I am a twenty eight year old female college student. I am a victim of rape and was diagnosed with herpes at seventeen. I just broke off a relationship that only lasted for two months because the guy couldnt deal with my issue. I was upfront about everything before he asked to be my boyfreind. Because he asked me to be his girl, I figured he was comfortable but it turns out that he wasn't. He was afraid to kiss me or have sex. His way of dealing with this was to crack jokes which hurt my feelings. He explained that it was his way of getting through the ordeal. I was always sad because I am a very affectionate person and he would'nt even hold my hand. He secretly went and got tested after he kissed me once.He figured we should get married if he was infected. This was the worse relationship ever, but also a learning experience although right now I feel like there is no hope for a beautiful relationship without someone being afraid to be affectionate. I dont know!! Should I have stayed in the relationship and been understanding of his fear and ignore the fact that I was uncomfortable?
Published On: December 03, 2009