truth, and....  It's still possible you caught it, and just had a bad test.  Then, if you get another negative result, be very happy you didn't catch his herpes and run far far away.  What are you getting out of dating a married man?  Maybe I misunderstood, but I think that's what you're saying.  This is an ugly situation.  The herpes could have come from anywhere, but I don't think it's important whether he got it from his wife, from an earlier partner, or perhaps from another mistress.  What's important is being safe going forward.  If you continue to see your boyfriend, I recommend always using protection and never having sex while he is having an outbreak.  Women catch herpes more easily than men, so you need to be very careful.  I suggest you read the section about Genital Herpes Prevention and Genital Herpes Basics to become more familiar with the disease.  Good luck and please come back and give us an update.

PJ

Your boyfriend could have gotten herpes at anytime - it can take weeks,months, even years to actually see signs of the virus or the rash for some - for others it shows up right away - no predictability on that one.

You should protect yourself by having him use a condom during any sexual activity - oral or traditional or anal - use a condom 100% of the time.

He can also look into taking anti-viral medication so his chance of infecting you is decreased - but again - you still have to use a condom even if he is on medication - and you can only get this medication from a doctor.  If you get herpes, you may or may not show the rash or other signs right away - it again, could take weeks, months or years to see physical signs of it - even if you do get it.  And if you get herpes and decide to become pregnant  - you will have ot have a C-section so you don't pass herpes on to your baby.